Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[cntrygrl]

Ok just about lost it last night... My husband will be 30 and I am 34 and in his eyes we have all the time in the world!! In my eyes the older I get that damn clock ticks louder and louder and the more bitter I get!! He says "babe don't get all crazy about this or it will make it harder on you" which I then replied "babe I will get crazy and make it harder on you!!!" Which I know its no his fault, but I am tired of people asking me if I am pregnant YET, yet being the word that I ferak out about all the time. And yes I know stress slows things down and worrying and all that crap. But what about an obnoxious cycle which can't seem to get its mind right??

And I agree aout a Hallmark holiday for those TTC...

So sorry. Sometimes they just don't get it. Plus we have hormones and sometimes meds intensifying these emotions not making it any easier on us. I see you're in Upstate NY also. Where are you?

I know he only means well... I am in Buffalo, what about you??

I'm a little North of Albany so on the otherside, Lol.

 

[trying2beamom]

honestly if i see one more pregnant person post on my fb im going to break down and cry for the rest of the night

 

[Sam10]

I can not shake this freakin' fatigue. I upped my iron dosage hoping that would help but man I can not stay awake most of the day! I am asleep more than I am awake. It's pretty much the one thing (besides my insanely sore nipples) that's keeping me from giving up hope that I maybe pregnant. I'm tired of getting negative tests though. I'm 16 days late, throw me a bone!

 

[tamithomas]

Thank you AF...for showing up 4-5 days late

I know how that is... AF was 3 days late and all I got was a day of spotting!! So do I count that as CD1????????????????????????????

CD1 is usually the day where AF shows up full bloom. There have been many debates over this lol.

And to boot, my AF decided it was only spotting..I've stopped within 24 hours. So confusing especially since there's zero chance of BFP as we didn't get a chance to BD this month so technically I haven't started AF yet Time to find an official thyroid doctor. Maybe my levels are what I consider a "finally" high enough to get meds for it. I have Subclinical Hypothyroidism meaning I have enough to detect it but not enough to do anything about it..this was a diagnosis 6 months ago. Health can change in a heart beat. I'm usually to the hour on time AF wise but this is twice in within a span of 3 months that I'm irregular. We're talking regular since I hit puberty.

I know hypothyroidism affects fertility but I have been stuck in that in between of having it but not high enough for meds so it screwed us over fertility wise.

That must be so frustrating... It blows my mind how fast a body can change and decide what it wants to do. I too had regular periods even after stopping BC, EXCEPT this month. I am too afraid to test to be honest so I think I will just wait a couple more weeks. Have you been looking in to any thyroid doctors in your area? I don't have much experience with hypothyroidism, I wish I did so I could ease your mind in some way... Keep me posted, I wish you luck!

I know they must have some in my local hospital but we're going to get my DH's medicare card first (Canada) so that we can both go. Pretty sure he has it too. Still not AF for me! If it doesn't show up by tonight it will officially be a week late

 

[FireLyte]

@Sam: Have you requested a blood test from your doctor?

 

[AlyCon]

honestly if i see one more pregnant person post on my fb im going to break down and cry for the rest of the night

Same here! I'm sorry Hun. Hugs and baby dust to you

 

[Sam10]

@Sam: Have you requested a blood test from your doctor?

I made an appointment but it is almost two weeks from now. I feel like I'm going to go crazy before then! By the time it rolls around I will have missed two periods.

 

[Hoping girl 2]

How horrible it is to see her come every month! So low right now, made worse by the fact that for the very first time in my entire life, AF was late. 4 days as well! Chart showed dip in temp on the day I had really bad cramps (about 15 days before AF came) so when I was late I was convinced it had been implantation cramping and dip!

Temps before and after ovulation are quite low too, in comparison to what I've read is 'normal' on the internet (36.1 pre O and around 36.5 post O) so now worrying I have a progesterone problem and I'll never get my BFP, or lose it if I do!

All of this made worse by the fact my sister in law decided to 'detox' before trying of her second child and got pregnant straight away - without trying! I'm happy for her, but made it so much worse when period started. Can't really talk to DH because how can I admit I'm gutted his sister is pregnant and not us? I sooo don't want to be that person, and feel awful that I can't just be purely happy for her, but needed to admit it to someone so here I am, venting!

Only been TTC for three months but feel absolutely devastated every time it doesn't happen and very month it gets a bit worse, so I can't even begin to imagine how those of you who have been trying for longer must feel like! Lots of luck to all of you (and me!) and I hope that this month is our month

 

[Limm]

Why do people call women "clever mummy" when they have children?

Does this mean that I am stupid?

 

[AlyCon]

Why do people call women "clever mummy" when they have children?

Does this mean that I am stupid?

I've never heard that phrase but I know what you mean. I hate when people are like "well mothers are naturally protective/ nurturing/ caring etc." umm.. The keyword there is NATURALLY! Since those are qualities that most women have naturally! Kids or no kids! Sure having a baby may strengthen those traits but to say it like that insinuates that women without kids are these evil grouchy mean old trolls or something!! Like hello I've cared for plenty of babies, and I've loved and provided (fed, clothed, taught lessons, babysat for free etc.) for children that aren't mine without asking for anything in return. I helped raise all my nieces and nephews and am proud to say so. There were times when I went without things I needed or wanted so the little ones in my life could have what they needed. So to imply that Im not caring or nurturing because I don't have kid is ridiculous. And not to mention there are plenty of women who neglect and abuse their children, so that ruins the theory right there!

Sorry I kind of went off there but I hate when people act like women with kids and women without kids are two different species or something!

 

[Limm]

It's okay I get what you mean. It should be said that most (not all) WOMEN are protective, caring, etc. Us who are yet to be fortunate aren't monsters!

On a side note, I think my body is playing tricks on me. Have updated that thread I created with info as to why.

 

[ashntony]

Down in the dumps.... A bunch of people I know are going to have their babies these next couple of weeks.... I am so down... whyis it so easy for everyone else to pop out babies????

 

[Sunnyleah]

Down in the dumps.... A bunch of people I know are going to have their babies these next couple of weeks.... I am so down... whyis it so easy for everyone else to pop out babies????

Hang in there!! Every time I feel like that I try to think of all the positive things in my life and things I've done or have that others don't. Then I remind myself that although it seems to be taking so long it will happen. I will be that much more grateful for it! I work in childcare and with a lot of women and obviously tones of families. As people hear about our struggle they open up about theirs. Although there are many quick and easy stories there are just as many trying ones

 

[Liz1980]

You are right sunnyleah. I'm jumping on this thread. Sorry three friends have had their babies all within one weekend. It's so difficult as we have been TTC since before they started. But I try to be positive and think of all the good things in my life (while I'm currently munching painkillers for my evil AF pains - sob). I've also spent the last two months listening to pregnancy announcements and am just waiting for my BF to announce she's pregnant with her second. I know it's coming..... But let's stay positive..... When it happens it'll be extra special because its been so difficult.

 

[tamithomas]

It's official, one week late. If it does not show up by next Friday I will be getting checked out. DH said as a gag that we should get some tests Monday even though non of us remember BD'ing lol. The one time I want AF to show up it doesn't. Thank you mother nature for always doing the opposite of what I want.

 

[CakeCottage]

Yeah thanks BBT for staying high even though AF has just arrived, thanks for making my hopes stay up that I was still in the TWW but noooo AF has just arrived!! Thanks for that!!!

 

[AlyCon]

Of course as soon as I get my dose of Metformin up to 2000mg my husband has to leave for three weeks. Oh well hopefully by the time he gets back my body will ready to finally O!!

 

[wellsk]

Oh great joy!
A facebook friend after giving birth in July has just announced she's 20 weeks pregnant. That must mean that her baby was only 12 weeks old when her second was concieved! Congratulations on your fucking fertileness!

And what's this?!... a couple of seconds later another facebook friend (who's pregnant with her third baby, all by different men) announces that her ex's partner has just given birth, giving their son his first baby sister.

Hoo-fucking-ray!

Why can't pregnant women go and be pregnant elsewhere!?

 

[Jett55]

Gee thanks lifetime for having every movie about kids & or pregnancy today.. no wonder I never watch tv

 

[AlyCon]

Gee thanks lifetime for having every movie about kids & or pregnancy today.. no wonder I never watch tv

Yeah lifetime is good for that.. Don't you just love the "Infertile Baby Snatcher" movies?! Ugh so offensive.