Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[FireLyte]

@Han: Welcome! You've definitely come to the right place if you're looking for support, the ladies here are wonderful! The most irritating thing about someone saying "it'll happen when it happens" is they mean well, but they have no clue how much it hurts to hear that.

I really, really, really wish my body would make up it's mind. Got a bfp/evap line early last week and all bfn's since then. Now, this morning, my body is pretending AF is knocking on the door, and I think I may have ovulated 3 weeks ago. When I was a teen, and in college, I never thought I would wish for AF to come regularly. It was so nice only having to deal with all that once every few months. Now I'm almost as frustrated with no AF as I am with no bfp! It's not too much to ask to have one or the other, is it?

 

[Han_1987]

@FireLyte: No its not too much to ask! I appreciate any support I get on here, so thank you! I think my friends and my husband are fed up with me going on about TTC so needed some outside help.

Keep smiling, we'll get there x

 

[ptwtk29]

GAH! Just hate that I can't control when I ovulate.

 

[tamithomas]

What a f***ing lovely morning when you wake up, AF cramps..you've just taken 2 advils and made coffee, open your e-mail and a friend sends you a link to rumors that Casey Anthony is supposedly pregnant with twins. Someone bash me across the head now?

Edit: It's just a rumor, or at least I'll keep telling myself that until there's a baby to prove it.

 

[VP1228]

This is my first post on this site (hi everyone!), I had to find a way of letting out my TTC frustration!

TTC in general... 7 months in and I hate you! I didn't think I would feel this way but every month my heart breaks. Had soo many friends just get pregnant straight away and it makes me sick!

If someone tells me to "chill out" and "it'll happen when it happens" one more time I'm going to smack them! They are the most irritating comments in the world even if you mean well.

I work 6 days a week at the moment and don't have much time to relax, I just feel caught in a cycle and its just crap. Pllleeassee let me get pregnant soon.

I feel the same way. Some comments seem insensitive but I know they are trying to get me to relax but I can't either. Its hard when I know I am ovulating or about to because of the ovulation pain. So I truly can't relax since I know if and when its happening. Hopefully this lap will make me relax. I ovulate 3 days before the surgery so maybe it will happen then and I won't think about it since I will be in bed for a few days after. Idk just trying to find ways to keep my mind from going bananas for another month.

 

[Limm]

Thank you guys for your support. Haven't heard anything since, but still feeling horrible. I don't see things getting resolved.
The last message she sent to DH just makes me believe she was not truly TTC, when she has the nerve to tell us to "relax" and all that bullcrap.

Incredibly nervous about the next few weeks and whether or not I will conceive or not. Feel like I am expecting too much too soon, but I keep reading about how women can be highly fertile after having a m/c, but then the uncertainty of what happened creeps back in.

I wish I could just snap out of this and start doing things with my life. I have so much I want to do, but the lack of a job (despite my skills and experience), TTC and recent events just make it hard for me to do anything anymore. I've lost most of my hope.

 

[VP1228]

I have lost hope too. But for some reason I still temp, use opks, and BD lol in my fertile week. And I already picked out the travel system, crib, high chair, and baby bag lol totally obsessed

 

[Jett55]

:/ eh this is the only place anyone has any idea what I'm going through I'm sick of hearing "it'll happen when it happens" or "it'll happen when u stop trying" umm excuse but if that's the case it would've happend a long time ago then.... People are truly insensitive sometimes like I was saying how annoying it is that pg ppls post are always about symptoms or being preg blah blah blah my friends response well pregnancy symptoms suck & bein pregnant isn't fun & all this other crap grrr

 

[VP1228]

:/ eh this is the only place anyone has any idea what I'm going through I'm sick of hearing "it'll happen when it happens" or "it'll happen when u stop trying" umm excuse but if that's the case it would've happend a long time ago then.... People are truly insensitive sometimes like I was saying how annoying it is that pg ppls post are always about symptoms or being preg blah blah blah my friends response well pregnancy symptoms suck & bein pregnant isn't fun & all this other crap grrr

Yes that is why I have shut down my FB and haven't been up there in maybe 2 or 3 months. I just couldn't take it no more. And you right if the relax thing really worked I would have been pregnant the first time i ever had sex. I didn't know what ovulation was and I know I had to have did it around my ovulation before. That was 5 years ago and there have been a few scares because everyone told me I could get pregnant because I'm young but I was never pregnant i was just late for some odd reason.

 

[Limm]

If all we have to do is "relax" and not think about it, then I would like to be prescribed a holiday or spa break!

 

[Jett55]

If all we have to do is "relax" and not think about it, then I would like to be prescribed a holiday or spa break!

me too!!!

 

[MrsShannahan]

This is my first post on this site (hi everyone!), I had to find a way of letting out my TTC frustration!

TTC in general... 7 months in and I hate you! I didn't think I would feel this way but every month my heart breaks. Had soo many friends just get pregnant straight away and it makes me sick!

If someone tells me to "chill out" and "it'll happen when it happens" one more time I'm going to smack them! They are the most irritating comments in the world even if you mean well.

I work 6 days a week at the moment and don't have much time to relax, I just feel caught in a cycle and its just crap. Pllleeassee let me get pregnant soon.

Han you came to the right place! Vent to us! My DH and I have been TTC for over a year. Had a miscarriage in October of 2012. We are now on the fertility treatment roller coaster with another BFN this month. And I'm with you on the "advise" to chill out. Not a week goes by that I don't get the, "when are you two having kids?" What I would love to day is, "when you start minding your own damn business!" Having a had time TTC just plain SUCKS!

 

[pinkflowers]

This is my first post on this site (hi everyone!), I had to find a way of letting out my TTC frustration!

TTC in general... 7 months in and I hate you! I didn't think I would feel this way but every month my heart breaks. Had soo many friends just get pregnant straight away and it makes me sick!

If someone tells me to "chill out" and "it'll happen when it happens" one more time I'm going to smack them! They are the most irritating comments in the world even if you mean well.

I work 6 days a week at the moment and don't have much time to relax, I just feel caught in a cycle and its just crap. Pllleeassee let me get pregnant soon.

Han you came to the right place! Vent to us! My DH and I have been TTC for over a year. Had a miscarriage in October of 2012. We are now on the fertility treatment roller coaster with another BFN this month. And I'm with you on the "advise" to chill out. Not a week goes by that I don't get the, "when are you two having kids?" What I would love to day is, "when you start minding your own damn business!" Having a had time TTC just plain SUCKS!

Thank goodness for you ladies. In the past week I have had two birth and two pregnancy announcements in my circle of friends. Then at work yesterday I got asked by a colleague, "when are you guys having kids? You can't put it off forever you know." !!! Did it ever occur to you that maybe that's not the issue??? I am so mad and so sad and so sick of waiting for this to happen to us, when everyone around me just seems to get pregnant instantly. Feeling really awful about it right now.

 

[Twag]

OK what the We have perfect timing had a serious BD-athon and what nothing CYCLE 9 jeez why is it all my 2ww buddies get a BFP and they didn't even time it right or one well timed one and I am always the one left behind argghghhhhhh seriously it is so unfair

I just want me turn I don't think it is too much to ask Just feels like it is never going to happen

 

[VP1228]

I was just thinking about when people say "relax it will happen". Okay if there is something physically wrong there is no way that dang relaxing will make you get pregnant. And if that was true people that are doing IVF or IUI would not get pregnant because that is actively trying also. So that right there explains that the relaxing technique doesn't work. And if your not ovulating and you don't know it how can relaxing help that? I mean is stress isn't the reason your not ovulating. I just stop talking to people that have not been trying for more than 6 months. I feel that everything happens for a reason and the God will give me my reason sooner or later. I will just focus on my relationship with God and my DF.

 

[mapletulip]

I am about 3DPO and last night we were at a Birthday Party....all the women there had multiple kids and two girl were very pregnant. At a certain point, both pregnant girls were standing on each side of me. Last month, I would have been upset. But this month is different.

I have had every pg symptom during my ttw's and never ever gotten a BFP. So this month, I am no longer paying attention to any symptoms. My symptoms can take a hike. I am actually going to think I WILL get a BFN. Just for this month. And instead, I am going to focus on why it's good to not have kids just yet. Sleeping in. Travelling. Money to spend on date nights, clothes, a new washer and dryer we need, perhaps a new house. No commitment. No crying in our house. No temper tantrums.

Don't get me wrong. I want a baby. I want to be pregnant. I hate that everyone and their dog gets pregnant in 1-2 times and then tells me to just check my CM to see if it looks like eggwhites or that I need to relax. But just for this month, I choose to try to be happy that I am not a mom just yet.

At the party, all the moms were saying how hard it was and that they sometimes lock themselves in the bathroom and eat while the kids run rampant. How their 2 year olds slap them in the face or bite them. How their mothersday was ruined because the kids were horrible and their husbands didn't care.

Maybe all of us, for 1 month, can focus on the good of our current situation. We will have our babies, I know so. But maybe...just maybe...we can roll over tomorrow morning in bed at 8:30AM and sleep for another hour and then go for a leisurely breakfast with our DH and celebrate a child free weekend while we still can.

It took me while to get there and I get it if you can't. And I'll probably be testing in 7 days and getting my hopes up. But for now...I choose to be happy with where I am. Expecting a BFN. And that is ok. Next month I can stress and obsess again. I'm just sick of it for now after a few months of nothing but symptoms and BFN's.

So...maybe we can take the pressure off for just 1 cycle and be grateful we are not being slapped in the face, yelled at, have temper tantrums in the house, have a dining room covered in food, having to wake up 5 times a night and feeling like a zombie, crying in a locked bathroom because we can't stand it anymore. (we do enough of that last bit!)

Hugs to all you wonderful ladies! X

 

[Jett55]

Ohh hi af nice of u to show up a day early

 

[Sparkle_13]

I am about 3DPO and last night we were at a Birthday Party....all the women there had multiple kids and two girl were very pregnant. At a certain point, both pregnant girls were standing on each side of me. Last month, I would have been upset. But this month is different.

I have had every pg symptom during my ttw's and never ever gotten a BFP. So this month, I am no longer paying attention to any symptoms. My symptoms can take a hike. I am actually going to think I WILL get a BFN. Just for this month. And instead, I am going to focus on why it's good to not have kids just yet. Sleeping in. Travelling. Money to spend on date nights, clothes, a new washer and dryer we need, perhaps a new house. No commitment. No crying in our house. No temper tantrums.

Don't get me wrong. I want a baby. I want to be pregnant. I hate that everyone and their dog gets pregnant in 1-2 times and then tells me to just check my CM to see if it looks like eggwhites or that I need to relax. But just for this month, I choose to try to be happy that I am not a mom just yet.

At the party, all the moms were saying how hard it was and that they sometimes lock themselves in the bathroom and eat while the kids run rampant. How their 2 year olds slap them in the face or bite them. How their mothersday was ruined because the kids were horrible and their husbands didn't care.

Maybe all of us, for 1 month, can focus on the good of our current situation. We will have our babies, I know so. But maybe...just maybe...we can roll over tomorrow morning in bed at 8:30AM and sleep for another hour and then go for a leisurely breakfast with our DH and celebrate a child free weekend while we still can.

It took me while to get there and I get it if you can't. And I'll probably be testing in 7 days and getting my hopes up. But for now...I choose to be happy with where I am. Expecting a BFN. And that is ok. Next month I can stress and obsess again. I'm just sick of it for now after a few months of nothing but symptoms and BFN's.

So...maybe we can take the pressure off for just 1 cycle and be grateful we are not being slapped in the face, yelled at, have temper tantrums in the house, have a dining room covered in food, having to wake up 5 times a night and feeling like a zombie, crying in a locked bathroom because we can't stand it anymore. (we do enough of that last bit!)

Hugs to all you wonderful ladies! X

You're totally right Mapletulip, While it sucks trying to get pregnant and it's not happening I definitely want to be grateful for the good things in my life right now

 

[VP1228]

I think it is so dumb that my fiance wants to back out of trying after my lap. I wish I would have known this way before now. Men just don't understand how hard it is to pinpoint ovulation and bd when we need to. If my fiance really wanted a baby he would try harder to get it. Ugh why did I have to get the immature mama's boy.

 

[FireLyte]

Called and had my doc order a hcg blood test on Friday, went to the lab to have the blood drawn on Saturday. The lab hadn't received the order yet, so they said they'd hold the blood over the weekend and I needed to get things sorted with my doc on Monday morning. I did that, and now I have no clue if/when I'll receive the results. I couldn't find the lab's number, and my doc's office hasn't called me with the results. I'm sitting at cd120, with possible O on 4/25 or 4/26 (o pain) OR possibly on 5/13ish (fertile CM). Stupid PCOS! Really, I just want the results back so I can move on!