Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[Diddy2013]

Today a woman walked past me in a store and mumbled "another pregnant teen, when will they stop being little whores and learn to do better in life". I asked her who was she talking about and she said you miss thing, so I said no offense ma'am but I am not a teen and I am not pregnant. Her jaw dropped and she tried to apologize but I told her no need to apologize because ignorance is in everyone sometimes. She just walked away from me. I really don't like when people actually stereotype someone just because of their age or because of their appearance. It is hard enough that I have issues with conceiving but to call me a whore and act like I sleep around when I have been with the same person for almost two years. She had no right to say anything she didn't even know me.

...Yeah I can't believe she even said that. If I say hi to someone I think I know and it turns out I do not know them, I run the other direction...without explanation.

 

[mapletulip]

Remember that radio station contest? Im in the car driving home and flipping channels and this contest comes on. The first couple is already pregnant! That took like what....2 weeks?! While I was getting annoyed, I noticed the license plate in front of me...the letter part said: BFN.

Whomp.Whomp.Whomp. Double whammy in the gut.

 

[VP1228]

Remember that radio station contest? Im in the car driving home and flipping channels and this contest comes on. The first couple is already pregnant! That took like what....2 weeks?! While I was getting annoyed, I noticed the license plate in front of me...the letter part said: BFN.

Whomp.Whomp.Whomp. Double whammy in the gut.

That really sucks. People really stoop that low just to have a baby for free stuff. How about appreciating the idea of have a special gift from God running around instead of what you can get for having it. That statement was not implying to you just that contest sounds so hypocritical (spelling is horrible when I am pissed). And aww the license plate thing I know it sucks. I have seen so many baby on board stickers I lost count after 10 lol and that was in one day.

 

[HBGirl]

Does anyone else ever feel that a BFP is a "never will happen" dream? I'm starting to feel that I will never get to hold my very own baby.

 

[AlyCon]

As a "recovered" (I hate that term because you never recover, you just learn to cope) I can't believe the stupidity of that website! That's why I never joined any of those online support groups. The vibe was everyone's nose was still in the air. imo, I think the members on those sites are not real anorexics or bulimics because those who are do not seek appreciation for it especially with the whole pro-ana thing that started..biggest crock of sh** ever. ED's are not fun, they're not a glamorous lifestyle..it's a mental disorder that makes you isolated, unsocialized, depressed to the core, you literally do get halucinations about your body. It's a disaster, those websites imo are filled with the wannabes that think they have an eating disorder but all they have is a very strict diet or food phobia of some sort. (no offence meant, my small rant on the topic)

None taken I totally agree. I used to be a part of a few when I was still struggling just as a place to vent and I met a few cool girls that I kept in touch with for a while (not anymore though). But on this particular sight it's like they are so overly dramatic!! Every post is like boohoo poor me I'm so miserable or talking about they've been having half an apple everyday for a week. I think some really do have an ED but they over exaggerate it. Then when a new girl posts "I'm so excited, I'm starting Ana today. Who wants to be my Ana buddy" they rip her shreds!!! And yes she kind of deserves it but like you said even the wannabes have some kind of food problem or phobia to WANT to starve themselves. I mean no it's not real anorexia but there's something wrong with them. And the main thing that angers me is how can you make post about how you're starving yourself and all this but then tell another person "Anorexia isnt a diet, we're dying from this! if you want to lose weight don't starve. Eat 1200-1400 calories a day and do moderate exercise." Umm.. And you can't take your own advice because why?!

And they say it's easier said than done but they use that as a crutch! I'm "recovered" and I did it by myself. No doctors, therapists, rehab, counselors, none of that. Just me deciding I wanted a better life for myself and I didn't want to die on the bathroom floor covered in my own vomit. so all these girls posting "OMG I don't want to go back to inpatient for the 10th time!" They need to get over themselves and stop being attention whores. Its like that website is a competition to see who's sicker. its disgusting!

 

[FireLyte]

So irritated at my doctor's office right now! They ordered a HCG blood test Friday, I went saturday to have my blood drawn, but they couldn't do the test because the lab didn't receive the order. Doc's office sent the order over Monday, no results Monday or Tuesday. So I call Tuesday, they say they should have the results Wednesday. Wednesday comes and goes with no call, so I call them right before they close. They tell me that the girl I see and the supervising doctor aren't in on Wednesdays, so even though they got my results about 4pm, they can't share them with me because no one is there to go over them. I spent all day yesterday waiting for this phone call, full of angst and just on edge, because maybe, I might finally have an answer. The least they could have done is let me know when I called Tuesday that I wouldn't find out the results until Thursday. Ugh! So now, my angsty wait starts all over again. I am SO done with this cycle. Either give me a bfp, or just let AF show up, please? 120+ days is more than enough torture for one person.

 

[Jett55]

A friend just had to tell me about my friends lil sister bein prego she's only 16 if that u gotta be kidding me she was like 12 when I was in highschool & she's pregnant gaaaah swear so sick of hearing about little kids being pregnant. I get told all the time It's just not time yet ummm so being in highschool is the time. Wtf makes noo sense. I didn't know being married & having a house & job makes it not the right time for a baby..

 

[tamithomas]

Well, went to the grocery store today. Was already in a bad mood due to a headache borderline migraine but needed milk. Bumped into someone I hadn't seen in 2 years only to find out she's 10 weeks pregnant. I should really join drama school considering how much acting is involved when giving a congrats. In reality I just wanted to throat punch a wall and walk away considering yesterday both DH and I were in a moppy mood around the house about not having any kids yet and how we were supposed to be with a one month old right now in our arms. Also over the fact that he had went overboard about mentioning his daughter which got me slightly ticked off which is how the whole moppy mood started. Luckily he knew I wasn't the bad guy nor got defense about it so it didn't go into a tiff. Told him I know it's not your fault, you didn't come a dad before meeting me just to spite me but to tone it down on mentioning her considering it's indirectly rubbing it in my face that he had a chance to become a parent yet I'm still childless.

I hate how TTC is making me anti social and not wanting to be around people because I know bfp's will be unintentionally rubbed in my face.

 

[AlyCon]

One step forward, ten steps back.

 

[FireLyte]

Just learned that I've had a mc/chemical. Not sure which, as I couldn't begin to tell you when I last O'd, but either way, ouch. And to top it off, I log onto fb to message a friend, and before I can change screens, there's a bump pic from a girl that's 6 mos preggers. Screw today.

 

[sweet_18]

aww that's sad
screw FB!
Even I am pissed off with it

 

[Jett55]

Amen to that I'm beyond fed up with fb

 

[VP1228]

The one person you expect to be supportive is now an a-hole. My boyfriend told me I am going overboard because I told him when we start trying again we are going to use softcups well he started running his mouth like a immature high school teen. When he was done being annoying he tried to have with me. So I told him to get out and don't talk to me for awhile. He tried to apologize but I closed the door in his face. I was already mad that he was being insensitive about the idea, but to try and do that in my mom's house is unbelievable. Idk when I am going to talk to him again. Just so angry right now

 

[AlyCon]

If you have a smart phone try downloading the FB messenger app! Then you can delete or log out of the regular app but still send some one a message/ get your messages without having to scroll through the newsfeed. I didn't even know about it until a few days ago when my friend told me. I was seriously contemplating deactivating but it's hard for me to keep in touch with certain people without it. So the messenger app is my happy medium I can send messages to the important people without seeing the bumps and ultrasound pictures.

 

[Isobel345]

I am about 3DPO and last night we were at a Birthday Party....all the women there had multiple kids and two girl were very pregnant. At a certain point, both pregnant girls were standing on each side of me. Last month, I would have been upset. But this month is different.

I have had every pg symptom during my ttw's and never ever gotten a BFP. So this month, I am no longer paying attention to any symptoms. My symptoms can take a hike. I am actually going to think I WILL get a BFN. Just for this month. And instead, I am going to focus on why it's good to not have kids just yet. Sleeping in. Travelling. Money to spend on date nights, clothes, a new washer and dryer we need, perhaps a new house. No commitment. No crying in our house. No temper tantrums.

Don't get me wrong. I want a baby. I want to be pregnant. I hate that everyone and their dog gets pregnant in 1-2 times and then tells me to just check my CM to see if it looks like eggwhites or that I need to relax. But just for this month, I choose to try to be happy that I am not a mom just yet.

At the party, all the moms were saying how hard it was and that they sometimes lock themselves in the bathroom and eat while the kids run rampant. How their 2 year olds slap them in the face or bite them. How their mothersday was ruined because the kids were horrible and their husbands didn't care.

Maybe all of us, for 1 month, can focus on the good of our current situation. We will have our babies, I know so. But maybe...just maybe...we can roll over tomorrow morning in bed at 8:30AM and sleep for another hour and then go for a leisurely breakfast with our DH and celebrate a child free weekend while we still can.

It took me while to get there and I get it if you can't. And I'll probably be testing in 7 days and getting my hopes up. But for now...I choose to be happy with where I am. Expecting a BFN. And that is ok. Next month I can stress and obsess again. I'm just sick of it for now after a few months of nothing but symptoms and BFN's.

So...maybe we can take the pressure off for just 1 cycle and be grateful we are not being slapped in the face, yelled at, have temper tantrums in the house, have a dining room covered in food, having to wake up 5 times a night and feeling like a zombie, crying in a locked bathroom because we can't stand it anymore. (we do enough of that last bit!)

Hugs to all you wonderful ladies! X

Thank you for this! It changed my whole day for the better

 

[wntafmly]

You know those days that despite it being a "great" day, it's an awful day.... TODAY is that day. Jealous of my best friend and her new baby, absolutely sick of seeing bump pictures, waiting for AF to show (should be here tomorrow or the next day), and to top it all off I just found out we have a family reunion to go to at the beginning of August, where I will have to play nice with my DH's cousin's girlfriend who is 19, jobless, lives off DH's 20 year old immature cousin with serious anger and abandonment issues, and by then she will be 7.5 months pregnant. We didn't have respect for either of them before, but I am always polite and courteous and will make conversation....but now I don't know if I can look her in the eye without being furious! Thankfully my DH is incredibly supportive and even though I am having a moment of crazy, he always backs me up. He doesn't like it any more that I do, and neither do my in-laws (although they don't know we are having fertility issues, so they don't understand quite why I don't discuss the topic). After 25 cycles, I think each one gets harder and harder....as do the bump pictures and pregnancy announcements.

 

[tamithomas]

https://www.stfuparentsblog.com/post/51250134636/deathjacking-is-killing-me

I can`t even with #3. I thought women like her would just a myth

 

[Boozlebub]

Sorry to hear that firelyte. hope you are doing as ok as can be expected.

 

[mapletulip]

I hear ya.
11DPO today and look who showed up 3 days early.....
Cramping right now and very uncomfortable. Even though I was expecting it to be a no this month, it still sucks.

 

[awifey]

I had a bit of pregnancy news today that made me feel better about only having bfns. One of my coworkers has been having a difficult pregnancy and today the news was shared at school that her baby died in utero a couple days ago and now they will do surgery to remove it...she was almost to full term. I can't imagine the devastation she is going through right now. It hasn't been easy for her, this has also been her first year teaching. Praying for God to lend her some comfort.