Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[tamithomas]

I thought having older friends would be a plus because they're passed the pregnancy stage themselves. Reality slapped me in the face with a reminder that now it's the "I'm going to be a grand parent" stage which is just as bad if not worse on facebook.

 

[MissyLissy]

Found out today on Facebook that one of my best friends growing up is 3 months pregnant. She's two years younger than me, been married only one year, and had has only known her husband two years total.

I've been with my hubs for eight years, married for three. I'm 30, nearing in on 31. She's 28. I couldn't even bring myself to like or comment on her status. With 288 "likes," and 50-some odd comments, she likely won't notice anyway. She has enough people happy for her...and I just can't. Don't have it in me.

 

[ashntony]

I am so sick of this.... I don't want to keep waiting.... My DH doesn't understand how awful this waiting game is.... every month i wait to o.... then i wait to test.... then i wait for af to show.... i am just over it... i want a baby

 

[LillyTame]

WHY IS THIS SO FLIP FLAPPING HARD!!!

It's supposed to be easy like in the movies or like they said when they scared the crap out of you in high school! "Just ONE time" "Even if he does't ejaculate inside you" ETC ETC ETC BALONEY BALONEY BALONEY!! (Yes I know that's spelled wrong, it just looks better than bologna)

Why couldn't me and OH have the sex drive we had when we were 23! UGH!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so frickin frustrated right now. I just want to ovulate (on time), have sex (at the right time), and be done with this TTC. No more OPKs, preseed, softcups, and planned BDing! I'm tired of having PMA for the first 2.5 wks of the month and then feeling like giving completely up because nothing is going right!!

 

[VP1228]

I feel everyone's pain. I hate (yes hate) that I cannot get pregnant easy like all my friends. It's like my body doesn't work at 22. I have all the PMS symptoms right now and it hurts so much to see AF come and then when she leaves I know I will see her again in 25 to 27 days. The friends that have gotten pregnant know nothing about ovulation or lp. They just know that you have sex and get pregnant. I wish I didn't know what ovulation or lp is. It seems since I know what they are it is more stress. They didn't know what ovulation tests were they tried to tell me there is no such thing as ovulation tests only pregnancy tests ugh that is what I wanted to do to them. I have spent more money on stuff to get pregnant than they did on condoms . I don't get why this is so hard. In school they really said sex anytime will get you pregnant, they really lied. My mom and grandmother just make me feel worse because every month something changes on me and they say "your getting fat your pregnant aren't you" or your boobs are bigger are you pregnant" you and your boyfriend argue a lot are you pregnant". I really did not know that those things only happen when you pregnant. Ugh they only support I have is your guys because you understand how frustrating it is to keep trying. Maybe after my lap this will be easier I hope

 

[ashntony]

So sick of the u dnt know love to you have your own child!!!! Put a damn sock in it. You only got pregnant bc you didn't use proper contraceptive! Sorry for the rant.

 

[VP1228]

So sick of the u dnt know love to you have your own child!!!! Put a damn sock in it. You only got pregnant bc you didn't use proper contraceptive! Sorry for the rant.

Don't apologize for sharing your frustrations. And yes that is annoying for people to say that. Especially if they weren't actually trying to get pregnant.

 

[MissyLissy]

So sick of the u dnt know love to you have your own child!!!! Put a damn sock in it. You only got pregnant bc you didn't use proper contraceptive! Sorry for the rant.

Oh God! I hate that kind of self-righteous sentiment!!! I've had PLENTY of people back-handedly let me know all I'm missing out on and how much I don't understand because I'm a stupid 30-year-old childless loser.

Guess what? You jerks don't know pain until you've gone through my heartache.

 

[VP1228]

Wow they really called you that? If so they are losers themselves.

 

[AlyCon]

This isn't TTC related, well kind of but not really. Anywho I used to have an eating disorder and sometimes I still battle those thoughts and feelings plus depression (which I now know EDs, depression and/or bipolar symptoms are linked to pcos) so I joined an online support community for people struggling with various EDs. And some of the girls there, especially the mods/ admins are such knowitall bitches sometimes!! I posted today that I was starting a very strict diet that excludes or restricts quite a few food groups and I was going to keep up with my exercise but I did worry that I might get carried away. So one of the mods posts this bitchy reply saying that there's NO WAY I'll get proper nutrition on my "diet" and that I will get sick and mentally unstable from over exercising.

Umm first of all two hours a day is NOT over doing it, I would know because it's what I do now and I'm perfectly fine! Second I don't see how eliminating processed foods and having a low starch vegetarian (almost vegan but Im having eggs) diet is so super unhealthy! And what she DOESN'T know is that I have pcos so things like starch and dairy are actually BAD for me especially now that I'm on Metformin those foods give me diarrhea and other GI problems!! And last but not least these girls are fucking hypocrites! They make all these dramatic posts about how deep into their ED they are but then harass and bully other people about what they do or eat. Seriously I don't need a fucking anorexic giving me dieting advice! I've been recovered for a long ass time and I'll be damned if I take advice from some one still in the midst of their disorder! Like wtf you ate 200 calories today and wanna bitch at me for not eating meat and junk food?! Yeah fuck you bitch! Especially since this diet is actually going to help relieve my pcos symptoms and possibly help me get pregnant! Just one more way the world is so uneducated about infertility! We ARE NOT ALL CREATED EQUALLY!! I know this because there are pregnant anorexics and bulimics who post everyday about still engaging in those unhealthy behaviors while pregnant and here I am trying my best to stay healthy and still no baby! So they can all kiss my ass!!!

 

[VP1228]

This isn't TTC related, well kind of but not really. Anywho I used to have an eating disorder and sometimes I still battle those thoughts and feelings plus depression (which I now know EDs, depression and/or bipolar symptoms are linked to pcos) so I joined an online support community for people struggling with various EDs. And some of the girls there, especially the mods/ admins are such knowitall bitches sometimes!! I posted today that I was starting a very strict diet that excludes or restricts quite a few food groups and I was going to keep up with my exercise but I did worry that I might get carried away. So one of the mods posts this bitchy reply saying that there's NO WAY I'll get proper nutrition on my "diet" and that I will get sick and mentally unstable from over exercising.

Umm first of all two hours a day is NOT over doing it, I would know because it's what I do now and I'm perfectly fine! Second I don't see how eliminating processed foods and having a low starch vegetarian (almost vegan but Im having eggs) diet is so super unhealthy! And what she DOESN'T know is that I have pcos so things like starch and dairy are actually BAD for me especially now that I'm on Metformin those foods give me diarrhea and other GI problems!! And last but not least these girls are fucking hypocrites! They make all these dramatic posts about how deep into their ED they are but then harass and bully other people about what they do or eat. Seriously I don't need a fucking anorexic giving me dieting advice! I've been recovered for a long ass time and I'll be damned if I take advice from some one still in the midst of their disorder! Like wtf you ate 200 calories today and wanna bitch at me for not eating meat and junk food?! Yeah fuck you bitch! Especially since this diet is actually going to help relieve my pcos symptoms and possibly help me get pregnant! Just one more way the world is so uneducated about infertility! We ARE NOT ALL CREATED EQUALLY!! I know this because there are pregnant anorexics and bulimics who post everyday about still engaging in those unhealthy behaviors while pregnant and here I am trying my best to stay healthy and still no baby! So they can all kiss my ass!!!

Do whats best for you, no one should tell you what you need or anything unless its your doctor.

 

[AlyCon]

Do whats best for you, no one should tell you what you need or anything unless its your doctor.

Thanks! Sorry I went off like that but it just makes me mad that these girls have all this "advice" for others but can't even help themselves!!

And yes my doctor was the one who told me to cut back on starch and dairy because of pcos and Metformin. I decided to cut out meat for the time being to help with weight loss but if I feel like I'm losing too much weight or that I'm getting sick I will adjust my diet accordingly. That's the other thing that pisses me off like I just laid out my plan but she acts like I'm not an able adult with self control. Obviously I can change my plan at any time. They're just so eager to bully people they don't even think about that.

 

[VP1228]

Do whats best for you, no one should tell you what you need or anything unless its your doctor.

Thanks! Sorry I went off like that but it just makes me mad that these girls have all this "advice" for others but can't even help themselves!!

And yes my doctor was the one who told me to cut back on starch and dairy because of pcos and Metformin. I decided to cut out meat for the time being to help with weight loss but if I feel like I'm losing too much weight or that I'm getting sick I will adjust my diet accordingly. That's the other thing that pisses me off like I just laid out my plan but she acts like I'm not an able adult with self control. Obviously I can change my plan at any time. They're just so eager to bully people they don't even think about that.

I have realized that the main people that are bullying in their adult life were bullied as a child. It's no excuse for anyone to act that way but some people never grow up

 

[MissyLissy]

So sick of the u dnt know love to you have your own child!!!! Put a damn sock in it. You only got pregnant bc you didn't use proper contraceptive! Sorry for the rant.

Oh God! I hate that kind of self-righteous sentiment!!! I've had PLENTY of people back-handedly let me know all I'm missing out on and how much I don't understand because I'm a stupid 30-year-old childless loser.

Guess what? You jerks don't know pain until you've gone through my heartache.

Haha...no. No one had literally come out and called me a childless loser. That's just how self-righteous comments about parenthood and how "I don't understand" make me feel.

 

[Diddy2013]

My former best friend just had a baby today. I am extremely jealous. Especially since I've been with my dh longer and married longer...etc....I hate this feeling.

 

[ashntony]

I think that if it wasn't for my 3 furbabies I would have lost my sanity... so ready to finally have ababy... to everyone!

 

[VP1228]

I wish there was really some magic pixie dust I could give to all of you and just throw it on each other and then and get pregnant.

 

[tamithomas]

Really lost a lot of respect for a friend today. The one that I had mentioned that spent 10 years jumping vagina to vagina who settled down and not even 3 months in, announces he'll be a dad, girlfriend loses to ectopic, doesn't even get her period back before she's bfp again.

Well, he posted on facebook (my dh showed it to me, I don't have him on mine thankfully) that to those who thought it was going to be a boy, it's a girl and that those who are not parents are really missing out on life. I'm sorry, a year ago you were humping everything in sight..who do you think you are giving that sort of speech?!

 

[tamithomas]

This isn't TTC related, well kind of but not really. Anywho I used to have an eating disorder and sometimes I still battle those thoughts and feelings plus depression (which I now know EDs, depression and/or bipolar symptoms are linked to pcos) so I joined an online support community for people struggling with various EDs. And some of the girls there, especially the mods/ admins are such knowitall bitches sometimes!! I posted today that I was starting a very strict diet that excludes or restricts quite a few food groups and I was going to keep up with my exercise but I did worry that I might get carried away. So one of the mods posts this bitchy reply saying that there's NO WAY I'll get proper nutrition on my "diet" and that I will get sick and mentally unstable from over exercising.

Umm first of all two hours a day is NOT over doing it, I would know because it's what I do now and I'm perfectly fine! Second I don't see how eliminating processed foods and having a low starch vegetarian (almost vegan but Im having eggs) diet is so super unhealthy! And what she DOESN'T know is that I have pcos so things like starch and dairy are actually BAD for me especially now that I'm on Metformin those foods give me diarrhea and other GI problems!! And last but not least these girls are fucking hypocrites! They make all these dramatic posts about how deep into their ED they are but then harass and bully other people about what they do or eat. Seriously I don't need a fucking anorexic giving me dieting advice! I've been recovered for a long ass time and I'll be damned if I take advice from some one still in the midst of their disorder! Like wtf you ate 200 calories today and wanna bitch at me for not eating meat and junk food?! Yeah fuck you bitch! Especially since this diet is actually going to help relieve my pcos symptoms and possibly help me get pregnant! Just one more way the world is so uneducated about infertility! We ARE NOT ALL CREATED EQUALLY!! I know this because there are pregnant anorexics and bulimics who post everyday about still engaging in those unhealthy behaviors while pregnant and here I am trying my best to stay healthy and still no baby! So they can all kiss my ass!!!

As a "recovered" (I hate that term because you never recover, you just learn to cope) I can't believe the stupidity of that website! That's why I never joined any of those online support groups. The vibe was everyone's nose was still in the air. imo, I think the members on those sites are not real anorexics or bulimics because those who are do not seek appreciation for it especially with the whole pro-ana thing that started..biggest crock of sh** ever. ED's are not fun, they're not a glamorous lifestyle..it's a mental disorder that makes you isolated, unsocialized, depressed to the core, you literally do get halucinations about your body. It's a disaster, those websites imo are filled with the wannabes that think they have an eating disorder but all they have is a very strict diet or food phobia of some sort. (no offence meant, my small rant on the topic)

 

[VP1228]

Today a woman walked past me in a store and mumbled "another pregnant teen, when will they stop being little whores and learn to do better in life". I asked her who was she talking about and she said you miss thing, so I said no offense ma'am but I am not a teen and I am not pregnant. Her jaw dropped and she tried to apologize but I told her no need to apologize because ignorance is in everyone sometimes. She just walked away from me. I really don't like when people actually stereotype someone just because of their age or because of their appearance. It is hard enough that I have issues with conceiving but to call me a whore and act like I sleep around when I have been with the same person for almost two years. She had no right to say anything she didn't even know me.