Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[ashntony]

1 DPO and i missed my window... but on the plus side at least I finally ovulated this year!

 

[Sam10]

I started using the ovulation test strips on Friday. I'm already overwhelmed. Some women test more than once a day? Ugh. How do you guys keep up with all of this stuff? There's always a second line? Man. I just feel like I'm in over my head.

 

[wellsk]

You don't have to test twice a day. I never have done. Just test as often as you feel comfortable with. Wait for the lines to get darker or as dark as the control line and O should be between 12 and 36 hours later.

 

[FireLyte]

@Ash: congrats on o'ing! Seems weird to say, but for some of us that is half the battle.

 

[HBGirl]

Another baby shower yesterday. I have perfected my plastered on "so happy for you" grin.

 

[oneKnight]

Every night I worry about infertility, and paying for tests. And debate to myself whether I should just throw my financials to the wind and go have some tests done on credit since having a baby is probably going to require a lot of debt anyway, what difference does it make? And then I think, well in 4 months I can have my credit card paid off and start over with a clean slate when I see the dr. But 4 months seems like eternity from this standpoint, and like I said what does it really matter? Debt today or 4 months from now is still debt....
I'm 27 and right now 30 feels so close. Testing, treatments, and paying for it may take years before I have a baby why waste time starting?
Normal people don't worry about this I suppose, but for me it's an every night occurance. At my age I should be worrying about starting saving for the kid's college, or maybe buying a newer car, or something like that, not the idea of a thousand tests, drugs, and surgeries, and the possibility that they could never work and I might never have a baby. I feel like a cancer patient. Tests, drugs, surgeries, side effects, missed work/income when you need it most, money to finance it all, and you don't even know when or IF it will ever pay off!!!

 

[AlyCon]

My friend just shared this link with me. I'm so sad and angry all at the same time. It's a shame people like this can have kids and I can't.

Just a warning the pictures are graphic and you will probably cry and then punch your computer screen.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/ar...d-ALIVE-toilet-pipe-flushed-away-parents.html

 

[ashntony]

Aly those kind of people make me wonder where humanity has gone.

Anyways today is my bday and i was celebrating it yesterday. I had a friend come over that obviously needed to ruin it. She comes in andsays you know whose 5.5 months pg and didn't know until Friday? Oh it turns out to be this big party girl that snorts pills and drinks all of the time.... she has been doing this every day throughout the 5.5 months!!!!! So happybday to me...

 

[Jett55]

Um how did she not know she was pregnant?? it irks me that the ppl who get pregnant are the ones doin drugs & stuff that apparently affect fertility. Sorry ashntony that girl ruined ur bday happy birthday & hope todays better than last night

 

[AlyCon]

it irks me that the ppl who get pregnant are the ones doin drugs & stuff that apparently affect fertility.

Me too. Sometimes when I'm feeling desperate I think "maybe I should drink a bottle vodka and snort some cocaine, maybe that will help me ovulate and get my BFP." It seems to work so well for other women. It's just plain frustrating!

 

[ashntony]

Um how did she not know she was pregnant?? it irks me that the ppl who get pregnant are the ones doin drugs & stuff that apparently affect fertility. Sorry ashntony that girl ruined ur bday happy birthday & hope todays better than last night

She was stillhaving periods.... but she also thought she was just sick bc she had constant stomach aches. She is actually a stupid git. I finally let loose and drank yesterday for me bday so maybe that will help with my bfp! Its just not fair... plus another girl i used to go to school with just had her 3td abortion! Its called a damn condom!

 

[VP1228]

it irks me that the ppl who get pregnant are the ones doin drugs & stuff that apparently affect fertility.

Me too. Sometimes when I'm feeling desperate I think "maybe I should drink a bottle vodka and snort some cocaine, maybe that will help me ovulate and get my BFP." It seems to work so well for other women. It's just plain frustrating!

You said exactly what I think sometimes. I mean we try so hard to have a baby but others just lay down with a guy and wake up pregnant. Idk how people that do drugs and drink all the time can get pregnant. That makes me think statistics are wrong. Alcohol and drugs are no no's when TTC but it still happens for people that do that. My cousin has 4 kids and she did alot of things before, during, and after pregnancy (all 4).

 

[Jett55]

Yaah it's very irritating... & of course a girl having normal periods while pregnant ugg no wonder I have an obsession with the what ifs or just because af came doesn't mean anything it's stuff like this that makes me crazzy lol We hear soo much af came so therefore you can't be pregnant but there's soo many exceptions merrr wish I could be :/

 

[VP1228]

It seems I am now stressing over taking a break from ttc. Just seeing my friend pregnant and seeing her crib in her room when she is only 3 months pregnant made me sad. It's hard to take a break from it when I want it so bad. But it is causing so much heartache I can't take it no more. I will not have a choice but to take a "real" break after my lap since my doctor won't see me until 6 weeks after it. Maybe during the healing process my heart will heal also.

 

[Jett55]

Taking a break might be what u need & I think after this month I'm taking a break & just ntnp & not worry about it

 

[oneKnight]

If baby u/s pictures are generally considered by the masses to be FB appropriate, wouldn't it be equally appropriate to post mine? It's still a uterus, whether it has a baby-ish blob in it or not. I'd like to post that to the next person who posts theirs to my feed, and depending on my mood, I'm snarky enough to do it!

 

[tamithomas]

My heart is in my throat. The infamous friends that were so clueless and careless about our m/c called us tonight asking if we can have coffee friday evening to chat. They never do that unless they got news or need something from us. My gutt feeling which is rarely ever wrong is they're bfp again. I already told DH if this is the case, when we're at the coffee shop if they announce a bfp we plan on saying it won't be a long coffee talk because we have food in the oven. It will take everything not to cry on the spot.

 

[ashntony]

So I deleted a girl off of FB today... I am tired of her complaints about how her daughter ccries too much,. Shes 2 months old! Of course shes going to cry! Ugh...

 

[Limm]

tamithomas - Try your best not to worry over what is yet to happen. Hopefully they will just want something from you (which will be annoying, but much easier to deal with). Fingers crossed for you and let us know how you get on.

Have been feeling sickly for the past week or so. Ended up staying in bed one day because I thought it was the start of a cold but it was gone by the end of the day. Also been peeing constantly to the point that I am almost considering setting up camp in the bathroom.
There's a part of me that feels like something is different, but after a very emotional ordeal last month I'm too apprehensive to think positive. Really unsure on how I'm going to feel about another BFN this time. AF is due next week, but after everything that happened I'm not sure if it is or not. I truly hate being stuck in this situation of not knowing what's going on because we're unsure on what happened before.

 

[oneKnight]

In theory I guess I should be more considerate towards people with secondary infertility, and who knows maybe these are step-kids I'm seeing, but bringing your 2-year old with you to the fertility clinic seems like a slap in the face to someone who's been working on #1 for 6 years!!!