Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[AlyCon]

Totally blindsided by a Facebook BFP. I instantly unfriended her! For one she wasn't even a close friend anyway plus she's an alcoholic and bulimic and it's just unfair that I've been working hard to battle my depression and eating disorder and I know for a fact that she doesn't! (My friend used to live with her). I don't know why I'm so upset but seeing those pictures of her positive tests just sent me over the edge and I don't have the energy to try to fight it. I'm pissed off and I don't care!

 

[lamago]

I'm sorry alycon, I know it's tough.

 

[tamithomas]

So sorry AlyCon, I hate blindside BFP's.

 

[MrsLemon]

this really annoys me when friends who know that im ttc, who dont want children yet themselves say..

If i got pregnant now... Id just give it to you...

really gets on my tits.

 

[tamithomas]

DH has been on a Maury/Jerry Springer phase for a couple of days. Most of the time it makes me just shake my head in laughter but one particular episode of Maury I wanted to honestly puke..absolutely vomit everywhere. A boyfriend who blamed all 4 m/c on his girlfriend saying she did this or she did that like as if she wanted it to happen then had the balls to say he hopes they have a family and that it's a boy. Poor girl was so broken from those remarks. I wanted to jump into the screen and punch the sucker myself.

 

[nic18]

sick of hearing of girls that are 16 and under having their 2nd child!!

 

[Jett55]

Eh I keep getting told dh & I should wait to have kids since we haven't been married a year excuse me last I checked there's no rules on how long to be married before having kids... besides we're having enough difficulty atm anyways why the hell would we wait a year? We've been together over a year & married for like 4 months........ People are stupid & that's all there is to it

 

[JenniferJ]

I turned 40 in October and have been TTC since September. I've wanted kids for a long time but was never with the right person. Then I met the right person but he already had 3 kids and did not want another. The issue almost ended our relationship. He still does not "want" another but is willing to "try" because he loves me and does not want to lose me. He has joint custody so his oldest is with us 5 days a week and the 2 younger ones 4 days a week. He is a great dad and the girls are great but I am not their mom and never will be. We get along well but they don't think of me like that. They were 9, 12 and 14 when I first met them. I have three younger sisters and all have children. I want a baby so bad. It's literally an obsession. I did get pregnant back in February but had a miscarriage at 6 weeks. I was told to wait at least 2 cycles to try again but read literature that it is ok to start trying after 1 so I did. I got my period last week so it did not work. I've been tracking my cycles but I don't really involve him with it because it's still not something he wants and when we discuss it he gets frustrated and irritated and angry and we usually end up fighting. So I just figure out when the good times are and initiate like it's natural. The whole time I am stressing out he won't want to. Ever since he first agreed to try we have had less sex than before. The month I got pregnant we had sex 3 times during my fertility window. Two of the three times he initiated which was great. This last cycle we also had sex three times, he initiated once. I usually have a 29 day cycle but can go anywhere from 28 - 32 in the time I have been tracking. My next period is due 6/17 but I don't plan to take a test until the end of the week if I don't get it just to be sure. I'm so stressed out with the waiting. I'm obsession over every little sign. I'm super anxious. I just want to see that positive test so badly. I'm going to be really upset if I'm not because he is going to see his parents for 2 weeks at the end of the month into July and his time away is when I will be fertile again so I will have to wait another 2 mo0nths just to try again and I just feel like at my age I am running out of time. He was fine when I told him I was pregnant the first time but not supportive when I had the miscarriage. I was upset when I got my period this past month and when he asked me why and I told him it ended up blowing up into this big fight. He just does not get it and wants me to get over it. I know part of it is him not liking that I am hurting and not being able to help and he is not someone who can easily show emotion so he tends to get angry and frustrated when things are not going well but even though I can understand that it is really hard to deal with when you can’t get support with the most difficult and painful thing in your life from the one person who is supposed to be there for you for everything. I know if I do get pregnant he will love the baby and be a great father but I also know he would rather not have another. It just sucks. I also have a cousin I am very close to who has two children ages 12 and 9 and recently found out she is expecting triplets! I am happy for her but at the same time I can’t help being jealous. She has 2 kids, was not trying and now get’s not just one more baby but three…. I have a friend at work who is 29 and just went off the pill. I’m going to be devastated if she gets pregnant before me. I know these thoughts and feelings are wrong and I would never vocalize them to my cousin / friend but I just feel like everywhere I turn I get to see people with babies and children and getting pregnant and I’m scared I am never going to have that and if I don’t how am I ever going to get over it? I’m sorry for going on for so long. I just don’t really have anyone else who understands or can relate and it’s usually just bottled up inside of me. Maybe this month will be positive…. Have to keep thinking it is still possible.

 

[JenniferJ]

Yeah, I've gotten that from a few people too.... A friend I confided in told me that and My sister....My cousin is pregnant with triplets and my sister said if that happened to her she would give me one. I know she is trying to be nice and actually offered to be a surrogate but still....

 

[VP1228]

I never thought in a million years that I would be told I may need to have a hysterectomy at 22 ugh why is this even an option?! I hate that it took 2 years for one doctor to take my pelvic pain seriously and it be too late! I wish I could sue every doctor that didn't believe I was in pain! This is so unfair! I just hope I get a different opinion Friday

 

[Jett55]

A friend of mine who always brags about having a kid but doesn't take care of it has the nerves to say having a kid sucks in front of me. Gaah no wonder I don't ever talk to her very often. She's soo ungrateful

 

[VP1228]

Lol bragging about having a kid but not take care of it. Does she listen to herself?

 

[Jett55]

Heh I doubt it. She says the stupidest things & contradicts herself soo much. She really doesn't deserve a kid. She also says stuff like before when I thought I was infertile I looked up about adoption I was like ummm u never thought that. She also used to go around sayin she's,prego all the time so when she legit found out I didn't believe her until her grandma & sister told me. She's a very sad individual. Oh also one day I asked her what's up & she said being a mommy like wtf??? Aren't u always one It's like a game or playing house to her. Like I bet if & when I find out I'm prego finally she'll probably try to say she is too.

 

[ashntony]

Heh I doubt it. She says the stupidest things & contradicts herself soo much. She really doesn't deserve a kid. She also says stuff like before when I thought I was infertile I looked up about adoption I was like ummm u never thought that. She also used to go around sayin she's,prego all the time so when she legit found out I didn't believe her until her grandma & sister told me. She's a very sad individual. Oh also one day I asked her what's up & she said being a mommy like wtf??? Aren't u always one It's like a game or playing house to her. Like I bet if & when I find out I'm prego finally she'll probably try to say she is too.

I know a woman like that. She gave this big speech about how her husband died in iraq and she was.going through ivf with his sperm and got pg. Umm... she was never married never done ivf and never got pg.

 

[Jett55]

I know a woman like that. She gave this big speech about how her husband died in iraq and she was.going through ivf with his sperm and got pg. Umm... she was never married never done ivf and never got pg.

I will never understand women like that they make me sick. I also know some who have lied about having a miscarriage. I myself have never suffered one but they have no respect for those who have. And how ppl can lie about something like that & be okay about it is beyond me.

 

[VP1228]

I had a friend that used to say she was pregnant from 9th grade until we graduated. So when she finally missed her period she didn't think she was pregnant because she has no symptoms so she went about a month and a half before going to the doctor when she found out she was 9 weeks. Her baby is now 1 and she is using some kind of help from a college to pay her rent and her mom lives in her apartment neither of them work and on top of that they are not trying to. She is calling her baby's spoilness (not a word but that is what I call it lol) a behavior problem. So that is her excuse to not work and stay home with her son. She always asking will I take her out somewhere because she is stressed from not having a job (not looking for one) and from caring for her son. What was the point of having a baby when you don't fully appreciate it. I know she loves him but damn why complain about him when she got pregnant (don't believe it) by my ex boyfriend and beat the baby out of her stomach (don't believe that). She always wants to hang around me when I always want to be with my fiance. I don't even know if I will have my own baby because I had a lap done last Friday and I have a lot of scar tissue on my reproductive organs and idk if my doctor removed it or could remove it. Sorry for the long rant I am just beyond annoyed with people complaining about being a parent when they had choices. I don't believe in abortions but some people don't deserve to have the baby growing inside of them. She was drinking and smoking while pregnant (this was before she found out).

 

[tamithomas]

I never thought in a million years that I would be told I may need to have a hysterectomy at 22 ugh why is this even an option?! I hate that it took 2 years for one doctor to take my pelvic pain seriously and it be too late! I wish I could sue every doctor that didn't believe I was in pain! This is so unfair! I just hope I get a different opinion Friday

I'm so sorry hun. I actually would sue honestly if those are the results friday. That is so unfair. We're here for you, crossing my fingers a hysto is not needed

 

[VP1228]

I never thought in a million years that I would be told I may need to have a hysterectomy at 22 ugh why is this even an option?! I hate that it took 2 years for one doctor to take my pelvic pain seriously and it be too late! I wish I could sue every doctor that didn't believe I was in pain! This is so unfair! I just hope I get a different opinion Friday

I'm so sorry hun. I actually would sue honestly if those are the results friday. That is so unfair. We're here for you, crossing my fingers a hysto is not needed

I am hoping it is not needed. If that is my only option I am going to another doctor. I will go to every doctor in NC until someone help me

 

[tamithomas]

I never thought in a million years that I would be told I may need to have a hysterectomy at 22 ugh why is this even an option?! I hate that it took 2 years for one doctor to take my pelvic pain seriously and it be too late! I wish I could sue every doctor that didn't believe I was in pain! This is so unfair! I just hope I get a different opinion Friday

I'm so sorry hun. I actually would sue honestly if those are the results friday. That is so unfair. We're here for you, crossing my fingers a hysto is not needed

I am hoping it is not needed. If that is my only option I am going to another doctor. I will go to every doctor in NC until someone help me

Definitely, a second opinion in that regards is definitely needed considering it's a huge decision. After being ignored for so long and then being told that? I'd definitely seek advice elsewhere.

 

[VP1228]

That is my plan if he tells me that's my only option. I want to have just one baby of my own. I don't mind adopting or anything of that nature but I just want to experience pregnancy, birth, and parenting a child of my own first.