Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[Lazydaisys]

I just found out my friend is having a girl. I thought I would be fairly upset that she is having a girl but I am okay with her having a baby now since I know it may take a long time for me to conceive if I can. I can just buy all the baby stuff that I want for my own baby for her baby. At least I can imagine I am buying the stuff for my baby. It won't be the exact stuff I want since I may have a baby one day but it will make me feel better to buy baby things instead of watching other people. I know I sound like a baby maniac. I am trying to rely on God's will and just be patient and see what the fertility specialist says.

It's good that you are positive about yours friends baby. I have to force myself to be a good friend and ask questions about my friends pregnancy and be interested even though the jealousy seems to make me physically ache inside. I hope you do get pleasure from her baby. I get a lot a pleasure from enjoying my niece and nephew. I see it as a dry run for when I am eventually a mummy by whatever means that may be....( dont worry I won't steal one)

 

[VP1228]

I know the jealousy will come back once the baby gets here because I want to hold my own baby and I can't hold her baby all the time. So believe me this is just temporary happiness the sadness and jealousy will return. And I know she wasn't too happy when she found out it was a girl because she didn't call or text me after she found out which was in June and she told me today after I asked her.

 

[wildworld]

Why did my day have to be so craptacular? I mean...its Monday isn't that enough.
I feel like a dud. I'm the product of an unplanned pregnancy as were many of my half siblings on both sides. My older half sister gets pregnant just looking at her dh penis....and here I am month 11 starting cycle 12 and not a single bfp to show for it.
Did I get the brains and she get the babies!?!?!?

Ahh I LOVE your spoiler!!!

 

[Kalia101]

any ladies here have ectopic

Hi I had an ectopic in 2009 and had emergency op to remove my right tube we have only just started TTC again now, have you been TTC for long? X

 

[ashntony]

So am I a bad friend bc i won't loan my friend money to by a pregnancy test? First off she hates the guy that got her pregnant and she doesn't want kids! Secondly she j's a fertile mertle and keeps telling me how upset she is about it. I broke down and cried after she told me she ned's money for a test bc she will need to start prenatals.... yet my dj and i have been trying for a year now and i don't think i will ever get pregnant.

 

[Lazydaisys]

Tell your friend mertle to get lost. If shes so fertile and doesn't want to get pregnant she should be more careful. I'm annoyed for you. She needs to sort herself out. Bet you haven't asked her to fund your ovulation kits of ttc stuff!!!! Lol x

 

[VP1228]

So am I a bad friend bc i won't loan my friend money to by a pregnancy test? First off she hates the guy that got her pregnant and she doesn't want kids! Secondly she j's a fertile mertle and keeps telling me how upset she is about it. I broke down and cried after she told me she ned's money for a test bc she will need to start prenatals.... yet my dj and i have been trying for a year now and i don't think i will ever get pregnant.

If she didn't want to get pregnant she would have used precautions. I mean she sounds like my cousin about her new baby. And pregnancy tests are a $1 at dollar tree it's not like she has to get the expensive test. And if she knows she is already pregnant why do she need a test? She is fairly dumb to have sex with someone she hates, maybe she just hate him now because he knocked her up. Ugh now I am upset because we all are trying so hard and it isn't working but all these other people are getting pregnant with their clothes on it seems.

 

[FireLyte]

On FB this morning, my sister posted something nasty, that I was clearly the subject of (she posted directly following a convo on my wall). I sent her a message calling her out on it, and telling her to have the nerve to my face. Her response, "I don't know what you're referring to". Really?

 

[AlyCon]

If she can't afford a pregnancy test she has no business getting pregnant! What's next she'll be asking to borrow money for diapers and formula too? Some people really need to get it together

 

[tamithomas]

If she can't afford a pregnancy test she has no business getting pregnant! What's next she'll be asking to borrow money for diapers and formula too? Some people really need to get it together

That's what I was about to say. Saying being a fertile martyr is a curse to an infertile is like saying being rich is a curse to a third worlder You just don't do that.

 

[VP1228]

I wish I could get a ovary transplant! Ugh that would really make my TTC journey a little easier. I would be happy if my friend would give me her baby girl! Yes I know I sound all crazy and weird I just want a baby now not later. I don't understand how this bs can happen to me when I am only 22. I haven't even had any so called accidental pregnancies ugh annoyed now.

 

[ashntony]

You ladies make me feel so much better! I just wish i had a friend that understood and didn't rub her luck in my face

 

[tamithomas]

Well, it`s official. Embarking on the ttc train again after 6 months of a break. Well with the exception of one BD that was not even sure to be around O. Our water is officially fixed. So nervous, not sure if I`m ready to face disappointment after disappointment again. Usually I should be excited but yet I find myself so scared instead. I mean yay for being able to BD again but it`s the bfn`s and possibility of m/c creeping up again. I'd be devastated to go through that again. We'll see how it goes. Definitely going to do it but holy cow when growing up I never imagined TTC having to be so stressful.

 

[Jett55]

Me neither Tami I thought it was soo easy cuz that's the way school, movies, & fertile women make it out to be.boy did I get a reality check lol

Wishing you much luck & baby dust as you jump back onto the ttc train

 

[VP1228]

I have stopped thinking about if my right ovary ovulates. I give up you guys...I wish I could just win the lottery and pay for the treatments and get ivf already.

 

[mapletulip]

And another TWW starts.....sometimes I hate that my hopes are getting up so high, I already fear mega disappointment coming up....

Good luck Tami and sorry for all you girls' incensitive friends. I had my MIL lay an article on FOLID ACID AND THE BENEFITS ON PREGNANCY in my open suitcase when we visited them two weeks ago. My husband flipped out on her, but she claims it was 'just an interesting article'. She doesn't know we have been trying for months now but still....when your 31 year old DIL is not pregnant after 3 years of marriage, maybe you shouldn't go into her room and place an article on friggin' folid acid in her suitcase! For all she knew we could have had a MC recently!

(plus...folic acid....I am 31....any chimp knows about folic acid!)

Ah. Feel better now. Thanks for listening.

 

[salu_34]

SO true ! My one good friend is pregnant, and always texts me when she knows I'm in my fertile time, sends me links to articles and all that. I know she means the best, but it's disheartening when you are trying and it only took her like one month and she was good to go !
I've talked to my OH and he's said that it puts a lot of pressure when he knows I get a BFN and I get really down on myself. He says when it happens, it'll happen. I agree, but it's hard when your body is giving you signals making you think you're pregnant, and then BAM! AF comes along.

 

[VP1228]

My DF told me that for the last 21 months...and I was thinking exactly like him for awhile but after my lap I feel the time is gone and never coming back...I hope everyone gets BFPs soon so we can stop being so upset and be happy with our beautiful children

 

[ashntony]

4th of July was torture.... baby after baby and tons of pregnant women. :/ oh well, going to set myself up for a doc appointment soon to have my thyroid checked and make sure i am even fertile....

 

[Jett55]

Yah 4th of July is torture but on the brightside I hopefully get to just piss my mil off hehe I'm so mean lol

Anyways my vent I'm seriously freaking out I'm almost sure my sil is prego I'm prayin to God she's not cuz it'll seriously shatter me if she is cuz she lives at home isn't with the guy anymore & is in no position to be having a child. Please God give me a solid & not let her conceive before dh & I