Trying To Conceive #1+ Vent Thread

[Lans]

Ahhhhhhhhgggggg......... My insensitive friend is at it again!!! When I first told her I was ttc she told me that she doesn't want more kids... Then bam! She was pregnant again! Now...... I have been very down in the dumps lately about not falling preggers and hitting the 16 month of ttc so I hid out from everyone for a few weeks and I went and had a coffee with her today and told her why I havnt been around..... Then she changed the subject and told me she wants another baby soon!.... But last time I spoke to her she was getting her tubes tied!!?? I swear she does it to kick me while I'm down! I'm just waiting for the announcement now! Pretty sure I am going to flip out!!!

 

[kevinchoucsb]

It's not easy, let me tell ya. My wife and I had 3 MC's before we finally had our first last year....keep a positive spirit.

 

[Kiki1993]

So my old neighbours kid who is younger than me and her OH who is 25 just found out their pregnant. She is unemployed and her man works in a chippy and they live with her mum. So i go over to congratulate her and we chat because we use to be friends in high school and she knows i've always wanted kids and she says "Aw im so ready to be a mummy, i mean i know you want kids but you should wait because you guys are too young" I then point out we are both older than her, have jobs, our own place (fair enough not for long but have experienced living together just us and paying bills), are engaged and been together almost 4 years (her and her man have been together 4 months) and we both have our licence and a car etc. And she was like "yeah but i am actually pregnant and having a baby and my man is much older so combined we are older" SERIOUSLY? She is having a baby!?!

 

[MrsTurner2012]

Every one and I mean EVERYONE around me is pregnant & if looks could kill there would be a lot of ladies dropping to the ground near me!

I'm not telling anyone this time. We tried for 3 months and it drove me insane!! I became a test addict!!
We have had a two month rest due to issues & new jobs but we are now ready to try again!

So sick to the back teeth of seeing everyone I know getting what I want :0(

Fingers crossed for everyone & baby dust!

 

[Hpe_1]

Hello all. Well been trying for over year now and went to Dr. yesterday to start all the tests to find out whats going on. VENT: 3 of my friends are all pregnant after only trying a month or two and I have to keep hearing how to just let it happen and all that stuff. I know they mean well and they prob just don't know what to say. But when ask every other week about if we are prego yet and I tell them still not pregnant it gets hard hearing the same stuff when its the last thing i want to hear( in the last year we have tried it all, and for about 2 months before we really focused on trying we were not preventing but not actively trying) Oh well. I go to the Dr on the 19th for more blood work to see if im even ovulating seeing that I have only had one positive test in the last year and i have started spotting 5 days after my 'ovulation' date. Who knows just really needed to vent today.

 

[MamaKris]

Why do men act like its no big deal?? My DH's motto is "if god wants it to happen, it will happen" Well I'm sorry but I like being in control of my life and if I want a baby now..well damn it I should be able to have one! It's so frustrating getting him to BD at the right time. He always wants to do it when theres absolutely no chance of getting pg! And his brother's gf, who he has only been with for like 3 months just turned up 5 weeks pregnant. All they ever talk about is "i hope its a boy, i want it to be a boy..don't say its a girl..its a boy" I would be happy to have a girl. Any baby is a blessing. They don't even take care of their kids!! This is his 3rd baby by a 3rd woman, and her 3rd baby by a 3rd man..it makes me sick. The first thing she said when she got pg was "oh they cut my food stamps last month..now i can call them and tell them i'm pg and they will increase them!" Ugh..

 

[ashntony]

Why do men act like its no big deal?? My DH's motto is "if god wants it to happen, it will happen" Well I'm sorry but I like being in control of my life and if I want a baby now..well damn it I should be able to have one! It's so frustrating getting him to BD at the right time. He always wants to do it when theres absolutely no chance of getting pg! And his brother's gf, who he has only been with for like 3 months just turned up 5 weeks pregnant. All they ever talk about is "i hope its a boy, i want it to be a boy..don't say its a girl..its a boy" I would be happy to have a girl. Any baby is a blessing. They don't even take care of their kids!! This is his 3rd baby by a 3rd woman, and her 3rd baby by a 3rd man..it makes me sick. The first thing she said when she got pg was "oh they cut my food stamps last month..now i can call them and tell them i'm pg and they will increase them!" Ugh..

I know people exactly like this! She only kept having babies to get food stamps every month! It makes me so sad because she has had 12 and 8 have been removed by the cps.... I only want one! And all of my stuff is together!

 

[Vinesha]

It's so annoying when anyone point questions against me asking indirectly as if the problem is only with me..why always the ladies are cornered ..my dh is not so concerned about kids he says good will give us what we need at the correct time yes I knew but i am not able to wait so long ...every one around me are pregnant who married after me my younger sister I m happy fr them but at t same time y it's not happening for me ...when ever I see a pregnant women i feel so guilty as if I hv done something wrong or am I cursed ...It's frustrating to bd on the fertile time when we don't we feel like ...baby making is different and sex is different ...it's easy for many to get pregnant in the very first month of the marriage may be i was late i should have done t same

 

[mamajoker]

a vent thread is exactly what i feel i need. me and DH have been ttc for two years! we bought some conceive plus and pre-seed offline last night tho so were going to try that till the wheels fall off wish me luck. baby dusties to yu alll

 

[tam1979]

ive got constant nausea but it might be my antibiotic....still got a BFN at 8dpo

 

[tam1979]

i used preseed on the 12....i can say in all my 12 months of trying i hve NEVER felt this close and im just waiting to do a test on the last day of november.....2ww is killing me

 

[tam1979]

vinesha, been married 10 years now and we only started to try a year ago.....my bro-in-laws got married in beteween ...and guess what? They both pregnant before me. imagine how i feel. my inlaws will not like it...

 

[BrollyDolly]

Grrrrrr mini rant!!!! Sat in the pub (not drinking obv and neither is the OH) but we're here with his friends and along comes 1 pregnant wife and 2 other men talking about their pregnant partners!!! I just wanna scream "stop talking about your babies!!!!" I know that's awful as if and when I get pregnant I'll be the same but I just feel so frustrated/angry/upset/useless/inferior and it sucks!!!!! Rant over

 

[babybemine]

So tired of hearing about all the people who are getting pregnant without even trying. They eat crap food and and are drunk untill they find out they are pregnant. I am having to POAS and eat healthy and not drink alcohol and try to BD at the exact right moment.

I am tired of all the insensitive people asking about my pregnancy status and my not being able to say anythng because I don't want them to know we are trying.

I am tired of feeling twinges of jealousy over hearing that people are pregnant or posting their baby pictures on social media.

I OPK and hope that I am BDing at the right time.

I do 2ww and symptom spot like it is my job.

I get myself worked up that I will get a BFP and then the nasty AF occurs.

I am annoyed that I get annoyed.

 

[furry_bandico]

I'm sick and tired of having symptoms and nothing coming of it. I'm not even tracking!!

Last night was awful! All I wanted to do was puke and sleep. But then I felt fine about 3 hours later. WTF?

And what is with this pre AF acne? I never get acne before AF arrives.

My head hurts, I'm tired all the time, and DH thinks I'm trying to get out of doing stuff around the house by sleeping. I'm not really moodie like I normally am before af but DH seems to be hitting every nerve I have this past few days.

We have stopped ttc and have gone the ntnp rout so I cant tell him what I really think is going on because for 2 + years I have been saying "well I might be pregnant" and I never am. So DH now just assumes that I'm making my self crazy. He is making me crazy.

I tell him that for me the best option is to just think I wont become pregnant and just not worry about it any more but he tells me not to think like that and will try something new to help me get prego and then turns around later in my cycle and tells me he "highly doubts" I'm prego and tells me to quit worrying about every little thing. GRRRRR!!!

Really though, this cycle has been giving me some abnormal symptoms that make me go hmmmm... so tomorrow, before I go to work I will get a cheap hpt and see what it says. If I'm not then so be it. If I am... IN HIS FACE!

 

[babynme12]

Hi how r u? I am also having a hard time

 

[babynme12]

Well I think my biggest stress is with ttc is my mother in law.... She is constantly telling my husband all sorts of negative things about me. Of course he will say something about it to me. Well I put a status up about how I make my own decision s and if anyone had a problem with it to come to me. Well shes telling us we do not need a baby and how we need to hold off... she is constantly bringing in negativity into something that is supposed to be joyful... most of my stress comes from her... how can i solve this issue?

If it were up to me I would just tell her to shut up, because this is between the you and your husband, no one should be in the middle of it at all.

 

[babynme12]

Hi ladies my name is Hannah and I am having trouble conceiving due to my hypothyroid problems and I was hoping that I could find some women in here that might or have been through something like this and can tell me what I should do.

 

[babynme12]

I have been to the doc but also I get is take the meds and the levels will go down, but just after so long of taking it and frankly I am just tired I don't know what to do. this will my first time ttc and I really need to give my husband a baby

 

[furry_bandico]

Hi ladies my name is Hannah and I am having trouble conceiving due to my hypothyroid problems and I was hoping that I could find some women in here that might or have been through something like this and can tell me what I should do.

I have hypothyroid issues as well. i have been dealing with this for way to long, that and coupled with male issues, it has been double hard.

the only fertility specialist any where near me costs an arm and a leg and my measly insurance wont cover any cosmetic or fertility treatments hahaha!!!

when I did go see him we got dh checked out and due to a child hood accident he is only working with one testicle and that one due to said accident is scared up so do get any thing good they would have to manually go in and get the swimmers. (total cost for first treatment $23,000.00 )

for me to go through anything i would have to see a general Dr. and my insurance is not wanting to cover any treatments i might need for my hypothyroid due to it being a "pre existing condition" WTF?! so I'm having to fight them right now about that.

What is even the point of having health care if I cant even use it? why the fudge am I paying for this carp? can I move to Canada? I love Hockey! Comon Eh?