Trying To Conceive #1+ Vent Thread

[kerri28]

Grrrrr! Just found out someone who used to be a friend is 12 weeks preg. This is after leaving her husband (who is a close friend) and two amazing children. She drinks a lot and her new boyfriend can't even look after her current children when she can be bothered to have them with her. Why is life so unfair?




Not long after deserting her wonderful kids we suffered a m/c and she had the audacity to contact me to offer a shoulder.... Why would I want to talk to her when she clearly doesn't even want the kids she has? And now to find shes having another! I feel sorry for the child and really angry at myself for being bothered when she isn't part of my life anymore.

Phew..... That felt good. Feel better now I've had that rant!

I can relate! Im dealing with the exact same situation with a family member and its got me so distraught! Added on bonus is over a year ago she got pregnant by her bf and tried convincing her husband who had a vesectomy it was his. Now it happened again and her oh finally left! We just have to remember it is not our situation it is theres. Focus positively on you good luck!

 

[MsOverThinker]

Hello, this is my first time posting on this forum, although I have been reading so many threads for the past 4 months. Btw, this is a pretty informative and supportive site I have to say!!

Ever since my husband and I got married, we have always wanted a child someday, and this year, we decided to give it a shot. I am in my mid 20s and thought that getting pregnant should be a breeze (I've heard so many ladies that got pregnant even when they werent even trying!!), but how naive was I?! We tried for four months and NOTHING! Not even one pregnancy symptom! I know that to some of you ladies, 4 months is nothing...knowing that people have been trying for at least 6 months to two years...but gosh, i get so disappointed every time my AF shows up! It's like a slap in the face! My husband has been very postitive and supportive, but "we'll try again next month" or "we dont know yet, maybe AF wont come this month" is really not what I wanted to hear. It really frustrates me and it's hard for me to stay positive! Each month passes and I get more and more concerned. I am afraid that it will never happen to us! Props to those of you that can still stay positive when TTC!!! How do you gals do that???

 

[MummyDonz]

Hello, this is my first time posting on this forum, although I have been reading so many threads for the past 4 months. Btw, this is a pretty informative and supportive site I have to say!!

Ever since my husband and I got married, we have always wanted a child someday, and this year, we decided to give it a shot. I am in my mid 20s and thought that getting pregnant should be a breeze (I've heard so many ladies that got pregnant even when they werent even trying!!), but how naive was I?! We tried for four months and NOTHING! Not even one pregnancy symptom! I know that to some of you ladies, 4 months is nothing...knowing that people have been trying for at least 6 months to two years...but gosh, i get so disappointed every time my AF shows up! It's like a slap in the face! My husband has been very postitive and supportive, but "we'll try again next month" or "we dont know yet, maybe AF wont come this month" is really not what I wanted to hear. It really frustrates me and it's hard for me to stay positive! Each month passes and I get more and more concerned. I am afraid that it will never happen to us! Props to those of you that can still stay positive when TTC!!! How do you gals do that???

It's very hard to stay positive some days and like you, I haven't been trying for as long as most of the ladies on here.

Right now I'd just be happy getting AF! I've been off birth control for 5 months and still no AF! This is very frustrating as I feel it's not going to happen if I'm not even 'working' properly!

 

[smichelle]

Hello, this is my first time posting on this forum, although I have been reading so many threads for the past 4 months. Btw, this is a pretty informative and supportive site I have to say!!

Ever since my husband and I got married, we have always wanted a child someday, and this year, we decided to give it a shot. I am in my mid 20s and thought that getting pregnant should be a breeze (I've heard so many ladies that got pregnant even when they werent even trying!!), but how naive was I?! We tried for four months and NOTHING! Not even one pregnancy symptom! I know that to some of you ladies, 4 months is nothing...knowing that people have been trying for at least 6 months to two years...but gosh, i get so disappointed every time my AF shows up! It's like a slap in the face! My husband has been very postitive and supportive, but "we'll try again next month" or "we dont know yet, maybe AF wont come this month" is really not what I wanted to hear. It really frustrates me and it's hard for me to stay positive! Each month passes and I get more and more concerned. I am afraid that it will never happen to us! Props to those of you that can still stay positive when TTC!!! How do you gals do that???

It's very hard to stay positive some days and like you, I haven't been trying for as long as most of the ladies on here.

Right now I'd just be happy getting AF! I've been off birth control for 5 months and still no AF! This is very frustrating as I feel it's not going to happen if I'm not even 'working' properly!

I hope you never have to wait as long as us but I find it still stings the same when someone else conceives so easily no matter where you are, at a certain point it just starts to hurt and it really hurts everytime you find out. I'm a pharmacist so in addition to my friends I have the general public announcing it to me every day. A year and a half in it hurts just as bad as 2 months in. Maybe other people will disagree. The only thing that has made me feel better is finally being referred for help. I don't know if you're like me but having a plan makes me feel better. In Canada we're allowed to be referred for free help after 1 year, even if you're somewhere else that should be your goal. One year unassisted without conception is the medical definition of infertility and you should find some help. I pray you never get that far. Positive thoughts your way!

 

[kerri28]

Need to vent..this is crazy..I just wanna poas right now, its all i can think about. I wanna pee in a cup and dip a handful of hpts and opks!

Anyone else feeling this insane??

 

[trying4thewin]

Kerri28 .....First of all, I wish you all the best of luck....... secondly, you're not alone..... many times I have felt this way too.

I have been an active reader for more than a year...... ttc for 23 months.....I finally decided it's time to vent...... maybe it will cure some of my stress or, in the least, help this two week wait I'm currently in go by faster and offer some support and understanding to others.

Don't give up hope, order a bushel of cheap internet opks and pts and dip away it might be too early. However, you might release the stress of wanting to test. My only advice to that is if they are negative don't get discouraged as long as AF hasn't come for her brief and non welcomed visit!

God bless you with a bfp and keep you well!!!!

 

[kerri28]

Kerri28 .....First of all, I wish you all the best of luck....... secondly, you're not alone..... many times I have felt this way too.

I have been an active reader for more than a year...... ttc for 23 months.....I finally decided it's time to vent...... maybe it will cure some of my stress or, in the least, help this two week wait I'm currently in go by faster and offer some support and understanding to others.

Don't give up hope, order a bushel of cheap internet opks and pts and dip away it might be too early. However, you might release the stress of wanting to test. My only advice to that is if they are negative don't get discouraged as long as AF hasn't come for her brief and non welcomed visit!

God bless you with a bfp and keep you well!!!!

I have a big batch of tests and ill admit I dipped lol! Way to early obviously but it did relieve some stress oddly enough! My ticker has jumped the gun, im only 6dpo and im worried because my bbs are already hurting bad. They say af symptoms and preg symptoms are the same but i highly doubt any preg symptoms would be starting now. Its kinda bumming me out.

Thanks for the support and goodluck on your journey!

 

[trying4thewin]

Kerri one thing I've come to believe is that everyone and even every pregnancy for the same person is different. Don't feel bummed some women do have soreness in their breasts as early as 6 dpo ..... It is quite frustrating that AF and pregnancy symptoms are so similar!!!!! Couldn't we just pee blue at the moment of implantation!!!! I'm currently at 9 dpo and down to one pt ...... trying to hold off testing until current shipment of opks and pts come in....... glad you relieved some of that stress.....in a few more days you'll get that bfp ......

 

[Evermore]

New to this forum...long story short: 26 yo been ttc with my DH for 1 year. Had a miscarriage at 6 weeks along in October. No luck TTC or even ovulating after the MC. AF was coming about every 50-60 days. Started seeing a RE in February. Got diagnosed with PCOS...started metformin. Also got put on Femara. Did 5 days of that and then had an ultrasound. Grew 2 follicles, did Ovidrel to release them and then the "perfectly time" BD. Today was the end of our TWW and a BFN!!!!!! My DH tires to be very positive and is a wonderful husband, but lately I have felt very very alone. He just doesn't get what emotions I go through day in and day out.
During the TWW I scrutinized every little change in my body and routine. Did I go to the bathroom more than usual, are my breast sore, do they feel larger, am I nauseous or just anxious? I feel obsessed over every detail. I wasn't very hopeful this am while I waited the 3 long minutes for 1 pink line. All my girlfriends have children or are pregnant. One with PCOS is due in May. My sister just had a baby in February. My mother, sister, and close friends know we are struggling with this, and yet I feel like I am battling all these emotions on my own. I am still hopeful, but if one more person says, "don't worry" or "you're young" or "it'll happen" I'm going to go insane. Anyone else feel alone in a sea of people that love you?

YES! I can relate to you. I am not very good at keeping feelings to myself, so when I try to explain what I'm going through to a family member, close friend, or even my husband, they always say something quick like "it'll happen"--which feels very dismissive to me, even if they mean well. I almost wish I was one of those people who liked to bottle things up and keep to myself, but sharing always makes me feel better, just wish I had someone who was willing to listen!

Hope your TTC journey is over soon and ends in a BFP for you--good luck!

 

[Tallmom2b]

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[buttercup78]

I feel like everyone around me is pregnant. It seems to go in waves at work. When DH and I got married 2 years ago everyone kept saying "when are you going to have kids?" Then it moved onto "you'll be next!" Well, it's been 9 months of trying and I have yet to be next. Now I have missed two periods and am terrified that something horrible is wrong.
DH and I work for the same company and there were litery three babies born in his department in one month. In my department it was 6 babies in a year.
I know the more I worry about it, the harder things will be but it gets to me sometimes. I want to talk to my sisters about it or my girlfriends but I feel like they either had no difficulty and can't relate or have gotten pregnant and forgotten how they struggled. DH has been wonderful I just wish it would happen.
I think the hormone build up of being on CD61 is getting to me and making me melancholy. I just wish my cycle would start so we could try again.
Thanks for listening to me vent.

 

[Tinker1983]

I feel like everyone around me is pregnant. It seems to go in waves at work. When DH and I got married 2 years ago everyone kept saying "when are you going to have kids?" Then it moved onto "you'll be next!" Well, it's been 9 months of trying and I have yet to be next. Now I have missed two periods and am terrified that something horrible is wrong.
DH and I work for the same company and there were litery three babies born in his department in one month. In my department it was 6 babies in a year.
I know the more I worry about it, the harder things will be but it gets to me sometimes. I want to talk to my sisters about it or my girlfriends but I feel like they either had no difficulty and can't relate or have gotten pregnant and forgotten how they struggled. DH has been wonderful I just wish it would happen.
I think the hormone build up of being on CD61 is getting to me and making me melancholy. I just wish my cycle would start so we could try again.
Thanks for listening to me vent.

Omg I know how you feel! Although I haven't been waiting 9 months its only been 6months for my husband and I. But it seems like EVERYWHERE I look there is someone pregnant or some girl buying a test.

 

[buttercup78]

Thanks! I feel a bit better since my big vent. I think all these build up hormones are getting to me. It's like PMS that won't quit. I've even tried jumping up and down trying to get my period to start. I'm so sick of this!

 

[petuts]

My sister was 4 months pregnant when my husband and I started TTC. Now she's pregnant again on her second, and we're STILL TTC! It totally broke my heart, because I felt it was so unfair, and partly because I can't be totally happy for her, which I know I would be if I wasn't so frustrated about my own situation. :'(

 

[Tinker1983]

My sister was 4 months pregnant when my husband and I started TTC. Now she's pregnant again on her second, and we're STILL TTC! It totally broke my heart, because I felt it was so unfair, and partly because I can't be totally happy for her, which I know I would be if I wasn't so frustrated about my own situation. :'(

I know that feeling as well, it's what I'm going through with one of my friends. She found out she was pregnant (actually she took all 3 of her pg tests at my house) and she did nothing but cry about how she didn't want to be pregnant, and how she wasn't ready for a baby and all this stuff and I find myself feeling like a horrible person for feeling jealous and not being at all happy for her and the bf but, all I can think is WHY!?!?! WHY do I have to be the one who can't be pregnant? Why do I have to have PCOS and problems having a period? It just seems very unfair that two people who didn't even want a baby get a baby and here my hubby and I sit not getting one at all! it just makes me want to cry and throw a great big tantrum!

I just hope we can all get pregnant and have all the babies we want. Reading on here has really helped me to feel like I'm not all alone in my want for a baby.

 

[grrrr2]

Ok people I am sorry if this is long and more so , confusing . Last year I was told I had blocked tubes and that my partner had lazy sperm and the only way I could get pregnant was via IVF ! I waited a year then I decided to have an operation to look more into my tubes , to be sure or to fix them . Prior to this op I had some dye to check my tubes and nothing had passed through them hence why they told me they were either gone or blocked . Anyway , upon waking from my op the dr came and told me the amazing news that there was absolutely nothing wrong with my tubes and that an infection of PID 10 years previous had indeed not effected my tubes . So , that meant it was all down to my partner now and still I was told IVF would only be possible because of his sperm . However one month later , after over a year and a half of unprotected sex I fell pregnant . It was what I called my baby miracle . Once again bad news set in after a 9 week scan as here was nothing in the sac . They order me for an emergency termination the very following day . I took it all in my stride and thanked god that it wasn't ectopic and that indeed I was very calm in the basis of many things , ie falling pregnant in the first place . But of course I was devastated as here was no sign , no bleeding , nothing . So now it has been over a month , no period but I have tiredness like you wouldn't believe . I have asked my dr if it is possible if I am pregnant again as I have been having unprotected sex and he told me to come in for a blood test - it was negative ! However after my termination I had post op bleeding from the wound and then about five days later what I assumed was a period , right on the date of what my expected period would have been ! I assumed it was as it looked like that as the post op bleeding was like that of a cut kind of bleeding . Now I checked the Calender and if I was to be pregnant again , a blood test would not have actually been after right as I am sure for my reading that you can't get a positive until implantation ? I have frequent urination , uncontrolled tiredness and very tearful and do no want to be around many people . I do not know if this an extreme case of PMT and my bodies need to have a period of if Im pregnant again ? Has anyone got any advice , tips , similar experience ? I feel crazy because I feel very hormonal . Thank you in advance .

 

[cozbean]

I don't know that I've ever been in the same boat, but I can give you sympathies! Here have some love. XXX. I wish I could help more, but all I can help by saying is that my OWN body is driving me insane. I'm on Topamax and other mood stabilizers and they make my BC somewhat ineffective. As ineffective and making me ovulate every month. And every time my SO and I have unprotected sex, I get so excited from all the symptoms I get and nothing ever happens. BUT NOW, I'm having super real symptoms (like yours), and it's just super friggen crazy. So I can't relate, but I do send you all the love, sympathy, and prayers I can. Hope all turns out well!

 

[jenwantsababy]

i haven't eaten any tuna in 6 years.


just saying.

 

[UtahUtesGal]

I'm 23 and am about to start TTC again. I got pregnant for the first time ever in March with twins. Sadly one was entopic that caused me to lose my left tube entirely and the one that uterine I miscarried due to all complications that the entopic cause since we didn't know it there were two until after I ended up in the hospital for emergency surgery .

Because I lost my left tube entirely the dr said it would take twice as long to get pregnant and I'll have to be monitored with early ultrasounds even though the bad tube is 100% gone and I have never had an entopic in my right tube just to be on the safe side.

Well I told my SO that we should just have the bd unprotected and see what happens. Well last night he is talking to me on the phone and was telling me how he was catching up with an old friend and was telling them about our loss and that how we did so great through it and we are stronger than ever. Then he proceeds to tell me that he told her how he hasn't been with someone who hasn't had kids in a long time, and how it's nice that we get to enjoy the alone time with out a baby. Now that makes me think he wont just let what happens happens and it frustrates me . I love him and want nothing more to start a family with him, and he's told me he wants a family with me. But now it seems like he's having doubts . Maybe it's because he's still sad over losing the babies. But I still wish he would let what happens happen

 

[BabyPrayers21]

Quick back story.....my husband and I just got the green light three months ago. In the time that we've been trying my sister had baby number 2 and it seems all my friends are pregnant. I know we just started but its like come on already. It makes me feel better to know that I'm not the only one that wants to stamp my feet and scream every time someone else gets pregnant or has a baby. Thank you so much for sharing your feelings. It really helps to know Im not alone.