Thank you! D and I have ways wanted to adopt. I remember a conversation we had when we were 15 and we were both saying that we'd love to adopt one day, even if we had biological children. There's two main reasons I feel we need everyone in the family on board with the decision to adopt though - the first is because if we also had biological children it wouldn't be fair if an adopted child was then treated differently, or worse rejected, by family members in favour of any biological children. The second is really more to do with social services. I'm almost certain social services would not approve us to adopt if one of our parents were against it and unable to accept that child, unless we no longer have contact with them at all. As part of the assessment that social services do they speak to family members and anyone who would be in regular contact with the child so if his mother is so against adoption it could actually mean we might not be allowed to adopt! It's certainly something we'd need to speak to social services about. D has said he'd more than happily cut his mother out of his life - our lives - but I don't think he should have to do that at all! My parents and D's Dad are supportive of adoption which is great! I worry if D cuts his mother out of our lives then we'd be cut out of a lot of things that involve the family - nieces and nephew's birthdays, Christmas etc when the entire family usually get together. I don't want D to have to lose other members of his family too, our nieces and nephews wouldn't understand why they can see Gramma but our children can't, and I'dhate to lose our nieces and nephews. You know what I find odd though is why D's mother is so concerned about genetics! She has said multiple times that an adopted child wouldn't be D's child. Of course they would, but she said genetically they wouldn't be. But why should that even matter?? Her comments are always so hurtful. She has multiple grandchildren anyway, as D is one of 8 children! Yet she keeps saying it's "important" we give her grandchildren "as soon as possible" ... I honestly do not understand what goes through her head sometimes!