TTC #1 at 33 on cd2 of cycle 4 - need a buddy!!!

[GreenOrchid]

My OH and I are both 33 years old and are trying for our first. I'm on cd2 of my 4th cycle. Before this we were NTNP for several months. I would love a buddy who is in a similar situation so we can hopefully be bump buddies soon!!

The cycle that just ended was the first one where I took the arrival of really hard, so I need to share some positive vibes and get the spirits back up!

 

[slb80]

Hi, I will be your buddie, I am 30, df is 27 and we are ttc our 1st, I am cd 3 of my 6th cycle, I have been using opk, started temping a few months back and used preseed for the first time last month. I have found the last couple of cycles very upsetting when af arrived but picked myself up and ready to try again now x

 

[mooncake76]

I'm 33 and TTC. Fancy another buddy? Been off the pill for a year now and actively trying since the summer. AF turned up again last night and feeling rather glum today. DH still upbeat. 2 best friends and sister in law all pregnant, didn't realise how obsessive this could become!

 

[GreenOrchid]

Hi slb80 and mooncake

slb80, we've run across each other in a few different threads already since our situations are similar. I'm glad you picked yourself up - I have too. I guess that's the only thing we can do because I never want to give up. I've been temping for a couple of cycles but been a little lazy about it. This month I'm doing it religiously and I hope it helps! I was using OPK but I'm not going to this month because they're too expensive! My cycle is very regular so I know my ovulation within a day looking at my chart. I'm going out today to buy some preseed and I hope that helps this month.

Mooncake, I'm glad your DH is still upbeat. I can tell that mine is trying to be upbeat but I think that inside he's getting concerned and disappointed when AF showed up. I'm fortunate that nobody close to me is preggers right now but it seems like we're the last ones still trying and it happened really quickly for everyone else.

Last night I was browsing infertility books on amazon.com and came across one called "The Making Babies Program". It integrates western and chinese medicine. I'm going to the library right now to check it out. I will probably end up trying some supplements and changing my diet a bit, which is what I need to to anyways! I can't stop eating junk food. I know I need to, and you think that trying to have a baby would be good enough motivation, but so far I keep shoving junk in my mouth

 

[GreenOrchid]

I'm 33 and TTC. Fancy another buddy? Been off the pill for a year now and actively trying since the summer. AF turned up again last night and feeling rather glum today. DH still upbeat. 2 best friends and sister in law all pregnant, didn't realise how obsessive this could become!

Btw, I felt awful on Tuesday when AF showed up, but feeling much better today since I'm a couple of days into it and the hormones are starting to clear out. I'm sure you'll start to feel more optimistic in a few days

 

[mooncake76]

Thank you. Today I made two lists of things that I'm going to do next month in the TTC game and also reasons that it is OK not to be pregnant this month (e.g. it gives me more time to get baby ready, I can have a cocktail on my birthday(!) etc). I think I'm going to give preseed a go and be a bit more on the ball with taking my temp - I'm also pretty lazy with it! I've been doing yoga for two years now and I'm going to ask my yoga teacher for her take on things, she is pretty wise.

I think it doesn't help that my PMT symptoms this month have been quite extreme and I optimistically mistook my aching bbs as a sure sign that this was the month. Also, AF makes me crabby and tearful at the best of times, poor dh. I'm sure you're right, in a few days I'll feel loads better. My mum keeps telling me to just forget all about it and it will happen. I know she's right, but I can't stop thinking about it! Especially in the 2ww.
Next cycle is another fresh start right?

 

[slb80]

Mooncake, I am the same in the 2ww can't think of anything else. I cant help but ss but try my hardest not to, on my 4th cycle I was convinced I was going to get my bfp so when af arrived i was devastated. This last cycle I knew I wouldn't and I think I will be like that every cycle now until I do get that bfp.

Green orchid I just use IC opk just because my cycles seem to have shifted the last few months, I have found charting very helpfull too, I have found I am ov earlier that i expected, I have never missed the window but it is good to see all is working. With the ic opk i take 3 a day 10am 2pm and 8pm and The last 2 cycles had I just tested in the eve I would have missed the surge. I used preseed last month and we liked it, hopefully it will help us get that bfp this month.

I am starting to feel like I am watching people come and go from the ttc forum now and that is hard, I did have a chat with a close friend last night though, the first person I have told we are ttc and she told me it took her and her hubby 9months to get pg and not to loose hope.

The road of ttc is a bumpy one but it will all be worth it in the end x

 

[slb80]

Mooncake, just noticed your in Manchester also, where abouts?

 

[pink mum]

hi every1 today is my cd 2 n hv been trying for the last 7 months,i m also thinking of preseed,but unale to uy,coz its not available here in sweden i thk

 

[pink mum]

m 27 n husband is 28,m waiting desperately to get pregnant

 

[slb80]

Hello pinkmum, could you buy it online?

 

[pink mum]

no slb80 i cannot buy it online,it is not possible

 

[GreenOrchid]

Thank you. Today I made two lists of things that I'm going to do next month in the TTC game and also reasons that it is OK not to be pregnant this month (e.g. it gives me more time to get baby ready, I can have a cocktail on my birthday(!) etc). I think I'm going to give preseed a go and be a bit more on the ball with taking my temp - I'm also pretty lazy with it! I've been doing yoga for two years now and I'm going to ask my yoga teacher for her take on things, she is pretty wise.

I think it doesn't help that my PMT symptoms this month have been quite extreme and I optimistically mistook my aching bbs as a sure sign that this was the month. Also, AF makes me crabby and tearful at the best of times, poor dh. I'm sure you're right, in a few days I'll feel loads better. My mum keeps telling me to just forget all about it and it will happen. I know she's right, but I can't stop thinking about it! Especially in the 2ww.
Next cycle is another fresh start right?

Haha I did the same thing last month with my bbs - they were much more sore than usual and my temp jumped 12dpo so I was sure I was pregnant. The BFN was quite a shock. I'm going to do my best not to symptom spot from now on and just wait for AF. My mom and grandma are telling me the same thing but its so hard to follow their advice

Today I went out and got a bunch of healthy foods and supplements and preseed and am looking forward to a fresh month

 

[GreenOrchid]

hi every1 today is my cd 2 n hv been trying for the last 7 months,i m also thinking of preseed,but unale to uy,coz its not available here in sweden i thk

Hello pinkmum Sorry you can't buy preseed there. Can you take evening primrose oil or guaifenesin cough syrup to help with cervical mucus? I've also heard that grapefruit juice helps.

 

[GreenOrchid]

Mooncake, I am the same in the 2ww can't think of anything else. I cant help but ss but try my hardest not to, on my 4th cycle I was convinced I was going to get my bfp so when af arrived i was devastated. This last cycle I knew I wouldn't and I think I will be like that every cycle now until I do get that bfp.

Green orchid I just use IC opk just because my cycles seem to have shifted the last few months, I have found charting very helpfull too, I have found I am ov earlier that i expected, I have never missed the window but it is good to see all is working. With the ic opk i take 3 a day 10am 2pm and 8pm and The last 2 cycles had I just tested in the eve I would have missed the surge. I used preseed last month and we liked it, hopefully it will help us get that bfp this month.

I am starting to feel like I am watching people come and go from the ttc forum now and that is hard, I did have a chat with a close friend last night though, the first person I have told we are ttc and she told me it took her and her hubby 9months to get pg and not to loose hope.

The road of ttc is a bumpy one but it will all be worth it in the end x

It's nice to hear of people taking 9 months and everything working out fine in the end. I know my aunt took 2 yrs for her first, and my cousin took a year to get her second, so as long as everything medical checks out okay, it is only a matter of time and patience.

 

[pink mum]

thanx green orchid.hope v get our ones soon,i cant wait nymore,

 

[pink mum]

ill go back to my home country with in a month n will go to the doctor,coz here in sweden taking an appointment is an issue.huhhh

 

[pink mum]

hey ladies have u heard about acupuncture?

 

[mooncake76]

Sbl 80, I'm in Heaton Norris, so technically Stockport, but always think I'm living in Manchester. How about you?

Green Orchid, not symptom spotting is a really good plan. As it is the run up to Christmas in my next 2ww maybe I won't notice as much, but knowing my worrying tendencies, I doubt it! I think the period tracker app on my iphone doesn't help, but can't imagine getting rid of it. I could get dh to reset the password!

I got married last month so I'm hoping that the build up and busy time running up to it has had an impact on things but who knows, probably clutching at straws. I'm also spotting a day or two before my periods - trawling the internet brings up everything from normal to low progesterone. Life was probably a lot simpler before google!

 

[mooncake76]

pink mum - my best friend miscarried in March and was concerned that she wasn't getting pregnant again. She has had acupuncture with a fertility specialist and the next month (last month) she got a BFP. But it has cost her a lot of money! She said it made her feel like she was doing something really pro active and that it relaxed her a lot. She also said the woman was very calming and reassuring. I would probably consider it if I didn't hate needles!