TTC #1 Hopeful and Obsessed! lol

[greenarcher]

Yay! So glad you were able to get in Belle!

Star - excellent! So glad you're getting OH checked out

AFM, no more spotting beyond that tiniest amount of tan cm, but FRER this morning was bfn. According to countdown, 10% of women still have negatives at 14 dpo. This is ridiculous. Why can't I just bleed already?

 

[StarGazerRose]

Archer,
That's how I was for the past couple of days. I mean I was so frustrated that i couldn't just have it already. I was late anyways, so why couldn't it just come?
Although I called it early, as I had a clean liner, but when I peed it was there... and when I wiped it was a weird color, so I gave it a few hours and then tada! -- Minus the aching legs and back, then she technically was here the day before.

 

[greenarcher]

Okay, this almost made me cry it's so cute:

https://imgur.com/uGsnTsNh

 

[StarGazerRose]

That's cute!
I wish I was closer to my brother ... but honestly would have no clue how it would actually be. We're 6 years apart, and have hardly anything to talk about.

 

[OhHappyZ]

Aww that is adorbs. I'm like that whenever I see my oldest brother. Probably because he lives so far away and I rarely get to see him. So when I do, I turn into a little girl again and run at him just like that haha

 

[BelleNuit]

That's really cute, breaks my heart!

 

[greenarcher]

More spotting, and it's fresher today. Red instead of brown. But then it stopped again. WTF body. I really want some wine tonight. Make up your f*king mind (..... that makes zero sense)

I'm 99% sure this isn't my cycle.... you know what? I'm drinking. If the embryo hasn't implanted, then we're not sharing a bloodstream.

 

[BelleNuit]

I think you are probably safe to drink Green! Enjoy your night girl!

I'm anxious about the HSG, but I'm glad they squeezed me in early. They originally tried to book me for CD 11 but moved it to CD 6 when I said I ovulate on CD 12. So thankful they did that. Well at least I can drink over Thanksgiving. I guess I will try to be thankful and see the positive in that. Pretty bummed out. DH and I have pretty much decided we don't want to pursue invasive treatment until the 2 year mark (assuming tubes are clear). I've been reading and for unexplained clomid doesn't offer any better chances than expectant management

 

[sil]

With all the news of negative hpt I thought I'd pop in with a bit of positive. I finally got a positive opk this morning at cd20. This is much much earlier than average for me so I guess the vitex helped! I took two different brands and top was positive and bottom was about 95 percent of the way there. I'm guessing they'll both be positive by afternoon as these were with fmu. I'll post pic in a bit when I get a second.

I'm sorry to the ladies with af. It's always heartbreaking when the witch arrives. Drink some wine and take a nice bath and have a cry if needed.

 

[sil]

https://i63.tinypic.com/npkqs4.jpg

Here are my two opks. Different brands, same sample.

 

[StarGazerRose]

for Sil!!! I really hope that it stays positive

I'm not sure if my period is being super short again or what. I woke up this morning with my tampon mostly clean and the tip had some brown on it. The one before bed was still pretty AF'y... Likely hood that my periods went down to 2 days? How confusing is this? I still quickly put in another just in case -- I have to shower by 10:30 so i'm expecting this one to be clean.
My leg was driving me nuts last night, and this morning it don't really hurt anymore -- hoping that stays away. I think the weather was making it worse (We're getting some wind and rain from the hurricane, nothing major unless the thing continues up the coast to us, I doubt it though)

Well, I just felt like poppin in for a morning update/chat ... I probably won't make it back on today. Try to enjoy the weekend Ladies!

 

[sil]

Thanks star! Now I must convince dh to dtd again tonight since we just did last night. Shouldn't be too hard though, I'm sure he won't mind. Haha!

How heavy were your two days of bleeding? Did you ever test again just in case?

 

[BelleNuit]

Very positive OPK Sil get busy!

Star my memory is awful, were you on clomid? It can cause a thinner lining.

Well second day of AF and I think even more now that acupuncture is working. Less cramping, less clotting, and better color. I'm actually hoping it lasts a bit longer too as I feel like that means it was a thicker lining lol My last couple AFs were only 2.5 days long.

 

[greenarcher]

Belle - Excellent! That's great news! So glad you're noticing a difference! CD2 for me as well. Now I'm jealous of your early O again! I'll probably O a week after you do

Sil - hell yes, earlier opk +! Also great news! I hope DH is amenable to more baby making!

Star - :wave: how was your weekend? I feel like tampons are like a stopper for my cervix, so I don't fully shed my lining. I've always have very light, very short periods. Like maybe fill 1 tampon over 3 days (I don't only wear one for 3 hole days, but that's probably what it would be). This month I'm using a menstrual cup for the first time. I am a big fan! I only need to check on it once a day, and it doesn't plug me up!

I've heard somewhere on this forum that you shouldn't use tampons while TTC, but I never heard why, and I think it's bollocks. I actually purchased the menstrual cup so I could get a better feel of how much I actually bleed, and see if it's in the normal range. Taking TTC easy has been a dream already. It doesn't occupy my mind constantly. I've unsubscribed from all threads but this one. I'll try to pop in a couple times a week. But no more OPKs, no more temping, nada.

 

[BelleNuit]

Good for you Green, I bet it feels great to "unplug" from TTC glad to hear you will still pop in every now and then

Your AF definitely sounds very light. Mine is usually short 2-3 days, but 2 of those days I have quite heavy flow. AF seems to be a bit lengthier this cycle (acupuncture I'm betting) so I'm actually happy about that lol

My short cycles are nice in a sense as I know I'll be O'ing in about a week and a half. But it's also disheartening to go through 14-15 cycles in a year (compared to most people's 12) and still not end up pregnant.

 

[2much]

Can I sneak in here? TTC #1, I'm 29, husband is 31. I had clear HSG, bloodwork, semen analysis...everything came back good so we are "unexplained." I'm glad to have all of that testing behind me.

First cycle on Clomid. I'm feeling nervous/excited/hopeful. CD 4, anyone else similar? Not sure if there is some sort of intro group or whatever, haha, I am trying to navigate my way around the forum, all the terminology, etc! Doesn't help I'm in a headachey/dizzy fog (I'm blaming you, Clomid).

 

[BelleNuit]

Hi 2much, you sound similar to me. I will be having an HSG on Wednesday, but I fully expect we will be unexplained as well as everything else has come back normal (aside from potentially thin lining). I also happen to be CD 4 today.

I fully expect the doc will want to put me on clomid as well. However we are considering just doing expectant management (waiting and seeing) for another 6 months. I was reading that expectant management for unexplained offers the same odds of success as cycles with clomid or an unstimulated IUI. Unexplained people often have spontaneous pregnancies it just seems to take longer. I think around the 18 month point we might look at other options. I just don't think DH and I are ready for treatment yet. Either way I hope clomid is the thing that gives you that extra boost

 

[2much]

Hi 2much, you sound similar to me. I will be having an HSG on Wednesday, but I fully expect we will be unexplained as well as everything else has come back normal (aside from potentially thin lining). I also happen to be CD 4 today.

I fully expect the doc will want to put me on clomid as well. However we are considering just doing expectant management (waiting and seeing) for another 6 months. I was reading that expectant management for unexplained offers the same odds of success as cycles with clomid or an unstimulated IUI. Unexplained people often have spontaneous pregnancies it just seems to take longer. I think around the 18 month point we might look at other options. I just don't think DH and I are ready for treatment yet. Either way I hope clomid is the thing that gives you that extra boost

Hey thanks Belle! I did my HSG last month. I hope yours goes quickly and your tubes are clear (mine was lightning fast, but the pain was bad!) Everyone is so different. Some of my friends said it was a breeze!

I hope clomid does the trick, too! I am trying not to overshare with my hubby so hopefully this forum doesn't mind it as being my outlet.

 

[BelleNuit]

I've been pretty nervous about the HSG, but in another sense I'm looking forward to it because at this point I just need to know if there is something structurally wrong. I have no reason to believe there will be any blockages, but who knows. I'm planning to take a couple ibuprofen to help with the pain. We're you able to drive afterwards? I'll have to drive myself back home as DH has some work meetings he can't get out of.

I definitely use the forum as an outlet, hubby can only take so much. My friends mean well, but they just don't understand. They already have their own children and can't empathize with me

 

[greenarcher]

Welcome, 2much! Always good to have another back to lean on. You do sound similar to Belle! How long have yall been TTC? Why did the doc put you on clomid?

Belle - I hope you'll be able to drive yourself. I can't decide what result I want for you: something that explains the fertility or a clear reading.

The forum is the best. These women are amazing people and know what we're going through. My best friend is 6-7 weeks pregnant. We went shopping at ikea yesterday, and as we're walking past nursery stuff, I tell her I'm going to get you this and this, and I'm so excited for you! Then she reminds me: "you will have to too, you know." That realization hit me hard. It hadn't crossed my mind that I'd get to look for baby stuff. It's like I no longer believe we'll get pregnant.

I don't know how I feel about this new apathy.