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[Jules8]

Th program is 30 days. 1 week of detox then 3 weeks of counseling and whatnot. He just finished the detox yesterday so he has moved to a different part with 25 other guys to start focusing on how to deal with the other issues that come along with addiction. He is also going to need continuous conseling once he has completed the 30 days. Addiction is no joke, and unlike the commercials I see on t.v. he will not be cured of this overnight. This is going to be a lifelong struggle and journey, but I have a lot of faith in him.

 

[MH5280]

It's rough! My brother in law is a recovering alcoholic and drug addict, he's been clean for, I wanna say 12 years, but he regularly goes to AA meetings still! It's quite an accomplishment I think, but it sure is not an easy one!

Well AF showed, she is brutal! Idk the last time I had SUCH bad cramps! Like crippling! Terrrrible!!!!! We have a concert we are going to tomorrow night and I'm bummed I have to deal with this! Being female sucks sometimes! Haha!

 

[shortcakes21]

Welcome shortcakes 21! I know how frustrating it is..I may have just found out about the PCOS, but the symptoms have always been there. I tracked and tried to go the hollistic route for a while, it just wasn't helping. Everyone is different though, I wish you the best of luck on your journey.

Michele- Thank you for asking! He finally came to his senses and is currently in rehab. He just finished a rough week of detox and is on his way to recovery, I just hope when he comes home he can stick to it...that will be his biggest challenge.

Its my first time with a holistic dr but i am hoping it goes well (ps i am 30 not 20... typo)

The holistic dr has me on Vitex, Inositol and NAC. I just got AF on day25 so I gearing up for this cycle hoping it will help.

 

[Jules8]

Michele- That's awesome! It's a hard struggle, but not impossible. I am sorry you got af! Hopefully you aren't feeling too bad for the concert. Have fun!!!!

shortcakes21-I took vitex a few years ago with great results, though when I went back on it a few months ago it did not work the same. I think it is a great thing to try first! What is inositol and NAC?

 

[shortcakes21]

Michele- That's awesome! It's a hard struggle, but not impossible. I am sorry you got af! Hopefully you aren't feeling too bad for the concert. Have fun!!!!

shortcakes21-I took vitex a few years ago with great results, though when I went back on it a few months ago it did not work the same. I think it is a great thing to try first! What is inositol and NAC?

Inositol is a powder that i mix with water twice a day.. its supposed to help bring down my testosterone. Same for NAC but that is a pill i take twice a day.

 

[TTTTina]

Happy to hear your brother is doing better and got help!

I can feel af....she's on her way and should be here sometime tonight. Not looking forward to her lol.

Michele I hope the concert is fun. I want to go to a concert soon!

 

[MH5280]

So my best friend just had her baby.... And I truly and sooo happy for her! But I feel like crying not because of happiness but because Im sad cuz I want one!!! How selfish of me! Ugh that's terrible! But I can't help it! :/

 

[shortcakes21]

So my best friend just had her baby.... And I truly and sooo happy for her! But I feel like crying not because of happiness but because Im sad cuz I want one!!! How selfish of me! Ugh that's terrible! But I can't help it! :/

It's perfectly normal. I ball my eyes out everytime there is a pregnancy announcement on Facebook.

 

[TTTTina]

I feel the same way when I see pregnancy anouncments. When people I know actually have their baby I feel jealous and sad.

 

[jessilou]

Hello, hope you don't mind if I join. I am 25 and DH 27. We have been together for over 6 years and recently got married and decided to start TTC#1. I came off of BCP in November (was on it 8months) , but it took a little while to get a normal cycle as had breakthrough and then a really short AF.

I was going by the "ovulation calendars/tools" for the first 2 cycles and we were just BD now and then. Last month I decided to be more pro active and bought a Clear blue digital Ovulation kit.

So last month I got a solid smiley, and thought that that was going to be the month!! It wasn't though, and have used my CBD again this month and turns out I ovulate quite early in my cycle which is why we were missing the egg in the first ttc as I was aiming for day 14-15 instead of 10-13. So hopefully in the future we have some luck.
My cycles a little bit over the place they have been ranging from 27-30 days which is a bit annoying.

 

[MamaBunny2]

Oh good grief Michele I saw your pictures from the concert and looks like you had a great time, I would've never known the dumb was back with a vengeance.

My OH started his new job today! He had received a call Saturday eve while we were at the grocery store and got a job with a family owned construction company. The pay is decent, it'll take care of his share of bills and if his boss sees fit after this week he could be bumped up a few dollars. The hours are good too, 8/9am - 4/5pm with any overtime banked towards paid vacation time. It's a relief but I'm a bit nervous as I don't think my OH has ever been in that line of work, though he has done quite an amazing job on our bedroom remodel and was really pleased with the framing, drywall, electrical work and such he completed and seemed to really take an interest in it. I'm hoping he has a good day...

 

[Jules8]

shortcakes- That is interesting. I have not tried either of those, just the Vitex. Make sure you keep me updated on how those work for you!

Tina- Thank you! I hope af isn't too evil for you.

Michele- So glad you concert was fun!

Jessilou- Welcome! Have your cycles always been all over the place or just since stopping bc?

mamabunny- So happy that your husband found something quickly! I am sure he will be fine since he did so well fixing up your own home.

To the ladies who feel rough with announcements...I feel ya. It is so difficult to see others with families when we want one as well. I went to a meeting today where 1 person announced a pregnancy and another's wife is schedule on Tuesday to be induced. Everyone then continued to talk about their experiences..it's sad because I am the only one in the group without an experience to share. It just made me feel so left out. I just keep reminding myself that it will be my turn soon and I am sure that everyone will be happy for me.

Also, here is a good article I found that talks about some of the stuff some of us are going through. https://www.babycenter.com/0_therapists-top-ten-tips-for-coping-with-fertility-problems_3935.bc

 

[MH5280]

That's a good article! Thanks for sharing!
I start to feel a little optimistic like "he stops drinking we totally increase our chances"... When really I have NO idea! I don't want to be optimistic like that cuz I don't want to be let down. I do want to try and have more sex tho! Try a little harder than we have been, which hasn't been at all! I just don't want to miss it... Although I don't think we will. I did get him to agree to go for a consult tho! Just have to figure out when... And it's been 2 months so I think maybe asking my OB for another SA before we do see a specialist. Do you think its something she'd do after not seeing either of us for 2 months?
Not sure I told you girls but we did get confirmation, we WILL be moved to Colorado by June! So really only 2 more months here max, which will seem like a freakin eternity! I think I want him to get a SA before we move just so we see what's going on. God I really hope it fixes itself... Everything I read is that morphology is the least common in male infertility. Sooo I'm still a bit confused on ways we can change this, like DOES it go away on its own? I read that it can happen from vericole veins in the testes, and that required surgery... I do NOT see him having surgery to fix anything! But idk his balls look normal to me I just want this to be easy for him, for us! I was telling him about my friends baby and said "I can't wait for us to have one" he said "it's gonna be the best" 😊 that made me happy to hear! Him not drinking isn't going well yet... There was beer in the house so of course it has to be finished. There are 2 left and I'm sooo tempted to dump them and be like "no you must have drank them all" lol!

 

[shortcakes21]

shortcakes- That is interesting. I have not tried either of those, just the Vitex. Make sure you keep me updated on how those work for you!

Tina- Thank you! I hope af isn't too evil for you.

Michele- So glad you concert was fun!

Jessilou- Welcome! Have your cycles always been all over the place or just since stopping bc?

mamabunny- So happy that your husband found something quickly! I am sure he will be fine since he did so well fixing up your own home.

To the ladies who feel rough with announcements...I feel ya. It is so difficult to see others with families when we want one as well. I went to a meeting today where 1 person announced a pregnancy and another's wife is schedule on Tuesday to be induced. Everyone then continued to talk about their experiences..it's sad because I am the only one in the group without an experience to share. It just made me feel so left out. I just keep reminding myself that it will be my turn soon and I am sure that everyone will be happy for me.

Also, here is a good article I found that talks about some of the stuff some of us are going through. https://www.babycenter.com/0_therapists-top-ten-tips-for-coping-with-fertility-problems_3935.bc

I will definitely keep you posted... i am cd8 so i may be ovulating soon (according the the 25 day cycle i had last month)...i am actually starting my hold right now! lol.

 

[MamaBunny2]

HAHA Michele that sounds like something I'd do, dump the beer and be like 'Oh hunny you must have drank them all?!' Or... I'd just throw em away and say nothing!

I used to look at my OH's balls and wonder if everything was OK in them or what was going on

 

[MH5280]

hahaha! I do too! especially more so now that I know I something is wrong! I googled what the veins would look like, to see if I could tell.... lol well idk what the hell im looking for really they look like wrinkly balls! so I was like omg that's totally what it looked like in the picture! but then when you stretch them out it looks normal... I think he just has big balls/skin so it wrinkles lol!! oh man! he'd be so mad if he knew the things I tell you girls! I think his balls are normal.... im spending my day researching more now! I truly feel the reason for his morphology is alcohol. and stress and heat in that area. look at me! being all positive and shit!... I wonder how long it will last!?!? probably just until I O and know we haven't conceived! lol!

 

[MamaBunny2]

LMAO Michele!

Hey, we don't own a set so we get curious! I think extra skin/wrinkles is normal. I think it's funny when they shrivel/shrink up after DTD or if they're cold. Or if I grab one and move it slightly, it will kinda slowly move around on it's own like the goo in a lava lamp I guess?

OMG they would so kill us.

 

[MH5280]

Hahahaha! that's hilarious! I love playing with his balls! Exactly! I don't have them I'm curious!! this is too funny!! I'm pretty positive his balls are normal! so that's good!!!

 

[Jules8]

You could always warm them up then stick them back in the fridge so when he goes to drink them it tastes gross. When he mentions the taste you could say, "oh no, your taste buds must have changed and now beer will never taste good again...darn!" lol

HAHAHAHAHAHA! I am trying so hard not to burst out laughing at my desk right now reading your ball talk! I totes looked it up a while ago too...so sexy when going to bd and you wanna look just to make sure it looks normal! lol

OMG! My hubby would absolutely be horrified if he knew half the stuff we talked about. Though, they talk about stuff we don't want to know about when they are around their guy friends so they can't judge us too much!

P.S. how do I get all the cool smileys?

 

[MamaBunny2]

OMG Michele next time we are fooling around with our men's balls now we are gonna think of each other Awkward... lol

Jules are you using your smartphone or computer? There shld be a square with some smilies in it and a [More] selection to the right of the box when you hit Post Reply. It won't show up if you use Quick Reply.