TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[Baby4MJ]

-I ovulated on Monday (day 14 or 15-I think; am in work, so can't check). Today, my temps dropped and I have a bit of mucus (Yuk-TMI ALERT-Take cover!), and some period pain like twinges. Any info or ideas please??? NO way would I ovulate twice on my own, surely??? Also have a sneaking suspicion that my darling OH is not taking ALL his essential vits-there will be a howdown showdown this weekend if I find out he hasn't! What is it with men??? He'd rather pay thousands of pounds for treatment rather than take a blinking pill???? It gets me sooooooo annoyed.

My DH is the same. Every day, me: "Did you take your vitamins?" DH: "Uh, oops, no, I forgot." AARRGGHHH! Dude, I am popping pills and peeing on stuff and venturing into regions of my body I never thought I'd find myself EVERY DAY.
Take...the...{bleeping}...vitamins...Sheesh!

 

[Dwrgi]

-I ovulated on Monday (day 14 or 15-I think; am in work, so can't check). Today, my temps dropped and I have a bit of mucus (Yuk-TMI ALERT-Take cover!), and some period pain like twinges. Any info or ideas please??? NO way would I ovulate twice on my own, surely??? Also have a sneaking suspicion that my darling OH is not taking ALL his essential vits-there will be a howdown showdown this weekend if I find out he hasn't! What is it with men??? He'd rather pay thousands of pounds for treatment rather than take a blinking pill???? It gets me sooooooo annoyed.

My DH is the same. Every day, me: "Did you take your vitamins?" DH: "Uh, oops, no, I forgot." AARRGGHHH! Dude, I am popping pills and peeing on stuff and venturing into regions of my body I never thought I'd find myself EVERY DAY.
Take...the...{bleeping}...vitamins...Sheesh!

Quite! You've made me laugh!! xx

 

[Baby4MJ]

I'm a little nervous about tonight b/c we are going over to another couples house for "drinks" and then out for dinner. This is a couple that just got married in Oct and they are not afraid of having a few cocktails and let's just say that DH & I were perfectly capable of hanging with them before TTCing. I don't want them to think that I'm pregnant or trying. The guy works with me and his whole section is a chatterbox with office gossip. How will I manage to not drink all night without raising suspicion? Any ideas?

I always worry about that, too. At their house you can just tell them you don't want to overdo it and will have drinks with dinner. When you get to the restaurant, you or your DH can be the ones to get the drinks from the bar and just order something that looks like a "real" drink, like cranberry juice with a lime slice (looks like a Cape Cod). Or you can just tell them that you're on medication that can't mix with alcohol. I would hope they wouldn't ask, but if they do those are some good ways to skirt the issue without them flapping their yaps at the office. Above all, though, try not to worry about it too much and relax and have fun!

 

[FutureMommie]

Skye- Phew....you had us worried. I'm glad we were all worried for nothing and the little one is doing great!!!!!!

Dwrgi- The twinges sound promising especially since you O'd on Monday. Fx for you

Butterfly- Sorry you got a bfn but it aint over yet.

Lava- Antibiotics sounds perfect!!!!

Baby4mj- Sending O dust your way!!!! Yes your Dh rocks!!!!

afm- I had my IUI this morning and all went well. My re said that I would probably feel crapy for about a week but if I'm pg the end result will be worth it. I hope this is it ladies.

I hope you all have a wonderful memorial day weekend.

 

[Butterfly67]

Sending you lots of good wishes FM that the IUI works, take it easy

 

[Baby4MJ]

afm- I had my IUI this morning and all went well. My re said that I would probably feel crapy for about a week but if I'm pg the end result will be worth it. I hope this is it ladies.

So glad it went well! I'll be praying for your !!!!

 

[missyt]

Purple, welcome!

Skye, that is wonderful news! So happy for you!

Dwrgi, DH is like that about taking his vitamins also. I always have to remind him. Luckily I did, this last time his sperm count when up considerably. It does make a difference.

MJ, that is so funny you hand DH a calendar. I downloaded with app on my phone called "My Honey Days". Its basically a fertility calendar that tells you when AF is due, when you ovulate, your fertile days and you can put notes in there too.

FM, so praying for you that this is the one! Relax and enjoy your weekend.

Lava, I hate feeling pressured to drink. I went to a girl's party last friday. I had one drink but then everyone was so distracted after and I kept filling my glass with club soda. I agree to order a drink that looks like it has alcohol in it. I went to a happy hour a month or so ago and I ordered a non-alcoholic drink that looked like a foofoo drink. A coworker asked what it was and the first thing the annoying waitress blurted out was that it didn't have any alcohol in it. I was like "Gee, thanks!".

Ginger, where are you?

 

[Mommy's Angel]

FM, praying for a bfp this cycle!

Skye, I told ya! I've heard WAY too many stories of Dr.'s doing early scans and freaking the heck outa the patient. I'm glad that you heard the fetal heart beat and saw a baby there. It's understandable why you'd wait. I'm now praying for MORE bfp's and know that there will be more in the future. SO excited!

Baby4MJ, good luck with your cycle dear

AFM: FINALLY I get some good news! The Dr. checked the cervix herself today and we're at the same length as the day I had the surgery. So far no more lessening of length and no more funneling. Praise God! That's a HUGE praise. I give all the glory to God and of course the bed rest helped.

I also told her I was miffed at the cardiologist. She too was confused by the report she received and when I filled her in, she was surprised at the fact that he jumped the gun with age and assuming that Amelia has Downs from a report that had no concrete backing. I told her he was a nice guy, but he's not on my good side! Funny is that she seems to be the only Dr. I like these days. Hope she's honored by that. I'm NOT afraid to make my opinion known that's for sure. Especially when I'm advocating for Miss. Amelia. Watch out for momma bear!

I'm able to go for a ride with Doug tomorrow. Nothing too long, just enough to get me out of the house so I'm not so stir crazy.

Love to you all.

 

[bblve]

Hi Ladies -

Wow, lots going on for everyone! I was cracking up at Baby4MJ's response - I guess I'm lucky in that aspect DH reminds himself...he actually states out loud: "fertilizer!" that's what he calls his vitamins. Silly I know but it makes me feel good that he's excited. Although last night threw me a bit. We are early on the TTC front, this is our 4th cycle; I got my egg yesterday on CBFM & was excited but DH was down and out for the count. Tried waking him which was not good...the phrase "I'm not a machine" came flying out of his mouth. I felt terrible that he might be feeling that way. Any advice on how I can help him deal a little better with our schedule and not make him feel like a "machine"? Luckily, CBFM gave me another egg this morning but I felt sooooo bad that I almost didn't want to mention it....I felt guilty somehow & to be honest a little heartbroken Maybe I'm just being too sensitive?

 

[Baby4MJ]

AFM: FINALLY I get some good news! The Dr. checked the cervix herself today and we're at the same length as the day I had the surgery. So far no more lessening of length and no more funneling. Praise God! That's a HUGE praise. I give all the glory to God and of course the bed rest helped.

Great news, MA! Prayers will keep going up for you that all will remain status quo and a healthy little Miss Amelia will be in her mama's arms.

 

[skye2010]

I just wrote a nice long msg and lost it again Gets so annoying!

LynB, I think it's too early for any pictures. I'm only 6 weeks and could hardly make out the minute little white blob that flickered ever so slightly When did you have your picture. Javea looks great. Lucky girl )

Dwrgi, I think some women actually start shooting 2 eggs at a time when they pass 35. I heard it from a few people and also I think Padbrat mentioned it. I also experience late EWCM and cramping sometimes. So you never know. Better forget the pills issue and get Dh on a loving side if you fancy pushing your luck. Lol!

Butterfly welcome to the UK. Hope the ugly mug stays away. She is so unwanted

Lava, what are you like? Still holding on to temping. )) Hahahahaha!!! Whatever makes you good hon. You know I've always been suspicious of temping cause DH hugs me sometimes while we sleep, push away all the duvet cause he's usually too warm so I end up being cold, or I get up to go to toilet. I bet that sort of thing would change your temp no?
I was gonna suggest the antibiotic but the girls got there before me. Have a great fun

HA hope u r having a great time with mum.

4MJI love the buzzing icons Thanx hon. Isn't it great when we can use them in this thread? I must say you are blessed with a good DH. He needs a medal for keeping up with such a tight schedule I love your BFP plan and here's some icons to coax a BFP for you

FM so glad the IUI went well. I hope the swelling would calm down soon. I'm rooting for you hon.

Missy I was so chasing up those pills too. In the end DH got fed up with my nagging and put a permanent reminder on his phone. Still half the box was unused. How you keeping up chick? Make sure you chill out and have a nice time this weekend

 

[Baby4MJ]

Hi Ladies -

Wow, lots going on for everyone! I was cracking up at Baby4MJ's response - I guess I'm lucky in that aspect DH reminds himself...he actually states out loud: "fertilizer!" that's what he calls his vitamins. Silly I know but it makes me feel good that he's excited. Although last night threw me a bit. We are early on the TTC front, this is our 4th cycle; I got my egg yesterday on CBFM & was excited but DH was down and out for the count. Tried waking him which was not good...the phrase "I'm not a machine" came flying out of his mouth. I felt terrible that he might be feeling that way. Any advice on how I can help him deal a little better with our schedule and not make him feel like a "machine"? Luckily, CBFM gave me another egg this morning but I felt sooooo bad that I almost didn't want to mention it....I felt guilty somehow & to be honest a little heartbroken Maybe I'm just being too sensitive?

Hi bblve and welcome!:wave:

I'm glad you got a laugh...it is kinda funny when you think about it, but sometimes it's just GRRRRRR!!! I always tell DH that a cake takes more than one ingredient to come out right, so he needs to make sure his ingredients are just as fresh as mine. He's been drinking fruit smoothies for breakfast every morning, so I'll cut him a little slack on the vitamins sometimes...but just a little.

Regarding the CBFM...when the egg speaks, you have to listen. In honesty, I've sometimes been the one to put the brakes on when I'm completely spent, or I tell DH not to expect a dog and pony show-no bells and whistles, just let's DTD. So romantic of me (not!). It helps to talk it out with DH (for me)...we're both on board with my "BD schedule" for the most part, but we do discuss it and reschedule if we have to...but we always pay attention to the egg because after 2 years of TTC and because of our ages, we really don't want to miss too many cycles. Communication with DH is key...let your DH know that you don't see him as a machine, and try to find out how he feels about the whole TTC process. Unfortunately timing BD is the nature of the beast when you're TTC. I often tell DH I don't want him to feel like BDing is more like a business meeting than fun. I actually think the BD calendars I make and show to him (in advance) actually help because he knows what to expect when, and we know that we can adjust our "dates" as we go along if need be (keeping the CBFM egg in mind, of course!). At this point, though, I think even the liquor store knows our BD schedule because their wine sales go up at the same time each month! ...LOL

I don't know if I'm making any sense, but I guess I'm saying communication and letting each other know that you're working toward the same goal as a team is very important. The end result - holding that little baby in your arms - will be worth all the BDing!

Good luck and I hope you get that golden egg!

 

[Mommy's Angel]

I just wrote a nice long msg and lost it again Gets so annoying!

LynB, I think it's too early for any pictures. I'm only 6 weeks and could hardly make out the minute little white blob that flickered ever so slightly When did you have your picture. Javea looks great. Lucky girl )

Dwrgi, I think some women actually start shooting 2 eggs at a time when they pass 35. I heard it from a few people and also I think Padbrat mentioned it. I also experience late EWCM and cramping sometimes. So you never know. Better forget the pills issue and get Dh on a loving side if you fancy pushing your luck. Lol!

Butterfly welcome to the UK. Hope the ugly mug stays away. She is so unwanted

Lava, what are you like? Still holding on to temping. )) Hahahahaha!!! Whatever makes you good hon. You know I've always been suspicious of temping cause DH hugs me sometimes while we sleep, push away all the duvet cause he's usually too warm so I end up being cold, or I get up to go to toilet. I bet that sort of thing would change your temp no?
I was gonna suggest the antibiotic but the girls got there before me. Have a great fun

HA hope u r having a great time with mum.

4MJI love the buzzing icons Thanx hon. Isn't it great when we can use them in this thread? I must say you are blessed with a good DH. He needs a medal for keeping up with such a tight schedule I love your BFP plan and here's some icons to coax a BFP for you

FM so glad the IUI went well. I hope the swelling would calm down soon. I'm rooting for you hon.

Missy I was so chasing up those pills too. In the end DH got fed up with my nagging and put a permanent reminder on his phone. Still half the box was unused. How you keeping up chick? Make sure you chill out and have a nice time this weekend

You guys have it different over there. I see where they make you wait quite awhile for 1st scan. Alot of the UK gals have been getting private scans at 14 or 16 wks there to check for gender. I've seen where some have to wait for the 20wk scan. I'd break down waiting that long!

 

[skye2010]

MA wonderful news hon. I am all ears for your updates Momma bear. Amelia is a lucky baby. Have fun with your exciting fun-ride tomorrow. xxx Yeah I couldn't wait that long either. Just needed to know that there was sthg in there. I think the wait is cause NHS is trying to save money. GRRRR!!!!

Bbive well done for DH for being so good to keep up the "fertilisers" I am not the best person to suggest good tips about coaxing tired Dh into bedding. Cause I used to try everything from a sulk, to a scream & shout, being sweet or cooking his best meal. DH wouldn't budge if he didn't want it. But we've been TTCing so long in vain that in the end he just became very tamed and willing for the baby. I think it was a point of desperation that kept us so well scheduled in the end HHHahhaahaa!!!

 

[lavalux]

Skye,
What is it with ours guys that are like friggin' furnaces. At our house, we have the lightest duvet cover and keep the air conditioning on full blast, but as soon as DH gets into the bed, the whole thing heats up like an oven. Within 15 minutes, I can't stand it and I wind up on the far end of the bed with half the blanket at my feet trying to stay cool. Also, I usually temp at 7 am, but wake up at 6 am, so I lay in bed miserable b/c I have to pee so bad. This morning, even though I did temp, I got up and went then got back under the covers. No more forcing myself to lie still for an hour in agony about to explode.

I am fortunate that my DH voluntarily got his SA before we had our first consult with the RE and he bought Conception RX online after it was recommended by our doctor. He takes them without reminder and is usually ok about BDing on demand, but one morning he put up a fit and blurted out, "I am not a trained seal!" I guess that is like the machine comment! Poor boys, made a little to feel like prize studs!

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Skye,
What is it with ours guys that are like friggin' furnaces. At our house, we have the lightest duvet cover and keep the air conditioning on full blast, but as soon as DH gets into the bed, the whole thing heats up like an oven. Within 15 minutes, I can't stand it and I wind up on the far end of the bed with half the blanket at my feet trying to stay cool. Also, I usually temp at 7 am, but wake up at 6 am, so I lay in bed miserable b/c I have to pee so bad. This morning, even though I did temp, I got up and went then got back under the covers. No more forcing myself to lie still for an hour in agony about to explode.

I am fortunate that my DH voluntarily got his SA before we had our first consult with the RE and he bought Conception RX online after it was recommended by our doctor. He takes them without reminder and is usually ok about BDing on demand, but one morning he put up a fit and blurted out, "I am not a trained seal!" I guess that is like the machine comment! Poor boys, made a little to feel like prize studs!

My husband is THE SAME WAY! Goodness he has body heat! Actually the poor guy is half off the bed right now since I have umpteen pillows in the bed. He said in another month or so he'll be having to go into the spare room to sleep. May help us both with his snoring. It's bad enough to try and get sleep only to have my husband loudly snoring in my ear.

 

[Baby4MJ]

Skye,
What is it with ours guys that are like friggin' furnaces. At our house, we have the lightest duvet cover and keep the air conditioning on full blast, but as soon as DH gets into the bed, the whole thing heats up like an oven. Within 15 minutes, I can't stand it and I wind up on the far end of the bed with half the blanket at my feet trying to stay cool. Also, I usually temp at 7 am, but wake up at 6 am, so I lay in bed miserable b/c I have to pee so bad. This morning, even though I did temp, I got up and went then got back under the covers. No more forcing myself to lie still for an hour in agony about to explode.

Same here! My DH's body temp is actually a degree higher than the average person. He's a walking forest fire. I go to bed all comfy and wake up in the middle of the night boiling like a lobster in a pot.

I am fortunate that my DH voluntarily got his SA before we had our first consult with the RE and he bought Conception RX online after it was recommended by our doctor.

What is Conception RX? Is it a doctor-prescribed vitamin?

He takes them without reminder and is usually ok about BDing on demand, but one morning he put up a fit and blurted out, "I am not a trained seal!"

This made me laugh right out loud!

I guess that is like the machine comment! Poor boys, made a little to feel like prize studs!

Let us all shed a tear for our poor men ...all we want them for are their bodies...well, spermies actually. Don't they know most men out there are complaining about how their OH's never want to have sex? Little do they know, this is the most sex they're ever gonna get, especially after the kiddies come along! LOL

 

[Baby4MJ]

My husband is THE SAME WAY! Goodness he has body heat! Actually the poor guy is half off the bed right now since I have umpteen pillows in the bed. He said in another month or so he'll be having to go into the spare room to sleep. May help us both with his snoring. It's bad enough to try and get sleep only to have my husband loudly snoring in my ear.

Both my DH and my cat snore. I swear by earplugs, otherwise I would be a walking zombie.

 

[Mommy's Angel]

My husband is THE SAME WAY! Goodness he has body heat! Actually the poor guy is half off the bed right now since I have umpteen pillows in the bed. He said in another month or so he'll be having to go into the spare room to sleep. May help us both with his snoring. It's bad enough to try and get sleep only to have my husband loudly snoring in my ear.

Both my DH and my cat snore. I swear by earplugs, otherwise I would be a walking zombie.

Now WHY didn't I ever think of that idea?! yeah, we have a pekingese and she snores like a wood chopper too. Between her and my husband I'm surprised I'm not in the loony bin quite yet. He is SO patient with me though. I try not to bust on him so much.

 

[bblve]

MA wonderful news hon. I am all ears for your updates Momma bear. Amelia is a lucky baby. Have fun with your exciting fun-ride tomorrow. xxx Yeah I couldn't wait that long either. Just needed to know that there was sthg in there. I think the wait is cause NHS is trying to save money. GRRRR!!!!

Bbive well done for DH for being so good to keep up the "fertilisers" I am not the best person to suggest good tips about coaxing tired Dh into bedding. Cause I used to try everything from a sulk, to a scream & shout, being sweet or cooking his best meal. DH wouldn't budge if he didn't want it. But we've been TTCing so long in vain that in the end he just became very tamed and willing for the baby. I think it was a point of desperation that kept us so well scheduled in the end HHHahhaahaa!!!

Hi Skye! -

Thanks for sharing, it's nice to know experiences from other couples that have gone through this phase.