TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[bblve]

Hi Ladies -

Wow, lots going on for everyone! I was cracking up at Baby4MJ's response - I guess I'm lucky in that aspect DH reminds himself...he actually states out loud: "fertilizer!" that's what he calls his vitamins. Silly I know but it makes me feel good that he's excited. Although last night threw me a bit. We are early on the TTC front, this is our 4th cycle; I got my egg yesterday on CBFM & was excited but DH was down and out for the count. Tried waking him which was not good...the phrase "I'm not a machine" came flying out of his mouth. I felt terrible that he might be feeling that way. Any advice on how I can help him deal a little better with our schedule and not make him feel like a "machine"? Luckily, CBFM gave me another egg this morning but I felt sooooo bad that I almost didn't want to mention it....I felt guilty somehow & to be honest a little heartbroken Maybe I'm just being too sensitive?

Hi bblve and welcome!:wave:

I'm glad you got a laugh...it is kinda funny when you think about it, but sometimes it's just GRRRRRR!!! I always tell DH that a cake takes more than one ingredient to come out right, so he needs to make sure his ingredients are just as fresh as mine. He's been drinking fruit smoothies for breakfast every morning, so I'll cut him a little slack on the vitamins sometimes...but just a little.

Regarding the CBFM...when the egg speaks, you have to listen. In honesty, I've sometimes been the one to put the brakes on when I'm completely spent, or I tell DH not to expect a dog and pony show-no bells and whistles, just let's DTD. So romantic of me (not!). It helps to talk it out with DH (for me)...we're both on board with my "BD schedule" for the most part, but we do discuss it and reschedule if we have to...but we always pay attention to the egg because after 2 years of TTC and because of our ages, we really don't want to miss too many cycles. Communication with DH is key...let your DH know that you don't see him as a machine, and try to find out how he feels about the whole TTC process. Unfortunately timing BD is the nature of the beast when you're TTC. I often tell DH I don't want him to feel like BDing is more like a business meeting than fun. I actually think the BD calendars I make and show to him (in advance) actually help because he knows what to expect when, and we know that we can adjust our "dates" as we go along if need be (keeping the CBFM egg in mind, of course!). At this point, though, I think even the liquor store knows our BD schedule because their wine sales go up at the same time each month! ...LOL

I don't know if I'm making any sense, but I guess I'm saying communication and letting each other know that you're working toward the same goal as a team is very important. The end result - holding that little baby in your arms - will be worth all the BDing!

Good luck and I hope you get that golden egg!

OMG Baby4MJ! - you totally crack me up! Thank you & yes, we usually communicate very well & discuss the BD schedule which I guess is in part why this threw me so much. We discuss the schedule but maybe it would be best if I give him a calendar....as most men, he seems to do better with visuals. As for your local liquor store - right there with you....we love our wine in general but since starting this awesome journey we've opted to buy by the case.

 

[skye2010]

but one morning he put up a fit and blurted out, "I am not a trained seal!" I guess that is like the machine comment! Poor boys, made a little to feel like prize studs!

Yeah right and I feel like Angelina Jolie every time? Hhahahahaha !!!

Honestly though how does that woman manage to tug along so many babies up her skirt while she does all the red carpets, Un, films etc etc.. I know she has so much money and she is pretty to begin with but really how did she make 3 adopt 3 still want more while running around like a mare.

 

[Mommy's Angel]

but one morning he put up a fit and blurted out, "I am not a trained seal!" I guess that is like the machine comment! Poor boys, made a little to feel like prize studs!

Yeah right and I feel like Angelina Jolie every time? Hhahahahaha !!!

Honestly though how does that woman manage to tug along so many babies up her skirt while she does all the red carpets, Un, films etc etc.. I know she has so much money and she is pretty to begin with but really how did she make 3 adopt 3 still want more while running around like a mare.

It's called "nanny". I'm sure she has a personal nanny for each child as many of them tend to do. I know she likes to also take them on set, so I'm assuming she has a nanny for each to keep them occupied. When you can afford that kinda lifestyle it's easy.

It's why I laugh at all the REAL housewives shows. They're so UNREAL about being a homemaker...UNLESS you actually have that kinda cash to strutt yourself around for petty material possessions and afford a nanny for each child I don't think they have a clue (most of them anyways) what it's like to actually clean, cook, raise their children without a nanny, put that same time they put into their possessions into raising their kids and focusing on their actual marriages without selfishness. This REALITY T.V stuff has gotten so unrealistic.

Not that money is bad, but the worshipping of material possessions that's so sad. Loss of any realistic values of the GIFT of baring a child and raising them or actually finding JOY in your marriage and WORKING things out. Looks pretty easy when your lifestyle offers you a way out.

 

[padbrat]

Yay MA! He heard all the prayers we were sending up for you and Amelia! Good news!

My Hubby never feels like a machine.... every time I have got pregnant I have been hungover after a massive night out... maybe alcohol helps the eggs and spermy get together! hahaha

Listen to this ladies.... totally spooked me out... My friend VGibs posted this in the TTCAL section...

Pad - I had a dream last night that you had a baby girl.....and you named her Miracle Elizabeth!!!!!!!!!!!! haha I know it sounds weird but for some reason all the bnb'ers loved it!!!!!!!!!!!! You said you were going to call her Mira-Beth for short!

So what do we think of Mirabeth???

 

[skye2010]

Yaaaaaaay Mirabeth rules !!!!! Mirabeth rocks baby...

 

[Tititimes2]

Pad- just saw your post and ticker and had to come out of the background to say yayay . Wishing you nothing but good things and all of God's grace honey

 

[padbrat]

Skye you are soooo funny!! You make me crack up!! LMAO

Tititimes2 I really appreciate you coming out to cheer me on.... I hope you are taking care of yourself huni xx

 

[lynnb]

Skye - I had my scan pic at 6+6, I think at 6 weeks the 'little white blob' starts growing at about 1mm per day so at 6+6 it's big enough to see something more than a blob.

Deb - so happy to see you have a ticker, keep up the PMA & fx'd for

 

[lavalux]

Mirabeth! Love it!

 

[padbrat]

Yeah I decided to hell with it... and have a ticker! PMA PMA PMA for us eh Lynn!!

hehehehe gotta tell ya Lava was totally freaked out! lol

 

[lynnb]

Definitely lots of PMA Deb, don't know if it works but it's better than worrying all the time

 

[FutureMommie]

Today I am finally feeling human again. Yesterday after my IUI i was fine until about 1 and then I had to leave work and go home because I was in so much pain! I was bloated and in so much pain that I physically got sick. I called my RE's office and since I did not have a fever he figured that I was ovulating at that time and that and a little over stimulated. He said after a few hours it should get better but if I continued to be sick go to the ER. Around 7 I finally got some relief and today even though I still feel icky I'm not in intense pain. The pain was worse that my myomectomy at least then I could take something to help with the pain, with this, it just had to run it course. All I could do was lay flat on my back, I was so swollen I could even roll onto my side. I remember thinking yesterday that I don't think that I will be able to stand this kind of pain again so I'm really hoping I'm pg, although my RE said that if I do get pg that it will probably return. Ugggh, this is so hard but thankful that I'm feeling a little better today and hopefully even better tomorrow

 

[FutureMommie]

Padrat- I LOVE the name MiraBeth!!!

 

[Butterfly67]

Aw FM that sounds terrible, glad it has subsided for now and hope you do get a BFP this month.

 

[lavalux]

PMA not PMS!
PMA not PMS!
PMA not PMS!

 

[skye2010]

FM, it sounds like you are overstimmulated as well. HCG (trigger shot) does it. You have to lye down and rest as much as you can. It gets better as you sleep in fact. You can get up to 1000 mg of plain paracetamol but nothing else. Paracetamol does give a good relief though. Poor thing I only know too well what's it like My swelling had gone down and it was ok about a week but yesterday I didn't rest and I did a lot of light housework (packing Dh's suitcase, cooking, laundry) and in the evening my waist was huge again. Today I'm getting my feet up.

If it doesn't improve please take a couple of days sick leave from work cause you really can't be standing and running around. Hope you feel better soon hon. On the upside you will not even care about that once you have the BFP ))

 

[skye2010]

Titi it's so nice to see you, I am hoping that you would find peace and feel better soon xxx

 

[padbrat]

FM I think you should def follow Skyes advice... and like she said when you get the BFP you won't care... I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo hoping this is the one for you!!!!

Lava you crack me up!! PMA PMA PMA PMA all the way!!!

hmmmm... Mirabeth is growing on me... think pink think pink think pink think pink think pink!!!

 

[padbrat]

Lynn you are absolutely right!!! worrying makes you blue.... so no worrying for me and then maybe I will have pink!!! LMAO

 

[GMATP 2011]

Count me in! I am 37 and ttc #1. We have been officially trying for well over a year and over a year before that not trying not preventing. Nothing. We fall in the unexplained category. We just had our 2nd iui on Friday and I feel amazingly at peace as I start the 2ww! Best of luck to everyone of all of us!