TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[padbrat]

Thanks carole..... so sorry you are having such a rough time with your clinic. It just shakes your faith when they aren't doing the things you think they should...

I am just hoping that these extra meds do the trick for you, please keep us up to date x

Lava I know that gritted teeth feeling you are talking about..... makes you boil inside! Fortunately, although my Mother knows about some of my m/c she doesn't know about the last one and doesn't know about this one anymore so she doesn't really ask.... though I do occasionally get the 'serious are you OK' talk which really gets on my nerves! I know she is trying to help... but my Mum is one of those who sneezed and got pregnant so she doesn't really know what we go through...

ahhh well... I guess it is a Mums job eh Lava to ask us these things and worry.... we will too one day!

 

[skye2010]

Carole, I'm sorry to hear that you are not getting the right sort of treatment. I don't understand why on earth would they not scan you? If they have a scanner it doesn't really cost them much? Do they not give you any blood tests either? How the hell would they know the dose of meds? Hope your six would grow all to a ripe size. But they have to give u blood tests and scan to make sure they all grow same size and not overgrow each other. I think you should insist being scanned every 2 days at least. If the dr promised you 20 eggs you must have had enough follicles to start with. It doesn't make sense. I completely understand your frustration. You are almost through so better pray for those loveley eggs to grow to be big and healthy and all mature.When is your EC? Loads of baby dust and growing vibes to you Hon. xxxx

Luvy it's great you had good time with MIL. Probably just what you needed. I was in a similar situation today. I made a lunch date with a good friend. But she's been saying such stupid stuff since I did my treatment I didn't feel like meeting her today. I went anyway and had a good time. )))

Lava, dunno if a smack would be helpful with some people. They just don't get the point do they? As for mum's, if your mum's not tactful about this subject better inform as little as necessary. I'm not telling my mum until she visits me in July. I don't think it will make her less happy about being a granny but it may save me a lot of hassle if there's any complications. + She can never hold her tongue. Tell my mum and the whole town would know.

Ha sounds really exciting. i've never seen any racing but I can imagine the crowd excitement which is great. As for DH, it is one of their job titles to be super annoying at times. Have a nap and you'll forget it

MA hope you get your comfy deck chair before you go all cholostrophobic. xx

Onmymind, hope the weather turned out for the better at least for the Memorial Day over there.

Debs xxxx

US girls hope all enjoyed the long weekend. xx

 

[Nikki Leigh]

Hello ladies:

Just popping in to say "hi."

Glad you had a nice ride MA. Good to see everything going well.

Hey Skye!

HA: Glad you had fun at Indy 500. Sorry about the fight with DH. I totally know that feeling--you love them, but you just wish they'd drop off the face of a cliff for like a day. Oh, no one else feels like that but me? Alrighty then.

Luv: Hope you had a nice time with the Kiwanis. I'm from a military family, and my grandfather is buried in a military cemetery. I'm proud of the contributions and sacrifices made by our military men and women.

Onmymind: Yes, this really the only site I post on. I was on another at first, but the gazillion fancy signatures seemed to be more important than what was being said!

Thanks Pad!

Carole: I am sorry things are not going so well for you. Hopefully you will get the end result you desire, even if the methods are not ideal. Thinking good thoughts for you.

Lava: I'm near you in DPO. Like you, I'm not sure how the Clomid has affected my cycle either. BFP thoughts for you! Your story with you mom is funny, but aggravating, I know. My mom generally is a hand's off sort of person, so usually she knows stuff because I tell her, rather than her asking. She has a psycology background, so she's usually spot-on with her opinions and thoughs. I loves me mommy!

Thanks for the luck and dust Pad!

Still waiting on this end, LOL. I'm only on 50mg of Clomid, so I wouldn't have expected it to change my cycle that much, but here we are, because I forgot to start opk until CD17 . The general cramping is pretty much gone, just the pulling from my right side now, especially when I stand up or move around. Breasts still tender, but totally manageable. I've adjusted my ticker to reflect that I'm not going to assume this cycle is over until at least tomorrow.

 

[onmymind17]

OMG, Padbrat, i am so sorry, i did not comment and say how excited i am for you!!! I just know this little one is going to stick!!! See i told you i have a 10 second memory lol. Well the weather in Chicago swung the other way, now we are sunny and in the 90's!!! I am so happy and will take this any day over the cold and rain. I hope all you ladies are having a wonderful day!!

 

[lavalux]

Had a nice visit with Mom today. She was on her best behavior. Managed to only mention the new baby once and refrained from going into the room with all the baby room fabric! I know it is hard for her b/c she wants a grandbaby so badly ... all her friends talk about them and show off their brag books with pictures. She tries to be supportive. I alternate between talking about it and being snippy if she asks how I'm doing so she must be majorly confused how to deal with me! Having friends over to grill out so better get going. Just wanted to check in with my preggo girls and my whatevs girls! PMA! PMA! PMA!

 

[skye2010]

Debs,
I forgot to wear pink yesterday, I'm sorry. But I remembered today I had a dentist appt first thing in the morning so I grabbed my only pink tunic shirt which is baby pink and the first leggings that came to my hand which turns out being leaf green. I look like a giant hyacinth sitting in the dentists office right now hahahahaha!!!! Will update a pict later on xxxxx

 

[caroleb73]

Hey Ladies,

I have a question to those of you who have done IVF before as I have had brown spotting since day 5 of my stimming and that is the original reason I went to the clinic on Sunday and insisted on a scan. They told me that some of my endometrium still needed to come away and not to worry. Thing is this is still happening and I did not have this at all with my first attempt in London. I have a horrible feeling that my hormones were not right to start with and that is why I have not responded to the meds and that is why I just feel like my period is about to start even though it is not supposed to be due. I am due for egg collection on Sunday but I cannot see how I can consider a transfer if my womb is still shedding even slightly.

I spoke with DH about this today and have told him that I want to cancel the cycle if this is still happening when I go for my scan on Thursday.

I did tell the doctor that initially I tried for the long protocol in London but I didn't seem to down reg on the nasal spray. He blamed it on the sprays and said he preferred the injection. When he scanned me after my period came he told me I was ready to start stimms and that no blood test was required, I did push this but he said that he could tell from the scan that all was well and to trust him. Now I am feeling that all was not well and that again my estradiol was too high.

I am really frustrated with the whole thing as I have such limited options here in Bahrain. I know that this doctor has worked for so many ladies as his clinic is always full and people tell you he is the best but I feel miserable about it all. I know my body and I know that it responds alot better to meds than this. What would you ladies do if you were in my situation and has anyone heard of this brown blood spotting through stimming?

Any help or advice that you can give would be really appreciated.

 

[caroleb73]

Had a nice visit with Mom today. She was on her best behavior. Managed to only mention the new baby once and refrained from going into the room with all the baby room fabric! I know it is hard for her b/c she wants a grandbaby so badly ... all her friends talk about them and show off their brag books with pictures. She tries to be supportive. I alternate between talking about it and being snippy if she asks how I'm doing so she must be majorly confused how to deal with me! Having friends over to grill out so better get going. Just wanted to check in with my preggo girls and my whatevs girls! PMA! PMA! PMA!

Hey Lava I understand how hard it can be with family through all of this as my brothers and sisters have all had the baby explosions and I am the only 1 left without a little one. My SIL is the hardest of them all on me and sometimes I could just scream at her but I take a deep breath and remind myself that I waited for babies for a reason as I didn't find my Mr Right until I was that much older. Then other times I just try to avoid her.

I am sure your Mum is totally ok with you probably just feels a little helpless that she can't help you more. I know that my Mum struggles at times as she just wants to put it all right for me and make me happy and she knows she can't.

This TTC journey is one hell of a ride that I really wish none of us ever had to face.

Enjoy the BBQ with friends and have some fun. Your BFP could be just around the corner for you

 

[lavalux]

Deb,
I'm wearing pink right now for you!!!

Carole,
I wish I could help with your question, but I'm sure Skye or one of the other IVF ladies will be much better equipped to answer you question. I'm sorry that you aren't feeling good about this cycle. I would usually say to trust your instinct and insist of the scans and blood tests and if you are still spotting, consider canceling a cycle if you don't feel ready. I'm sure you have a very qualified doctor and we all want to trust our doctors, but they also have to be sensitive to how we are feeling and agree to do more scans. I insisted on laying on the table longer after my IUI, insisted on a progesterone test, and to switch from Femara & Clomid this cycle and my doctor agreed to the switch so I felt much more in control of my treatment. A good doctor should understand that we need to be emotionally and physically ready.

So, AFM, I was a bad girl this morning and used a First Response home pregnancy test. I am 11DPO and not scheduled to get my blood test until Friday. There is a faint line there next to a much darker one. Two lines = pg according to the instructions. Even my husband saw the line. But I'm not going to get too excited yet b/c I've read about HCG trigger shots interfering with a home pregnancy test and I've read about chemical pregnancies. If I took my trigger shot 13 days ago, would that hormone still be in my system? I guess I can test again tomorrow and see if the line gets darker.

 

[onmymind17]

Deb,
I'm wearing pink right now for you!!!

Carole,
I wish I could help with your question, but I'm sure Skye or one of the other IVF ladies will be much better equipped to answer you question. I'm sorry that you aren't feeling good about this cycle. I would usually say to trust your instinct and insist of the scans and blood tests and if you are still spotting, consider canceling a cycle if you don't feel ready. I'm sure you have a very qualified doctor and we all want to trust our doctors, but they also have to be sensitive to how we are feeling and agree to do more scans. I insisted on laying on the table longer after my IUI, insisted on a progesterone test, and to switch from Femara & Clomid this cycle and my doctor agreed to the switch so I felt much more in control of my treatment. A good doctor should understand that we need to be emotionally and physically ready.

So, AFM, I was a bad girl this morning and used a First Response home pregnancy test. I am 11DPO and not scheduled to get my blood test until Friday. There is a faint line there next to a much darker one. Two lines = pg according to the instructions. Even my husband saw the line. But I'm not going to get too excited yet b/c I've read about HCG trigger shots interfering with a home pregnancy test and I've read about chemical pregnancies. If I took my trigger shot 13 days ago, would that hormone still be in my system? I guess I can test again tomorrow and see if the line gets darker.

Ohhhhh i have used the trigger shot with all 5 of my IUI's, and every time by 10 days after the shot the trigger is out of your system, i would have to say with 13 days past it, more than likely thats a bfp you have starting there!!!! How exciting!!!! Test again in a couple of days, it should get darker!!

 

[lynnb]

So, AFM, I was a bad girl this morning and used a First Response home pregnancy test. I am 11DPO and not scheduled to get my blood test until Friday. There is a faint line there next to a much darker one. Two lines = pg according to the instructions. Even my husband saw the line. But I'm not going to get too excited yet b/c I've read about HCG trigger shots interfering with a home pregnancy test and I've read about chemical pregnancies. If I took my trigger shot 13 days ago, would that hormone still be in my system? I guess I can test again tomorrow and see if the line gets darker.

From what I've read about trigger shots this sounds very promising, fx'd the line gets darker in the next few days & it's your BFP.

 

[Neversaynever]

Lava, I am friends with a lady in here and I'm SURE her trigger shot was out of her system by 10 DPO and her lines got darker with her BFP that month. I will go and check but I think this is the start of your BFP

Be back in a sec...

XxX

 

[Neversaynever]

Do you realise how hard it is to find a post when you really need it especially on my iPhone

And my cat has just run up my legs and back and the sting from the scratches have started, all because I was too busy on here and not fussing him

Anyway I hope this works, here's the link to all of her tests. I'm sure she won't mind as Holly is such a lovely lady

https://www.babyandbump.com/ttc-jou...d-little-honey-bean-after-miscarriage-78.html

XxX

 

[missyt]

Welcome GMATP!

Carole, I can just imagine how frustrated you are. IVF is such a huge step and you just want everything to go perfect. You have every right to feel the way you do. I'm praying for you.

FM, I hope you are feeling better.

Lava, fx'd that your line get darker and you get your BFP this month!

AFM, I'm just catching up on all your posts. It looks like I'm a few days behind. No changes with me. I test next Monday, the 6th. I was really crabby yesterday so maybe its the start of PMS.

 

[FutureMommie]

Skye- Thank you, yes you are right I did hyperstim and that is the most pain I have ever experienced. What is paracetamol? I hope you are feeling better today.

GMATP2011- Welcome and Good luck in the 2ww

Lynb- Yay for the maternity jeans!!!!! LOL

Nikki- BFP vibes!!!!!

Caroleb- I am so sorry that you are having such a hard time, I think it is very important that you feel comfy with the treatment that you are receiveing and that you feel like you have the best possible chance. I know it would be really hard to cancel the cycle after you have already been thru so much. I know whatever you decided will be best and I have my fingers crossed that you will have lots more eggies if you decided to continue. Is it not possible for you to pay for a scan to see how the follies are growing?

Lava- FX, but i agree with the other ladies that the trigger is probably gone....keep up the pma, I love it.

Missyt- Stay positive I'm rooting for you.

Hi All- Thanks for checking on me, it has been a rough weekend. After all the horrible pain on Friday, and Saturday I started to feel a little better compared to Friday but still not great, on top of that somehow I develped gas pain, and constipation (sorry tmi) I'm not sure where that came from but it just added to my misery. Sunday I felt a bit better but stayed around the house most of the day. Yesterday I felt the best I've felt since before the IUI but still not 100%. Today I'm at work and still achey and bloated. This is by far the WORSE IUI I have ever had!!!! And I'm not sure I can go through this again. My entire weekend sucked I'm going on vacation to San Francisco next week and I really really hope that I'm feeling much better. This morning I woke up pretty much in tears because I'm so tired of feeling bad and feeling exhausted. IF can totally take over your life if you let it and sometimes I feel like that's what I've done. I'm really praying that I'm pregnant but If I"m not before I can pursue IVF I have to take a break and just enjoy my summer.

Thank you all so much for all of your support. I know that I will feel better as each day passes.

 

[onmymind17]

Skye- Thank you, yes you are right I did hyperstim and that is the most pain I have ever experienced. What is paracetamol? I hope you are feeling better today.

GMATP2011- Welcome and Good luck in the 2ww

Lynb- Yay for the maternity jeans!!!!! LOL

Nikki- BFP vibes!!!!!

Caroleb- I am so sorry that you are having such a hard time, I think it is very important that you feel comfy with the treatment that you are receiveing and that you feel like you have the best possible chance. I know it would be really hard to cancel the cycle after you have already been thru so much. I know whatever you decided will be best and I have my fingers crossed that you will have lots more eggies if you decided to continue. Is it not possible for you to pay for a scan to see how the follies are growing?

Lava- FX, but i agree with the other ladies that the trigger is probably gone....keep up the pma, I love it.

Missyt- Stay positive I'm rooting for you.

Hi All- Thanks for checking on me, it has been a rough weekend. After all the horrible pain on Friday, and Saturday I started to feel a little better compared to Friday but still not great, on top of that somehow I develped gas pain, and constipation (sorry tmi) I'm not sure where that came from but it just added to my misery. Sunday I felt a bit better but stayed around the house most of the day. Yesterday I felt the best I've felt since before the IUI but still not 100%. Today I'm at work and still achey and bloated. This is by far the WORSE IUI I have ever had!!!! And I'm not sure I can go through this again. My entire weekend sucked I'm going on vacation to San Francisco next week and I really really hope that I'm feeling much better. This morning I woke up pretty much in tears because I'm so tired of feeling bad and feeling exhausted. IF can totally take over your life if you let it and sometimes I feel like that's what I've done. I'm really praying that I'm pregnant but If I"m not before I can pursue IVF I have to take a break and just enjoy my summer.

Thank you all so much for all of your support. I know that I will feel better as each day passes.

Oh wow, honey i am so sorry your feeling so bad, hopefully its all leading up to a wonderful bfp. I was lucky, all the IUI's i did i never had a problem with them, i always felt ok. I will keep my fingers crossed for you that you will feel fantastic and get to enjoy your vacation to San Francisco!!

 

[Butterfly67]

Lava - that sounds ever so promising with sight of two lines - will be keeping my fingers crossed for you and hoping that it is a BFP.

FM - sorry that you are feeling so bad, hope it gets better for your trip to SF next week

MissyT - FX for your testing next Monday

CaroleB - sorry I don't know anything about IVF but hope that the doctors do know what they are doing

and to everyone else I have missed and

AFM I am chastising myself for getting carried away with symptoms that weren't - but have never had 4 days of nausea and cramping before - and annoyed at wasting a bunch of tests and not waiting til at least the day AF was due to start testing. AF was 1 day late in the end but really messed with my head. Am determined next month not to test til AF due (we'll see).

Just have to try and keep out of my head that I will only have 5 or 6 chances and that is one gone already. This month am going to take EPO until O and also have ordered some soft cups and Ovulation test strips as I think I might have been off on my O date last month.

 

[Neversaynever]

Missy..good luck testing and fingers are crossed

Butterfly...sorry the hag got you

FM...Skye and MA also had bad gas on BFP cycle (I think) fingers crossed it's the same for you )

Carole...I have no advice as I know nothing about your treatment. What I would say though is seeing as you're paying for the treatment, don't feel obliged to not say anything. One thing this thread has taught me is that you are your own advocate hopefully this is just this guys method of doing ivf as he seems so popular

Everyone else, and

XxX

 

[padbrat]

Hahahhahhaha Skye... the thought of you sittting there looking like a blooming hyiacinth has me in bits!! OMG please post a piccy!!

Lava thanks for the pink support as well... I was wearing pink all yesterday, even though it looks awful on me hoping some of the pinkedness would seep through my skin! heheheh

But..... more importantly.... Lava.... 2 lines.... OMG.... can I have a little excited dance around my lounge... just a little one... please.....

Happy 9 weeks Lynn!!

FM so sorry you are feeling crappy... I am hoping this may be a good sign for a BFP x

Carole, I wish I could answer you... I know nothing about IVF and am a bit of a divvy about all of this...

Nikki... come on BFP!!! xx

Missy good luck with testing on the 6th huni!

Butterfly.... so sorry you didn't get your BFP this time... rooting for ya for the next cycle!

 

[Baby4MJ]

Just popping in to say "Hi" :wave: ...and that I think my membership in the "Whatevs Club" is about to be revoked...but that later...

Padbrat: I am wearing HOT PINK today - woo hoo! Just want anyone who's looking to know that we mean business when we say "think pink for padbrat!" (although Skye as a hyacinth for certain has got me beat...agreed-I would die to see a pic )

Lava: Light lines, dark lines...there are TWO lines and that's the magic number!

FM: Sorry the IUI has knocked you for a loop. If I recall, mine was pretty horrible but not nearly as bad as it sounds for you Hope you feel better fast.

Luv: Glad your MIL was behaving. My MIL I found out just grills my DH about "what is going on???" when she calls (I usually don't talk to her when she calls) and she sends random "TTC tips" emails and articles. I know she means well, but it's annoying. I've been doing this for 2 years. I've read just about every article written (I'm being mean, I know).

I know I'm missing loads of people but had a busy weekend and no time to catch up so, hello to the newbies and those I don't know, and all those waiting to test and in their 2WW - GOOD LUCK!! Tons of to you all!

AFM...I am in fear of losing my Whatevs Club membership because my damn CBFM has caused me to start to obsess about TTC (again). I was going along quite nicely, occupying myself with readying the house and garden (a nightmare, by the by...4 hours of dirt, fertilizer and a losing battle with an army of ants, I realized a gardener I ain't) so that I can get the sucker up for sale in a few weeks, BDing as per my calendar (but not obsessing...actually, I was trying to give DH a pass Saturday night because he didn't get home from work until 11pm, but he was after me by 11:30pm to DTD. I was so tired I was nauseous, but I made the https://i43.photobucket.com/albums/e367/gatsby6306/thverymad.gif BD calendar, so I've only myself to blame for that. When the BD calendar speaks, DH listens I guess!).

Anyway, I've been POAS for my CBFM and anticipating a peak as per usual somewhere between CD11-CD12...well, today is CD14 and no peak. Just all high fertility since CD8. Now I've been trolling TTC sites obsessively to see if this is uncommon, because I'm panicked that 2 years of TTC and 3 losses later, now my damn body has decided to stop ovulating-AGGGHHH! My brain is on TTC overdrive and my body is giving up on me. Not feeling very "whatevs" suddenly, so please let me know where I turn in my card....