TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[rayndvs]

Hi ladies. I am new to this thread. I have been on the IVF/ICSI May 2011 thread. The attempt was unsuccessful. I am 35 been TTC for 6 yrs. Low ovarian reserve. High FSH and low AMH. I am not giving up.
I was such a poor responder (three eggs on a megadose protocol) the Dr has suggested IUI with Follistem. It is either this or donor eggs. I haven't decided yet. I don't have insurance because I am a disabled veteran so it is all out of pocket. I have an appt with VA in case there is something they will help with. In the meantime I am taking DHEA 75mg, CO-Q 10 200mg, neonatal vitamins. Hope to increase my egg quality and quantity. Looking to start again Aug/Sept.
Good Luck to All of You!!!

 

[Indigo77]

:wave: Hello

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Welcome to the newbies.

I have two fur babies. Pekingese and a Jack Russell Terror....erm um Terrier.

I'm just warning you that once you get your bfp's you may find behaviors starting. My Jack has become a terror at times. As some of you know, we've renamed him "pee diddy" for the remainder here. He's got nerve staring right at me and pee'ing.

BUT, they love like no other and I don't think I would have made it through the hard years without these Dogs who took turns staying with me as I cried in the night when my son died, to the loneliness I felt when Doug was at work or the sadness I felt when we were childless and struggling. God just knew what we needed. \o/

Have a good weekend ladies!

 

[Indigo77]

Oh my...If I ever get knocked up...my Lola had better not start peeing inside...or, she'll be shipped of to my MIL's...JK...

I have a friend who swears that her dog knew she was pregnant before she did...Her dog started getting crazy protective of her, even barking and carrying on if the hubby got too close...something she NEVER did before...The dog sort of got in 'guard mode'...wouldn't leave her side, followed her around everywhere...and when she'd go to the bathroom without the dog and close the door, the dog would panic and bark incessantly until she came out of the bathroom...

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Oh my...If I ever get knocked up...my Lola had better not start peeing inside...or, she'll be shipped of to my MIL's...JK...

I have a friend who swears that her dog knew she was pregnant before she did...Her dog started getting crazy protective of her, even barking and carrying on if the hubby got too close...something she NEVER did before...The dog sort of got in 'guard mode'...wouldn't leave her side, followed her around everywhere...and when she'd go to the bathroom without the dog and close the door, the dog would panic and bark incessantly until she came out of the bathroom...

First, it's not a matter of IF, but WHEN

Next, it'll be interesting to hear everyones fur baby story. They both are usually around me. I find they take turns though. Max has been the naughtier one though. I DO love that little terror.

 

[Macwooly]

Goodness if one of mine guards me any more then I'll never be rid of him

 

[Dwrgi]

Hi ladies. I am new to this thread. I have been on the IVF/ICSI May 2011 thread. The attempt was unsuccessful. I am 35 been TTC for 6 yrs. Low ovarian reserve. High FSH and low AMH. I am not giving up.
I was such a poor responder (three eggs on a megadose protocol) the Dr has suggested IUI with Follistem. It is either this or donor eggs. I haven't decided yet. I don't have insurance because I am a disabled veteran so it is all out of pocket. I have an appt with VA in case there is something they will help with. In the meantime I am taking DHEA 75mg, CO-Q 10 200mg, neonatal vitamins. Hope to increase my egg quality and quantity. Looking to start again Aug/Sept.
Good Luck to All of You!!!

Welcome to the thread Rayndvs! So sorry to hear about your unsuccessful IVF/ICSI attempt. However, it sounds as if the doc has Plan B, so hopefully you will get your BFP!

I am interested in your story as I'm due to have ICSI in August, and have been told my AMH is 2.9. My doc is going to give me loads of drugs and short protocol, and she says they are hoping for 3-5 eggs, but more than likely 1-3 of good quality-so I haven't got huge hopes for a BFP, tbh. What is your AMH? Also, can vits actually increase egg quantity??

Anyway, I hope that you are okay-it must have been very difficult when the cycle failed. Did they offer support at your clinic??

You have found a supportive thread here-let's hope that your TTC journey is soon to end!

Take care and enjoy your weekend,
Lots of to you,
x

 

[Butterfly67]

Just want to say hello to the newbies on this thread - it is a lovely one tbh, even though I have not been on it for that long myself.

AFM today I got a positive on the cheapie OPKs so that has cheered me up a bit and made me hope that I actually might ovulate! Only reason to think I might not is my age really. So will be having a bit more for the next 2 days to try and catch that bean.

:wave: to everyone else, will be back at home and catching up properly on Tuesday I think (unless anyone thinks I should keep BDing for longer?!?

 

[purplelou]

Hi ladies. I am new to this thread. I have been on the IVF/ICSI May 2011 thread. The attempt was unsuccessful. I am 35 been TTC for 6 yrs. Low ovarian reserve. High FSH and low AMH. I am not giving up.
I was such a poor responder (three eggs on a megadose protocol) the Dr has suggested IUI with Follistem. It is either this or donor eggs. I haven't decided yet. I don't have insurance because I am a disabled veteran so it is all out of pocket. I have an appt with VA in case there is something they will help with. In the meantime I am taking DHEA 75mg, CO-Q 10 200mg, neonatal vitamins. Hope to increase my egg quality and quantity. Looking to start again Aug/Sept.
Good Luck to All of You!!!

Hi there!
Im new too, but this thread is full of lovely ladies, and there seems to be a lot of support here it sounds as if you have had a very hard time so far!!

 

[purplelou]

Oh my...If I ever get knocked up...my Lola had better not start peeing inside...or, she'll be shipped of to my MIL's...JK...

I have a friend who swears that her dog knew she was pregnant before she did...Her dog started getting crazy protective of her, even barking and carrying on if the hubby got too close...something she NEVER did before...The dog sort of got in 'guard mode'...wouldn't leave her side, followed her around everywhere...and when she'd go to the bathroom without the dog and close the door, the dog would panic and bark incessantly until she came out of the bathroom...

hehehe - my two already sit outside the bathroom with their butts wedge against the door! They seem to be convinced there is a secret exit out of there!

 

[lavalux]

All these furbaby stories are cracking me up. MA, how is Pee Diddy doing lately? Every time I go to the bathroom, one of my cats, Lucy, rushes to go with me. When I try to close the door, she sprints over & sneaks her way in. I don't know how many times, especially in the middle of the night when I'm practically sleep walking to the bathroom, that I've almost taken her poor kitty head off. I've been making so many more trips at night lately and she jumps off the bed, nearly cuts me off ... I am scared that I'm going to trip over her one of these days. Fortunately, she and Sasha are remembering their litter box manners!

 

[tigerlily1975]

Hello, I'm new on here, but I just wanted to say that my heart goes out to so many of you right now. I think you're all incredibly courageous and have such tremendous strength. I hope that in time, you find that peace that you so rightly deserve.

Bless all of you.

C xx

Thank you TL, and welcome on here!

What an adorable photograph-I love it! Is it your cat????

Anyway, good luck with the TTC-lets hope you catch your egg soon!

Lots and lots of to you!
x

Hello Dwrgi and thank you for the lovely message!

That isn't my kitty, but she's gorgeous, isn't she?? I have a black and white moggy called Kramer who currently lives with my dad. We're moving early 2012, but I suspect that my dad won't be letting him join us! Since my mum passed, Kramer has been good company for him, so I'm not sure I could do it even if Kramer wanted to 'come home'.

Thank you for the babydust, I think I could use some of it! I send lots of filled luck and wishes back to you!

C xx

 

[tigerlily1975]

Sorry for anyone who has read this elsewhere but - Heehee - just been late night shopping in Tesco & got chatted up by a guy!! He asked if I was single & when I said I was married he asked how old I was. I got him to guess & he guessed 23!!! Feeling pretty foxy now

Hi Twinkle

Woweee!! Do tell us your secret!!

C xx

 

[tigerlily1975]

Thanks re the pic - we certainly were having a good giggle, because we were both several pints in at that point! It was taken at a friend's party last summer, and she had several kegs from a local brewery all tapped... we had a good time that day!

So sad that you can't have your cat with you right now. My sister went thru the same thing in college, and when she finally got into a place where she could have her kitty with her, our dad wouldn't part with the little furball! We always joked that my sister had her parental rights terminated! She adopted a new kitty at that point and her old girl lived out the rest of her days with my parents.

I'm sorry about your mum. My MIL died several years ago, and we often wish my FIL had a pet - he is extremely lonely but he thinks he wouldn't like a pet. I think the world would be a happier place if everyone had a furry little snuggler in their lives.

Hello HA, I hope you're having a good weekend

Thank you for the hugs. It's been a tough couple of years since mum passed. We got engaged just before we were told her Cancer had returned and just hoped that we'd get married in time, but unfortunately it wasn't to be. She always talked about seeing me get married and wondering what our children would be like. I know she can't be here, but she's always in my head and in my heart and I just try to remember how lucky I was to have such a wonderful, loving mum.

Oh, I really miss having a furry friend to cuddle up to, I can't wait to move into a house with a garden - if we can find one in London! - so that we can adopt another. Husband has promised that we can (hopefully) have a Persian cat.. although I'm not sure I'll be able to stop at one!

Take care and lots of

C xx

 

[tigerlily1975]

Welcome Tigerlily. I have two Siamese kitties and I call them my nutty buddies b/c they are BFFs. They make me so happy. They have stuck with me through thick & thin.

Thank you, Lavalux

Congratulations on the BFP! What wonderful news and the numbers are fantastic!

I've started calling Kramer 'Chicken Chops' as my dad spoils him with fresh chicken everyday... yeah, I can't see him moving back in with us when the best we can offer is tinned cat food!

C xx

 

[tigerlily1975]

Hello lovely ladies, I hope you're all having a good weekend.

Thank you again for the warm welcome.

This weekend marked our first six months of TTC #1. If I'm honest though, the journey started 16 months ago. My husband suffers with delayed ejaculation. When we were doing our utmost NOT to fall pregnant, this was quite useful, but last year when we knew we'd want to start a family after the wedding we seeked medical advice. After a year of GP and hospital appointments we were told surgery would resolve the issue, only for the surgeon to tell us on the day of the surgery that no, it was not a surgical issue

We're back to square one, but the Drs now think it's psychological, but yet again we're on waiting lists and me and my eggs are not getting any younger. It's also making the TTC rather complicated. Whoever said to 'relax and go with the flow' needs a slap in the face with a wet kipper!

So, along with husband seeking medical help, I have to face-up to the fact that I need too, as well. Any advice as to what I should expect would be greatly appreciated. I know tests are never pleasant, but I'm so scared about results. Results always lead to decisions and that's when you need courage.

Also, has anyone tried acupuncture? I went for a massage yesterday for stress relief.. only to end-up with a male masseuse! So much for de-stressing, I spent the whole time mentally praying that my towel wouldn't move!!

Take care everyone and to all!

C xx

 

[Mommy's Angel]

All these furbaby stories are cracking me up. MA, how is Pee Diddy doing lately? Every time I go to the bathroom, one of my cats, Lucy, rushes to go with me. When I try to close the door, she sprints over & sneaks her way in. I don't know how many times, especially in the middle of the night when I'm practically sleep walking to the bathroom, that I've almost taken her poor kitty head off. I've been making so many more trips at night lately and she jumps off the bed, nearly cuts me off ... I am scared that I'm going to trip over her one of these days. Fortunately, she and Sasha are remembering their litter box manners!

Well, he hasn't pee'd in several days so that's a start.

Speaking of the bathroom. I'll be in the bathroom and Max knows how to open the door, so when my husband brings him upstairs, he slams the door open to see me so everyone can see me sitting on the toilet. NOT a modest Dog by any means.

He's been "trying" to be on his best behavior since the last behavior. Seems to be doing alright but I can't turn my back for a minute. He looks cute, but his looks are deceiving.

 

[rayndvs]

Hi ladies. I am new to this thread. I have been on the IVF/ICSI May 2011 thread. The attempt was unsuccessful. I am 35 been TTC for 6 yrs. Low ovarian reserve. High FSH and low AMH. I am not giving up.
I was such a poor responder (three eggs on a megadose protocol) the Dr has suggested IUI with Follistem. It is either this or donor eggs. I haven't decided yet. I don't have insurance because I am a disabled veteran so it is all out of pocket. I have an appt with VA in case there is something they will help with. In the meantime I am taking DHEA 75mg, CO-Q 10 200mg, neonatal vitamins. Hope to increase my egg quality and quantity. Looking to start again Aug/Sept.
Good Luck to All of You!!!

Welcome to the thread Rayndvs! So sorry to hear about your unsuccessful IVF/ICSI attempt. However, it sounds as if the doc has Plan B, so hopefully you will get your BFP!

I am interested in your story as I'm due to have ICSI in August, and have been told my AMH is 2.9. My doc is going to give me loads of drugs and short protocol, and she says they are hoping for 3-5 eggs, but more than likely 1-3 of good quality-so I haven't got huge hopes for a BFP, tbh. What is your AMH? Also, can vits actually increase egg quantity??

Anyway, I hope that you are okay-it must have been very difficult when the cycle failed. Did they offer support at your clinic??

You have found a supportive thread here-let's hope that your TTC journey is soon to end!

Take care and enjoy your weekend,
Lots of to you,
x

DWRGI - The failed attempt was tough but I was sorta prepared. I actually felt all my symptoms fade Sat and I tested Mon. My IVF journey was a rollercoaster of good and bad news. My AMH is 1.2 on my first ultrasound I had 5 antral follicles. My doc was surprised to see that many. We started on FSH 200 / Menopur 75 once a day. The FSH increased a little at the end. On my first ultrasound after stims I had 2 follies on the right (perfect size 10's) 1 on the left (a bit smaller 8). We almost cancelled but we checked my estrogen level and it was awesome. So we went for it. The right side grew to perfect size quickly and the left stopped growing. When I went in for retrieval I had only the two follies. However we got 4 eggs!! 1 actually matured in the dish lol. 3 fertilized and made it to day 5. 1 great, 1 good, 1 poor embies. I then went on progesterone IM and suppositories. But still it didn't work. According to my test numbers it looked like one tried but...

I'm not a candidate for IVF due to such poor response but my doc is confident that now that I have had the right hormones jump started it is only a matter of time. So on to IUI!! I feel like I'm going backwards. lol Most start with IUI. As for the vitamins. DHEA at 75 has been found to preserve and sometimes increase egg quality and quantity. CO-Q 10 at 200 is also being looked at for women with low ovarian reserve. You can find lots of info on it online and ask your doc. Most are suggesting it. However they also say you should start it 3 mon in advance. But remember you are being stimulated so don't worry about not doing vit.

Good luck in Aug. It is harder to go through than I thought but I wouldn't take it back for nothing. Me and my hubby are way closer now.

 

[HappyAuntie]

Hello lovely ladies, I hope you're all having a good weekend.

Thank you again for the warm welcome.

This weekend marked our first six months of TTC #1. If I'm honest though, the journey started 16 months ago. My husband suffers with delayed ejaculation. When we were doing our utmost NOT to fall pregnant, this was quite useful, but last year when we knew we'd want to start a family after the wedding we seeked medical advice. After a year of GP and hospital appointments we were told surgery would resolve the issue, only for the surgeon to tell us on the day of the surgery that no, it was not a surgical issue

We're back to square one, but the Drs now think it's psychological, but yet again we're on waiting lists and me and my eggs are not getting any younger. It's also making the TTC rather complicated. Whoever said to 'relax and go with the flow' needs a slap in the face with a wet kipper!

So, along with husband seeking medical help, I have to face-up to the fact that I need too, as well. Any advice as to what I should expect would be greatly appreciated. I know tests are never pleasant, but I'm so scared about results. Results always lead to decisions and that's when you need courage.

Also, has anyone tried acupuncture? I went for a massage yesterday for stress relief.. only to end-up with a male masseuse! So much for de-stressing, I spent the whole time mentally praying that my towel wouldn't move!!

Take care everyone and to all!

C xx

The tests for you are nothing to worry about. They'll draw a boatload of blood and check a bunch of different hormone levels. That's what you'll see referred to as the Day 3 bloods, because they have to be drawn on day 3 of your cycle. They may also want to do an ultrasound and/or an HSG (hysterosalpingogram) to check the structure of your uterus and tubes. The ultrasound is a breeze. For me the HSG was a breeze as well, but some women find it painful. I took 3x200mg ibuprofen (advil, motrin, etc) about 30 minutes beforehand to prevent cramping, and it seems most women who do that have less pain/discomfort. Someone on here took some valium beforehand... it kind of depends on your pain and anxiety threshold.

I know what you mean about results leading to decisions... my day 3 bloods are a year old and probably should be repeated now, but I'm scared to... it's easier to bury my head in the sand than face the fact that my FSH, which was perfect (even in my RE's words!) a year ago, might have gone up.... I think I'm going to go ahead with these last two IUIs, and if they're unsuccessful, redo the day 3s then to help us decide re IVF.

It seems ridiculous that they couldn't figure out that your DH didn't need surgery until the day of the surgery!! WTH?!

As our ttc journey wore on, my DH started to struggle with ED - the guys are under a lot of pressure to perform on command and it really can take a toll. We honestly felt a huge relief when we started IUI - it completely freed us from the pressures of sex by the calendar.

Oooh, I love a mansage! (man+massage=mansage in my world) The first one I ever had kinda made me feel weird, but after that I didn't care - they generally have stronger hands than women do and I prefer a deep-tissue massage, so it works for me. I get a massage about once/month, but lately I've been seeing a little tiny Asian woman named Ping who is crazy strong - I love her! Just had one with her on Friday, as a matter of fact.

 

[missyt]

Welcome, Rayndvs!

Neversay, I hope you find out soon what's wrong soon. Most importantly, I hope you feel okay.

Macooley, my 2 pugs definately make life better for me. They give me so much support, I'd be lost without them. I am more likely to take them to the doctors then take myself. I keep telling myself that I'm such a protective pug mom, I hate to see what kind of crazy, protective mom I'm going to be when I do have a baby. As far as I'm concerned those two pugs are my children, even if other people think thats silly.

AFM, my parents left to go back home today. I'm glad they came. I opened up a bit to my mom. I think she'll be praying a lot for me now. We all went to church together yesterday and I truly feel like my fate is in the hands of God now. I prayed that he would bless all of us ladies with healthy babies.