TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[dashka]

Pad - we love it that you are here!!

Chicken - I hear you man .... The co-workers are the worst - and sadly that is where we spend the most time .... sigh... can't 'delete' them..... Argh...

 

[dashka]

Dwrgi - in case you are lurking.... we miss you!!!!

 

[chickenchaser]

I hear you Dash I wish I could just delete them and Yes Dwrgi we do miss you.

 

[grkprn]

Hi girls, sorry I've been quiet, but a lot has been going on...

First off, Facebook postings. I've blocked or screened so many people, I can't keep track! The nonsense that people post is beyond me. I've even thought, "Maybe I could start a new page and be free of the nonsense!". But that would be too much work for me at the moment!

Second, I'm not sure if I should put this in a spoiler (it's not really good news). Please let me know and I'll delete the post and re-post in a spoiler. And I didn't want to post anywhere else, because....well...I'm most comfortable with all of you!

I'm getting my second ultrasound, due to moderate to heavy bleeding, clotting, loss of tissue and a complete loss of symptoms. The first ultrasound at 5w3d showed nothing at all. No sac, nothing. Just my big 'ol fibroids! The next ultrasound is Thursday morning at 6w3d. The MD thinks its a chemical or blighted ovum, since at least a sac should be visible. This is based on my ovulation date, not my LMP. Even though my HCG looks good. Apparently, it doesn't matter. So, I'm just patiently waiting (really, that's not me....I'm more like this !). And...my BBT has dropped, starting yesterday morning. I know, I shouldn't temp still, but since I've been bleeding, I feel compelled to keep doing it.

I hope all you ladies are having a better week than me .... Pad and lady H....how are you? I've been thinking about you all and what a great support system we have

If anyone has any words of wisdom (good or bad....I'm not one for sugar coating things!), please let me know.

PS...please let me know if I should do a spoiler, I would hate to offend anybody.

 

[chickenchaser]

grkprn, we are here for you honey, whatever the outcome. Personally I will be sending positive thought your way XXX

 

[dashka]

Grkprn - I'm so sorry hunny..... although I can't give any advice I'm sending you lots of virtual hugs...... xoxoxo

 

[manuiti]

Hi there lovely ladies.

Hope everyone's doing ok. I'm not even going to attempt to catch up since I was last on here being the grinch after my mc and insisting on spoilers. grkprn though - huge huge hugs to you hun, it's such a scary horrible time. And I soooo agree with Facebook and pregnancy announcements, scan pics, birth announcements etc etc. There's no spoiler option there and if it catches you off guard it's just such a kick in the gut.

Afm

Spoiler

I've been told that I should pop in and let you guys know my news. So here I am. Have a look at the spoiler in my siggy and if you want a bit more have a look on my blog starting here: https://goo.gl/NCsZv

and much love to everyone.

 

[Mirium]

Hey ladies,

GrkPrn -

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I am so sorry!! I am still hoping for the best for you though!!

Manu -

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Congrats!! All the best!!

Chicken - to you!!

Dashka - to you!!

Dwrgi - We miss you!! : &

Lils - and . Don't work too hard...

Owl -

Moondust -

Pad -

LadyH -

DrH -

Purple -

Fro -

Maddy -

Butterfly -

Asry -

Nessaw -

HA -

AFM - I am just here. My post looks strange with so many of the googly eyed waver... . I am feeling really well today. Yesterday, I didn't feel so good. I am just recovering. I haven't scheduled appointment with my RE yet. I will do it tomorrow... . Nothing much going on, on my end. All the best ladies...oh how I wish we would all get a or two.. . Hello to anyone that I missed.

 

[purplelou]

Greekporn - I am so sorry chick. its the worst feeling I know. huge and loves coming your way darling xxxx

 

[purplelou]

Good morning lovelies xxx

manu - I am so glad you made it over here to post - big chicky - I am stalking you

Mirium - you are very good to type all that out! those waving smilies look a bit sinister all together

Dwrgi - I miss you too lovely xxx

Pad - thinking Pink for you lovely, how are you feeling and how is it going??

LadyH - smoochy

Lils - hope you are not working yourself into the ground!!

Dashka - I saw black eye susans in a garden this morning when I walked the dogs - and I thought of you xxx

Butterfly - hope your back is doing ok xx

Twinks - chickie, big loves xx

Nessaw - how is being back at school treating you??

DrH - and

Chicken :Hugs: big loves to you xxxx

owl - haven't seen you in a few days - hope you are ok??

bumble - are you there?? miss you xxx

Moondust - hows everything with you lovely??

Maddy hope you are doing ok chick? xxx

Frols, Asry, DrS, Madelaine - Big squishy

for everyone else Ive not mentioned....

hope everyone has a lovely day xxxxx

 

[drhouse]

Hiya lovelies,

Manu so so so excited for you. Gkprn I am crossing my fingers and toes for you, Hugs hugs hugs.

I am working hard this week, falling asleep on the couch. Exhausted!!!! Work is full on. It sounds like I need another holiday. Purps, you are almost off for some months exciting!!!!!!

mirium good luck for the RE appt. I hope it all goes well.
Dash - your IVF date is getting closer. My RE pushed it back to xmas. I'm not sure about the diff between the short and the long protocol.
Nessaw, Wishing your new classes are good. and quiet. so that you can check B and B when you are "working"

I'm with the anti FB girls and you chicken. I can't remember the last time that I have posted anything.

I've got friends "dumping me"because I'm currently barren and hanging out with the other yummy mummies once they are preggers/with baby. fab. awesome.... we all get it girlfriends!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Love you all. Hugs Hugs.

 

[LilSluz]

Dwrgi – if lurking, I am sending you some cwtches, & xoxoxo’s

Dash – good to know dex = steroids, so he does have you covered How’s the MIL been? Ugh, I feel so sorry for you… You may need those dark choc almonds just to get through these 2 weeks So sorry inconsiderate pregger made you so upset . Its one thing if they don’t know, but if they know & still do it? That’s quite insensitive of her. But, wow, Oct is just around the corner – its going to come up so quickly!!!

Nessaw – for FINALLY getting that appt! You’d never guess it would be so difficult What a PITA

Pad – yeah, I’m glad they adjusted you to the proper gestation period & that things are looking good so far – Lucky Number Sleven, babe! Sending all of the PINK, PINK, PINK vibes ~~~~ & energy I can muster! Even meditated with pink crystals the other day & said prayers & sent ~~~ to you, so hoping for you honey!!! And btw, there’s absolutely nothing wrong w/your flashing pink banner – love it!

Moon – I love the OBX! Went there 2 yrs ago, had family reuinion & we rented huge 8-BR house on the beach (very affordable!). We actually had to drive on the beach about 15 mi past the road to get there! Wild horses running down the beach – it was awesome . So sorry due, but try to have a blast anyway honey! Bright side is at least you know you can have as many alcoholic beverages as you want.

Mirium – so glad surgery is done & out of the way & that you recovered nicely. It’s not that bad is it? Even tho I had a hysteron, it’s kinda similar. Yeah, My Dr told me everything after but also scheduled an appt within a couple of days in case I was too drugged out to comprehend, but I was totally fine & remembered everything. Wonder if you’ll get a nice 8x10 glossy of the ute along w/a DVD too? Something the whole family can enjoy for years to come! Thinking about framing mine…lol. Argh, that sucks you have to wait 2 weeks, tho! Hoping it flies by for you!

Maddy – what do you do if you don’t mind me asking? That’s got to be so tough at first, but guessing you may be used to it by now. Are you thinking about IVF?

DrH – welcome to the world of charting! You’ll get the hang of it really fast & learn a lot about yourself in the process! We will help you every step of the way, hun . We just had a girl on another thread find out after 1.5 YEARS TTC that she wasn’t O’ing. Got +OPK’s every month, dtd etc, but her bloods finally confirmed no O. If only she had temped… Yeah, once EWCM starts, I do OPK lunch & dinner/afternoon every day. Your LH surge may last long enough to catch it at any time of day, but maybe until you know, try 2x day from EWCM or 5 days before you usually O? If your friends are dumping you for having fertility issues, then they aren't worth your time or heartache

LadyH –

BF -

Fro – started “gentle yoga” & it reminds me of you everytime I go . I’m giving it a shot again as I really have to strengthen my core & now that my hip is popping during & after pwr-walk, its time to tone-up – can’t take another painful surgery… I hope you are doing well, honey

Chicken & Pad – you can choose to Hide All Posts from these friends, too. There’s actually an app on Google Chrome called “UnbabyMe”, where it inserts pics of cats, pugs, clouds, whatever in every baby pic. Probs is you won’t see the ones you may actually want to see & it requires that the pic contain a description as it works off of common baby tags (cute, diaper, etc but you can add pregnancy & anything bump related too). But, if no comment made, it won’t replace the pic… So sorry it hurts so much, I know. We can never expect someone to not post photos of their pregs/kids/babies even if they know we are infertile as they are doing exactly what we’d do if pregs/baby, so all we can do is choose to hide or unfriend & explain… And Pad, I’m surprised she didn’t at least write back

Chicken – 13 years??? Co-workers are the worst bc we are totally forced to be around them. Wish we could delete them like Dashka says or unfriend them somehow – or just see visions of cats or clouds whenever they were around!


Purps – the great thing about being on a worldwide thread & saying good morning, afternoon or night is that it will be the right time of day for one of us! As far as pregs/baby posts on FB, you have every right to post your wonderful news & be excited – you have worked so hard for this! If its something too sensitive for one of us, we’ll hide it, so please don’t feel like you have to walk on eggshells when it comes to public social media. BNB is something else, of course, but you enjoy that pregs & that precious gift you have honey. If we can’t take it, we’ll take the appropriate steps on our end

GreekPorn – Ugh, I am so sorry you are going thru this honey . It may just be me, but I feel that this is the right place to post such things as many of us have endured these struggles & miscarriage is a TTC/infertility issue that unfortunately especially applies to +35’rs! I’ve always felt that I’d stay until at least 13 weeks if I ever got that far… Its one thing to post baby names, progress, sex, u/s pics (put in a spoiler), but it’s quite another when you are going thru what may be a loss, you are confused & you need help. That is what we are here for & it is entirely related to TTC as getting BFP at our age just means that we’ve overcome Step 1 – out of about 5 different hurdles. It sounds awful, though – only post negative stuff here, but unfortunately it’s the negative stuff that affects all of us TTC’rs & it usually wouldn’t upset anyone’s feelings. Not sure if I’m saying all of this right…

As far as passing tissue & medium-heavy bleeding, I am really sorry honey that is so scary & heartbreaking. But with doubling HCG, is it still doubling or those were just results last week? When you say your HCG is doubling but nothing showing up on u/s, if there is still nothing on u/s on Thurs, it just comes to mind for me that if not even a sac, it “could be” ectopic pregnancy (or perhaps even molar pregs?)? I am only throwing this out there as a mere “possibility” so you can be informed. Its not meant to scare you in any way, just have that in the back of your head “just in case” as I would want to know the possibilities myself to be prepared for anything. I am wishing you all the luck & +~~~~ in the world tomorrow & hope its just “one of those things” & that they find a healthy bean in there.

Manu – Congrats!

Asry - How you doing honey?

Owl, FlyF, HA, Twinks, DrS, Bumble, and anyone else I forgot or who is lurking!

AFM – Sorry not getting on much, you are all right – I have entered hell-month at work! Orlando was OK. Unfortunately, DH had to work ½ the time as something came up & he had vertigo anyway. I had awful PMS & AF the whole time, which I don’t normally get (1 day max PMS) & unfort (TMI alert), progesterone supp’s made me raw/sensitive in there, so I kept tearing & bleeding on top of the AF blood & kept getting shooting pains in there along with it. But we did manage to get on rides Sat., stopped in Margaritaville & saw the Blue Man Group, which was a blast, so at least we got 1 good day in! I will be thankful for the little things today! Anyway, also trying to start yoga to strengthen my core (back probs) so between work, biz/pers taxes (still), fixing up the house & yoga, I’m pretty much toast these days. Anyway, back to the depths of hell for me, but will try to keep up & check on you guys as much as possible!

Big

 

[grkprn]

GreekPorn – Ugh, I am so sorry you are going thru this honey . It may just be me, but I feel that this is the right place to post such things as many of us have endured these struggles & miscarriage is a TTC/infertility issue that unfortunately especially applies to +35’rs! I’ve always felt that I’d stay until at least 13 weeks if I ever got that far… Its one thing to post baby names, progress, sex, u/s pics (put in a spoiler), but it’s quite another when you are going thru what may be a loss, you are confused & you need help. That is what we are here for & it is entirely related to TTC as getting BFP at our age just means that we’ve overcome Step 1 – out of about 5 different hurdles. It sounds awful, though – only post negative stuff here, but unfortunately it’s the negative stuff that affects all of us TTC’rs & it usually wouldn’t upset anyone’s feelings. Not sure if I’m saying all of this right…

As far as passing tissue & medium-heavy bleeding, I am really sorry honey that is so scary & heartbreaking. But with doubling HCG, is it still doubling or those were just results last week? When you say your HCG is doubling but nothing showing up on u/s, if there is still nothing on u/s on Thurs, it just comes to mind for me that if not even a sac, it “could be” ectopic pregnancy (or perhaps even molar pregs?)? I am only throwing this out there as a mere “possibility” so you can be informed. Its not meant to scare you in any way, just have that in the back of your head “just in case” as I would want to know the possibilities myself to be prepared for anything. I am wishing you all the luck & +~~~~ in the world tomorrow & hope its just “one of those things” & that they find a healthy bean in there.

Thanks Lils and to all the lovely ladies on this thread for all the hugs! My HCG has been doubling since I started getting tested the last week of August. I did read up on ectopic and molar (darn Google! But at least, I'm trying to stick to the legitimate websites) pregnancies, so I'm preparing for anything. My MD said that if there is still no sign of a sac and I'm still having pain/contractions/bleeding that it's not looking very good. They mentioned methotrexate and misoprostol, but I won't get into that right now

I'm just keeping my head level and I will be sure to post after my appointment tomorrow morning.

I hope that everyone is having a great day (super sunny here in MI and just a touch of fall in the air...I'm looking forward to that!) and sending to everyone

 

[pbl_ge]

Hi All,

I just made my first post in this forum on a new thread, but this one applies to me, too, so I'll introduce myself.

I'm 18 days shy of 35, have been TTC since May, and just had my first BFP and early loss in the past few weeks. I think I'm now CD1 of my first post-m/c cycle, which I guess puts me back officially in the TTC category (from Limbo Hell). I'm f***ing petrified, so am really hoping to find good support from old biddies like myself who have also had a loss. My doctor was shockingly unsympathetic, and the local miscarriage support group meets the same weeknight on which I teach, so you ladies are it for me!

Good luck to everyone here-those TTC and those with BFPs!

 

[Butterfly67]

Greek porn, so sorry also for what you are going through, it is truly horrible so am sending big your way

Lils, you and me both trying to do yoga and fix up house. Sorry that AF and prog was giving you trouble this month poor girl but glad you managed to have a bit of a good time away

Manuiti

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So glad you popped in to share your news, massive congrats to you

pbl_ge welcome and so sorry for your loss. If you can take anything from it then you were able to get pregnant pretty quickly so that was good (sorry hope that does not offend) so fingers crossed for a sticky one next time

Mirium, glad the surgery went well and you are recovering and hello to the crowd of waving smilies

Dash, damn those coworkers

and to everyone else, think that should cover all of you!

 

[dashka]

HI Ladies,

Manu -

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As I wrote in your journal - this is so Fantastic! so happy for you and praying that you have a sticky sticky bean.... Glad to see you back on here!

Mirium - Glad you are feeling a bit better - you have been through so much Good luck with getting the results from your RE

Lils - Hi hun! I wish I could make your workload better for you It sounds really hellish.... Glad you are doing yoga (that should help the crazies)... I need to start doing yoga again -my only time is the morning and I get up so early already - oh well have to make time I'm so sorry that you had such a rough time while on vacay and the progesterone sounds horrible.... I haven't used the suppositories for about 8 years and I remember them being messy and gross -but tearing and uncomfortable too -you poor thing! I hope it gets easier for you soon....are you still going to reiki night??

Purps - Hi hun! I agree with Lils - post away what you like on FB... you deserve the beautiful baby on the way and be proud....As I have said before I never have any bad feelings towards ladies on here who get preggers as I know they know what it's like and have worked hard to get there.
Co-workers on the other hand..... that's a different story....

Dr H - IVF moved to xmas? how come? yes Friends dumping you for not having kids? Are they single friends or friends with kids? The opposite thing happened to me all my friends had kids much much younger in their mid 20's so we really fell out of touch... I tried to keep in touch but they were just busy with life. I really think people are uncomfortable sometimes with what to say around us "infertile" couples.... It sucks. Hope you have that LO soon so you can join the yummy mummies all the time.

Pbl - welcome to the best thread ever!! The ladies here are great and you'll get lots of support. I'm really sorry for your recent loss....

Dwrgi - miss you hun -hope you're ok

Pad - how are you doing today hun?

Hello and hugs to Butterfly, Lady H, Asry, Dr.S, Madeline, Froliky, HTJ, Tigerlily, Chicken, Owl, Carole, Twinks, HA, Never, Bearlake and everyone I didn't mention!

AFM - nothing to report - MIL arrived back in town on Sat and is staying at our house until tonight or tomorrow then she'll be back on Sunday night... (and it will be like that every week until next June most likely) It's going ok so far but some of the small things that used to bug me are back but not too bad yet. We need to tell her soon about our plans for IVF (I'm nervous how she'll take it). My parents know and my sister... but none of DH's family know yet. I think it puts even more pressure on myself but it is what it is....have to tell MIL because she'll be watching AD in the early mornings when I get up at 5am to go to clinic for monitoring.

Think I'm going to start a journal -I need to get out a lot of the feelings going on in my head and think it will help.

 

[owl35]

lovely ladies!

Checking in real quick. I've been MIA for a while. Been sick with a nasty cold for almost my entire 2ww and it's not getting any better.
I'm 12/13 dpiui today and bfn this morning. I'm bummed.

grkprn - massive

Back to bed

 

[dashka]

GreekPorn – Ugh, I am so sorry you are going thru this honey . It may just be me, but I feel that this is the right place to post such things as many of us have endured these struggles & miscarriage is a TTC/infertility issue that unfortunately especially applies to +35’rs! I’ve always felt that I’d stay until at least 13 weeks if I ever got that far… Its one thing to post baby names, progress, sex, u/s pics (put in a spoiler), but it’s quite another when you are going thru what may be a loss, you are confused & you need help. That is what we are here for & it is entirely related to TTC as getting BFP at our age just means that we’ve overcome Step 1 – out of about 5 different hurdles. It sounds awful, though – only post negative stuff here, but unfortunately it’s the negative stuff that affects all of us TTC’rs & it usually wouldn’t upset anyone’s feelings. Not sure if I’m saying all of this right…

As far as passing tissue & medium-heavy bleeding, I am really sorry honey that is so scary & heartbreaking. But with doubling HCG, is it still doubling or those were just results last week? When you say your HCG is doubling but nothing showing up on u/s, if there is still nothing on u/s on Thurs, it just comes to mind for me that if not even a sac, it “could be” ectopic pregnancy (or perhaps even molar pregs?)? I am only throwing this out there as a mere “possibility” so you can be informed. Its not meant to scare you in any way, just have that in the back of your head “just in case” as I would want to know the possibilities myself to be prepared for anything. I am wishing you all the luck & +~~~~ in the world tomorrow & hope its just “one of those things” & that they find a healthy bean in there.

Thanks Lils and to all the lovely ladies on this thread for all the hugs! My HCG has been doubling since I started getting tested the last week of August. I did read up on ectopic and molar (darn Google! But at least, I'm trying to stick to the legitimate websites) pregnancies, so I'm preparing for anything. My MD said that if there is still no sign of a sac and I'm still having pain/contractions/bleeding that it's not looking very good. They mentioned methotrexate and misoprostol, but I won't get into that right now

I'm just keeping my head level and I will be sure to post after my appointment tomorrow morning.


I hope that everyone is having a great day (super sunny here in MI and just a touch of fall in the air...I'm looking forward to that!) and sending to everyone

Grkprn - you get your own post.... So sorry you are going through this... it must be so scary and hard to think about anything else We are here for you no matters what happens....

 

[dashka]

lovely ladies!

Checking in real quick. I've been MIA for a while. Been sick with a nasty cold for almost my entire 2ww and it's not getting any better.
I'm 12/13 dpiui today and bfn this morning. I'm bummed.

grkprn - massive

Back to bed

Oh Owl - I got excited when you said you had a cold in your TWW cause that can be a good thing (immune system down in TWW) but then I read your BFN... I am not giving up on you yet.... Sending you big hugs

 

[padbrat]

Hello ladies..

Welcome Pbl... so sorry you have suffered a loss and I know the ladies here are the best in the world!

Lils I am so sorry you are stuck in Accts hell.... and that you had such a nightmare because of the progesterone... have you told a Dr? Am just thinking for next time you will need them....

Purps! Not long gorgeous girl!

Dash and DrH I hope you get the answers you need for the IVF. And you both need to chill.... you are working too hard!!

Hello Butterfly! You need to show us your lovely home and how great it is looking!

Grk

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I have suffered a blighted ovum and it does behave like a normal pregnancy... just the baby doesn't develop. I hope this isn't the case for you as I felt so cheated! It could also be that the baby is a bit later than you thought... and on the next scan it will be there. I guess tomorrow will tell chick. Either way we are here for you

LadyH

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Hope you are doing OK

AFM

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I am OK. Still getting some spotting first thing in the morning, but less and less and actually I think the cyclogest is just irritating me. I am trying to remain positive and patient until my next scan .... Pads new mantra... Hope is important!

Dwrgi.. if you are still looking in...