TTC 40 plus!! Lets share the ups and downs!

[pdmcd17]

Misty love the walking frame comment we call them walkers here
That time frame is normal for hosp discharge - studies show people do way better at home they sleep and eat better. I can't speak for the UK health system but get her to do those exercises the physio teaches her

Pm if you have any question my being a nurse an home care case manage I could help if needed

Afm I'm spotting so af has regulated ( well this cycle). Dh had his appoitment to be referred he should here from the urologist in a few weeks for his consult appoitment
I'm starting to feel ok with it never happening even though I would still love it.
I'm still praying for us all to get that miracle bfp and baby

 

[Pippi_elk]

Misty, I'd say go for it, as butterfly said ewcm is a good sign. I notice that ofton I get ewcm a few days before ovulation, then it lessens to come back at ovulation.

Glad to hear your mum is coming home, althought you do feel its a bit soon. Think its best to get her up and moving about as soon as possible and as pdmc said having her in her home environment is best place for her. Luckily you just live round the corner....

Definatley should bd tonight before you move to your mums.


Keep checking in on us bigger...you have indeed a lot going on.


Think butterfly is spot on with the levels of fsh and Lh. Think its good to have them in a ratio as close to 1:1 at cd 2 or 3.
My tsh is also 4 but none of the fertility spec seem overly concerned....despite reading on all the USA sites that it should be below 2.5.

Thanks for all the well wishes for baseline scan. All went ok and no cysts etc. have given myself 2 injections today so think I'm getting the hang of it.
Have to go back next Monday (Easter monday but clinic is opened briefly in the morning) to check progress. Appointment is a at 7.40am which means I'll need to be up around 6 am on a bank holiday

 

[Mistyy]

PDMCD - thank you, i may well call on your expertise. I'm glad to hear your cycle has regulated.
I'm glad to hear you say you "feel ok with it never happening even though I would still love it. still praying for us all to get that miracle bfp". It sums my feelings up too. It's a gentler place to be than that awful crazily desperate one We all know it well.

Butterfly - i think you're right. It's meant to be a better journey for the swimmers if there's EWM. Swim you buggers!

Pippi - glad your scan went well. And well done with your injections! <squeemish here>
6am on a bank holiday - that's dedication ay? lol

AFM - I think my concerns about mum coming home too soon are fueled both by the dogmatic admin staff at her Book In keeping on about how ''everyone is expected to be out within 3 to 5 days as they need beds'' and also by the experiences of my friend when she had her knee replacement (in the same unit) in 2010. She had so many set backs due to accidentally bashing it in the very early days trying to cope at home, straining it and not getting much medical back up, that it has never healed properly Anyway - they're muttering about tomorrow morning as home time now, as she tried crutches yesterday rather than the frame, and she went and bashed the knee with one of them while trying to turn round. Ouch!

As for TTC - we DTD last night Thanks for the advice lovelies. I had to tell DH this is the week. Trying to find excuses to seduce him in my mums shed just wouldn't have worked He'd have thought i'd lost the plot. At least this way he knows we might have to engineer a quiet half hour at home together on Thursday and/or Friday. The things we have to do! So romantic. Not!

Love and to all xxx

 

[Maddy40]

Hi everyone....still lurking but no big developments here. On the Pill waiting for first IVF cycle to start. If this is a bust then we are done. I just feel like we are ticking-boxes now so we can say "we tried" and then move on.

Pdmcd...good luck with DHs consult and op and the process of adjusting to what will come next.

Mistyy...hope you can find the time...having the same problem here grrr. DTD to-order is not fun!

Pippi...my fertility specialist is also an endocrinologist. She told us categorically at our consult that implantation is significantly affected at TSH levels over 2.5 and she normally won't proceed with a cycle if it comes back higher. Well...mine came back at 2.7 But she's left me a phone message today saying my follow-up test didn't show an increase and since my other tests were very good she's going to proceed. I could almost hear the "but" in her voice.... sigh.

 

[Pippi_elk]

Can understand now misty why you are reluctant for them to discharge your mum, basically you feel they are doing it to meet targets and to suit themselves rather than putting your mum first.
Maybe you get your mum to play 'weaker/sicker' than she is and they'll have to keep her another day or two. ...

Thanks for the maddy. The uk doctors seem to ignore the USA recommendations and for that matter, recommendations from other continents as I see you are in Australia. Apart from demanding they treat me for something they don't think that is an issue there's noting I can do. I'll print out some relevant science papers and bring them along and confront them next time I have a review consultation. They just say its old eggs.....wish I was a few years younger and at least they could nt use that argument with me.

When do you start your IVF? I feel for us this is the last roll of the dice...

 

[Butterfly67]

Pippi I know what yu mean by the docs not being interested if you are within 'normal' levels. I have bought a supplement from amazon that I am trying, just search for thyroid supplements if y are interested. I guess it may not be great now that have started ivf anyway. I'll let you know how I get on. My most notable symptom is not being able to get warm ( I sometimes feel like putting gloves on in the house ) so I'm hoping that might change

 

[garfie]

Morning Ladies

Well I went to see the FS yesterday - at least she never put the MC down to my age fully she gave me a load of statistics and then some dates for various tests depending on my cycle dates

A blood test CD2 - CD5

A further blood test - CD18

A HSG

An Ultrasound

Clotting Blood Tests

Chromosome Blood Test

All of the above is great news and she will be able to see what is going on with my body - she was interested in my charting as well and could see just from glancing how long LP was, cycle, AF etc.

These tests are carried out in another county so looks like I will have to be traveling a lot too

For the next 3 months however until all the tests are back she has recommended protected sex in fact she stressed that abstaining would be even better no chance of an oopsie - of course I will test this month just in case

So ladies I will continue to temp as that at least gives me some indication as to when she will arrive.

And I will continue to pop in here from time to time and cheer you on but at the moment I am feeling very deflated of course I can understand the reasoning behind but............



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[Butterfly67]

Good that they are doing the testing garfie but damn having to abstain for 3 months

 

[biggerfamily]

Very fast post too you ladies let know how going..

AFM: How am I doing on TTC wise? Had a blood draw done on day 5 an the results are in but will call tomorrow an see how my levels look. See how much they changed. Today is CD8 an already been been having FUN.. so will start opk testing this weekend an BD'ng more an when get a Peak on my CBFM call RE office an then go in for IUI..

I'll post what my results is when get them. It maybe a few days before post them but will.

Still been busy but will say had to take my oldest daughter to the ER the other morning due been really sick in stomach. So they changed her antibiotics & found out her doctor was treating her wrong on being sick wise. She don't have a staph infection but a ear infection. For the other stuff it's going OK still teaching potty training for our soon be 2yr.

Our oldest had a competition today and she won 2 ribbons and now she's got another competition coming up next week an if she wins again she'll go state.

Got to run as got stuff to do once again..


Good Luck Ladies an may you get great news soon. I'll try to check it very soon again.

 

[maxxiandniko]

Back from vacation. We were in St. Bart's for a week, no twins and I missed them terribly. First time away from them. I was also super anxious (not about them) and had to wait till I obsessively worried about everything and then I relaxed. We got home late last night. Happy Easter!

 

[Mistyy]

:wave: @ everyone.

Have caught up but have to be quick as i'm half at my mums and half at home at the mo. Knackering! I so so admire anyone that is a carer full time. It would be easier if she was living here. Cant be done though, so have to just get on. She's improving a little every day. She managed to dress herself all bar her socks this morning, bless , so i'm going to sleep at home again now and go to her's for getting up, meal times and putting her to bed.

Just one thing ... Garfie - abstain?? 3 months??? - oh my lord that would be .... un doable here! I'd be wound up like a spring after a week! What will you do hun? Don't be a stranger - still post. You know this thread is about more than just temps, periods and tests

AFM - temps are up. Ov has been. I think i've covered my bases. It was funny keeping a straight face while giving random reasons why DH and I needed to 'pop home' for half an hour on those 3 evenings Ov day would fall in the very few days when we were trying to be with mum pretty much 24/7 wouldn't it? Typical!

How is everyone?

Love and to all xxx

 

[biggerfamily]

Fast post.. IUI first thing in the morning..

Next labs came back great. The nurse was shocked with my numbers for my age. So that is great..

Laters all time to rest & relax..

 

[Pippi_elk]

Glad to hear your mum is making some improvement Misty. I can't even imagine what it must be like for full time carers....definatley the unsung heroes.
she will probably struggle with socks for a long time ....Maybe get her some fur booties that she could slip her feet into herself ?

Glad to see you fitted in some bd around ovulation though.

Yea abstaination for 3 months seems quite a tough one Garfie. ....why do you have to go abroad ? Does the specialist collaborate with overseas clinics ? Well hopefully this is the turing point for you...

Welcome back max, a weeks hols sounds lovely at the moment. Would love to get away from this freezing weather. Can understand you missing your twins thought.

Great to hear you have good results bigger.

Afm.
Had my 6 day scan and have 9-11 follicles and all roughly the same size so so far so good. Appointment was at 7.40 am and I was the first patient and the room was freezing...hard to get yourself undressed and sit on a bed in the cold waiting for an interal scan !!!
Back in wed for another scan and blood this time. They didnt do bloods today as labs closed due to bank holiday so hopefully bloods will be ok on wed.

Back to work tomorrow..want an easy week as dont want to get too stressed, want to give those eggs and my body the best chance of success.

 

[pdmcd17]

Misty glad your mom is doing well!! Full time caregiving is hard I see it everyday and I can never give them enough help. Amazing what we do when ttc I'm imaging your creative excuses

Garfie 3 months wow. Pray it works

Bigger fx'd for your iui

Pipi wishing you a restful week!

Afm af hasn't showed I thought my spotting ( 1x ) was here coming. I guess my cycles still off I may test next week if she hasn't shown up I'm on cd 28 so late 4 days but not late really. No symptoms so not thinking it's anything else then cycles messed up or early men

 

[maxxiandniko]

I see 3 possible bfp's - bigger, pippi and pd
The rest of us should follow

 

[Barnabibear]

Garfie - 3 months!!!! Is this a private FS? Just wondering, because your MC are similar to mine and any info you get given would be of interest. I'm pleased they haven't just randomly said its an age thing. Why do you have to go to other countries for blood tests? Or have I misunderstood.

Mistty - your chart looks great. Clear ovulation and movement to higher temps. I see the having your DH on board has helped with timings... although your excuses with your mum remind me of last december when my folks were over for the ovulation time. Trying to make excuses for them to go out for a walk or something. Pleased to here your mum is improving.

Pippi - It all sounds good my lovely. Fingers crossed for you.

Hi to everyone else. This is just a quick post!!

 

[garfie]

Morning ladies

I'm sorry for the confusion I have caused - I have to go to another county - not country still far enough to have to travel though every appointment will take me the best part of a day

This is the NHS in Sheffield a centre for recurrent m/c - she is having to take the bloods depending upon how my cycle behaves

She recommended abstaining as less chance of an oopsie but we've only been married a few short years so I think there is more chance of hell freezing over anyway starting next cycle we have to be doubly careful - although I am keeping my fingers crossed we may have done it this month

Misty - Caring for parents is not easy - so pleased you and DH found time I bought two pairs of socks for my mum a red pair and green pair (ok she wore odd socks) but it helped to remind her which leg she had to be extra careful with - the one with the replaced hip - stopped her banging into things as much - also helped her get upstairs easier as the green sock was the first leg she used - well we found it helped The depression she suffered was quite a different thing and frustration at not being able to do what she had in the past and no matter how many times I told her it was temporary she just couldn't see it anyway in the end I rang up age concern who sent out a volunteer who explained exactly what I had but she seemed to take it better from them - also they sent a physio out who helped her with exercises and confidence building and whilst she will never run a marathon she is a million times better

Maxxi - Maybe I could be a possible BFP this month to pleeeeease (flutters her eyelashes)

Barna - I was so relieved when she didn't fob me off and I think hubby was surprised at how thorough she was being - by the way he was told to cut down on his smoking Are you still waiting to see a FS?

PDMC - Ah wow how great would that be a BFP please no early Men

Pipp - Aw good luck hun - hopefully now the weather is getting warmer haha you won't have to sit around freezing - also has anyone else heard (think it's the chinese) believe that if your feet are warm - so will be the nest? - or did I just dream up this

Bigger - Hope the IUI went well

AFM - FF has got testing day as the 10 April - so will try and wait until then - yeah right, this is the last month there will be any point in testing - anyway I went to Ann Summers for ahem a little something at the weekend (hubby went into a sulk ) - well what's a girl gotta do



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[Pippi_elk]

Garfie; Another county...that explains a lot. Let us know what tests they do and good luck.

Hope you both Enjoy the little treat from Ann summers....
I was adventurous 1-2 years ago and bought stuff but that enthusiasm has kinda fizzled out...

Oh don't count me as a bfp max....with a 3-10% success rate or maybe up to 20% depending on clinic ...Im not holding out too much hope.

Looks like your cycles are getting longer pdmc....I'm sure thats not a sign of menopause, think they shorten in early menopause...

Thanks everyone for the well wishes....ill keep ye posted but will try not bombard everyone with too many facts as its a minefield out there in the ivf world.

My electric tooth brush has taken on a life of its own....frightened us both this morning as it suddenly switched itself on in th bathroom and sounded like someone was upstairs drilling in the cabinet! Now we can't turn it off

 

[pdmcd17]

Anne sommers had to google that one- sounds like a register store of that
I am unbelievably itchy but I think it's due to a change in body soap and all the drywall mudding taping and sanding I did over the Easter weekend

Garfie love the sick idea I will use that in my job and tell me clients that idea and not only for the hip and knee replacements good visual reminder. Thanks
Keeping my fx'd crossed for everyone though

 

[maxxiandniko]

Garfie - i'll add you to the list
Pippi - those were my stats and I got twins