TTC 40 plus!! Lets share the ups and downs!

[ciarhwyfar]

Glitterqueen, I am in a similar position.

I fell pregnant around this time last year and mc in mid-February. I am also kind of afraid to have a BFP now and get a repeat of last year. I am currently a few days late but feel like AF is coming at any time so there is no point in testing. Either way, we will probably know in a few days.

 

[glitterqueen]

hey Nise hope u don't join me at all xx Yeah IVF next step hopefully March not sure of dates yet and fs is still trying to decide if I need to take tabs first or go straight for a natural cycle, must give him a call on monday
take care hun x

 

[glitterqueen]

Glitterqueen, I am in a similar position.

I fell pregnant around this time last year and mc in mid-February. I am also kind of afraid to have a BFP now and get a repeat of last year. I am currently a few days late but feel like AF is coming at any time so there is no point in testing. Either way, we will probably know in a few days.

so sorry u had to experience that to - I know what you mean about the worry of getting pg again but hopefully it was just a one off for both of us xx

 

[Nise]

Hope you don't mind me asking you this Glitter and you don't have to answer but how old are you and if your FS is considering a natural ivf cycle does that mean you get to do it with your own eggs? Whenever my FS spoke about IVF he always spoke about it in context with doner eggs even though I was found to be ovulating naturally every month - there didn't seem to be much option about using my own eggs (at my age!!!!) that went along way towards putting me off IVF, the price doesn't really go in it's favour either it has to be said! Anyway, I would be just be interested to know.

 

[glitterqueen]

Hey Nise
of course i dont mind- my fs specilised in older ladies- i turned 42 in dec. I had my first ivf in oct but didn't stimulate well at all and only got two follicles so he downgraded to iui. he did say he would try one more time if i wanted to as i didnt get to egg retrevial but he did recommend donor egg, which we will do if it doesnt work but there is an 11 month waiting list. I could get seen quicker in dublin- like in 6 weeks- but it costs 12,000 so that wont be happening. He did say everything is now down to quality of egg and hopefully if he gets a few eggs he will be able to select the best quality and it only needs one but i dont think he is very optiminstic but we both said we would do it twice and stop. Have you tried talking to a different clinic?
sorry for big long post!

 

[BBgirl]

Get this - I heard about a woman who had only one follicle from IVF, from that one follicle grew one good egg, the egg got fertilized, and hey presto a healthy baby! It only takes one good egg...

 

[Nise]

thanks Glitter - It does feel a little unfair that it all comes down to cost just coz we're a bit older but hey, that's life I guess. I'm afraid I'm not with a FS at all at the mo. The clinic I was attending was closing down and although they offered me a choice of 2 others to attend - I'd kind of had enough of them and told them not to bother as I didn't see the point in going since they'd done all the tests and found nothing wrong except that I was over 40 - If I'm gonna pay for it then I'll go to which ever clinic I want, but paying for it's not really an option at the mo. Thanks for the info, I shall follow your progress with much interest and of course everything crossed.

 

[Omi]

Hello,

well i decided to give DHEA a go as need help with the old eggs - so today day 3 and so far so good. Can definitely feel something going on in both ovaries. So fingers crossed I get a really good egg and and hopefully a bfp!

All the best bad to all!

Omi xxx

 

[inkdchick]

thanks Glitter - It does feel a little unfair that it all comes down to cost just coz we're a bit older but hey, that's life I guess. I'm afraid I'm not with a FS at all at the mo. The clinic I was attending was closing down and although they offered me a choice of 2 others to attend - I'd kind of had enough of them and told them not to bother as I didn't see the point in going since they'd done all the tests and found nothing wrong except that I was over 40 - If I'm gonna pay for it then I'll go to which ever clinic I want, but paying for it's not really an option at the mo. Thanks for the info, I shall follow your progress with much interest and of course everything crossed.

I hope you dont mind me posting but i am too over 40 (44) and have been ttc for 3 and a bit years, was told by the fs that after all the tests that our only problem is that we are over 40 , and she told us to go away and stop thinking about coz she didnt think it would happen and that was 2009, so we have been out on our own since. We cannot afford ivf and even our doctor has said that even tho it only takes one good egg it could take years and it would be best to forget about it altogther. So i understand how you feel.
But we will not give up as we believe it will happen and i have been trying soy isoflavones and it certainly does help with ov. It may be worth a try hun.
good luck on your ttc journey xx

 

[glitterqueen]

Hello,

well i decided to give DHEA a go as need help with the old eggs - so today day 3 and so far so good. Can definitely feel something going on in both ovaries. So fingers crossed I get a really good egg and and hopefully a bfp!

All the best bad to all!

Omi xxx

Hey OMI what strength are you taking. I am taking 25mg but will take it down to 10 mg cuz getting some symptoms which may be caused by the DHEA apparently it take 3 months to work i have been on it nearly two so hopefully by the time the ivf happens in march i will be full of super eggies. hope you gey super eggies too xxx

 

[glitterqueen]

thanks Glitter - It does feel a little unfair that it all comes down to cost just coz we're a bit older but hey, that's life I guess. I'm afraid I'm not with a FS at all at the mo. The clinic I was attending was closing down and although they offered me a choice of 2 others to attend - I'd kind of had enough of them and told them not to bother as I didn't see the point in going since they'd done all the tests and found nothing wrong except that I was over 40 - If I'm gonna pay for it then I'll go to which ever clinic I want, but paying for it's not really an option at the mo. Thanks for the info, I shall follow your progress with much interest and of course everything crossed.

I hope you dont mind me posting but i am too over 40 (44) and have been ttc for 3 and a bit years, was told by the fs that after all the tests that our only problem is that we are over 40 , and she told us to go away and stop thinking about coz she didnt think it would happen and that was 2009, so we have been out on our own since. We cannot afford ivf and even our doctor has said that even tho it only takes one good egg it could take years and it would be best to forget about it altogther. So i understand how you feel.
But we will not give up as we believe it will happen and i have been trying soy isoflavones and it certainly does help with ov. It may be worth a try hun.
good luck on your ttc journey xx

hope you get lucky soon- you certainly have been through it xx

 

[Nise]

Hi Inkdchick, I don't mind at all - the more the merrier. I tried soy a few months back for about 4 cycles - I was hoping it might delay O a bit but it didn't make any difference to me. I have heard some marvelous things about it and I told my FS (I was still with him then) that I was using it, he to knew about it. I hope it works for you. He did suggested if it didn't work that I maybe considered Clomid but then of course I left

 

[glitterqueen]

Nise
at least he was willing to give you clomid- mine flatly refused cuz i ovulate but I know that clomid can help give better quality of egg and when i asked my ivf fs he said i should have been given it for 6 months as a trial so dont u just love the nhs! to be honest it really is worth paying a one of private fee to talk to a fs who will speak to you honestly and is not trying to keep his budget down. My fs is really honest and didn't even try to push ivf he just gave me the facts

 

[glitterqueen]

Hi Inkdchick
our paths have crossed a few times on here- hope you get a sticky soon x

 

[BBgirl]

hi glitterqueen. My fertility consultant refused to give my clomid too, but that at a really good private clinic. He said because I have a regular 25/26 day cycle every month that I must be ovulating so it would not help me at all. It's a bit confusing isn't it? Because I'm over 40 he said it's straight to IVF not IUI which I was disappointed with too.

 

[glitterqueen]

Hey BBgirl
confusing-you bet. not even specialists can agree!! I had iui when i had to downgrade from ivf in oct and they told me then it had a similar sucess rate as ivf but with ivf they can tell the quality of the eggs , which is the main factor of not conceiving whin over 40 it is cheaper but may need many more attempts which all add up so in l the long run ivf is better.

 

[Omi]

Glittequeen, Ive got 50mg tabs so im taking one every other day. From the research Ive done it seems recent studies show that it is not necessarily 3-4 months as even 3-4 weeks have shown results.

It also shows women over 35-40 with dhea pregnancies have up to 50% decrease in mc's (which is not replicated in under 35% on DHEA once again suggesting it does produce better eggs), so all in all im pretty positive at the moment - will see if I have any luck, lol!

Thanks so much and good luck with the IVF and

 

[glitterqueen]

Omi
it certainly sounds like a good product even my fs was impressed but he couldn't actually recommend it! hope you get great results with it xx

 

[Nise]

Hi Ladies. Hope everyone is fine and dandy.

Omi / Glitter - what is DHEA?

 

[glitterqueen]

HI Nise
its a supplement that helps increase egg quality- the best thing to do is google it. it leaves the body as we get older and there have been some good results with it for fertility- mostly in usa. uk lagging a bit behind, i got mine from agestop uk but amazon also do it. there is also a thread on here about it somewhere!