TTC 40 plus!! Lets share the ups and downs!

[Barnabibear]

Hello everyone,

Thank you so much for the soft cup advice. To be honest they sound quite scary and I'm really worried once its in place it will be there forever and I won't be able to get it out. Pippi, you had that exact experience so it happens. I may try them in the future, if I do I will let you know if it was easy peasy or a bit of a nightmare. Good luck with your tests.

Mistyy - Thanks for the info on your more positive experience. I'm having a once a week session of acupuncture (just to start with), had the second one this week. I think she's insisted that I go once a week for the first month. She had a look at my charts and said they look ok so at least there's that.

PDMC -

Maryanne - Hopefully this cycle will be back to the norm.

:wave: to everyone else

On 6 DPO now. Keeping looking at my chart to see if it "tells" me anything but its pretty much tells me that yep I ovulated and thats about it. Very annoyed with my clearblue monitor because it only stays on high. Not a big help, thank you very much Mr Monitor. I often think about not bothering but I think its become part of my routine! DH is actually properly on board for TTC now which is great, before we were TTC but it was like having a silent partner now he actually talks about it!

 

[pdmcd17]

thanks everyone, i knew you would all understand. it is true i dont know what the future olds for us or anyone. i will keep my fxd for all of us

barn we close in our cycles! Im glad doh is on board now!

 

[booth19]

Sending hugs Pdmcd, know how you feel except it is one of my friends that is expecting - she is 42. She know all my history about 3 m/c but then went on to tell me how it was all a shock and she has to get used to the idea!!She has had a 12 week scan and all fine so I suppose the only positive I take is that it can still happen to us

Hi to everyone else and good luck this month

 

[Pippi_elk]

If you ever do try them barnibear, maybe just leave it in for a short time initially. I left it in overnight and maybe it moved a bit? And maybe I have a wierd shaped pelvis/vagina/cervix as when I was getting the internal ultrasound at the early preg clinic the more junior doc needed direction from the other doc to insert it. But I have probably freaked you out now so you won't be able to relax which you seem to need to be able to take it out...sorry.
I may try it again but I am going to somehow tie a string to it.

Booth19; your friend was a bit insensitive but guess she has never had a miscarriage? Don't think people realise how you never really get over them...

I got a call from my gp that I need to see her, so some of my blood tests must have come back and I suspect something's not normal as otherwise I'd hear nothing from them. I am guessing its low thyroid as a lot of my family have that. Kicking myself that I did nt ask to get tested sooner. I have an appointment in the morning so have to wait and see.

 

[Mistyy]

Yea, I thought we'd get pregnant quite quickly after the mc (as it did n't take us long to get a bfp initially) and all I could focus on was getting pregnant ASAP. However as the months tick away I realise it will probably never happen and what we might nearly have had is n't going to be reality. Wish I could get back to the place I was a year ago but hopefully time settles everything.
Hope you get through the 16th ok. One year on, hope it does nt feel as raw as last year.

Pippi - you said this ^^ a couple of posts ago. I so agree. I don't think i'll ever get back to exactly the place i was b4 the MC, but i'm allot closer now than this time last year. This is going to sound a strange thing to say on a ttc thread - but i'm starting, slowly once again, to be able to see there are actually benefits to NOT having a baby now. (financial, physical, family strains etc) This is of course sitting alongside the blind, gnawing need to get preg. again. Weird stuff

I met up with an old friend last week, who fell preg. after my MC. I havn't seen her since she was heavily preg. Baby is now 7 months old. We've been in touch by text. She was chatting about her baby, of course, and showing me some pics. I could see her watching me carefully, bless her, to see if i was ok, and y'know what? I was ok! I wan't just pretending to be ok. It was such a lovely relief, to be able to go through her baby pics without that twisting pain. 6 months ago i probably would have been in tears on the drive home afterwards. This time i was just thinking of what to cook for tea It does ease. It really does. It just takes bloody ages.

Booth I don't think people have much of an idea of how badly struggling to ttc and/or MCs can affect you at all, unless they've gone through the mill themselves. It's something both my DH and i have had to take on the chin a few times over the last 18 months, from family and different friends. It can be quite a shock, but you just have to take a deep breath and remind yourself that they don't understand. They don't meant it

Barnie - good luck with the acu. And re cups: i'd use them again - they were ok

Well - i'm CD 12 today. Expecting to ov on Friday ish. DTD last night .... so we should skip tonight and BD on Thursday and Friday really. He's no idea of the scheduling bless his cottons I just gently snuggle up at the right time

(must try to remember to do some OPKs over the next couple of days)

xxx

 

[Pippi_elk]

Gald to hear Misty you are getting to a better place, I know its horrid to feel so negative when anyone has pregnancy/baby news.

Been to my Gp. thyroid is fine BUT have abnormal prolactin levels...in the 720 mu/l (think its supposed to <500) and progesterone at 6DPO was at the levels of pre ovulation (only 2.9 and should be greater than 6).
It's a wonder i even ovulate let alone got pregnant

they repeated the prolactin test and if its still high then she'll refer me to an endocrinologist. she was n't much good at answering questions or providing me with info (my first time seeing this GP, as my last doc has just retired).
glad I asked her for a print out with all the numbers so I can do my own digging. have n't had much time to reaseach yet as I'm in work but getting noting done.

don't think i can wait 6 months to see an endocrinologist (i'm sure that is the minimum time I'll wait on the NHS)...it'll be too late then as i'll be near 43. rang my health insurance company (work pays for a basic policy for employees)....they won't cover infertility but since this is an abnormal blood reading that needs to be investigated they'll cover the consulation and diagnosis associated with this...at least some good news.
they asked me was I seeing someone about infertility..i said no, which technically is true (my gp has referred me to someone before we got any bloods done but I did n't volunteer this) but I told them the truth of why I got the blood tests done etc.

 

[Glowstar]

Masssive congrats Reb

 

[truly_blessed]

Reb. Congratulations hunny. Such lovely lovely news. You beat me to it!! Xx

 

[booth19]

Congratulations Reb just catching up with posys x

 

[Spoomie]

Today I ran my first half marathon in four years and my best time since 2005. Crossed the line in 1.26.30, 7th lady and 1st WV40. Still over three minutes away from my pb but not so bad for an old lady, and I'm delighted to have found my way back to this place. After my loss in late 2010 I fell apart, gave up running and didn't run for over 18 months. A friend told me in those darker times, "I run because I can"; today I ran because I could and because, I may not have a sibling for my precious little boy but, I DO have much in my life to be thankful for

 

[Mistyy]

Spoomie - Well Done! I'm in awe, and what an uplifting post. So good to hear you are back to running and going strong.

AFM - i think i ov'd on Sat. Normal timing, all good then.

Anyone else sick of hearing "Quarter Of A Century today since the great storm" ? Good God! I remember it well. The worst of it is - my DH was only 10 and can barely recall it. I was 20 and struggled to get to work that day

How is everyone? xxx

 

[booth19]

Well done Spoomie, great time for an old lady lolx

AFM - I'm out this month, off on holidays next week to the Canary Islands hopefully for some sun so at least I don't have to worry when I get there and may even enjoy a glass of wine at night

 

[pdmcd17]

Spoomie big congrats that is a kick arse time!!!!!
I find running helps me destress

Misty what is the big storm?
Fx'd for you in the tww

I'm finally back in track with my eating exercise and running. I even started taking my multivitamin again it is good even in the non ttc world. I'm debating taking my b100 complex as I felt better on it - I guess a road trip to the pharmacy may be in order
Af came today on time, the only good thing is if I get a bfp I won't be showing for the wedding or due the same time as my future sil

Im most likely out this cycle as doh leaves sat for a wrk trip fir 1 wk just as I enter my window ( wouldn't it be nice if I ov 2-4 days early)
We're hopefully able to book our wedding trip in a week or so ( waiting till the judge sugns his divorce till we book, as there have been too many other delays on that road )

Waves to everyone else

 

[pdmcd17]

Booth we must have posted at the same time or I missed it
Have a great trip relax and enjoy yourself

 

[Mistyy]

Booth - sorry you're out this cycle, but oooooh about that holiday! Sunshine .... sigh

PDMCD - it's a great feeling to be back on the healthy wagon, i know! (Need to pay a bit of attention to my diet myself) Well done You sound stoic about your AF - that's good. That's crappy about next cycle. FIngers crossed maybe you might ov early

The Great Storm was a big wind! Here in blighty we don't get allot of extreme weather. We do get floods and gales and heatwaves and snow - but our problems are often caused more by the fact that this country is never prepared for extremes of weather, rather than the scale of them. But that storm 25 years ago was really devastating and i think about 20 people lost their lives It knocked out the electricity for a good portion of the country and many many properties and roads were damaged. A massive old tree fell on my parents house in fact. Famously, a few hours before The Storm, the then BBC weather man said "Someone's written in asking if it's true theres a storm coming - don't worry, there isn't."

xxx

 

[garfie]

Misty - BIG thinking of you



X

 

[Barnabibear]

Hi everybody.

PDMC - well we were defo cycle buddies. AF for me today too. CD1.

Mistyy - I'm tempted to buy some of those soft cups this month, I know you mentioned you didn't have any probs. Hmmm, will I end up in A&E with a request to remove them? Lol.

Garfie - If I remember rightly it was your appointment today. How did it go?

My acupuncture has reduced my LP to 11 days from 13. I thought it was meant to make things better! Although she (my acupuncturist) has highlighted a few things and now I'm a little worried. I had a load of blood tests when I lost Archie and got a letter saying everything "essentially normal". But thats means that everything wasn't normal and so now there's questions. I know they suspect that I have sticky blood, which is the most likely cause of what happened. But now with my miscarriage (where I had no tests or explanations) it may indicate that the sticky blood was the cause there too. I do have some symptoms (its called Hughes Syndrome) but no definite diagnosis. I've bugged my GP so much over the last year or so with paranoia and grief so I don't want to ask for another test because it will look like more paranoia and she will lose patience at some point. So I'm requesting my medical notes from the docs now but wondering if I'm putting too much faith in the acupuncturist just because she looks like she actually wants to get to the bottom of things and its the first time I haven't been fobbed off with its just one of those things, and it was probably because of your age etc.

 

[Mistyy]

Barnie - Go for it with the cups i say I think it helps to expect them to be a bit tricky and uncomfortable at first, then you wont get panicy or down hearted. Allow yourself lots of time and privacy to get it out. Relax.

Acupuncture - maybe this is a one off re; your LP? My accu. used to say i had 'reckless blood' I think it took 2 cycles to lengthen my LP. He also used to say that if a woman's body is correctly in balance and she is still ovulating then she can get pregnant what ever her age. Bless him. sigh. I miss his positivity, lol.

It is good to have someone interested in your progress and sorting you out. Sometimes GPs don't really want to know unless you're 'ill', i know. They're busy people i suppose. I know you've been to your GP alot, but it's what they're there for. Maybe you could go and say you're feeling much more positive now and are moving forward with ttc, and would be grateful if she /he could just go through the results of the past blood tests with you as you don't quite understand the implications? Perhaps you can then maneuver him/her into talking about treatments or further tests. Good luck and keep us posted

4DPO here. 2ww
xxx

 

[Barnabibear]

Thanks Mistyy. You give sound advice. My af is now wonky. 1 day and it's gone. Now I'm usually a regular 5 day gal. So, LP 2 days less, period gone weird. Is this from acupuncture? Can it actually do this? Only been 3 times, but it's the only thing different this month!!!

 

[Pippi_elk]

Hi everyone,

Congrats Spoomie on the marathon...I'm sure there's a great sense of achievement.

Did you get any further with ur Gp, barnibear...with all being essentially normal but not normal? Don't know anything about acupuncture for regulating cycles, just had it done for inflammation and muscular pain. It has quite a pain relieving effect for me after one or two sessions so I guess 3 sessions could be having some effect. What does your acupuncturist say about you shorter lp etc?

Afm, ovulated last weekend although ff is thinking I ovulated before I ever got +Opk.... Just because there is a temp dip.
Going for ultrasound on Thursday so fingers crossed all ok there.
Referred to endocrologist as repeated test still shows elevated prolactin.l ended up having the appointment on the same day as the day we got called to fertility clinic ( only had to wait 2 months on NHs for appointment wih fertility clinic which is great)...so we'll be pretty sick of docs that day!
Hope I come away with some plan of action.