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[aaronswoman79]

Thank you. I like the way you think Amy. Good luck with those test strips.

DH just walks in and says he is going to run 10k tomorrow morning with his buddies...he forgot about our appointment to look at my follicles!! It's all I could think about this past week and he forgot? Really? How do you forget? Its the air I breathe? It's hope. I'm crushed. Am I alone in this endeavor?? Seriously...do I remind him or not? Stubborn Angel says: go alone, that'll make him feel [----this big---] when he gets home and remembers. TTC Angel says: He needs to hear it from the oracle or he'll NEVER believe its "go" time! Grrr. Men!!

I don't know what is wrong with men. Seriously. I don't know if there is a communication gap or what. I feel it with my dh too. He is not on board with a lot of this. This month was our first month trying and by the first try at bd he was already complaining and saying that this feels like a chore blah blah blah. And I told him, I just went through a traumatic mc, and this the first time we have ever had planned or timed sex, the first night he was already complaining. And he has already warned me saying, "Even if you don't tell me that you are ovulating or try to hide it from me, I am going to know, because I already know when you have your period, and your ovulation comes about 2 weeks after your period." He said something to that sort. That is why I am dreading getting af because I know once I get close to ov he is gonna know to and he already is so negative about it all.

 

[xoxo4angel]

Hi Jessica. See now Amy, Natasha, you and I are all having annovulatory fears! And the three of you are still in the TWW. Fx for you. I have to believe this will happen for all of us!

Psst...Bethany, what's for dinner? My DH is on his own tonight, so I'll live vicariously through your menu this evening. Hehehe!

 

[aaronswoman79]

I'm stewing! And after such a nice lunch earlier. You guys are right. I should tell him...I wish I were one of those who could wait until after he gets up, starts calling the guys to rally for a 7am run, get prepped to go, then (sound effect) YANK! Take the wind from his sails as he has done mine! Would be nice...but I'll cave because I've got my eye on the prize (even if DH forgets once in awhile!). Feeling deflated...

Just tell him to skip the 10k run that he will be burning enough calories when both of you start bd!!!

 

[lilesMom]

gotta go, series 5 bbt yey

 

[xoxo4angel]

Jessica, I feel your pain! I slipped and cried to the RE about "torturing" my DH with BDing and she said to him, "if this is the case and you feel tortured, we should have you looked at!" haha! DH hasn't complained since...prob cause he knows I'll tell on him and she'll jump to IUI!

 

[Storked]

Angel, broccoli cheese soup! My DH is less than happy because he hates cooked broccoli. Don't care

Jessica, my DH doesn't like to feel like it is planned either. I have a devil of a time trying it every other day because it is odd if I am not constantly asking for sex. I just don't want him to run out of sperm. This may be a stupid fear but I still want to try every other day :-/

 

[xoxo4angel]

Laura. Just finished TBBT! I love Raj! I've missed this show.

Bethany that's my favorite soup! My DH is the same about any cooked veggies! Loves them raw, but not a fan of cooked!

I know Jen gave some great tips for keeping the BDing romantic, but Like Amy said, DH is still "on to me." He knows when I start initiating regularly that I'm up to something...

Good luck Amy and Natasha in the morning...hope you get your BFPs!

Jen. Enjoy the start of your weekend!

Jessica. Told him the BDing would make up for him not running.
Me: Honey you don't need to run because the next few days I'm going to wear your booty out!
DH: Bring it! Why do you think I started running again...<devilish grin>
I do hope he holds me to it! Hehehe!

Horsey, Danni, Crystal, Doggie hope all is well! Fx that things start going your way!

 

[aaronswoman79]

Laura. Just finished TBBT! I love Raj! I've missed this show.

Bethany that's my favorite soup! My DH is the same about any cooked veggies! Loves them raw, but not a fan of cooked!

I know Jen gave some great tips for keeping the BDing romantic, but Like Amy said, DH is still "on to me." He knows when I start initiating regularly that I'm up to something...

Good luck Amy and Natasha in the morning...hope you get your BFPs!

Jen. Enjoy the start of your weekend!

Jessica. Told him the BDing would make up for him not running.
Me: Honey you don't need to run because the next few days I'm going to wear your booty out!
DH: Bring it! Why do you think I started running again...<devilish grin>
I do hope he holds me to it! Hehehe!

Horsey, Danni, Crystal, Doggie hope all is well! Fx that things start going your way!

How cute Angel. I feel if we are playful with them about the bd like you just were, maybe it will take the pressure off a little? So your birthday is next month? How do you plan to celebrate (besides the bding) ?

 

[aaronswoman79]

Anyone have experience with those dollar tree tests. I was just doing research about pregnancy tests and some say the dollar tree are pretty good and just as sensitive. Anyone ever use those ones?? I am not sure If I want to invest in an ept one yet. I am getting worrisome mild cramping that I never get before af, so I am not sure if now my cycle has changed and maybe I am starting to get mild uterus cramps a week before my af. I hope this is just a one time thing with the cramps!!

 

[xoxo4angel]

Several women I know used the dollar store hpts and got BFPs...I read somewhere they too have a 20-25 mIU sensitivity. And cramps?? Could be a good thing...

Yes, another birthday! October is a good month...I've stopped counting how many times I've turned 29! Haha! Normally we take a trip, but DH is going to be gone...my niece turns 16 the day before my birthday, so I might just go celebrate with her! If I O on schedule I'll test a week before my birthday, so at least I'll have the all clear for some vino or the even better, much awaited, over due and longed for BFP! So In a way it's a win-win...

 

[aaronswoman79]

Several women I know used the dollar store hpts and got BFPs...I read somewhere they too have a 20-25 mIU sensitivity. And cramps?? Could be a good thing...

Yes, another birthday! October is a good month...I've stopped counting how many times I've turned 29! Haha! Normally we take a trip, but DH is going to be gone...my niece turns 16 the day before my birthday, so I might just go celebrate with her! If I O on schedule I'll test a week before my birthday, so at least I'll have the all clear for some vino or the even better, much awaited, over due and longed for BFP! So In a way it's a win-win...

Thanks Angel. I just realized I might of miscalculated when I ov, so I probably am out for the month. I am going to buy some of those cheapie tests, and test starting tomorrow, and I am definitely expecting a bfn, seeing as how it is way too early. I know I am setting myself up for failure, but I have this urge to poas that is so bad, I just have to. I think I might have ovulated way later than the last day dh and i bded. Oh well, next month I might just buy the opks!! So what kind of wine oo you prefer? Do you like doing wine pairings? Wine and cheese, or maybe dessert wine? I really feel like some nice wine right now, but I won't just in case by some freak chance that I am pregnant.

 

[xoxo4angel]

Woahh...miscalculated O? How so?

I'm a fan of Merlot or Cab Sav...I tend to switch with the seasons though red in winter, white in summer. I do love a good cheese with my wine, but try not to indulge too often (in the cheese that is! Lol!). How about you? I think it's early enough you can have a glass to relax yourself!

 

[aaronswoman79]

Woahh...miscalculated O? How so?

I'm a fan of Merlot or Cab Sav...I tend to switch with the seasons though red in winter, white in summer. I do love a good cheese with my wine, but try not to indulge too often (in the cheese that is! Lol!). How about you? I think it's early enough you can have a glass to relax yourself!

long story, but when I got pregnant last, the whole time I could never remember when my last af was before pregnancies, that tells you I never kept track of anything until now. I just remembered today when I got my last af in March, and guess what, I ovulated like day 20 I believed, because my husband and i bded on the 19th day of my cycle, which means I dont think his little swimmers would have survived long enough this time, because the last time we bded was on day 18 of my cycle.

I am also a fan of a good cabernet, I also like this one wine I forgot the name but it is a mix of Cabernet Sauvignon, merlot, and I think sheraz, it has a sweet after taste, man i miss that wine. I know they sell it at Trader Joes. I also like a lighter white wine in the summer. I love a good moscato for dessert wine, but don't like it incredibly sweet. There are a lot of good wineries close to where I live (napa, sonoma area) and can you believe I have never been wine tasting or even visited a winery? As for cheese don't get me started, we use to make cheese plates along with the wine, accompanied by spreads and fruits!! In the winter I enjoy making a good fondue, my kids love it too. Now I am hungry now. I would like to think I am thinking so much about food because I am pregnant, but who doesn't love food. lol.

 

[jen435]

amy I am so sorry That first response yes/no kit you have is great!! Its what I used last time I got pregnant and this time. So as soon as you get that YES bd a ton!! It really works. Also watch your those lines on the insert test strip. Bethany is right EVERYONE WILL have their rainbow baby!! I have faith!!!

Update: Amy that pink stuff is EXACTLY what I had It took 6-7 days after to get my BFP. Maybe its on the way. Stay hopefull!!! Fxd for you! October will be Everyones month of not this cycle. Just has to be!

Jessica those dollar store tests 50-100 miu they test for hcg at. Not very sensitive at all. I never had any luck with them. The thin ones are less sensitive then the thicker ones they have. They usually smear etc. But I know the internet cheapies are cheaper and better. Some ppl have good luck with them though!! I have yet to get a bfp now with a dollar store one though clearblue and store brands are all positive... Maybe the dollar store dont like me haha youll get your bfp... Fxd for you!When do you test? Also O is hard to predict cover your bases and dont stop til a week before AF. it gets exhausting though but soo worth it. You ladies all know!

Angel Sounds like you and DH are gearing up So excited for you!! Its fun to make it a game. Yay for your birthday!!! Sounds like you have a great plan!! Just think you can celebrate either way but it would be more fun with a bfp and a shirley temple or virgin strawberry daquiri!!! Fxd that you get an AWESOME birthday gift!!


Natasha laura is correct. You cant tell by your temperature if your not taking it for cd 1 when af starts. Try to stay calm let your body be a baby friendly environment. The wait is very hard I truly know. I added an extra bd week onto when I thought mine started and thank god I did because I did O late even after a positive opk. So thankful for digital opks. Anyways your not out this cycle and your bfp is coming. Hang in there.

Laura yay!! For good liver news!!! Did you have your scan as well? So glad they FOUND your bloodwork. Idk what took them sooo long to begin with! Also your list sounds great!

Ladies!!! Alot is happening and im excited for some more bfp's!!! We are all in this together!!

 

[jen435]

Danni I believe I missed your birthday. I am sooo sorry HAPPY BELATED (?) BIRTHDAY!!! (I hope I didnt get this wrong). I hope you had a good one! How are you?

Horsey how are you? Where are you at in your cycle? TWW correct? Fx for your bfp!!

Bethany where are you in your cycle? Are you trying anything different this time? I think I recall you saying everyother day this time but cant recall. Fxd for your bfp this cycle. I have soo many prayers being said for all of you ladies!!

Anyone I forgot im sorry! I sincerely tried my best to play catch up on a gillion pages I love how you ladies talk!!

 

[mommylov]

amy I am so sorry That first response yes/no kit you have is great!! Its what I used last time I got pregnant and this time. So as soon as you get that YES bd a ton!! It really works. Also watch your those lines on the insert test strip. Bethany is right EVERYONE WILL have their rainbow baby!! I have faith!!!

Update: Amy that pink stuff is EXACTLY what I had It took 6-7 days after to get my BFP. Maybe its on the way. Stay hopefull!!! Fxd for you! October will be Everyones month of not this cycle. Just has to be!

Jessica those dollar store tests 50-100 miu they test for hcg at. Not very sensitive at all. I never had any luck with them. The thin ones are less sensitive then the thicker ones they have. They usually smear etc. But I know the internet cheapies are cheaper and better. Some ppl have good luck with them though!! I have yet to get a bfp now with a dollar store one though clearblue and store brands are all positive... Maybe the dollar store dont like me haha youll get your bfp... Fxd for you!When do you test? Also O is hard to predict cover your bases and dont stop til a week before AF. it gets exhausting though but soo worth it. You ladies all know!

Angel Sounds like you and DH are gearing up So excited for you!! Its fun to make it a game. Yay for your birthday!!! Sounds like you have a great plan!! Just think you can celebrate either way but it would be more fun with a bfp and a shirley temple or virgin strawberry daquiri!!! Fxd that you get an AWESOME birthday gift!!


Natasha laura is correct. You cant tell by your temperature if your not taking it for cd 1 when af starts. Try to stay calm let your body be a baby friendly environment. The wait is very hard I truly know. I added an extra bd week onto when I thought mine started and thank god I did because I did O late even after a positive opk. So thankful for digital opks. Anyways your not out this cycle and your bfp is coming. Hang in there.

Laura yay!! For good liver news!!! Did you have your scan as well? So glad they FOUND your bloodwork. Idk what took them sooo long to begin with! Also your list sounds great!

Ladies!!! Alot is happening and im excited for some more bfp's!!! We are all in this together!!

Thanks Jen. Had quite the emotional evening. Cried in the car on the way home and when dh came home. We didn't even go out to dinner for date night because I couldn't get it together. He was so sweet and understanding but I just needed to let it out.

I told him what you said about the pink stuff and he asked when you had that which is a good question. Since I will be 14dpo tomorrow, I don't think it's any kind of ib or anything. Although I haven't seen anymore since that one little spot this afternoon.

I hope you ladies have a wonderful night/day

 

[mommylov]

Several women I know used the dollar store hpts and got BFPs...I read somewhere they too have a 20-25 mIU sensitivity. And cramps?? Could be a good thing...

Yes, another birthday! October is a good month...I've stopped counting how many times I've turned 29! Haha! Normally we take a trip, but DH is going to be gone...my niece turns 16 the day before my birthday, so I might just go celebrate with her! If I O on schedule I'll test a week before my birthday, so at least I'll have the all clear for some vino or the even better, much awaited, over due and longed for BFP! So In a way it's a win-win...

Thanks Angel. I just realized I might of miscalculated when I ov, so I probably am out for the month. I am going to buy some of those cheapie tests, and test starting tomorrow, and I am definitely expecting a bfn, seeing as how it is way too early. I know I am setting myself up for failure, but I have this urge to poas that is so bad, I just have to. I think I might have ovulated way later than the last day dh and i bded. Oh well, next month I might just buy the opks!! So what kind of wine oo you prefer? Do you like doing wine pairings? Wine and cheese, or maybe dessert wine? I really feel like some nice wine right now, but I won't just in case by some freak chance that I am pregnant.

Me too Hun, I will be using my opk next cycle. I really am still keeping my fingers crossed for you for this month though. I think you still have a good chance!

 

[mommylov]

I just ordered the ones Angel got.. I read your post after I clicked order Oh well, Ill join Bethany, Angel and the rest of the girls in Oct Maybe it will be a nice, late anniversay gift?

Count me in too Amy, if this is indeed your af. I think I will be joining the rest of the girls in OCT. also! I am getting af like cramping, and have increase in cm. I am so stupid to think I could have gotten pregnant right away. Maybe I am not even fertile anymore, I have a feeling I am not even ovulating. I wish to God I could have my other ovary back!

You know I just thought about something Jessica, the lady that was taking my blood after my mc was in the same position as you. I was sitting there crying as she was doing it because it was the next day and she asked and I told her about the mc and her response was "Oh honey, I had 2 mc, a bicornuate uterus and one ovary and went on to have my 2 beautiful girls. It will happen". She was so sweet and gave me hope! Hope that gives you hope too

Thanks Amy, this does give me hope. I am just so worried because I just turned 33, and with only 1 ovary I am scared I am running out of time.

Awwww I just turned 32 and have the same fear but then I think of all the people I know having babies in thier 40's and it inspires me! You will have your rainbow baby....hang in there

 

[jen435]

amy it happened almost when my af was due also. IB happens a day or so after implantation. Maybe you didnt Ovulate exactly when you think you did. Implantation is between 6-10 dpo. Maybe you really arent 14dpo and are only 11-12... Fxd amy for that bfp. I was scared af was starting to but that pink was so pretty wasnt it? If it was brown or red then I would think Af. Ill be staying positive for you. (btw implantation that happens too early isnt always good so later could mean safer)



I am praying for you!!!

 

[jen435]

Amy it also took 6 days to even get a faint positive hpt after that spot so dont drive yourself crazy if no AF. Just wait it out. It could be a bfp in a few days. Oh the lovely wait again.... (even my blood test at 5 days after IB was hardly a positive.)