ttc after a d&c

[aaronswoman79]

Oh and I forgot to mention, the same day that I had the miscarriage, the genetic counselor called me and guess what, my chances of Trisomy 18 went from 1 in 100,000 from the first blood test to 1 in 8 from the last blood test. They have no idea how this is possible. So were are awaiting the pathology of my baby to come back. The doctors think either one of two things. My son was growing healthy and then he started declining slowly at about 15 weeks, or he had trisomy 18 and for some reason the first blood test and ultrasound didn't show anything.

 

[jen435]

Arronswomen there are no words to express how truely sorry I am to learn of your loss and how traumatic it was. Your story brought tears to my eyes. Please don't blame yourself for what happened. You are still young and people your age go off all the time and have healthy baby's. Please find some comfort that your son is okay and that he may have been saved from suffering here on earth. As much as it hurts he wants you to be strong and happy. I wish you all the comfort you need to move forward and to believe you can have a healthy pregnancy again. Thank you for sharing your story with us and please feel free to vent as much as you need. Everyone on this thread is here for you!

 

[Storked]

Aaronswoman I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet boy. I also cried when I read your post...and I feel so angry that you weren't given any answers when asking about the baby

 

[lilesMom]

oh aarons woman , u poor thing, how awfull, i am so so sorry for ur loss, vent away, its what we r all here for to get it all out and to get some support. u r not alone, it can feel that way sometimes but we r all in the same boat. the edge goes off the pain over time and u will feel better , not that it feels like it now but u will. my heart goes out to u reading ur story, i couldnt read anymore before answering u xxxx
take care if urself, take it easy and dont put any pressure on urself abut anything, take ur time and build urself back up again emotionally and physically , big hugs and loads o love xxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

sorry for my ignorance but i got request on fb from someone and wanna know who it is here, initials g. s. dont wanna put a name. xxxxxxx sorry im not sure who it is xxxx

 

[lilesMom]

aarons woman, u may feel like u never can stop crying at times or be too numb to cry, all is normal and i promise it does get easier with time, i will always miss my baby but i can think of her with love now , not regret xxxxxxxxxx i wish i could propery help u , if u have any qs or want to whinge we r here xxx

 

[lilesMom]

jen request showed up, hey friend

 

[jen435]

yay!

How is everyone?

 

[Storked]

Friend me Jen! Laura, GS is mommy

 

[Storked]

Well for the first time last night I tried out a steam room and sauna. Oh holy armpit STINK.
Other than that I have no news hehe. CD 4 here

 

[jen435]

Bethany i did they are nice arent they? Be carefull with heat if ur ttc. It causes defects to swimmers and can kill them. Not to sure if it affects.the eggs but i have a hot tub and havent used it since ob said.no.hot baths when ttc. Boy do i miss using it thou so does dh!

 

[Storked]

I accepted! Yay! Thanks Jen
Yeah I am still on the period (thought I was done this morning but not quite yet) so I may enjoy it tonight too. After that I will be cautious
Honestly I am not sure how I feel about working out hard while TTC. I haven't worked out every day in a while but I can still go hard on the elliptical for an hour and a half. But don't think I want to just in case. What about you guys?

 

[jen435]

If your body is used to running go for it just be easy on yourself just incase. I don't think working out can hurt. I'd just avoid your abdominal area

Lots of babydust to you! Hopefully you'll be pregnant soon!

 

[jen435]

Amy Laura horseypants how are you?

 

[mommylov]

Hi girls!! So much to catch up on! First off, welcome Aaronsmom and so sorry you are joining us under these circumstances My heart goes out to you and I am so so so sorry for your loss and all that you had to go through. I cant imagine, what a nightmare. Hugs to you doll and if you ever need to vent, we are totally here for you! Hang in there... time does help heal and this thread is filled with some amazing woman that know how you feel and are here for you.

Laura, so sorry but yes GS is me! lol Thanks Bethany for comfirming for me heheh. So glad we are all FB buddies ! Your guys' posts are so funny and love the pics... such a great group of beautiful ladies! How are the meds coming along? Hope you are feeling much much better!

Bethany, how are you girly? I too havent read any books on MC... thought I wouldnt be able to handle it but now hearing what you are saying... Im thinking about it.

Jen, hiya! Im doing well, how are you deary??

DH and I went out on a heli tour of the rocky mountains yesterday which was pretty cool . My bff bought it for us and when we were going to go I found out I was pg so we postponed it. It was nice to get away and do something.

How is everyone doing? Hope everyone is having/had a great weekend!

 

[mommylov]

Oh Bethany, I too joined a gym...well kinda lol. So I have bought these "aqua natal" passes and was going to start a fitness class for pregnant woman and woman that just gave birth. It is at my local gym but the day after I bought it, we found out we mc so obv I didnt go. I decided to still go to the gym and swim laps instead so Ill be starting that this week... hopefully! I talked to DH the other night and he said that he wants to try again asap (bummed knees and all lol). I told him that Im glad he is on board but I still want to wait until next month to see if AF shows up. If AF comes, then we can officially start again! Im wondering if joining a gym and wanting to get back into the routine of getting into shape and what not is part of the healing process. Just thought it was kinda funny that we both jumped on the gym boat! hehe

 

[Storked]

I don't work out my abdominal area so we are good! I have always just done the elliptical and avoided strength training because I hate it so I have asthma and elliptical is easy for me to do but treadmill is too much. But all of my fit friends and my fit husband cannot last on my machine. Proud moment!
I hope we all get pregnant soon
Amy, I just read two. The religious one was a bit too...well I don't normally do religious books that aren't Buddhist. My own religion bores the heck out of me but the science one was fantastic! Still slow going because it is a hard thing to read about. But glad I read it. If you go that route, I'd suggest that one. I am so sad that you never got to swim for natal classes! I had just bought DVDs for pregnant women on this end when I found out. They are still unopened, on my DVD shelf. But the gym does feel like things are becoming normal. Bearable even! Feeling good! And so glad your DH is game for TTC even though he isn't feeling well
Oh and thanks for saying I'm funny! I try hehe. Sadly, my family never has as much freedom to be our hilarious selves online because we are FB friends with too many Mormons who see us on Sunday and think...that we are the same political party and have the same sense of humor hehe

 

[mommylov]

Awwww booooo, well I love humor!!!! Life is serious enough right??

 

[jen435]

I'm so sorry you didn't get to take your prenatal swim classes also. Swimming is great! I have a pool in my backyard and will be so sad when we have to close it in a few weeks. I usually go to the YMCA during the fall winter but I think I'll join after I have a baby since they don't have prnatal classes available and i really want this pregnancy to workout. Don't wa t to do anything to jepardize it.obgyn did give me stretches to do though and i still do them

Amy so glad dh decided to try again. He is a champ!

I ate sooo much today! Steak, chicken, potatoes, mixed orientatal vegs, corn on cob, almonds, cake,roman noodles, 4 cheese strings, fruit snacks, Cheetos, etc... its crazy! I think I'm getting anxious about taking a pregnancy test or af showing up. I really really want a baby this cycle and I'm so scared to be disappointed. I'm trying to tell myself we can always try again next cycle but then it won't be a may baby

 

[Storked]

Right on Amy!
Jen, YUM! I understand being scared to test- yes there is always next cycle but that doesn't make you want a baby any less NOW. Hope good things come your way dear