ttc after a d&c

[Storked]

Thanks for the recommendation Posey! My DH loves nuts- I buy him the mixes so he won't eat all of our cereal when he wants a snack hehe
I really hope that it wasn't a fluke temp
About me...well, I am Bethany and I live in Texas! I got married February 25th (previous marriage to HS sweetheart. I am only 24 and childless) and my DH and I started TTC straight away. I was actually ovulating on our wedding night and hit the jackpot! Things were going great, lots of symptoms, but at our first ultrasound at 10 weeks we found that our baby had died. I didn't start losing my baby until 12 weeks. I was bleeding a ton and my hubby rushed me to the doctor. I collapsed in the office and they rushed me next door to the hospital and gave me a D&C even though I had almost everything at home. Now I am just trying again! I have a clotting disorder which may or may nt have had something to do with my loss. It also could have been chromosomal abnormality...wasn't really anything for them to test by the time of my D&C. It really bothers me that I don't know the gender or what went wrong but can only be careful for that rainbow baby!

 

[Storked]

Oh and I want as many as possible at this point hehe. The only one of my sisters to have miscarried (4 times) just had her fifth kid and I think she is in the same mindset as me

 

[horseypants]

hi ladies, im not caught up with my reading but had a lovely weekend. work's not so bad today. af is visiting. I HATE HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!! onward

 

[Storked]

Horseypants, this is a sign that you are destined to get pregnant along with all of us! Is that a bright side or do you want to throw a shoe at me? I hate that old witch too

 

[horseypants]

total bright side! i have been telling myself the same thing. i will have real bump buddies. xo

 

[jen435]

Yes yes no more old witch for anyone!!! Laura can't wait to say that for you too!!! Oh I ment to tell you in last post obgyn said grapefruit juice and tons of water long term drinking it daily helps increase ewcm and fertility. Laura you should maybe add a daily drink perhaps? That way when you get your go your chances increase in a healthy way? Just an idea. Not sure if your already doing stuff. I just want you pregnant with us

Horsepants so glad you had a great weekend!!! I'm so sorry about af but I'm glad your looking at the bright side! We will be testing together again at same time We can chart stalk again too. Will out be trying anything different this cycle?

Tons of babydust to everyone!!! Even you Laura I'm cheering for fast positive results from that blood work

 

[jen435]

Pose good luck with your high temp raise babydust for your bfp! Really hope you get it!

As for me I'm 28. In Oct i will be married to dh for two years. We have a doggy that we got in Oct and our first child was due Oct 15th 2012. We ttc for 14 monthes fell pregnant in feb finally. We had to terminate the pregnancy due to heterotaxy syndrome and hypoplastic left ventricular heart defect at twenty and a half weeks pregnant. Now im on my fourth cycle ttc our first child and I'm so glad to have you ladies to continue this journey with for our rainbow babies! Its going to happen soon I have faith!

 

[jen435]

Bethany one healthy baby that i can hold in my arms and nuture is all I want. If i have any more they will all be blessings! After a loss I think your right any amount is just fine. Though I'm sure I'd have to stop at 4-5. And I only say that due to the fact multiples run very much in dh and my family.

 

[Storked]

Jen you have a history of multiples? I am jealous! I had very vivid dreams of multiples after my D&C...did you?
I drink water but I may need to try the grapefruit juice!
to all of us!

 

[horseypants]

I'm going to start taking prenatal vitamins again this cycle .

 

[Storked]

Yay!

 

[jen435]

Good choice horseypants! Prenatals are so important to prevent defects. Though my son had sooo many and I took them 13 months before falling pregnant. Who knows.

I'm drinking grapefruit juice also since i drank it Dec Jan and had bfp in early Feb it could of helped. Its natural so why not. Avoid pineapple though it drys cm. How can something so yummy use fertility issues is my question. Yet if you eat the core 1-5dpo its suppost to help with implantation. Just don't get it. Does anyone know any other good foods or stuff to avoid? I questioned my doctor like crazy. She told me dairy products like whole milk is very good too but didn't explain why... all well

 

[jen435]

Bethany yes we do! My dads mom (my nanny) had two twin boys though one passed away at birth she named him Timothy and she never forgot her angel. It crushed her to lose him. We know how she felt though
Then my aunt had em but I only met them once BC they moved away when i was little.. They where two identical girls and a boy.
My husbands moms sister had twins too one boy and a girl. Then my husbands cousin had twins (on his moms side) two identical girls. One passed away shortly after birth. But I tell you what that sweet little girl plays and talks as if her sister is with her. Its amazing to watch her sometimes. I know other ppl in our families had multiples to but these are the closer family.

Maybe you'll have twins! I heard that ppl usually dream of the opposite gender they are having. I never had dreams when I was pregnant. So I couldn't test that theory. Bethany I wish you knew what your angel was. Did you have any strong feelings as to one specific gender? I strongly felt mine was a boy I told everyone I knew it was a boy. I would have been shocked if anyone told or showed me other wise.

 

[jen435]

Oh one more thing my ob said today that you may find interesting. To minimize any chance of a miscarriage eat a lot of orange and yellow vegetables. They have beta-carotene in them that helps to correct imbalance in the hormones and keep the baby safe in the womb until it is time to come out.

Sorry I keep sharing info like this. Just thought since I'm seeing a nutritionist and my obgyn together I'd share somethings they told me about.

 

[mommylov]

Hi chatty Kathys!!! heheh

Posey, my name is Amy and I will be 32 next month. Met my hubby in oct 2004 and we got married in oct 2010. We were trying to figure out where we wanted to settled and moved from Ca to Co last sep. Built and a house and moved in July of this year. two months before the house was done, dh and I decided to try and see what happend and got pg on the first try! Went in for an us at about 6 weeks and everything lookd great. Went in again when I was suppose to be 10 wks and found out the baby died at about 8. Had a d&c 2 days later on july 19th. I just recently got cleard from the dr after having left over tissue that they thought was a fibroid but was in fact tissue and all clear now. Scared, I havent bd yet (might tonight lol) and see what happens.

Horsey, Bethany, Jen, Laura... you girls give me a good laugh...too funny!! The rate Im going I dont think I would get a bfp until next month but just keeping my figners crossed for us all!!

oh and double yay for vitamins!!!

 

[Posey]

again ladies, and thank you Bethany, Jen, and Amy for your stories Jen, twins run on my side of the family too, I myself am an identical twin. I would LOVE multiples.

I am 27, DH is 29. We've been married for three years now, neither of us have any children so we are soooooo looking forward to the day when we can hold on own baby (babies!). I lost my Mom last year to leukemia, so I like to think that my first pregnancy ended so that she could get to be a Grandma.

Question for you ladies... are you not anxious/terrified that once we conceive again, that that pregnancy will end in m/c again too? I try to be realistic about things, but I am beyond worried about this... I don't quite know how to shake it. I'm also so worried that maybe I m/c due to something 'wrong' with me, that maybe there's an underlying reason why I lost the baby, and I'll just go on to lose more... one thing at a time, I suppose. I wonder how you ladies deal with these fears?

 

[mommylov]

Hi posey, don't blame yourself. We have been there and it is so hard to come to terms with the fact that we lost our little ones but it was not due to anything we did/didn't do. I am so sorry to hear about your mom too. Big hug to you
I think you're right... I think your baby and mom are bonding and are watching over you. They will be with you and your next little one Keep your chin up and always remember you are not alone. This too shall pass.

We have no children either and long for one. We can't wait for the day we hear those sweet words "mommy and daddy". Before we did the bd tonight for the first time since everything happened, I told dh that I was scared. Scared of the outcome, of it not happening for us, of going through it all again. He told me that everything was going to be ok and is just so positive about everything. I know we are all going to be blessed with our lo's

Bethany, sitting here with my legs up lol. It was a little painful but don't know if that's because it's been do long.

 

[aaronswoman79]

Laura, Ill have to look into a garlic capsule for him! I think he would be more willing to do that than eat it. I dont know whats wrong with him... Garlic is sooooo yummy but I do keep my trusty listerine mouth wash handy after heheh. He had a had time remembering to take his vitamins in the past and I have been telling him that we are not getting any younger and he should be taking one for himself. I try to look at the mc as a blessing in disguise and one thing that has come out of it is that he got him to take vitamins. He is taking them now for the baby but he has a routine and Im sure it will be easy for him to stick with it after the baby comes

Good to know about the Asprin. I was thinking opps am I missing something? Should I be taking it too?? Since this was our 1st mc (and hopefully our last) my dr isnt worried about it being an issue with us. She just said the sperm and egg either didnt like eachother, my body attacked it because its trained to attack anything foreign, or there werent the rigth chroms. I hope since we are going to ttc about 1 1/2 months after mc, that my body will accept the baby and take care of it.

What my doctor told me about the aspirin, is that it is beneficial for women who have had high risk pregnancies. They already knew that I had a history of preeclampsia with my first pregnancy, and I had the subchorionic hematoma with the last one I was just miscarried. So when I started talking the baby aspirin, I was so scared to take it that I actually researched all over the internet, and read about actually studies done in Europe I believe, on pregnancy women who took aspirin. I wanted to make sure that I wasn't doing any damage to the baby or pregnancy. So you should probably discuss the pros and cons with your doctor. Maybe she/he will think it is beneficial for you too. I think it has a lot to do with medical history. I was also told by the docs that they don't know exactly why the baby aspirin helps, but supposedly it helps decrease the chance of miscarriage. This is the only pregnancy that I took the aspirin with, and I lost the baby anyways. And I never took it during my other 2 pregnancies. I am not sure if I am going to take it for the next.

 

[aaronswoman79]

again ladies, and thank you Bethany, Jen, and Amy for your stories Jen, twins run on my side of the family too, I myself am an identical twin. I would LOVE multiples.

I am 27, DH is 29. We've been married for three years now, neither of us have any children so we are soooooo looking forward to the day when we can hold on own baby (babies!). I lost my Mom last year to leukemia, so I like to think that my first pregnancy ended so that she could get to be a Grandma.

Question for you ladies... are you not anxious/terrified that once we conceive again, that that pregnancy will end in m/c again too? I try to be realistic about things, but I am beyond worried about this... I don't quite know how to shake it. I'm also so worried that maybe I m/c due to something 'wrong' with me, that maybe there's an underlying reason why I lost the baby, and I'll just go on to lose more... one thing at a time, I suppose. I wonder how you ladies deal with these fears?

I am so sorry about you losing your mother so recently. I know its hard. I lost my father at your exact age, when I was 27. This year alone I have lost 3 other family members. The fears you are feeling are totally normal. I can tell you I feel exactly the same fears you do. How recent was your miscarriage? I found out my son died July 31st, and had the miscarriage the very next day. I was 18.5 weeks. You are still so young and have many many fertile years ahead of you. Be rest assured that your fears are completely normal. One thing that helps your fears is to talk to your doctor. My doctors kept reassuring me, that many women who had miscarriages go on to have healthy children. And you are still so young.

 

[aaronswoman79]

Hi chatty Kathys!!! heheh

Posey, my name is Amy and I will be 32 next month. Met my hubby in oct 2004 and we got married in oct 2010. We were trying to figure out where we wanted to settled and moved from Ca to Co last sep. Built and a house and moved in July of this year. two months before the house was done, dh and I decided to try and see what happend and got pg on the first try! Went in for an us at about 6 weeks and everything lookd great. Went in again when I was suppose to be 10 wks and found out the baby died at about 8. Had a d&c 2 days later on july 19th. I just recently got cleard from the dr after having left over tissue that they thought was a fibroid but was in fact tissue and all clear now. Scared, I havent bd yet (might tonight lol) and see what happens.

Horsey, Bethany, Jen, Laura... you girls give me a good laugh...too funny!! The rate Im going I dont think I would get a bfp until next month but just keeping my figners crossed for us all!!

oh and double yay for vitamins!!!

Hi Amy! I also met my husband 2004, on September 26th my b-day. He moved from Utah to California to start a life with me. We also got pregnant on the first try after 6 years of not trying. We have 2 daughters, one 12 going on 13 and the other 6. I hope all of our dreams come through as soon as possible, I wished all of us lived closer together. It would have been great to be near people that have experienced what I have. I feel like the only one here, because everybody I happen to know have had text book pregnancies. You girls are the only ones who truly understand what I am going through. I feel so isolated at times.