ttc after a d&c

[lilesMom]

hi guys ,
amy dh is worried cos like u and us he has no clue whats goin on, the unknown is scary, xxxx doc will hopefully solve the mystery mon r tues sweetie, xxx
i would think its a good sign the tests r gettin darker but i know what u mean when u say u would expect a 3 hcg to then make tests neg, soo confusing, sorry ur in limbo sweetie, i totally know the feeling, it took um 3 weeks before they were certain what was goin on with lile , it was worst 3 weeks o my life xxxxxx big huge hugs xxxxxxxx
i hope things r still good for u and doc prooves that alls well despite funky blood work.
we r all stumped by it. xx

im stil catching up xxxx

 

[lilesMom]

jessica u r doin so much for ur DD, u can only do ur best which is what u r doin so dont be hard on urself. u put so much time nad effort into her and that is hwy she is a sweet kid. xxxx i know she has health problems that that r so hard to deal with but ur doin a great job.
the mmc and tc takes it out of everyone sooo much , let alonw have all this on ur plate too, xxx can u get any kind of nurse/aid in for few hours a few days a week r something to give u a break a bit? u deserve to live abit too sweetie xx i dont mean that ina harsh way, i just mean everyone needs a break hon , if u dont have a break sometimes, even one part of a day a week r something u will eventually be under so much stain u wouldnt be good for u or ur DD xxxxxxxxxxxxx
hope u get some help soon hon xx

 

[lilesMom]

hi natasha sorry the is being evil. hope she lets up a bit soon xxxxxxxxx

 

[TTCSecrets]

But, on the positive side, withoutsounding gross, the more that comes out now, the sooner AF will be over and done with for this month lol! And im still temping etc, ordered some opks and will just try and be more relaxed about it this month.. Ahh the joys of ttc lol! How are u laura hope u okay xxx

 

[lilesMom]

true babe ur right get it all cleared out nice clean place for new bub xxx
im feeling better today hon thanks, still coughing but throat much better
do u remember when i went to doc to confirm my pregnancy and i came out very upset, she basically told me that i shoudlnt be preg again and that my copper levels could have caused my mmc and implied they could do again. i cried all the way home. anywy she was wrong and talking out her ass as usual, im so tempted to go in tomor and complain, the more i think of it , the madder im getting. do ye think i sohould r should i just try and avoid her and got to the other docs that r there? but the other docs r only there on tues and fri and the one i trust the most is the fri doc i need to go soonish anyway to figure out what to do about work to go back r what?
anywya i mean do ye think i should confront her or am i wasting my time and money by thinking about her and dealing with her thanks
i have to go there tomor anyway t pick up work certs but i oculd drive both days , it isnt very very far from me

 

[TTCSecrets]

i would put it in writing, it always seems more official if its in writing if that makes sense, i complained about my previous doctors and now ive changed and i can only see one of two doctors unless its an emeregency. I would complain AND try and ignore her and see other doctors ..

And personally, if i were you, i would take some time off work, just a little bit less stress and worry.. I know if (when) i get pg, im planning on taking a few weeks off, just for peace of mind to be honest...

But in re to your doctors, iw ould complain definitely, its not like she told u u had a cold and you had a flu, that is understandable, she told you a complete load of rubbish about why u lost your lile, you need to complain, cos if shes done that to you how many other people is she telling wrong info to?! xx

 

[TTCSecrets]

Oh and Angel had a look at your chart, looking good xx

 

[mommylov]

Thus mornings pee within 30-45 seconds.... Not getting any lighter. Sigh. I'm sure it's gotten darker by now but I came back to bed.

 

[mommylov]

Laura, I definitely think you should say something. Especially if its really bothering you. These drs and nurses need to know they have to be careful about what they say. Just because they have a degree doesn't mean they are always right. I too am contemplating saying something to the old dr. Ugh don't you just want to slap these people?!?!

 

[TTCSecrets]

i agree with ames laura..

Hey ames how are u doing chick??

See! A positive is a positive!! U going doctors tomorrow did u ssay? xx

 

[mommylov]

Hey tash! Ya, I go in for just bloodwork tomorrow but actually see the dr on Tuesday morning. I said those exact words to my old dr..."I was told a pos is a pos" and she was quick to say um no but the the er dr said otherwise as did my new dr. The dr said my bloodwork from fri showed negative but the still want to do another one in addition to another test. That's what my first dr should've done... She should've said "hmmm something isn't adding up. Lets do more tests" instead of saying go away and call me in 2 weeks if you don't get your period.

 

[TTCSecrets]

I agree, that was bad practice telling you to just go home and wait for AF... Terrible you know, actually infuriates me..

So its bloods you go for tomorrow? Well hopefully your bean will be ploughing HCG through your body by tomorrow..

Ive just done some research, and apparently the chances of getting a false positive on 1+ tests are nil, literally nil..

And ive just read about a girl who was told she wasnt pregnant by a blood test just after missed AF , and then she went back at what would have been 8 weeks, and it was still negative even though she had pos hpts, and she went back again at 14 w 4d and they finally got a positive blood test... xxxx

 

[TTCSecrets]

And another girl who didnt get a positive blood test until 15 weeks pregnant, she ended up filing a complaint against the doctors because she smoked and they told her she wasnt pregnant over and over again and she continued until 15 weeks pregnant after 8 blood tests that were negative xxx

 

[mommylov]

Oh really?? Was the baby healthy? I'm just worried about getting proper prenatal care since its hard for drs to know what to give since they can't get accurate blood tests. I really tried to come to terms with the idea that I'm not pregnant but this is just so bizarre and its hard for me to even google and find people that have gone through the same thing. thanks for researching and telling me that babe xoxo

 

[TTCSecrets]

And another girl had pregnancy confirmed by ultrasound but didnt get a positive blood test until she was 5 months pregnant! It does happen! It says its uncommon but it does happen! xx

 

[TTCSecrets]

EDIT: And all babies were healthy! One was underweight but all was fine xx

 

[mommylov]

Oye she smoked thinking she want pregnant? I would be do mad too! Dh won't let me eat or drink things I shoddy if I were pregnant until we get all negatives. Lol

 

[mommylov]

And another girl had pregnancy confirmed by ultrasound but didnt get a positive blood test until she was 5 months pregnant! It does happen! It says its uncommon but it does happen! xx

That's what this new office said too. That they have patients that showed negative on blood but I assume they confirmed with us. That's what scares me. In the er, they couldn't confirm a yes or no with ultrasound.

 

[TTCSecrets]

haha i know, my dh was so over protective when i was pregnant, id get up from the sofa and hed be like WHAT ARE U DOING, and if bel ike, im making a cup of tea? And he would sit me back down and say, well bloody ask me to do it.. Lol! I was like im pregnant not legless!

Its good though i guess, i suppose it makes them feel like they are involved in teh rpegnancy more or something lol!

Yeah all babies i researched were healthy, one was udnerweight but like i say, progressed and grew fine

I just asked an online doctor for you what the percentage of negative blood tests re pregnancy that were inaccurate, e.g showed negative when pregnant..

And he said, that doctors blood tests are correct in about 96.7 percent of cases, which means they are wrong 3.3% of the time, maybe you are just one of those unlucky 3.3%? xx

EDIT: Just saw your post, but if you think about it its still very early for us, i went for an early us at 5 weeks because they thought i was further along than i was due to my size, and it was BARELY there on the screen xxxx

 

[mommylov]

Interesting, read this article if you girls have a chance.

https://docs.google.com/viewer?a=v&...cEisFy&sig=AHIEtbTtFYvfSRO-USYvmSzAh7mCc7dnHw