ttc after a d&c

[TTCSecrets]

Jess , spotting ? Ive heard that can be common in early pg? I hope alls well, you have a scan tomorrow? WIll they be able to make sure everythings okay at the scan? I hope so!

Angel yeah my job is awful at some times lol! Hope youre okay xx

Amy glad you are bearing up okay xxx Been thinking of you xxx

 

[lilesMom]

hi guys, love and to all.
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amy, hon the girls r right letting it out is good, doesnt feel good at the time but it does us good in long term. i had big patches of hours where i couldnt even breathe properly i was crying so hard and actualy worrying i would never stop crying. or being so exhausted i wished i could stop. its all normal. not that sooo much pain should be normal for us to have to suffer. xxxxxxx
i had my meditation class tonght and on the way home i bawled, the big huge sobs kind , not just regular crying, i was obvs holding some in and it took that to let it out xxx
let it out now, dont hold onto it like i did, xxxx
dont even think about trying again just yet hon, u can ttc whenever u want, but the loss is so fresh in ur head for now that u will only fry ur brain xxxxxxxxxxxx
i know i switched between never wanting to try again to wanting to be preg as of yest xxxxxxx
we all love u and so wish u werent having this now but i think angel is right, it sounds like progesterone problems and this can be solved by meds staright away, xxx
when u feel able talk to ur doc and let her look after u xxx
dot stress about it now if u can xxxx u have enough on ur plate, (easier said than done i know xxx) . but try give urself a little chance first to heal a little xxxxxxxxxxx
to u and Dh xxxxxxxxxx

jessica hope results go well for u, u know as well as we do that u can still have a very good outcome and we will be praying for u , xxxxx
im glad we r ur friends xx and im glad u r ours xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

horsey honey, chin up, fx for u this cycle and tell ur doc to pull his thumb out of his ass and give u the attention u deserve xxxxxxxxxx

tash , arrgghhh i feel ur pain what a frustrating thing to have to hear all day xxxxxx

angel good idea on the warm cozy lazy day, may have one tomor myself xx

kaylee, lamb and geegirl hey.

bethany we miss u xxxx

hope i didnt miss anyone xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

jen im a dumbass, i nearly forgot to say hey, xxxxxxx
hope ur good babe and bumpy is nice and happy xxxxx
can i blame baby brain? is it too early ? cos hte last week my brain is gone x

 

[Kaylee44]

I know that feeling when you start wondering why this is happening to me and what I did to deserve this. My mom told me the other day to make sure I eat healthy and I lost it. I started crying and saying it's not my fault. I eat healthy, take my vitamins, work out, been trying to reduce my stress, I even started acupuncture and yoga. I've been doing everything everyone has been telling me to do. I know she meant well, but I was so tired of everyone's advice, particularly the advice that you have to relax and just let it happen. Seriously? I know that, but there is absolutely no way that I won't be tracking my ovulation or wondering every month if I am pregnant again or when I am pregnant, worrying if I will miscarry, have another missed miscarriage, another painful D&C, a million blood tests and ultra sounds or another excruciatingly painful etopic pregnancy with emergency surgery. I am trying to just ignore everyone and accept the fact that it's painful and that all my thoughts and emotions are ok. Good news is that I am able to have some wine to help me through it

Amy, hope you are feeling better. Sounds like you have an amazing DH. So sweet! You'll always remember how supportive he's been through this tough time.

Tash, sounds like a demanding job. As badly as I want to be pregnant, I definitely wouldn't have wanted to get pregnant at 15. I would have lost so many great experiences...and would never have met my amazing DH. You're doing great work helping others!

Jess, I think you're probably at your Dr appointment still. Thinking of you and crossing my fingers that things are well.

 

[xoxo4angel]

Laura ~ You def need a relaxing lazy day. Crying is so good for us. My DH has learned that every once in awhile I need a good hard sobbing episode, so instead of trying to hush me, he just holds me and let's me get it out! I do hope you are ok though...

Jess ~ Any news? You alright?

Tash ~ Any closer to Oing? Your OPK's were +ve?

Amy ~ Big Fx things are progressing for you. My RE generalized and said after 35 egg quality decreases (I like your Dr saying 40). I know that doesn't mean they are all bad, but I'm 2 for 2 right now (last mc was due to a trisomy). I just need one good one, so I'm praying the next time is for keeps. Come on healthy eggy! And I am sure yours are just peachy...

Jen ~ Wednesday coming up...think that's your work day. Boooo. Hope you are ok.

Bethany & Horsey

Kaylee ~ The dreaded just relax and let it happen advice I have finally told my friends we've stopped "trying." They cause me stress! Tracking my temp, poas (peeing on a stick) and BDing is NOT stressful, but they don't get it. I have been pregnant TWICE using these methods, I was just unlucky with mc's! Enjoy your it too is relaxing!

darlings!

 

[aaronswoman79]

I just got back girls. I really thought I was having a miscarriage today, was cramping horrible on the way to the doctors, then I just broke down in the drs office. So, luckily I don't have an Ectopic Pregnancy. He found the baby sac in the my uterus. He couldn't see anything besides the sac because according to him it was too early. I was measuring 5 w 1 d. According to my last af I am about 5 w 3 d to 5 w 4 d. According to the doctor a few days is not a problem, especially because I probably ovulated a couple days late, have a longer than average cycle, and baby could have implanted 1 to 2 days later. Girls, does being off by 2 to 3 days sound worrisome?

So, now I know what is causing the cramping and tiny bit of spotting this morning. I most likely have a 1 cm Subchorionic Hematoma. Sound familiar?? I had the exact same problem with last pregnancy. So yeah, I am upset and very scared. I took my hcg levels again, I will get the results tomorrow. I don't want to keep my hopes up, by I am glad that the baby is in my uterus and I am measuring on target (although to 2 to 3 days dating difference makes me paranoid).

Everybody that has been concerning for me and thinking of me, thank you so much. I have never felt this kind of support in real life. The support all of you have given me is so appreciated. I don't think that I could survive without all of you. I love you all.!!

 

[xoxo4angel]

Jess ~ Thank God the baby is where he is supposed to be! No need to worry Jess. The hematoma was unrelated to your last miscarriage, right? So this LO will be just fine...I believe you said they often correct themselves

Now we just sit back, try to rest (or panic less) and wait for tomorrow Fx for rising HCG!

Sending positive peaceful vibes your way doll!

 

[aaronswoman79]

Jess ~ Thank God the baby is where he is supposed to be! No need to worry Jess. The hematoma was unrelated to your last miscarriage, right? So this LO will be just fine...I believe you said they often correct themselves

Now we just sit back, try to rest (or panic less) and wait for tomorrow Fx for rising HCG!

Sending positive peaceful vibes your way doll!

Thanks hon. Do you think the 2 to 3 day difference in dating is a problem? Last friday there was no gestational sac visible now I am dating 2 to 3 days behind. But that is good it is progressing and hcg is going up right? Sorry I am so paranoid. I don't know if the hematoma was related to the last miscarriage I am thinking it was. But hopefully that is not the case this time.

 

[xoxo4angel]

If memory serves, there was a cord accident...I'd be sure to clarify with the Dr if there is a correlation between a hematoma and cord incidences. As for the babies measurements...I'm sure there are plenty of women with LO's that measure small in the beginning and quickly catch up to the standard norm. By the way, if all they had to measure was the sac, then you are still perfectly within range! Mine caught up and then some within a weeks time. (I imagine Jen and Laura are better equipped to answer this though) Don't fret...focus on the positives. It's ok to be worried...it's what makes you a good mommy!

 

[aaronswoman79]

If memory serves, there was a cord accident...I'd be sure to clarify with the Dr if there is a correlation between a hematoma and cord incidences. As for the babies measurements...I'm sure there are plenty of women with LO's that measure small in the beginning and quickly catch up to the standard norm. By the way, if all they had to measure was the sac, then you are still perfectly within range! Mine caught up and then some within a weeks time. (I imagine Jen and Laura are better equipped to answer this though) Don't fret...focus on the positives. It's ok to be worried...it's what makes you a good mommy!

Aww I love you Angel. You are like a ray of sunshine for all of us. I wish I thought like you and could be positive. And good memory by the way, about the umbilical cord. I am assuming the hematoma had something to go with the mc because right before I lost the baby, I lost a huge blood clot and the placenta came out right after that, and then the baby. I am almost thinking that the hematoma was so large that is restricted blood flow from the placenta, hence the slow demise of my poor LO, and I am even thinking that it restricted movement and may of caused abnormal issues with the cord. These are just assumptions, seeing as how the docs have never been able to give me a lot of answers.

I am a very negative person, I must admit this. Has to do with a crap load of negative things that happened to me growing up and into adulthood. I will try to be more positive though. I will be on strict bed rest for the rest of my pregnancy (hopefully I make it). I hear there is not real treatment for hematomas but bed rest never hurts. I will fight so hard for this baby. And I will make sure they monitor the hematoma this time. Last time they wouldn't even bother to measure it. They only did once at 6 weeks and then at 8 weeks, after that they refused too. I will be assigned a Perinatologist this time for sure. The other docs don't even wanna touch me. lol.

O, and I forgot to mention, you wouldn't believe what the doc told me. I asked him if he could check my Progesterone Levels, and he said he could but he also said that Progesterone plays no role in a pregnancy, that it doesn't matter if it is too low or too high, that Progesterone doesn't sustain a pregnancy. And that those are just things fertility doctors say. I was just shocked because I know he is WRONG. Can you believe he is an obgyn?? I will not go back to see him again. Even us google doctors know that Progesterone levels are essential to sustain a Pregnancy.

 

[jen435]

Amy we love you! Thank you so very much for all your sweet words! You are a beautiful person and a ray of sunshine along with all the wonderful ladies on this thread! Its a blessing to know u. If we lived closer id make it a point to see eachother often. I consider you all my very close friends. Amy I wish u peace and im praying u and ur dh find comfort in knowing the doctor will help u and u will always have us. U are amazing and ur rainbow baby (wish I will call miracle til u have one) will have a loving caring mommy and daddy and will be soo soo lucky. Amy I know it seems far away sweety but u will have ur healthy baby and I will be anxiously waiting to hear about all the milestones u come across. you amy and I hope ur doing okay.

Tash so sorry u must deal with that at work. U will make an amazing mom and ull be able to provide everything ur baby needs! Hugs ur turns coming it must!

Kaylee enjoy your wine. So sorry for fam and friends some will nvr understand.

Laura hi! How r u feeling?

Angel u are alot like bethany with food boy do I miss her! Hope ur apple sauce is yummy! How are u holding up without dh? still wishing we could have that movie night!

Jessica sweety everything with dating is off. Im still measuring a day or two off at every visit. Its very normal. Baby grows at different times each day. Praying for rising hcg. I bleed also mine ok.urs will be. Please have faith! Ill be anxious leaving work tom to come on to check. Stivk vibes ur way so glad sacs in right place! Fxd

Its been a long day. Took tylenol pm for headache an hr ago still cant sleep but so exhausted. Must try work in 7hrs eek. Idk how itll go.... Worried. Went christmas shopping for neice n nephews... Now mil my parents doggy n dh left! Cant wait to decorate n light up the house!

Goodnight lovely ladies!

 

[mommylov]

Jess I'm glad that the drs visit went relatively well aside from the hematoma and his stupid comment about the progesterone. Stay strong Hun and get plenty of rest. As for being a couple days off, my dr said that was normal in the beginning so don't worry about that.

Laura, angel, Jen, tash, kaylee, gee girl... And. Anyone I missed... Thanks again for the well wishes. I still don't tank I have passed anything yet and I'm SLOWLY bleeding away right now. Wish I could get this over with. I think I'm going to call it a night and try and get more sleep tonight. Have a good night everyone. Love and hugs xoxo

 

[TTCSecrets]

Angel, not sure if im close to oing or not you know, i have an almost positive opk, it was one of them where, if i looked at it in one light it was positive, if i looked at it in another light it was VERY almost positive... had a temp spike today but i do tend to have the odd one for no reason lol! plus this happened last cycle and i didnt o til cd 17 so i have no idea lol! What about you? ill take a look at your chart..

Jess so glad everything is okay for you fx xxx

Jen laura how are u both?

Amy lots love to you babes xxx

geegirl kaylee,horsey how are u girls

Anyone else ive missed?


Well, up for another day at work.. round two ding ding ! Had enough of that place, im all for helping people but to be screamed at in the process no thankyou.. dont get paid enough to take all the abuse...just want to go back to bed

Hope all u ladies are okay catch up later xxxxxxxxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

hi guys, jess, glad things r good with bub xxx
a few days is no biggie dont worry, it could be late inplantation or Ov off by few days .
i was put behind by 5 days on my first scan and it did stick in my head xxx
when i went for private scan weeka dn a half later she told me that the machines in hosp arent as sensitive as their ones and that if the tech leaves off even half a milimetre on the measuring that it can mean days of a difference cos its sooooo small at that stage. so could be human error too. u knowthe way they mouse click on either side of bub to allow comp to measure the size, if her mouse click is even slightly out it could cause the difference.
in my private she out me back up 4 days to within a day of my own dates so dont worry xxxx
as regards heamatoma my sil had huge heamatoma , she bled nearly every single day of her preg (they were so worried ) and now my little niece is 15 months and flying around the place on her cute skinny little legs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
so things can still be totally fine and more than likely will be totally fine
i think i get what he means about progesterone , i think he just worded it badly. xxx
or maybe he is a dumbass, im not sure
progesterone doesnt affect babies development, but does affect ur bodies ability to recognise the preg and realise if ur body should r shouldnt miscarry.
it doesnt make a preg viable or help baby grow but the lack of it can cause u to lose baby, that is my understanding anywho. xxxx u didnt have any progesterone problems last time did u?
if it is bothering u a lot then push to test it xxxxxxxxxx
its a simple test and i think docs should do all they can to ease our minds xxxxxxxx

ive forgooten what else i wanna say , im stil catchin up xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

angel thanks sweetie, im fine just miss my first bub still , only normal xxxxxxx
hope ur enjoying ur free gaff hope ur not missing Dh too much xxxxxxxx
praying for u to catch a lovely perfect eeg really soon, u r not old and u r fit and healthy so i know u prob been told a gazillion tims but no reason why u cant and praying it happens soon for u xxxxxxxxxxxx

amy we r all thinking of u all d time sweetie x

bethany we miss u xxxxxxxxxxx

kaylee, u have it real rough for a while now, hoping u get ur silver lining and rainbow as soon as poss, xxxxxxxxxxxxx sure just relax it will happen, (joke ) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
i know it seems that people only have a few things to say to us , but in their defence their r no proper words to console us for our losses, they do the best they can to help even if it does drive us mad at times xxxxx

jen hi sweetie xxxxxxxxx hope work goes ok for u hon, i know how exhausting preg is at this stage xxx, it will get better im promised xxxxxxxxxxxxx

tash hope people dont scream at u too much today xxxxxxxxxx xxxxxxxxxxx

AFM; i got a call from my nice boss at work, we get on well, she is very straight and if u deal fairly with her , she deals fairly with u . lots of people dont get on with her cos she has to tell us no on things we wnat like hols and stuff but its hardly her fault and i know its not personal , some peopel dont understand that but anyway......
she reckons there r no such thing as light duties in my job and that she cannot have me back on my docs terms, she said it wont come against me in work if i saty out and that it wont affect my mat leave so..... i donno what to do, wil have to go back to my doc and see, boss said only way i can come back is if she certifies me for full normal duties, um... cant see her doin that and i dont think i wanna go back if that is the case anyway. so i may be out for the duration.
dont know how feel about it , i was excited at the thought of goin back, working is more normal to me, its what im used to. but if its gonna do any harm then i dont wana go abck . um...... so all back to being up in the air again.

 

[Lozzy1985]

Hi there this is my 1st time on here I dnt no who else to take as my other half is not the talking type we are TTC I have been unfortunate I have had 2 miscarriages leaving me and my partner devasted as we are desperate for a child it's been 34 days since the start of my last period I am extremely tired and Crampy and back pain with constipation I am terrified to do a test coz I don't want it to say negative it breaks my heart and to top it all its my bday to day and I'm spending alone as very down I don't no what to do can anyone help?

 

[lilesMom]

lozzy take a test , what if u get the best bday pressie symptoms sound good xxxxx
fx for u honey xxxxxxxxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

sorry i got excited for u, forgot to say welcome and sorry for ur losses sweetie, this is a great palce for support. my OH doesnt talk a great deal either ,sometimes i think he has a talking time limit in his brain i get like say 2 mins to thrash something out after that he shuts down and its time to move on. even if im not ready to move on xx
the girls here r fab to talk to xxxxxxxxxx

 

[Lozzy1985]

I really want to take a test I'm terrified though I am pleased I came here for support as I dnt no who to open up to I've got the test here but I just keep looking at it I haven't got the guts to take it I've been in tears All coz of the unsure of what to do thankyou so much for replying the last miscarriage I had was in complete I had to have a medicated d and c as was to scared to be put out xxxx I'm here if anyone wants to talk as its not good to bottle it up insidexxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

yeah i had missed miscarriage on my first so had to have a d and e as well hon.
im preg again and very happy but nervous to be so i try to banish the nerves but they creep in at times xxxxxxx
i know how scary and nervous u feel but if it was me i would so take it, do u normally have long cycles and go over 28 days hon