TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[lilblossom]

how did it feel getting to your due dates? I am pretty worried about getting to mine.
I only managed a couple of BD over the ovulation period. now I'm on the TTW and I know it's going to be a long wait. I have no sticks at home so won't be tempted to pee on them before the 22nd. I also have a wedding that day so I'm hoping I am going to be a happy girl then.
I've got a lot of work in at the moment and have also got the orders of service to collate and make before then, I've a couple of public speaking events and the farmers market to do this weekend so i'll be pretty busy.

Well my dd is just a few weeks away. I will probably try to find ways to be very busy that day but I expect to be sad.

As for the poas temptation. I am very proud of myself that I have one ic in the house that has been calling my name and have ignored it. Plan to wait til af is due but we all know I will probably cave.

 

[Xanth]

I cried and cried and cried the day before, but I had a houseful on the actual day. I bought a lovely little charm though. I can't remember the name of the site at the mo. the link is in my journal. It was only £4.95

 

[Butterfly67]

Things quiet with me too - am on my last cycle and I don't think I am pg so that will be it. I am going to look at adoption but not sure if I will pass all the tests or even get the courage to go through with it

Initially I thought that when my due date came I wouldn't even think about it but it is already looming in my head and it is not til October

 

[dancareoi]

hi all, my due date was a bit strange in a way. i was due 15th June, but my other 3 have all been early, so i thought this LO would be born around 1st or 2nd June, so I did think about it on thise days, but then 2 days later we went off to Disneyland Paris for a few days.
On my actual due date I didn`t even think about it until the afternoon.

Got positive OPK yesterday, so we`ll see what happens this month. I know what you mean though about trying to be normal, it consumes you doesn`t it, it`s all I can think of all the time. We have only had 2 tries, this month is the third, so it is still early days for us.

Good luck to everyone for this month.

 

[lilblossom]

hi all, my due date was a bit strange in a way. i was due 15th June, but my other 3 have all been early, so i thought this LO would be born around 1st or 2nd June, so I did think about it on thise days, but then 2 days later we went off to Disneyland Paris for a few days.
On my actual due date I didn`t even think about it until the afternoon.

Got positive OPK yesterday, so we`ll see what happens this month. I know what you mean though about trying to be normal, it consumes you doesn`t it, it`s all I can think of all the time. We have only had 2 tries, this month is the third, so it is still early days for us.

Good luck to everyone for this month.

yeah, its been 7 months since we learned we were loosing our pregnancy. We started right away but it took well over a month for the hcg to completely go back to 0. I guess that said we have been trying for 5 months. If we try again it would only be for one more month I think be cause all the disappointment is so crushing to my soul. All that said I do feel optimistic although have on other cycles too that all ended in negatives.

 

[Creative]

I do feel optimistic although have on other cycles too that all ended in negatives.

I'm the same. I keep thinking well all that stuff at the right time... well I'm sure to get pg, then POAS lots and all neg.
We've always used condoms and not had a slip off or split and yet I still have three children and two MC's so with a full load I'm going to get caught. It's very soul distroying not to catch.

 

[dancareoi]

I do feel optimistic although have on other cycles too that all ended in negatives.

I'm the same. I keep thinking well all that stuff at the right time... well I'm sure to get pg, then POAS lots and all neg.
We've always used condoms and not had a slip off or split and yet I still have three children and two MC's so with a full load I'm going to get caught. It's very soul distroying not to catch.

i had all good intention of only DTD every other day this month - but was worried to miss a day so have ended up every day for 5 days - so worried now that it was toom much!!

i think we can try too hard and over analylise everything, which i don`t think helps - i am now in dreaded TWW. Already planning what to do next month - definately every other day. If that fails then i don`t know.

All DH has had to do in the past is look at me and i was PG - so all this TTC and nothing happening is all new to me.

 

[Xanth]

I'm in the TTW now as well, but it's my last for a while.

I finally had my letter back from the hospital today. Due to my underactive thyroid and a vitamin D deficiency they want me to stop TTC for 3 months while they get the levels right

 

[Creative]

I'm in the TTW now as well, but it's my last for a while.

I finally had my letter back from the hospital today. Due to my underactive thyroid and a vitamin D deficiency they want me to stop TTC for 3 months while they get the levels right

That's a blow, but at least once it's right, you'll feel a lot better.

I've been very lucky for this TWW. I've a farmers market, a demonstration and talk, a wedding to make my outfit for and the orders of service to type and collate and make up. I can't see me having much time to WAIT!

 

[dancareoi]

I'm in the TTW now as well, but it's my last for a while.

I finally had my letter back from the hospital today. Due to my underactive thyroid and a vitamin D deficiency they want me to stop TTC for 3 months while they get the levels right

Sorry to hear that - but try to look on the positive side of things - if these are things can be treated then hopefully when you are PG again all will be well. If they go untreated it may continue to cause problems.

i know it`s not what you want to hear, but everything happens for a reason and for the best, so hopefully this will all work to the good.

creative - wish i`d got something to keep my mind of things - I am now back at work 2 days a week. DH and I have our own business and as my youngest is now at nursery i work 9-3 - so that does occupy my mind with other things.

How many DPO are you both - I am 1 DPO - I had OV pains yesyerday and know i did OV due to OPK on Tue - but I am still getting a little discomfort - it doesn`t hurt and is a little difficult to explain, maybe it`s the egg travelling down the tube!!! hopefully a fertilised egg!!!!

 

[lilblossom]

The time leading up to ovulation I was busy at work and did manage to dtd at the right times ...I think...so I don't think I stressed during then. this week I keep thinking ff got my ovulation date wrong though and this morning I input my temp and now ff is confused so I think I o'ed 2 days later. That being the case I am like 10 dpo now. Crampy but not af like. My bbs are bothering me more than any other cycle since we started ttc. I also had a hard time getting to sleep last night. so there is my update on symptoms...2 days til testing If I last that long haha

 

[dancareoi]

The time leading up to ovulation I was busy at work and did manage to dtd at the right times ...I think...so I don't think I stressed during then. this week I keep thinking ff got my ovulation date wrong though and this morning I input my temp and now ff is confused so I think I o'ed 2 days later. That being the case I am like 10 dpo now. Crampy but not af like. My bbs are bothering me more than any other cycle since we started ttc. I also had a hard time getting to sleep last night. so there is my update on symptoms...2 days til testing If I last that long haha

keeping everything crossed for you

 

[Xanth]

I'm in the TTW now as well, but it's my last for a while.

I finally had my letter back from the hospital today. Due to my underactive thyroid and a vitamin D deficiency they want me to stop TTC for 3 months while they get the levels right

That's a blow, but at least once it's right, you'll feel a lot better.

I've been very lucky for this TWW. I've a farmers market, a demonstration and talk, a wedding to make my outfit for and the orders of service to type and collate and make up. I can't see me having much time to WAIT!

Yes I'm hoping that once all that's sorted I'll be able to have a full term pregnancy.

You've just reminded me that I should be writing place settings for a wedding. I suppose I could do those

I'm in the TTW now as well, but it's my last for a while.

I finally had my letter back from the hospital today. Due to my underactive thyroid and a vitamin D deficiency they want me to stop TTC for 3 months while they get the levels right

Sorry to hear that - but try to look on the positive side of things - if these are things can be treated then hopefully when you are PG again all will be well. If they go untreated it may continue to cause problems.

i know it`s not what you want to hear, but everything happens for a reason and for the best, so hopefully this will all work to the good.

creative - wish i`d got something to keep my mind of things - I am now back at work 2 days a week. DH and I have our own business and as my youngest is now at nursery i work 9-3 - so that does occupy my mind with other things.

How many DPO are you both - I am 1 DPO - I had OV pains yesyerday and know i did OV due to OPK on Tue - but I am still getting a little discomfort - it doesn`t hurt and is a little difficult to explain, maybe it`s the egg travelling down the tube!!! hopefully a fertilised egg!!!!

Fingers crossed.

FF says 3 dpo.

 

[Xanth]

The time leading up to ovulation I was busy at work and did manage to dtd at the right times ...I think...so I don't think I stressed during then. this week I keep thinking ff got my ovulation date wrong though and this morning I input my temp and now ff is confused so I think I o'ed 2 days later. That being the case I am like 10 dpo now. Crampy but not af like. My bbs are bothering me more than any other cycle since we started ttc. I also had a hard time getting to sleep last night. so there is my update on symptoms...2 days til testing If I last that long haha

Fingers crossed. I wouldn't be able to last

 

[dancareoi]

Thought i would drop in to see if there is any news!!!

Lil - any luck???

 

[lilblossom]

No bfn on saturday and af on sunday so on a break so to speak...are gonna just not prevent. I may still temp just cause it a habit and it will tell me when to really expect af but otherwise gonna relax and accept that it just may not be in the cards for us

 

[dancareoi]

No bfn on saturday and af on sunday so on a break so to speak...are gonna just not prevent. I may still temp just cause it a habit and it will tell me when to really expect af but otherwise gonna relax and accept that it just may not be in the cards for us

Sorry to hear that. I think NTNP is probably a better way to go - if you are more relaxed about things, maybe they are more likely to happen.

I know myself with all this temping and sympton spotting it drives you crazy and I don`t think it helps. If nothing happens this month, i will do the ususal again next month, but after that I too might forget FF and see what happens.

 

[Xanth]

Sorry to hear that lilblossom xx

 

[Creative]

No bfn on saturday and af on sunday so on a break so to speak...are gonna just not prevent. I may still temp just cause it a habit and it will tell me when to really expect af but otherwise gonna relax and accept that it just may not be in the cards for us

sad

 

[lilblossom]

I usually just hit the thanks button when responding to the nice things others say here at B & B but I wanted to actually thank you all in a post because you are the most supportive women I have been around since this all began. Don't get me wrong, there is support through out this forum but this particular thread has been so comforting probably because we are all over 40 and are in the same boat. so Thank You All!!!!!!



All that said I have taken down my chart from my signature. I am still temping but gonna try to not put so much focus on it. I will share whats going on here though. Just trying to be more low key.