TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[Oasis717]

Thank you. Well funnily enough midwives have just been and advised nipple shields til mine have healed and I've got a breast feeding expert coming Tuesday, feeling a lot better and my milk is in today so I'm really hoping to feed him myself later. Feel more sore everywhere today than Friday how odd! And I think the hormones are kicking in as I'm v tearful today every time I look at Brooklyn and how beautiful he is xxxxxx

 

[josie1234]

Hope things get easier Becks. At least you are getting some advice hun. I am not surprised you are emotional, he is so handsome. You will be fighting those girls off in years to come lol.

AFM - CD 41, still no news.

 

[crysshae]

Becks - He is just darling! I hope you heal very soon and are able to feed your little one without pain. All of the advice the ladies have given you is great. Do you have a pump so you can keep your supply up? And definitely try to feed him when you feel like you can so he won't get used to that easy bottle nipple and not want to work at nursing.

I'm wondering...Do you have sores all over your nipples, or are they in one spot on each?

Lisa - I hope Caitlin is feeling better today.

Regina - Sounds like it's time to slow down a bit and put your feet up every once in a while. I know what you mean about being busy all the time and hating to sit still. I've always been that way. But the further you progress, the more you'll appreciate relaxation.

I wanted to say thanks again for all the support about my whine the other day. You are truly a wonderful group! I had heard it could take 6-12 months to get pregnant at this age too, so that's what I had set myself up for. Instead I got pregnant in 2 months TTC both times, only to lose them. I wasn't prepared for that.

 

[Creative]

I wanted to say thanks again for all the support about my whine the other day. You are truly a wonderful group! I had heard it could take 6-12 months to get pregnant at this age too, so that's what I had set myself up for. Instead I got pregnant in 2 months TTC both times, only to lose them. I wasn't prepared for that.

That's very hard, but at least you know you can get pregnant! That's a start.

 

[HomeEdMom]

Brooklyn is beautiful, what a handsome chappie. If he is struggling to settle on his back you could try swaddle him. However one of my girls always tummy slept, I was terrified to a degree but eventually relaxed thinking that I was right there when she slept and stats are still very low. Your sore nipples - nightmare! No words of wisdom except to persevere with what you are doing, your bbs will eventually toughen up. If you give up breastfeeding don't feel too bad, you have given Brooklyn a great start.

 

[Left wonderin]

Cabbage leaves are supposed to bevery good . Pop them in the fridge to cool them down and then put over your boobs my sister swore by them for instant relief !!!

 

[Oasis717]

Thank you all xxxx my nipples have scabs over them and around where they attach to he breast it's awful been putting lots of the cream on they suggested but even with the shields I'm still scared to try! Hurts to put the cream on even but I will try xxxx

 

[garfie]

Becks - Aw hun - hope you can get some relief soon - but I agree with what the other ladies have said you have given your beautiful Brooklyn a very good start. I found the cream worked for me hope it does for you as well

Josie - Still in limbo land? - like me think I might test tomorrow just cos I can

Cry - I also had back to back losses - they suck don't they, don't give up hum

Lisa - Hope Caitlin is feeling better tonight and you manage to get some rest

AFM - CD 34 8DPO still getting POS OPKs - so going to test tomorrow



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[josie1234]

Crystal - that's what we are here for and we understand xx

Hi Garf - yes still in limbo land, wondering whether to go to the docs or just wait. Good luck with the testing, keeping my fingers crossed for you xx

Becks - hope the scabs heal soon hun, there is so much pressure to bf but you have to do what is right for you and Brooklyn, hope you are ok xx

Not long for you Creative, so exciting.

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks Jo I hope so I really do and I do feel the pressure from the midwives I must admit not sure if they meant to but it did come across that way! Good luck for testing Fi xxxx

 

[Left wonderin]

Becks do what is right for you !!! Do not feel pressured , generations of kids grow up without ever having the breast an do just fine im goona try but I will also have bottles on standby without hesitation !! Putting pressure on yourself is one thing but others putting pressure on you when ya already feel bad is another !! Hope it works out for you whatever way is best for you and Brooklyn .

 

[Oasis717]

Aw thank you that means a lot. Been a hard night and also Brooklyns cord is gunky and a bit smelly so rang hospital mw. Might have to have her take a look tomorrow. They checked it Sat and it was fine then Sunday it's smelling awful xxxx

 

[dancareoi]

Becks those first few days are very hard. Look back on my posts she caitlin first arrived, same as you I had very sore nipples and was a hormonal wreck, but the hormones have settled down now, only the occasional hormonal episode now. The bf did get easier.

We are put under pressure to bf and we want so badly to do it, but a large number of ladies struggle, whilst I was in hosp there were two first time moms really struggling.

I had problems bf my first, when he was 10 days old he was back in hosp due to weight loss, plus he used to cry/scream all the time. They wanted to do tests on him, but whilst there they gave us a bottle of SMA and be wolfed it down. Poor little might was starving!

Even though the bf obviously wasn't working there was still pressure for me to continue.

We moved to formula with a little bit of bf. I used to express and all I'd get would be 25ml!

My eldest hasn't suffered from not being bf fully, he is a fabulous young man, has always been healthy and clever as he has just started at a Grammer school, so bf is not the be all and end all.

As mothers we want to do it, but if it isn't working its much better for you and Brooklyn to move to bottles

As Karen mentioned I think. Breast milk rubbed onto your nipples is good.

For you at the moment, expressing would be a good way to go, Brooklyn would still get your milk, it would keep your supply going and help your nipples mend.

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks for that I've really been beating myself up over it feelin down today. Brooklyn has doctors at 5.20 as mw believes as we do he has an infection in his cord stump, it smells foul and the redness is extending into his belly. Sat when the mw's checked it they said it was fine. Hospital told me to put the nappy over the top and leave it alone unless gunky which I've since found I should of been folding the nappy under and cleaning with every nappy change. Really angry I was given such crap advice but I have to say I've done that with the other children and there's never been a problem. No idea what they will give him but dh have to take him without me as I won't be able to walk up there xxxxx

 

[crysshae]

Poor baby. I'm so sorry you were given bad advice. I hope his cord heals quickly without problems. I agree. You must do what is best for you and Brooklyn. If you don't want to give up breastfeeding, then, like Lisa said, try pumping. Even just a few feedings a day would help your nipples heal. For me, it didn't hurt as much as the baby latching in those first weeks. Good luck and

 

[Oasis717]

Thank you, I've frightened myself with Google where it's saying an infection like this us v serious and can result in hospital treatment really worried as the redness surrounding it seems worse today if they'd have given me the proper advice I would have followed it to the letter xxxxxxx

 

[garfie]

Becks - Aw poor Brooklyn - oh hun looks like you are both having a tough time of it at the moment BIG hope it gets better soon.

Cry - Hope you are okay hun

Lisa - Hows Caitlin? - sounds more like you are in a routine now

Left - Hope you are okay hun - how's the symptoms?

Creative - How long have you got left now?

Josie - I'm out of limbo land now - she got me this morning.hope she keeps away for you - is that a bit of a temp spike there?

Home - How are you today hun

AFM - I feel very sad today, maybe that's because hubby chose last night to have the talk I've told him if he really doesn't want to try anymore then it's time for the snip!



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[dancareoi]

Becks, hopefully doc can give you something for Brooklyn and it will get sorted.

Got Caitlin weighed again today, no weight gain since last wed but that was the docs scales and today was Hv scales, but I'm not concerned.

Hopefully when her snuffle clears up she'll have a growth spurt.

Jo, I noticed your temp spike too!

The last 2 nights Caitlin has slept for 6 hours !

 

[crysshae]

I'm doing okay, Fiona. How are you? Sorry AF got you.

How do you feel about that talk? Do you think he's just worried? When my DH was acting strange, I asked if he didn't want to try anymore, and he said "I just don't like seeing you let down or upset." So it could be a mix of emotions... I wish the best for you in whatever y'all decide.

Lisa - Yay for 6 hours of sleep! That's great.

 

[Oasis717]

6 hours wow that's brilliant I had one hour last night! I feel terrible without Brooklyn and they're only up the road it is infected dh just rang and he has to have antibiotics at just 3 days old have any of you ladies got any advice for getting him to take the syringe without choking I'd hate that to happen. How do I give it to him do I sit him up, lay back. I haven't a clue?? Xxxx