TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[335437]

I'm new here, so, how do I find out everyone's age, # tries, miscarriages, current children, natural/fertility, etc. here?

PS- I think I've had a few chemicals in the past year, also. Oh, and has anyone been using OPKs and had many days of positives near ovulation (4 or 5)?

 

[dancareoi]

Welcome Nolagyrl and many congrats.

 

[dancareoi]

I'm new here, so, how do I find out everyone's age, # tries, miscarriages, current children, natural/fertility, etc. here?

PS- I think I've had a few chemicals in the past year, also. Oh, and has anyone been using OPKs and had many days of positives near ovulation (4 or 5)?

Hi, I`m Lisa and i will be 41 in two weeks time - here is my history, i`ll try and keep it short!!

Age 30 - DS - age 10 - born Nov 2001 - PG straight away

Age 33 - DD - age - - born Nov 2004 - took 4 months, but didn`t know about OPK or signs or anything at the time - however first month we used OPK I was PG.

Age 37 = May 2009 - PG first time using OPK - MMC at 8 weeks In jul 09.

Age 38 = Sept 2010 - PG first time using OPK - DS born May 2010.

Age 40 - Oct 2011 - PG by accident - healthy nuchal scan at 12 weeks in Dec 11, routine check up at 17 weeks found baby had died 13-14 weeks gestation.

12-1-12 - Baby born sleeping.

May 2012 - TTC for number 4 - 3 cycles so far and no luck.

Now taking vitamin B6 to try and increase LP - also taking Pregnacare conception and trying to eat high protein food as acupuncturist thinks i have low quality blood.

Doctors checking hormone levels this cycle and next cycle and starting acupuncture sept 26th.

It has come as a total shock that it isn`t happening now after never having a problem before.

I decided to see the doctor and acupuncturist as soon as possible as if there is something up i want to sort it straight away.

I was also referred to an MC expert at Bham Heartlands Hospital. They took a load of blood and checked for loads of things, all of which are treatable, but all my tests came back fine, so nothing wrong there.

The first 3 tries i have got so upset when AF started, but this month, now i realise I have short LP, I am not holding out much hope - currently 4 DPO - I am going to try and chill and wait for blood tests and acupuncture and see if that helps.

What about you - what is your history?

 

[335437]

I am 42, 43 next month. Trying for our 8th . Just feel there is "one more" to love. Always gotten pregnant the first month of trying. Birthed at 22, 26, 35, 36, 37, 39, and 41 1/2 roughly. #s 5 and 6 took about 3 additional months of trying. #7 took a couple more months. This is the longest (1 year of trying to conceive) that we've had. Normal, but strange at the same time.

I started temping a few months ago. I never have done temping or OPKs (OPK-ed for #7 only). So, now I am . I have bad headaches before periods- hormones, I suppose. Never had this before either...and am prone to mood swings, yay! lol I am sure my body is changing, but I feel we have love left for one more...

I think I've had a few chemicals this past year...within a day or two of periods. Pos. preg. tests/ faint...period comes a day or two or three late, bleed a little more. I have had all healthy pregnancies and births. I am scared reading about miscarriages, etc. here...but am going with my heart. Temps. show? I am ovulating on CD 16 or so...

 

[335437]

Oh, and going the natural route only...no tests or help. It's meant to be or it's not (for us) with the way things are. May only "try" through the end of the year and then move on to the next stage in life ? Though, I have been known to say that before ::wink::

 

[Nolagyrl1913]

Thank you. I appreciate it! Keeping my fingers crossed that you all get your BFP's soon

 

[dancareoi]

Oh, and going the natural route only...no tests or help. It's meant to be or it's not (for us) with the way things are. May only "try" through the end of the year and then move on to the next stage in life ? Though, I have been known to say that before ::wink::

I don`t think it matters how many you have, if you feel that need for another you just have to do it.

I always wanted number 4, but we agreed that 3 would be it. However, when I got PG last year i was delighted although DH was a little unsure.

Having now lost that LO I have been left with a huge baby shaped hole in my heart and i now feel that something is missing. DH knows how much I need this and he says it`s because he loves me and wants me to be happy that he agreed for number 4.

we certainly have room for one more to love. If I get my longed for number 4 I will be complete again!

At least we are trying and I suppose, like you say, if it`s meant to be!

If it doesn`t happen, there will always be a part of me that`s missing and i will have to learn to live with the loss, but at least we will have tried.

Just hoping and praying that I get my longed for rainbow.

i hope you get your too.

 

[Creative]

I am 43. Earlier this year I had a surpise pregnancy which I sadly MC at 9-11 weeks. Like most of us on here, I too was left with the baby shaped hole in my heart!
Oh agreed to try again.

1991 boy who is now 20
1993 MC 6 weeks
1993 boy who is now 18
1999 twin pregnancy ;lost one at 8 weeks, carried the other to term girl

All my pregnancies have been surprises so it's come as a shock that since march this year I've been trying and so far been unsucessful.

 

[Caligirl123]

Hi. I am new to this site. I am so happy I found it though. I have 3 children, 2 using clomid and one was a surprise. We really wanted a fourth but no luck with clomid. We sort of resigned ourselves to thinking it was not going to happen, but I always felt that somehow it still would. Sure enough shortly after I turned 40 I found out I was pregnant!!!!! Everything looked great until a routine visit at 15 weeks when no heartbeat was found. Genetics were normal. We were told it was possibly a problems with the umbilical cord?
I have been heartbroken since. The first month after the MC that we could try again I got a BFP but it was ectopic and I was treated with Methotrexate. We had to wait a few months to try again. We have been trying ever since with no luck. I have been doing injectables with IUI. I had a full blood work up for clotting disorders and all was negative except a mildly elevated Natural Killer cell count which is pretty controversial. I took intralipid therapy for a few months, each time getting a BFN so I'm really not sure if I should continue (it's an IV treatment and I pay out of pocket for everything).
I take supplements, am doing acupuncture and do yoga.
I'm just losing hope. I am sad about my loss and that it might have been my last chance. It is helpful to read what others are going through, though.

 

[Creative]

Hi. I am new to this site. I am so happy I found it though. I have 3 children, 2 using clomid and one was a surprise. We really wanted a fourth but no luck with clomid. We sort of resigned ourselves to thinking it was not going to happen, but I always felt that somehow it still would. Sure enough shortly after I turned 40 I found out I was pregnant!!!!! Everything looked great until a routine visit at 15 weeks when no heartbeat was found. Genetics were normal. We were told it was possibly a problems with the umbilical cord?
I have been heartbroken since. The first month after the MC that we could try again I got a BFP but it was ectopic and I was treated with Methotrexate. We had to wait a few months to try again. We have been trying ever since with no luck. I have been doing injectables with IUI. I had a full blood work up for clotting disorders and all was negative except a mildly elevated Natural Killer cell count which is pretty controversial. I took intralipid therapy for a few months, each time getting a BFN so I'm really not sure if I should continue (it's an IV treatment and I pay out of pocket for everything).
I take supplements, am doing acupuncture and do yoga.
I'm just losing hope. I am sad about my loss and that it might have been my last chance. It is helpful to read what others are going through, though.

Welcome to our little family!!!

 

[Xanth]

Hi new ladies

I'm 41. 42 next month.

I've got 3 boys. 21, 19 & 2 today

The two year was a little surprise but we've loved doing it all again do much that we decided to try for another one just before he was one.

I got pregnant in October & miscarried. Since then I've had more

I'm currently seeing my consultant for various things. Vitamin D deficiency. Hypothyroidism and diabetes.

They've asked me to take a break while they get those things under control.

Hope we all have some luck soon.

 

[335437]

Caligirl- What is a Natural Killer cell count?

Anyone have bouts with chemical pregnancies at all? I THINK?? I've had two in the last year...faint positives for a couple of days on preg. tests and fade outs, with periods just coming a few days late. (Most would not notice, I'd imagine, but since we're trying, I have.)

 

[335437]

ps- <<<haha, Just HAD to do that!

 

[dancareoi]

ps- <<<haha, Just HAD to do that!

Hi, saw your comment about natural killer cells - I believe this is something to do with the body attacking a fetus as foreign body - i also believe it is somrthing that can be sorted. I am sure it`s something the dr at the MC clinic mentioned. She is an expert in the field and can stop it from happening apparently!

i have never used the DTD icon, but i think it`s quite amusing!!!!!

 

[lilblossom]

Hi, I am 42 and have dropped to ntnp as all the ttc has royally stressed me out. I don't even have any opks in the house which is funny considering I had become a poas addict. I have a step daughter who is 21 and then a daughter who is 19. I had a surprise pregnancy which ended in mc in January of this year. We decided to give it a shot at getting pregnant again and after several months of trying, I am cd 7 and should ovulate right around Sunday which just happens to be my wedding anniversary so i should definitely get some bding in.

But since ntnp it gets to be fun sex with out the stress of; omg I got a positive opk so will my temp rise tomorrow? How long do i need to lay here afterwards...did too much come out when i went to the bathroom...oh no we used lubricant and its not sperm friendly..ohhh cramping is that ovulation cramping? .lol...any of this sound familiar.

Anyway that is all the info on me again. I will say I had a weird af this last cycle and almost wonder if it was a chemical. Af showed a couple days earlier and was different than usual in color and consistency. Seemed closer to what I had with the mc earlier in the year. But who knows.

 

[Caligirl123]

Natural killer cells are part of the immune system. They are a type of white blood cell. My RE sent it off to a special lab and the test was very expensive( it's a blood test)There are different types of NK cells, one of which is found in the uterine lining. Some people think that an elevated level of NK cells can cause problems with implantation or miscarriage. However, uterine NK cells are different from those found in the circulation - they actually have a roll to help with implantation and placental blood flow. It unclear if the level of NK circulating in the blood stream actually correlates with the level in the uterine lining (and there are those who say it doesn't which means an elevated blood test doesn't really mean anything). And if it is elevated, it's not clear what that means either.
So I have one RE telling me that my level is mildly elevated so I should take intralipid IV therapy before ovulation. My OB and another RE tell me that it probably doesn't mean anything. I have tried to read the medical literature on line (rather than the anecdotal accounts) and it really doesn't seem to have a lot of evidence to support it, but in the end it's pretty confusing.
As I'm sure is the case with most people on this site, I'd do almost anything that would help but I'm not sure if this is the case. It cost about $350-450 per month by the time you pay for the meds and the IV administration, not to mention the inconvenience of it. Combined with everything else I'm doing (the blood tests, US, meds, etc...) it's a lot emotionally, physically and financially. But then I say if this is the one last thing that will do the trick...

 

[Caligirl123]

Another BFN. I'm so sad... My heart is broken and I don't know how to fix it.

 

[dancareoi]

Another BFN. I'm so sad... My heart is broken and I don't know how to fix it.

it`s so disheartening and it fells so long before trying again.

 

[dancareoi]

Well i think I am 10 DPO today - FF didn`t pick anything up about OV as I didn`t temp for a few days when we were away. So I have entered OV day as CD19.

Can someone look at my chart please cos I could do with a bit of advice.

i got positive OPK on CD17 in morning - I always thought I OV 2 days after this, so CD19, but on CD18 I got a temp dip. This happened last month on day I OV!!

So i am a bit confused.

If I did OV day earlier then I am 11 DPO - usually my AF starts 10 DPO. So this means 1 of 2 things - either I am PG which will be great, but i don`t think I am or the B6 has worked and I have managed to squeeze an extra day for my LP from 9 to 10 days.

I have a clear blue test upstairs which can detect PG up to 4 days before AF but I am really reluctant to use because if I do it now and get BFN than I will be grumpy for the rest of the day and ruin the day for everyone.

So i think i will just spend the rest of the day worrying each time i go to the toilet!!!

 

[Creative]

CD2 for me.


feeling so old and decrepit.