TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[Creative]

you are most welcome.

 

[Xanth]

Can I join in?

Hi everybody...a little about me. I am 41 years old, no children, never been married. I met a wonderful man 3 years ago who has 2 older children from a previous marriage. I was on the pill because I believed I did not want children but I was bit by the mommy bug so I got off the pill in November 2011 and just waited to see what would happen.
My hunny proposed to me on New Years at 12:01 and 12 days later I found out I was pregnant. I was so happy and excited. I made my appointment to go to the doctor and at the ultrasound I knew something was wrong. The doctor said I was early and had me give blood so she could test my levels - well the levels were steadily decreasing so she told me she did not think it was a viable pregnancy. I had a miscarriage in late February.
I have never cried as much as I did. Even though it was early, I was so excited about having a baby....I just can't seem to shake the sadness.
I have been trying since March without success....
I have been stalking these boards for months and just got the courage to post after finding this thread.....hope I can join in.
I wish for all of us .

It's just so devastating isn't it

You are very welcome. We're a friendly bunch.

The ladies on here are so lovely and supportive xxx

 

[dancareoi]

Can I join in?

Hi everybody...a little about me. I am 41 years old, no children, never been married. I met a wonderful man 3 years ago who has 2 older children from a previous marriage. I was on the pill because I believed I did not want children but I was bit by the mommy bug so I got off the pill in November 2011 and just waited to see what would happen.
My hunny proposed to me on New Years at 12:01 and 12 days later I found out I was pregnant. I was so happy and excited. I made my appointment to go to the doctor and at the ultrasound I knew something was wrong. The doctor said I was early and had me give blood so she could test my levels - well the levels were steadily decreasing so she told me she did not think it was a viable pregnancy. I had a miscarriage in late February.
I have never cried as much as I did. Even though it was early, I was so excited about having a baby....I just can't seem to shake the sadness.
I have been trying since March without success....
I have been stalking these boards for months and just got the courage to post after finding this thread.....hope I can join in.
I wish for all of us .

Welcome, you are most welcome. it is good to be soemwhere with people who have been through exactly the same thing and know exactly what you are feeling and going through.

I will be 41 next minth andi had MMC 3 years ago at 8 weeks and in Jan this year i found at at 17 weeks that my LO had died at 13-14 weeks. Baby was then born sleeping 12.1.12.

Our LO was an accident, as we already have 3 kids. It`s not until you lose something that you realise how desperately you want it back!

we have been trying since May for our fourth, and so far no luck for us either, but have just realised i have a 9 day LP so trying to get that longer.

We are all here for you anytime you need to chat about anything.

 

[dancareoi]

Hi all, going away tomorrow for a week, so won`t be dropping in.

xanth - look after yourself.

everyone else = baby dust!!!!!!

 

[Xanth]

Tests started getting lighter yesterday. Bleeding today.
I'm taking a little break. Wishing you all luck xxxx

 

[Creative]

Tests started getting lighter yesterday. Bleeding today.
I'm taking a little break. Wishing you all luck xxxx

So sorry, take it easy

 

[Blueskyrobin]

It's the ttw again, lucky enough to be trying, right? DH & I were just saying how if things had turned out differently we would be about 10 days away from another little one I guess I can only believe that life is unfolding exactly as it is supposed to be, hard as that is to accept sometimes....all the crying in the world won't change it & yup, I've shed pounds of tears. It is sad. I'm sad, I'm sad for everyone who knows the feeling, & everyone who will experience the sadness. We all share in common the depth of emotion, but we continue on, try again & keep trying, again & again. I guess that is the beauty of perseverance.

 

[dancareoi]

Tests started getting lighter yesterday. Bleeding today.
I'm taking a little break. Wishing you all luck xxxx

 

[dancareoi]

It's the ttw again, lucky enough to be trying, right? DH & I were just saying how if things had turned out differently we would be about 10 days away from another little one I guess I can only believe that life is unfolding exactly as it is supposed to be, hard as that is to accept sometimes....all the crying in the world won't change it & yup, I've shed pounds of tears. It is sad. I'm sad, I'm sad for everyone who knows the feeling, & everyone who will experience the sadness. We all share in common the depth of emotion, but we continue on, try again & keep trying, again & again. I guess that is the beauty of perseverance.

`They` say everything happens for a reason.Sometimes i wonder of `they` really know what they are talking about.

I had MMC at 17 weeks in Jan, and I can`t begin to explain how it felt to give birth to my LO who was born sleeping on 12.1.12 (13-14 weeks gestation)

Back in July 2009 I had MMC at 8 weeks, 10 months after this I gave birth to my wonderful little boy, who is now 26 months.

If I hadn`t lost my other one in 09, my gorgeous little boy would not be with us today. Yes I would have another child, but this wonderful little bundle of joy we have today, would never have been given the chance of life.

Maybe `they` are right after all.

 

[dancareoi]

Hi all, how is everyone?

XANTH - so sorry it didn`t work out this time. Hopefully now you are on a break and getting everything sorted out it will work for you.

I am OV today or tomorrow, so fingers crossed for 4th time lucky!

Went to see an acupuncturist today who specialises in infertility, for a consultation.

I was very impressed with him. I know they talk the talk, but he did seem to know exactly what he was talking about and helped a large number of women my age and over get PG after years of problems.

His website states he has had 172 pregnancies. An average of 1 per week!

He said in 40% of the times it is the sperm that is the problem - hubby would love that!!!!

Anyway, he asked some questions and advised me that my MC at 13 weeks was very unusual and in all his years of prcatice i am only the second lady to lose one over 12 weeks!

He seems to think though, at the moment, that I am the problem!!!

He seems to think my blood is not good enough quality and that my 9 day LP is a major problem! He said he needs to tickle my pitutory (not sure how to spell) gland!!!!!!!

Basically, I need to OV earlier, currently day 18-20 and get a longer LP. He says he uses Chinese, Japanese and korean methods and helps the majority of ladies he sees.

He has also advised me to change my diet slightly and increase my intake of high protein food. So no more low fat spreads (thank God, because they taste awful!) full fat butter, Kerry Gold is best as from grass fed cows. Full fat cheese, good again because 1/2 fat stuff has no taste.

Plenty of dark green veg like brocolli and spinach. Plus meats, preferably beef that is grass fed.

I have been eating a lot of eggs lately and always worry that you are not supposed to have too many due to cholesteral, but he says to eat 2 a day, because high stress levels create more cholesteral than eggs do.

He said the acupuncture will make me feel better in general and he said DH would notice the difference.

He would use areas such as ears and head for the pitutory gland.

he also said if I do get PG to still go and see him as he can help in the prevention of miscarriage and can assist in fetal growth using certain areas of the body, one being the back of the leg at the bottom, something the chinese have done for 1000s of years, by increasing blood flow to the fetus.

As i say, he certainly talked the talk, so i have booked some sessions with him. Due to holidays etc, these won`t start until end of Sept. So i have booked every wed from 26th sept to 24th oct to go and see him.

The way i see it, it can`t do any harm!

 

[Xanth]

Well that all sounds very positive. I'll be keeping everything crossed for you xxxx

 

[lilblossom]

Cd 1.

 

[Creative]

Cd 1.

 

[Creative]

Hi all, how is everyone?

XANTH - so sorry it didn`t work out this time. Hopefully now you are on a break and getting everything sorted out it will work for you.

I am OV today or tomorrow, so fingers crossed for 4th time lucky!

Went to see an acupuncturist today who specialises in infertility, for a consultation.

I was very impressed with him. I know they talk the talk, but he did seem to know exactly what he was talking about and helped a large number of women my age and over get PG after years of problems.

His website states he has had 172 pregnancies. An average of 1 per week!

He said in 40% of the times it is the sperm that is the problem - hubby would love that!!!!

Anyway, he asked some questions and advised me that my MC at 13 weeks was very unusual and in all his years of prcatice i am only the second lady to lose one over 12 weeks!

He seems to think though, at the moment, that I am the problem!!!

He seems to think my blood is not good enough quality and that my 9 day LP is a major problem! He said he needs to tickle my pitutory (not sure how to spell) gland!!!!!!!

Basically, I need to OV earlier, currently day 18-20 and get a longer LP. He says he uses Chinese, Japanese and korean methods and helps the majority of ladies he sees.

He has also advised me to change my diet slightly and increase my intake of high protein food. So no more low fat spreads (thank God, because they taste awful!) full fat butter, Kerry Gold is best as from grass fed cows. Full fat cheese, good again because 1/2 fat stuff has no taste.

Plenty of dark green veg like brocolli and spinach. Plus meats, preferably beef that is grass fed.

I have been eating a lot of eggs lately and always worry that you are not supposed to have too many due to cholesteral, but he says to eat 2 a day, because high stress levels create more cholesteral than eggs do.

He said the acupuncture will make me feel better in general and he said DH would notice the difference.

He would use areas such as ears and head for the pitutory gland.

he also said if I do get PG to still go and see him as he can help in the prevention of miscarriage and can assist in fetal growth using certain areas of the body, one being the back of the leg at the bottom, something the chinese have done for 1000s of years, by increasing blood flow to the fetus.

As i say, he certainly talked the talk, so i have booked some sessions with him. Due to holidays etc, these won`t start until end of Sept. So i have booked every wed from 26th sept to 24th oct to go and see him.

The way i see it, it can`t do any harm!

Wow, he's certainly saying all the right things, but I'm such a needle wimp, I couldn't go near the place!

 

[dancareoi]

Hi all, how is everyone?

XANTH - so sorry it didn`t work out this time. Hopefully now you are on a break and getting everything sorted out it will work for you.

I am OV today or tomorrow, so fingers crossed for 4th time lucky!

Went to see an acupuncturist today who specialises in infertility, for a consultation.

I was very impressed with him. I know they talk the talk, but he did seem to know exactly what he was talking about and helped a large number of women my age and over get PG after years of problems.

His website states he has had 172 pregnancies. An average of 1 per week!

He said in 40% of the times it is the sperm that is the problem - hubby would love that!!!!

Anyway, he asked some questions and advised me that my MC at 13 weeks was very unusual and in all his years of prcatice i am only the second lady to lose one over 12 weeks!

He seems to think though, at the moment, that I am the problem!!!

He seems to think my blood is not good enough quality and that my 9 day LP is a major problem! He said he needs to tickle my pitutory (not sure how to spell) gland!!!!!!!

Basically, I need to OV earlier, currently day 18-20 and get a longer LP. He says he uses Chinese, Japanese and korean methods and helps the majority of ladies he sees.

He has also advised me to change my diet slightly and increase my intake of high protein food. So no more low fat spreads (thank God, because they taste awful!) full fat butter, Kerry Gold is best as from grass fed cows. Full fat cheese, good again because 1/2 fat stuff has no taste.

Plenty of dark green veg like brocolli and spinach. Plus meats, preferably beef that is grass fed.

I have been eating a lot of eggs lately and always worry that you are not supposed to have too many due to cholesteral, but he says to eat 2 a day, because high stress levels create more cholesteral than eggs do.

He said the acupuncture will make me feel better in general and he said DH would notice the difference.

He would use areas such as ears and head for the pitutory gland.

he also said if I do get PG to still go and see him as he can help in the prevention of miscarriage and can assist in fetal growth using certain areas of the body, one being the back of the leg at the bottom, something the chinese have done for 1000s of years, by increasing blood flow to the fetus.

As i say, he certainly talked the talk, so i have booked some sessions with him. Due to holidays etc, these won`t start until end of Sept. So i have booked every wed from 26th sept to 24th oct to go and see him.

The way i see it, it can`t do any harm!

Wow, he's certainly saying all the right things, but I'm such a needle wimp, I couldn't go near the place!

I have always had a fear of needles, but as time as gone by and after having three kids, the fear has subsided slightly. Especially as towards the end of my first PG i was diagnised gestational diabetic and had to inject myself with insulin twice a day. During all subsequent pregnancies i have had to check my blood sugar levels 4 times a day, which involved pricking fingers with needle!

He did put a needle in my habd whilst i was there and I didn`t feel a thing!

1 DPO today so we`ll see what happens. Not very optimistic due to my 9 day LP, but have been taking B6 for nearly 3 weeks so really hope that will squeeze an extra day or two!!!

LILBLOSSOM -

 

[Nolagyrl1913]

My first post was on July 25th. I was so sad and had given up on the idea of me ever being pregnant. I had been trying since my miscarriage in February without success. The MyDays app on my cell phone said I was due to ovulate on July 23 and I had not done anything since 7/20. I gave up, I put all my opk's in a bag to give to someone else. I talked it over with my fiance' and we both agreed that is was just too much with all the timed sex, poas, opk's, we lost our spontaneity and intimacy. I didn't use an opk or anything, we on 7/24 and again on 7/26. I did not think about it until I realized my period was late, it was due August 8th. My boobs have been hurting, but they hurt every cycle so I wasn't obsessing about it. I am never late so I came home from work and took a test and imagine my surprise.....
I am in shock and amazement, I am 41 years old. I thought my time had passed. I hope my story is of some encouragement to someone. I am praying for a sticky bean this time.
I wish on everyone. Please stay encouraged. God Bless you all!
*Nolagyrl*

 

[Creative]

Congratulations that's fab news!!!

 

[335437]

Happy to find this thread ! Naturally and by the end of this year. Have been trying for almost a year now--longest ever for me. Normally, it's been within 1-3 months of trying.

 

[dancareoi]

Happy to find this thread ! Naturally and by the end of this year. Have been trying for almost a year now--longest ever for me. Normally, it's been within 1-3 months of trying.

Hi and welcome. i usually conceive first time round so after having 3 goes already and waiting on 4th it is unknown territory for me.

i thought when we started it would be straight away again.

Anyway, we are all together in this and here for each other.

Lots of luck and

I am seeing my doc on wednesday for a blood test to check i am OV ok and i am starting acupuncture in september, so hoping that will work as at the moment i have a short LP which appears to be only 9 days!!!!

 

[Xanth]

Congrats Nolagyrl.

Welcome 335437 x

Its a year yesterday that we started TTC

My baby is 2 tomorrow. Can't believe it.