TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[dancareoi]

Thanks Oasis. I will start taking temp tomorrow. I think there are so many things to think about, temperature, cm, luteal phase to work out ovulating. I'm surprised anyone gets pregnant to be honest. its like a science eh? It does seem to happen when you are not trying and not thinking about it which is hard cos its all i seem to think about at the moment. mind you, because of my age, it is difficult not to worry that its too late but there is hope. its not like its impossible. Yeh it does seem unfair that nothing gets looked into until after 3 miscarriages. it does make you wonder why they happen and if there's anything you could do to stop it happening again. All you can do is keep trying and keep hopeful. Miracles do happen. When i had my ds, you do take it for granted and think things happen so easy but now that I have had a miscarriage, I realise now how much babies go through to be born. My ds has now gone out with his mates so think i will have to brave the snow myself. not as much fun. I haven't been to my doctor yet. I don't really discuss all this with OH as I think he just thinks see what happens and if it happens then it does. He was gutted when miscarriage happened and he says that he understands it is worse for the woman. I hope you have a good day and try to stay positive xxx

i always use my mouth!! Like oasis, I tend to buy packs of OPK off ebay, you can get a pack of 30, they are just strips, but they do the job. I also buy a pack of digital OPK with the smiley face, so when I think the strip is showing positive I double check with a smily face just to make sure.
The bar on the strip has to be the same colour as the test line, sometimes it is a little difficult to tell, hence i use smiley ones as well!
I always start to test when AF finishes.

My progesterone was tested back in aug and the level after OV was fine, however my short LP would indicate low progesterone later on, hence the reason I am now on progesterone supplements.

i have been really lucky with my doc, she refered me to specilaist after first MC in Jan, so I am in the best hands.

 

[Oasis717]

I'm really pleased you have a good doc, with my age and having two mc in a row you would think someone would care, but the hospital told me the same, no tests until 3 mc which I think is terribly cruel that 3 babies need to pass before they will do anything in my area anyway. I don't think I have short lp as I have always had 28/29 day cycles and ovulated in the middle of the cycle. I do spot a couple of days before AF but again I've always done that even before and after my healthy 3 pregnancies and when I was younger so perhaps I'm just a spotter. Can I ask if you had low temps with low progesterone? Xxx

 

[josie1234]

Thanks Oasis. I will start taking temp tomorrow. I think there are so many things to think about, temperature, cm, luteal phase to work out ovulating. I'm surprised anyone gets pregnant to be honest. its like a science eh? It does seem to happen when you are not trying and not thinking about it which is hard cos its all i seem to think about at the moment. mind you, because of my age, it is difficult not to worry that its too late but there is hope. its not like its impossible. Yeh it does seem unfair that nothing gets looked into until after 3 miscarriages. it does make you wonder why they happen and if there's anything you could do to stop it happening again. All you can do is keep trying and keep hopeful. Miracles do happen. When i had my ds, you do take it for granted and think things happen so easy but now that I have had a miscarriage, I realise now how much babies go through to be born. My ds has now gone out with his mates so think i will have to brave the snow myself. not as much fun. I haven't been to my doctor yet. I don't really discuss all this with OH as I think he just thinks see what happens and if it happens then it does. He was gutted when miscarriage happened and he says that he understands it is worse for the woman. I hope you have a good day and try to stay positive xxx

i always use my mouth!! Like oasis, I tend to buy packs of OPK off ebay, you can get a pack of 30, they are just strips, but they do the job. I also buy a pack of digital OPK with the smiley face, so when I think the strip is showing positive I double check with a smily face just to make sure.
The bar on the strip has to be the same colour as the test line, sometimes it is a little difficult to tell, hence i use smiley ones as well!
I always start to test when AF finishes.

My progesterone was tested back in aug and the level after OV was fine, however my short LP would indicate low progesterone later on, hence the reason I am now on progesterone supplements.

i have been really lucky with my doc, she refered me to specilaist after first MC in Jan, so I am in the best hands.

Yeh you have been lucky. I am not sure what is going on with my body. AF seems to be over???? very strange.

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks Oasis. I will start taking temp tomorrow. I think there are so many things to think about, temperature, cm, luteal phase to work out ovulating. I'm surprised anyone gets pregnant to be honest. its like a science eh? It does seem to happen when you are not trying and not thinking about it which is hard cos its all i seem to think about at the moment. mind you, because of my age, it is difficult not to worry that its too late but there is hope. its not like its impossible. Yeh it does seem unfair that nothing gets looked into until after 3 miscarriages. it does make you wonder why they happen and if there's anything you could do to stop it happening again. All you can do is keep trying and keep hopeful. Miracles do happen. When i had my ds, you do take it for granted and think things happen so easy but now that I have had a miscarriage, I realise now how much babies go through to be born. My ds has now gone out with his mates so think i will have to brave the snow myself. not as much fun. I haven't been to my doctor yet. I don't really discuss all this with OH as I think he just thinks see what happens and if it happens then it does. He was gutted when miscarriage happened and he says that he understands it is worse for the woman. I hope you have a good day and try to stay positive xxx

Thanks Josie I completely agree I didn't think twice about problems with my first three pregnancies, I was lucky to fall the first month trying with each, my family used to joke you only had to look at me to get me pregnant, everythings changed now though and I too realise just whats involved and just how hard getting pregnant and for me staying pregnant, hopefully miracles do happen and we get our miracles hun xxxxxx

 

[josie1234]

Thanks Oasis. I will start taking temp tomorrow. I think there are so many things to think about, temperature, cm, luteal phase to work out ovulating. I'm surprised anyone gets pregnant to be honest. its like a science eh? It does seem to happen when you are not trying and not thinking about it which is hard cos its all i seem to think about at the moment. mind you, because of my age, it is difficult not to worry that its too late but there is hope. its not like its impossible. Yeh it does seem unfair that nothing gets looked into until after 3 miscarriages. it does make you wonder why they happen and if there's anything you could do to stop it happening again. All you can do is keep trying and keep hopeful. Miracles do happen. When i had my ds, you do take it for granted and think things happen so easy but now that I have had a miscarriage, I realise now how much babies go through to be born. My ds has now gone out with his mates so think i will have to brave the snow myself. not as much fun. I haven't been to my doctor yet. I don't really discuss all this with OH as I think he just thinks see what happens and if it happens then it does. He was gutted when miscarriage happened and he says that he understands it is worse for the woman. I hope you have a good day and try to stay positive xxx

Thanks Josie I completely agree I didn't think twice about problems with my first three pregnancies, I was lucky to fall the first month trying with each, my family used to joke you only had to look at me to get me pregnant, everythings changed now though and I too realise just whats involved and just how hard getting pregnant and for me staying pregnant, hopefully miracles do happen and we get our miracles hun xxxxxx

Yes we don't realise how lucky we were at the time. hopefully 2013 will be lucky. Now someone has put the thought in my head about implantation bleeding. I will drive myself nuts!!!

 

[Oasis717]

I know I was the same last month! I had brown spotting for 4 days instead of my normal one or two and I half convinced myself it was IB, but with each full term.pregnancy I had not one drop of blood, with the two mc I bled. The first I lost in June 12 at 12 weeks I was just starting to show and the midwife had heard the baby move 2 days before mc. I bled brown blood at 5, 8 and 11 weeks which was a Monday and I lost the baby on the Saturday. Next loss was no baby just a sac so it was a missed miscarriage, again that started with brown spotting but as I'd been scanned early I knew it was not viable. For me, and that's just me, bleeding/spotting in pregnancy is very bad and subsequently if I spot brown 2 days before AF I know I've failed again. But LOADS women have IB and bleeding when their period would have been due so you never know! Xxxx

 

[crazymam]

I feel like this whole TTC is now taking over my life and driving me crazy. I have just had another very short period, only two days bleeding again.
But I used to be like that before I had mirena coil so guess thats just me.
I just feel so useless at the moment. I now appreciate how lucky I was to have 3 pregnancies and fall withiin one cycle each time.
Because of my age I can see fertility specialists in march if still no success. If I hadnt had two miscarriages last year I would have already been there. its so frustrating as they take it from your last miscarriage,
I only have alcohol when I am bleeding, or within the first 7 days I start period. so last night it was and I have suffered all day!!! My body isnt used to it now so think I will just give it a miss completely after last night.
Started OPK twstign again today as on day 6.
Clock is ticking for me now, I will be 44 in 7 months, although I dont feel it. I think I will cal it a day in my birthday if nothing happens by then. For my sanity more than anything I think

 

[crazymam]

You can temp by other means but I prefer by mouth lol, just make sure you don't move the thermometer around when taking it and keep your mouth closed, you'll be fine hun. The opks are dear in the shops, even in Asda they are 4.50 for 5 tests whereas you can get 30 or 40 on eBay for that money so I always get mine off of there, glad you feel better, I'm really pleased I can see I've ovulated but I'm now worrying my pre ovulation temps are too low as they are in the 96 range and apparently you are supposed to have 97.5 or over just been reading about it. My temp this morning was 97.6 which is the highest its been and what apparently it should have been before ovulation. I've since read that low basal body temps can indicate low progesterone which in turn can cause early miscarriage which I've now had two. I spoke to my doc last week who completely dismissed any kind of testing until I've lost 3 babies, it's very unfair. Anyway I guess I can't do anything but hope. Enjoy your walk if you go! Xxxx

I didnt now that about the temps, i thought as long as you had a rise and fall. I might go back and take another look at my temp charts x

 

[Creative]

Clock is ticking for me now, I will be 44 in 7 months, although I dont feel it. I think I will cal it a day in my birthday if nothing happens by then. For my sanity more than anything I think

Well I am currently on day 28. No AF yet, but a bit crampy and I think it may well happen later tonight. Tomorrow is my birthday and I will be 44!

I never thought I wouldn't be pregnant. I had a surprise pregnancy this time last year and lost it about 11 weeks. I just didn't dream when I started trying after the MC that it wouldn't happen. I think I too said I'll stop trying at 44, but I never ever thought it wouldn't have happened before now.

 

[crazymam]

Clock is ticking for me now, I will be 44 in 7 months, although I dont feel it. I think I will cal it a day in my birthday if nothing happens by then. For my sanity more than anything I think

Well I am currently on day 28. No AF yet, but a bit crampy and I think it may well happen later tonight. Tomorrow is my birthday and I will be 44!

I never thought I wouldn't be pregnant. I had a surprise pregnancy this time last year and lost it about 11 weeks. I just didn't dream when I started trying after the MC that it wouldn't happen. I think I too said I'll stop trying at 44, but I never ever thought it wouldn't have happened before now.

I know I never thought it wouldnt happen. I just took it for granted. I dont want to stop trying though, thats the hardest thing. I know when I reach my birthday it will be a very hard decision. Are you taking your temps too? I really really hope its not af cramps for you. fingers crossed for you, and hope you have a lovely birthday tomorrow , whatever happens xx

 

[dancareoi]

I was going to put a link on for my FF chart, but not sure how to. Does anyone know how to do this? Thought it might help t see temps.

Creative and crazymam - try and stay positive, you just never know?

 

[Oasis717]

Dancareoi if you go to your page on ff and click on sharing at the top, under charting home page click set up, after you've created a home page then again under charting home page click get codes, I used the simple link as I didn't have room for the thumbnail, you just copy the link into your signature and as with mine a link comes up to your chart. Xx
Crazymam you are in exactly the same position as me, three pregnancies, fell the first month of trying with each, then last year two losses, I really feel for you. And for everyone in our situationXxx
Creative don't loose hope we will get there in the end, I really do believe it xxx

 

[crazymam]

Dancareoi if you go to your page on ff and click on sharing at the top, under charting home page click set up, after you've created a home page then again under charting home page click get codes, I used the simple link as I didn't have room for the thumbnail, you just copy the link into your signature and as with mine a link comes up to your chart. Xx
Crazymam you are in exactly the same position as me, three pregnancies, fell the first month of trying with each, then last year two losses, I really feel for you. And for everyone in our situationXxx
Creative don't loose hope we will get there in the end, I really do believe it xxx

well this is desperation now, but I have bought an ornamental elephant after looking at feng shui for fertility you wouldnt believe how hard it was to find one with its trunk down, dont know what I am going to tell everyone when this elephant suddenly appears on the hall landing facing my bedroom door, think I have finally gone nutty
As you can see I will try anything now, crossing our fingers for us all this year x

 

[Oasis717]

That's not nutty!I would try anything lol. You never know maybe it will bring you luck, if it does I'm getting one!! Xxx

 

[dancareoi]

Hopefully this will work!

https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/3d379c

Hopefully this will help with seeing what temps are like.

Has anyone tried acupuncture? This is supposed to be very good for infertility issues. The guy i see specialises in infertility and miscarriage.

DH thinks its a load of nonsense, but the way I see it, what harm?

Load more snow here yesterday to go on top of what we already had! kids off school again!

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks dancareoi, really helps to see your chart it's looking really good! We have no.more snow but plenty from yesterday so schools are shut again too, my 11 year old is so pleased! Xx

 

[josie1234]

Dancareoi if you go to your page on ff and click on sharing at the top, under charting home page click set up, after you've created a home page then again under charting home page click get codes, I used the simple link as I didn't have room for the thumbnail, you just copy the link into your signature and as with mine a link comes up to your chart. Xx
Crazymam you are in exactly the same position as me, three pregnancies, fell the first month of trying with each, then last year two losses, I really feel for you. And for everyone in our situationXxx
Creative don't loose hope we will get there in the end, I really do believe it xxx

I have gone on fertility friend, how do you do the chart as can't seem to find it on there. AF definately finished, very weird, not like normal. One day AF. Don't think it was IB because it was heavy for one day, not spotting. Took temp this morning, not sure when to do OPK as only got 7 day one, might wait til beg of Feb. Hope you are having a good day today. xx

 

[josie1234]

Dancareoi if you go to your page on ff and click on sharing at the top, under charting home page click set up, after you've created a home page then again under charting home page click get codes, I used the simple link as I didn't have room for the thumbnail, you just copy the link into your signature and as with mine a link comes up to your chart. Xx
Crazymam you are in exactly the same position as me, three pregnancies, fell the first month of trying with each, then last year two losses, I really feel for you. And for everyone in our situationXxx
Creative don't loose hope we will get there in the end, I really do believe it xxx

I have gone on fertility friend, how do you do the chart as can't seem to find it on there. AF definately finished, very weird, not like normal. One day AF. Don't think it was IB because it was heavy for one day, not spotting. Took temp this morning, not sure when to do OPK as only got 7 day one, might wait til beg of Feb. Hope you are having a good day today. xx

I found the chart, i was looking on wrong site, fertility friend.co.uk not .com. All sorted. Tummy bit swollen and feel flutters in lower part. What is going on. Any ideas? Hope you are all having a good day xx

 

[josie1234]

Thanks Oasis. I will start taking temp tomorrow. I think there are so many things to think about, temperature, cm, luteal phase to work out ovulating. I'm surprised anyone gets pregnant to be honest. its like a science eh? It does seem to happen when you are not trying and not thinking about it which is hard cos its all i seem to think about at the moment. mind you, because of my age, it is difficult not to worry that its too late but there is hope. its not like its impossible. Yeh it does seem unfair that nothing gets looked into until after 3 miscarriages. it does make you wonder why they happen and if there's anything you could do to stop it happening again. All you can do is keep trying and keep hopeful. Miracles do happen. When i had my ds, you do take it for granted and think things happen so easy but now that I have had a miscarriage, I realise now how much babies go through to be born. My ds has now gone out with his mates so think i will have to brave the snow myself. not as much fun. I haven't been to my doctor yet. I don't really discuss all this with OH as I think he just thinks see what happens and if it happens then it does. He was gutted when miscarriage happened and he says that he understands it is worse for the woman. I hope you have a good day and try to stay positive xxx

Thanks Josie I completely agree I didn't think twice about problems with my first three pregnancies, I was lucky to fall the first month trying with each, my family used to joke you only had to look at me to get me pregnant, everythings changed now though and I too realise just whats involved and just how hard getting pregnant and for me staying pregnant, hopefully miracles do happen and we get our miracles hun xxxxxx

Hi hows things going? Hope you are ok xx

 

[Oasis717]

Sorry Josie I didn't see your post, am glad you got on the right sitex how are you hun? I got some new pregnancy tests from eBay today called Wondfo's, they're supposed to be really good so I used one just for fun really as I'm only 5 dpo and I got a faint line, I knew it would be an evap though as way too early but it was even pink, I hate evaps! I did another later on in the evening and that one was neg of course, that's what you get for testing at 5dpo lol xx