TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[dancareoi]

So far so good, I saw the HB before she did!

She has out me 3 days ahead, I thought I Amy be a most 1 day ahead but that fine.

They gave me the clexane and showed me how to next in my tummy once a day. It wasn't actually too bad.

She called it a little butter bean and its CRL was only 14mm, so don't know why my tummy is so big!

They have clinics we'd and fri and she said I could go back whenever I wanted!

I am going again next Friday as my specialist consultant will be there!

I can relax for the moment and then start worrying again next week!

 

[dancareoi]

Cd 14 opk.

Getting darker.

Looking good, definitely do twice a day now!

 

[josie1234]

Great news Lisa. Glad you ve had a good day. Chuffed for you. Yes i will do 2. will see if i can put second one on here if too large will send email. Xxxx

 

[dancareoi]

Great news Lisa. Glad you ve had a good day. Chuffed for you. Yes i will do 2. will see if i can put second one on here if too large will send email. Xxxx

I will look forward to it

 

[Oasis717]

Oh Lisa I'm so so pleased for you, been thinking about you all day but I just knew it would be ok. I'm so glad you've got such good care too. I rang the midwives yest and explained I was worried the same thing might happen again and would anyone help and she said no, the doctor has very kindly offered to do an early scan and you should forget you're pregnant until 8 weeks. I actually wanted to cry. I said so this baby had to die too before anyone will do anything and she said it may sound cruel but yes. I honestly didn't have any words to say to her so I just said goodbye xxxxx

 

[dancareoi]

Oh Lisa I'm so so pleased for you, been thinking about you all day but I just knew it would be ok. I'm so glad you've got such good care too. I rang the midwives yest and explained I was worried the same thing might happen again and would anyone help and she said no, the doctor has very kindly offered to do an early scan and you should forget you're pregnant until 8 weeks. I actually wanted to cry. I said so this baby had to die too before anyone will do anything and she said it may sound cruel but yes. I honestly didn't have any words to say to her so I just said goodbye xxxxx

It is so unfair that the operate in this way. The powers that be, or chinless wonders, as m mom calls them, have obviously never experienced a loss such as this, otherwise the would be more understanding.

I have been lucky with my doctor, but I believe she has had miscarriages herself, so this maybe why she refered me after my one last jan.

Is there anywhere local you could maybe book a private scan, just to put your mind at ease?

 

[Oasis717]

The thing is I don't mind waiting for an early scan, I know that before 7 weeks there's always a chance of causing stress when things can't be seen because it's too early. All I wanted was some simple blood tests to rule out diabetes, thyroid, low progesterone etc. All my doctor would have to do is write a form. But she refused to do anything. I just can't understand why at 41 and having had two losses since June I can't at least have a simple blood test xxxxxxx

 

[Kat S]

Oasis, that is frustrating! I don't understand, either. My doc did blood tests on me several times a week at first, then went to once a week along with an ultrasound until the day we realized it was all over. Anyway, they were checking my progesterone, hcg, and more I imagine. If you're willing to pay, why aren't they willing to test??

 

[Oasis717]

In the UK hun we don't pay unless you have a private health insurance which I don't have, we have the national health services here so we don't actually pay the doctors as such. I guess I'll just have to pray this time it's ok xxxxxx

 

[josie1234]

So far so good, I saw the HB before she did!

She has out me 3 days ahead, I thought I Amy be a most 1 day ahead but that fine.

They gave me the clexane and showed me how to next in my tummy once a day. It wasn't actually too bad.

She called it a little butter bean and its CRL was only 14mm, so don't know why my tummy is so big!

They have clinics we'd and fri and she said I could go back whenever I wanted!

I am going again next Friday as my specialist consultant will be there!

I can relax for the moment and then start worrying again next week!

Great news, bet it was good. try not to worry xxx

 

[Kat S]

In the UK hun we don't pay unless you have a private health insurance which I don't have, we have the national health services here so we don't actually pay the doctors as such. I guess I'll just have to pray this time it's ok xxxxxx

Sorry, I neglected to look and see where you lived. Still, I'm sorry they won't give you the tests you want. I hope it's not even necessary and everything goes perfectly!

 

[Oasis717]

That's ok hunni and thank you that's what I'm really hoping too xxxxxx

 

[dancareoi]

Hi Becks, what about actually going to see the doctor and explaining face to face how you feel and beg them to do a few simple tests? You may get lucky and get the tests you want, no harm in asking.
I can't remember what all the things were that I had tested, but thyroid and diabetes were 2 of them.
Back in august I had progesterone test after OV and that was fine, but due to my shorr LP I was prescribed progesterone.
They may give you progesterone, apparently it doesn't harm you if you don't need it.
Worth a try!

 

[Oasis717]

Tried Lisa, just before I got pregnant, asked if I could be checked out for a few things, inc low progesterone and she said no point, also she said they don't prescribe progesterone to sustain pregnancies and that it was something they used to do back in the dark ages. She couldn't have been more dismissive. She told me come for an early scan if I manage to get pregnant but anything else wasn't necessary. I give up! Xxxx

 

[dancareoi]

Tried Lisa, just before I got pregnant, asked if I could be checked out for a few things, inc low progesterone and she said no point, also she said they don't prescribe progesterone to sustain pregnancies and that it was something they used to do back in the dark ages. She couldn't have been more dismissive. She told me come for an early scan if I manage to get pregnant but anything else wasn't necessary. I give up! Xxxx

What about calling docs surgury and booking an appointment to see another doctor and ask them once you are face to face. If you see a male one and start the water works, maybe he would relent!!!!!!

Progesterone does not sustain a pregnancy that is non viable anyway, that part is true. however if MC is due to low progesterone then it will help to sustain it.

On reading numerous things on progesterone,some docs prescribe as a matter of course in some places.

What about baby asprin, some people swear by that. Although my specialist said they did do a study into this, but found it didn`t really help, but I have read a number of things about it.

After my loss in jan last year, my doc did suggest maybe taking low doage asprin once PG again. Maybe that is something to consider!!

 

[josie1234]

Doesnt seem fair how doctors work differently. Everyone should have same opportunities.

 

[josie1234]

Opk cd 15

 

[Oasis717]

Most definitely a positive Jo!!! Yay xxxxxxxxx

 

[josie1234]

Yay xx

 

[dancareoi]

You got it! Sending lots of baby dust your way, next couple of days now are the most important!