TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[Oasis717]

Had call ambulance at 2am this morning as I started hemorrhaging, they tried to stop it at the hospital but it kept coming and coming so bad that I had an emergency d and c. The baby was sent away for testing and I'm being referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic via docs. Came home at 4pm as thankfully didn't need a transfusion this time. Beyond devasted just feel so numb. I was all on my own too as dh couldn't leave the kids. Had a bad reaction to a drug they gave me and for some reason this time when I came round I was in so much pain. Had 6 doses of morphine. Feel like I've been to hell and back xxxx

 

[dancareoi]

Becks that sound awful, we all know exactly how you are feeling right now. I am sending lots and lots of hugs to you.

I know you said you wouldn't try again, but each time I have had a D & C I have got pregnant straight away after and had Eoin and Caitlin.

I have just a friend request to you on FB but I have no idea what I am doing as I've never used it.

Found Jo but couldn't send request. Found a Regina Hamilton with a picture of a black dog but didnt know if it was the right one.

Mine is Lisa Donohoe, no profile picture.

As I say I haven't a clue what to do so an pointers?

Becks, look after yourself, you've been there before and you know that it will get better, a very gradual process I know and at the moment you can't see anything ahead but sadness, but it will get better.

I've posted this poem before and it always makes me cry. I have it on a laminated credit card sized card which I carry in my purse, so my lost little ones are always with me.

Although it is very sad, in some ways I find it a comfort too.

Poem - An Angel Never Dies

Don’t let them say I wasn’t born,
That something stopped my heart
I felt each tender squeeze you gave,
I’ve loved you from the start.

Although my body you can’t hold
It doesn’t mean I’m gone
This world was worthy, not of me
God chose that I move on.

I know the pain that drowns your soul,
What you are forced to face
You have my word, I’ll fill your arms,
Someday we will embrace.

You’ll hear that it was meant to be,
God doesn’t make mistakes
But that won’t soften your worst blow,
Or make your heart not ache.

I’m watching over all you do,
Another child you’ll bear
Believe me when I say to you,
That I am always there.

There will come a time,I promise you,
When you will hold my hand,
Stroke my face and kiss my lips
And then you’ll understand.

Although I’ve never breathed your air,
Or gazed into your eyes
That doesn’t mean I never was,
An Angel never dies.

 

[Oasis717]

Lisa can you send the request again on fb I didn't know it was you xxx not sure what were going to do yet. Def nothing til I've been seen by the clinic. Just don't know. Thankyou for your kind words xxx

 

[dancareoi]

I think we're friends now!

Thinking of you xx

 

[garfie]

Becks - so so sorry Hun for your loss again - just a thought you are probably really sore as they will have stretched you to full dilation so they can get all of the baby for testing - be aware this pain last a few days so stock up on painkillers.

Once again sorry for you loss

I am also on fb if anyone wants to add me - I've got a blue lightbulb as my profile pic. Fiona Barker



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[josie1234]

Hi all I have sent a few friend requests on fb, hope you don't mind.

Becks I was really upset when I read your news. So sorry hun. I really wanted this for you. I hope you get some answers and some hope. Big hugs.

How are you all?

 

[Left wonderin]

Jo I'm just devastated for Becks , its so hard . And there is nothing but time that will make it any better . Its so sad.

I'm looking forward to Monday to see where things are at for me re thyroid and moving forward wherever that is . I'm off to Holland next Thursday with Oh and Sean for 5 days to spectate at the WAO ( world agility open ) looking forward to the break .. Well break of sorts with a 14 month old breaks are non existent so I'm. Finding out . Sean has started this week to throw a few wobbles to get what he wants ! I have to try so hard not to laugh . Its so cute.

Think I've added you on fb

 

[josie1234]

Lisa, i meant to say that poem is so lovely. Makes me cry every time. Have I requested you as a friend on fb as not sure if I got right person.

3w

 

[Oasis717]

Thankyou all. Its sinking in today and its so cruel I still look3 months. Fi I'm taking co codamol. Its helping a bit. V sore inside too. Xxx

 

[Left wonderin]

 

[dancareoi]

Jo, didn't see any friend request. I don't have a profile picture, but I'm Lisa donohoe (once sharrock) although I have momentarily deactivated As Im struggling to understand it!!!!!

Becks, look yourselfxx

 

[Left wonderin]

Lol Lisa we found you

 

[Sparkle125]

Becks, I am so sorry. This is so unfair. Sending hugs your way...there are no words. So upset for you and your husband. I hope you heal quickly in every way.

AFM: I like this FB friend idea! I am Jennifer Ryan in Austin, Texas, with a closeup pic of my face as my profile. I've kinda lost out on some of y'alls names...I tried to friend Becks. If any of you want to "friend" me, I'll "friend" you back. Funny that "friend" is now a verb.

 

[Left wonderin]

Ill go find you and add to our group

 

[garfie]

Hi Becks - just popping in to see how you are holding up.

Don't worry Sparkle about being missed out of the fb group - if anyone can find you - Regina will



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[Oasis717]

Just feel completely devastated I'm not sure how to get through tbh xx

 

[josie1234]

Aw Becks. We are all here for you and I know that doesn't take away the pain. I know the feeling of just wanting to lock yourself, not face the world, not seeing any light at the end of a very long tunnel. Keep going for your beautiful family. Sending you lots of love xx

 

[josie1234]

Fi your chart is looking interesting.

Another long cycle for me.

How is everyone else?

 

[NancyE]

Thought I would start a new thread and see if there are any takers!

I`m Lisa and I am 40 - 41 in August.

I have 3 children boy 10, girl 7 and boy 23 months.

I had a first tri loss in July 09 at 8 weeks and a slecond tri loss in Jan this year at 13-14 weeks - LO born sleeping 12.1.12.

we have now decided to TTC again.

There are posts for TTC after loss and TTC over 35 but nothing for over 40`s who are TTC after loss.


At this age the chance of MC we all know is a lot higher. I saw a specialist last week and will be under this clinic.

They have taken loads of blood and the results will be back in 5-6 weeks, so i go back 19th June - they said if i am PG then that will be great timing. They will also scan me then and every 2 weeks after that.

Hoping there are other ladies out there in the same position as me and we can help each other through this scary time.


DANCAREOI - Lisa - age 42. - Caitlin Erin - born 3rd sept 2013 - 7.4

XANTH - Sarah - age 43 Eloise Beatrix - 18th sept 2013 - 7.9

CREATIVE - Karen - age 44 Barnaby Arran - 28th November 2013 - 8lb

CRAZYMAM - jan - age 43 : Tabitha born 20th November 2013 - 7lb 7oz

JOSIE1234 - Jo - age. 45 - TTC

LEFTWONDERIN - Regina - age. 41 - Sean Joseph - 22 Feb 14 - 8lb -WTT

GARFIE - Fiona - Age 43 - TTC

OASIS 717 Becks - Age 42 Brooklyn - born 18th oct 2013 - 8.12. -TTC again

SERENJAY - T - age 42

SPARKLE - Jenn - age 40 - Reid

CRYSHEE - Crystal - Age 41 - Sayer Brecht - 12th February 2015 - 7lb 10oz

TILLYTTC - age 41 - Anna born 25th November 2014 - 7lb 10oz

ALIEN - Kim - age 41 - TTC

DRIVING280 - age 41 -

BASH73 Age 39. - TTC
KAT. - Age 41 - TTC
HomeEdMom. - Age 43 - TTC
Mandy1971. - age 42 - TTC

NancyE - Age 42 - TTC. WP born sleeping 24.4.15

 

[Left wonderin]

Just feel completely devastated I'm not sure how to get through tbh xx

Becks you will get through this . Trust in that fact right now you need to do whatever gets you through each hour and go with it . If that's curling up in bed under the duvet feeling like never coming out or if its screaming sobbing or sitting in silence do it . I know your not ok but you will be again I promise xxxx