TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[dancareoi]

Thought I would start a new thread and see if there are any takers!

I`m Lisa and I am 40 - 41 in August.

I have 3 children boy 10, girl 7 and boy 23 months.

I had a first tri loss in July 09 at 8 weeks and a slecond tri loss in Jan this year at 13-14 weeks - LO born sleeping 12.1.12.

we have now decided to TTC again.

There are posts for TTC after loss and TTC over 35 but nothing for over 40`s who are TTC after loss.


At this age the chance of MC we all know is a lot higher. I saw a specialist last week and will be under this clinic.

They have taken loads of blood and the results will be back in 5-6 weeks, so i go back 19th June - they said if i am PG then that will be great timing. They will also scan me then and every 2 weeks after that.

Hoping there are other ladies out there in the same position as me and we can help each other through this scary time.


DANCAREOI - Lisa - age 42. - Caitlin Erin - born 3rd sept 2013 - 7.4

XANTH - Sarah - age 43 Eloise Beatrix - 18th sept 2013 - 7.9

CREATIVE - Karen - age 44 Barnaby Arran - 28th November 2013 - 8lb

CRAZYMAM - jan - age 43 : Tabitha born 20th November 2013 - 7lb 7oz

JOSIE1234 - Jo - age. 45 - TTC

LEFTWONDERIN - Regina - age. 41 - Sean Joseph - 22 Feb 14 - 8lb -WTT

GARFIE - Fiona - Age 43 - TTC

OASIS 717 Becks - Age 42 Brooklyn - born 18th oct 2013 - 8.12. -TTC again

SERENJAY - T - age 42

SPARKLE - Jenn - age 40 - Reid

CRYSHEE - Crystal - Age 41 - Sayer Brecht - 12th February 2015 - 7lb 10oz

TILLYTTC - age 41 - Anna born 25th November 2014 - 7lb 10oz

ALIEN - Kim - age 41 - TTC

DRIVING280 - age 41 -

BASH73 Age 39. - TTC
KAT. - Age 41 - TTC
HomeEdMom. - Age 43 - TTC
Mandy1971. - age 42 - TTC

NancyE - Age 42 - TTC. WP born sleeping 24.4.15

Nancy, so sorry for your loss, but yo have come to the right place for support and big hugs.

We have a number of rainbow babies here now. The path to our rainbows has not been easy, but with the love and support of this group we have come through.

Some of us are still waiting for rainbows, but we are here to help each other through.

Becks,

 

[josie1234]

Hi Nancy. I hope that this thread gives you some support. Lovely ladies who have helped me. Just having somewhere there who know what you are going through. Big hugs.

Lisa - I don't know whether to change my TTC on the front page as although I am not preventing, being peri menopausal I am not focusing on ttc any more. Have you got any letters for that lol??

 

[Left wonderin]

Maybe Jo NTNP ? Well its true
Welcome Nancy and I'm so sorry for your recent loss . I'm Regina 42 and WTT for no 2 ! Have issue with my thyroid so have been preventing since December ... Just waiting for the green light

Hope you stick with us for your journey

 

[josie1234]

Yes Regina I like that. Lisa can you change front page. Thanks hun.

How is everyone?

 

[Left wonderin]

I'm off on me hols tommrow till Monday so won't be around for a few days be good everyone while I'm gone lol

 

[NancyE]

Thanks Becks,

I'm starting to understand how to use this forum. Still don't know how you ladies get all that brilliant animation, rainbows and things! And i still haven't worked out how to get a smiley face .

Feeling better today, will have my consultation in 3 weeks, spoke to bereavement midwife who told me that when (when, not if), I get pregnant again i'll get a stitch at 12 weeks. Suddenly i feel a bit excited at the prospect of trying again, have been so wrapped up in the aftermath of losing my beautiful boy that i haven't thought about it and when i have its been with resistance and resentment thinking I'm not sure ever want another baby. But I do and a friend of mine told me this morning about her friend who gave birth to her first at 45 then a second at 48 so come one ladies, we can do this !!!!!

Things have been quite strained with DH and I've been a bit stressed out with step kids - i have a step son, 8 and step daughter 10. We all live together. I really just want this rough time to blow over so we can have some peace and a bit of happiness again. And most of all i want to have another a baby.

 

[NancyE]

Hi Regina,

I will definitely stick with you all through my journey. I not know much about thyroids an how they affect conception, pregnancy but i have fibroids and they can cause all sorts of issues. My MC was 3 weeks ago tomorrow so Im waiting for my body to get back to some normality before trying again. Not sure if any part of the bleeding i had was AF or not. Don't think so. I am waiting for AF so i can know where I'm at in my cycle. Still, i should probably give my body a few months after the trauma. I feel pretty positive today, but i am still grieving so its all a bit up and down.

Thanks for your message xxxxx

 

[josie1234]

How are you all? Quiet on here. Still waiting for AF so another long cycle. Grrr.

 

[Oasis717]

Still finding things v hard Jo so sorry if I'm awol xx

 

[josie1234]

That's understandable Becks. I really hope you all are ok? How is Brooklyn. He must be getting big now. Big hugs xxxx

 

[Oasis717]

Yes he's adorable and he's so big now, he's a little monkey though! Xxx we are muddling through, it's v hard. My doctor has sent a referral to the hospital at least so I hope to get some help there xx

 

[dancareoi]

Hi folks, popping in to say hi to all.

Jo and nancy, I've updated first page.

Becks, glad you've got a referral, hopefully they can help you. The referral I had resulted in Caitlin.

My DS is 5 tomorrow, taking him to Hatton Farm, a working farm not far from where we live, he's so excited.

He wanted an undersea dinosaur, so researched and found a Plesiosaur in John Lewis!

Off to Weston Super Mare on Wednesday just for the night.

Eldest DS has been in France and Belgium the last 4 days on a WW1 tour with school, DH has just picked him up, so he'll be back very soon.

Love to all xx

 

[josie1234]

Hi all

Thanks Lisa sounds like you are keeping busy. OH still away. Had friend visit yesterday so day in cambridge which was nice. Feeling a bit under the weather, think it is sinuses playing up.

Easier week this week so chance to chill or catch up on jobs.

Becks, hope you have managed to have nice weekend with family. Would love to see pic of Brooklyn.

How is everyone? Would love to hear updates

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks Lisa I really hope it helps, Jo Here's a recent pic of Brooklyn whilst we were away at Camba Sands recently xxx

 

[Left wonderin]

Hi everyone Becks good to hear from you Brooklyn looks so like his dad !! And so so cute . He still has his little baby face bless him .

Lisa where did Ds think up an " under water dinosaur ??? Lol.... Is it in a movie or something ? Hope you have a lovey day at his party
Nothing exciting going on here , Sean is still refusing to walk even though he can , he just prefers to crawl !!! He has lots of words now and is so cute when saying them
I'm off to London for the weekend at the end of June , my mum n dads 50th wedding anniversary so we are surprising them with the trip with all us girls ( 5 ) I know my poor dad lol... Looking forward to it . We're not telling them till a few days before . We have booked tickets to go to see the commitments and then I'm guessing shopping and eating lol

Jo any pics of the holidays ??

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks Regina he's def an Adam mini me lol. He's almost identical to pics of Adam at that age. Casey looks so much like me at his age too. Well dh and I have talked and I think once the initial horror of the mc both mentally and physically passes a tiny bit you start to think you don't want this to be the end. Dh originally didn't want to try anymore as was finding it too much to keep seeing me go through this and even I agreed for a time but something is telling me to keep trying. Not yet though. In a couple of months maybe August, I need time this time it hit me so much harder. But that's positive that dh and me both don't want to end the journey just yet. I hope you have a fab time in London, Sean will walk soon, Brooklyn doesn't talk v much but understands everything we tell him they just like to do it on their own terms lol. He is saying a few more words like nose and mouth and loves pointing out all his body parts if you ask him! Xx

 

[Left wonderin]

Becks its great that you and Adam can talk it through even with all the pain you guys are going through . You had two losses in a row that is going to knock all the stuffing out of you for sure . Hopefully by the time you are ready to try again you will have your appointment with the FS . Ill probably be still waiting lol.......

Good to see you back btw xxx

 

[Oasis717]

We are getting there but its still so hard I have to block it out mostly its too painful But thank you. Would never leave you ladies xxx

 

[josie1234]

Becks he is going to have the ladies flocking. He is growing eh? And his hair is lovely. What a gorgeous boy. So glad that you and Adam can talk about things as that is one of the hard parts.

Can you not see my pics on facebook?

I did try to put them on here but they are too large.

Lisa - any pics of Caitlin? Love to see pics.

 

[Oasis717]

Jo thankyou I know we are biased but he is gorgeous! We say that all the time that he'll have the ladies knocking the door down lol. Yes I'm really glad we have talked and changed our minds. Not sure if we will ever get the outcome we would dearly love but neither of us is ready to give up just yet. I just hope all of us get our rainbows xxxx