TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[Oasis717]

Thank you Crystal, I really appreciate your kind words, I really will try not to let it get to me xx me too really hoping for a rise tomorrow xxx

 

[josie1234]

FX for you hun. Crystal is right. Negative energy is a waste of time, think happy thoughts and look how far you have come. Always look forwards, never back. Xxxx

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks Jo that's a great attitude xxxxx

 

[josie1234]

Best way to be hun. You are lucky in so many ways so don't let it drag you down. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day with a temp rise for you xxx

 

[Oasis717]

Yes some other people don't seem to like it when you're happy never understood that as I'm always thrilled for other people but I've always been different from that side of my family in that way xxxx
I must be going mad I thought I was on here and posted a pic of Brooklyn on a completely different thread about breaking rules lol, oh dear! Xxx

 

[crysshae]

Lol! Well post it here. We wanna see it.

For those with rainbows or pregnant When did y'all tell your older kids you were pregnant?

 

[Oasis717]

I tried it wouldn't let me will keep trying xx
We waited til 14 weeks with Brooklyn xxxx
Oh its let me now really hoping those chicken pox marks fade, there's a spider on the outside of our window in the front room and he spends ages looking at it lol xxx

 

[Oasis717]

Watching his friend the spider lol xxx

 

[Oasis717]

Xx

 

[crysshae]

He is too cute!

I think DH is ready to tell. As soon as we left the doctor's office yesterday, he said: "So are we telling the kids now? By the time you go back to the doctor at 15 weeks it'll probably be obvious and the oldest will guess. She already said something last night."

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks Crystal yes you definitely need to play it by ear and you know when you're ready to tell I bet they will be so pleased, so exciting xxxxx

 

[Left wonderin]

Hi ladies
Becks I'm sorry to read about the hard time your having ! Sometimes families are just impossible !! It sounds like your mum has had her own struggles and often times people who are very unhappy with themselves project and blame others . Alcoholism is such a terrible disease and along time after people get " dry " the behaviours do not change . Everyone is right , everyone who matters , who knows you knows the truth . Having a relative who has an issue with alcohol is an emotional minefield its hard work not to get dragged back into that negative space . Its part of the cycle. You know its not your fault , remind yourself of that fact and move on . DO not allow yourself get dragged into the interaction . Live your wonderful life with your wonderful family . By the way that little boy of yours is WAY too cute hoping for a temp rise for you in the next couple of days xxxxx

Cry yahoooooo super news about your scan its such a wonderful feeling to hear that little heart beating away 3 more weeks and second tri how do you think your children will take the news ??

Jo how is the new gym going ? And is oh enjoying the freedom of his new bicycle lol ....

 

[crysshae]

Yeah...she's 18 and knows about my 1st two miscarriages because I said something on accident that made her guess in those few days. This time I've done really well but a couple nights ago I mentioned that fruity pebbles sounded good. I never eat those...so she started saying "are you sick, running a fever, what's wrong with you? Are you pregnant?" Lol. I just said "I don't know why I thought of fruity pebbles and started asking her how her cravings work to change the subject.

Regina - I know the oldest will be over the moon. The others might have a need to think about it at first but then get excited. My youngest daughter will be perfectly fine if it's a girl. She had told me before no more boys. Lol!

 

[crysshae]

I ordered this shirt for our youngest. Gonna put it on him and see how long it takes them to notice. Lol!

 

[Oasis717]

Thank you Regina, I think you're so right even though she doesn't drink anymore she's not changed, I think it just hurts because I spent so many years as a child and young adult being there for her and trying to help her and yet none of that seems to matter it came to a head in 2012 when she turned her back on me after being really nasty over the phone and it broke my heart, a few days later I started bleeding and lost the pregnancy, i was 12 weeks, she knew but didnt care, I think I've spent enough years being treated badly and wanting her to be the mum I always wanted and I know now you just can't make people be anything, I don't miss her anymore but I really do miss having a mum xxxxx

Crystal I love the t shirt and I know what you mean its so hard to hide it from older children! Xxx

 

[dancareoi]

Becks, Brooklyn is so cute.

Crystal I was 17 weeks before we told our kids. In 2012 we told them when I thought I was about 14 weeks. 3 weeks later we had to tell them baby had died. It was heartbreaking to tell this to a then 10 year old and 8 year old.

They never knew about the one I lost in sep 12 and still don't.

Hence the reason we waited with Caitlin.

 

[crysshae]

I lost mine so early. I hope I don't offend asking questions.


Was everything perfect up to the point you lost the little ones later in pregnancy?

Love that smile Lisa! So cute!

 

[Oasis717]

Course you don't offend Crystal, looking back at my 12 week loss in June 2012 I had warning signs, brown discharge on and off and what my mW told me were Braxton Hicks from 6 weeks which I know think weren't as I didn't get them until past 24 weeks with Brooklyn, I also had weeks at a time barely feeling sick from early on, although 2 days before I lost my lo we heard them move at the midwifes so as worried as I was that reassured us but it wasn't to be, I had no scans due to no previous problems so I will never know why, also i felt Brooklyn move from 10 weeks but felt nothing with that pregnancy, i was just starting to show when i lost them, for the same reason as Lisa we waited until 14 weeks to tell the children, Casey was devasted when we told him, they never knew about my 11 week loss after that, with that one I had not one symptom so I knew from the start something was terribly wrong and it was a blighted ovum. With Brooklyn I had strong everything, tests, symptoms, it was completely different xxxxxxx

 

[Sparkle125]

Lisa,

I think you were asking for my age. I'm 40!

 

[dancareoi]

I don't want to spook you crystal, but I had a nuchal scan at 12 weeks which was perfect. Went to diabetic clinic at hosp at 17 weeks and midwife couldn't find HB and scan showed baby died 13-14 weeks, probably just as we told kids!

My other 2 mc were early - 8 and 9 weeks.