TTC after Methotrexate shot

[Becktoria]

I've been off since last tuesday. I think just being pregnant makes me so anxious and emotional because of what happened with my little girl, I had a complete placenta abruption and she cudnt b saved. I think if that hadn't happened I probably would of only took couple days off but im a lot more sensitive now if that makes sense, this is my 2nd loss after her so it brings all those horrible memories back. I can't really explain it. I feel sad right now. I just don't want to see anyone in work I feel very delicate at the minute god help me when it's her actually anniversary. I don't feel so much upset over ectopic because maybe I expected it but it makes me upset that I shudnt have to go through this because if my baby girl was here I wudnt b trying to get pregnant. No of us should have to go through a loss. I've posted on the stillbirth forum too and the ladies r lovely there. So sorry for the moan ladies I just don't know what to do with myself xxx

 

[Laubull]

I am sorry Beck, I can't even comprehend what you have been through

If you need more time off take it, you need to heal.

x

 

[baby_maybe]

Massive massive hugs beck I understand how you must be feeling, my first little girl was born at 24+6 and passed away not long after. It was almost 12 years ago now, but some days it still feels so raw it catches me out a little.

Personally if it were me I'd go and get signed off for longer, it took me a couple of weeks to want to leave the house after my ectopic, but after that I did start to feel physically better, the emotional side takes a little longer imo.

 

[chig]

Becktoria, I too had a previous loss that still makes me emotional. I lost my first pregnancy with my little girl at 18 weeks. She was diagnosed with a severe congenital heart syndrome. I was told to make a choice of continuing the pregnancy with a high possibility of still birth or to end the pregnancy. If I continued and the baby was born breathing then her chances of survival was 20%. She would need surgery right away and two more to follow, with low survival rate. I made the tough decision to end the pregnancy and not have my girl suffer through so much right at birth. I was really really sad when her due date approached. You are not alone in feeling the way you do. I took a week off from work. If you need time off, I would take it. You owe it to yourself to heal emotionally. Big hugs your way.

 

[cathgibbs]

Oh bec I'm so sorry to hear its the anniversary of your daughter coming up,I didn't take any time off but I know you can get signed off for 2 weeks,go and see your gp chick and talk to him and tell him that your job includes seeing newborns etc..... xxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Renzalxx]

Hi Beck
Will be thinking of you this week and sending you big squishy cyber cuddles on the breeze.
I took about a week off in total (over two weeks) but I had a jab every second day for 8 days so that made me very sicky every second day so would just come in when i felt up to it. I think you should take off as much time as you need... its only a job and your emotional state is far more important at this stage... Im sure they will understand!
Mwah x

 

[PreshFest]

Hi Beck
Will be thinking of you this week and sending you big squishy cyber cuddles on the breeze.
I took about a week off in total (over two weeks) but I had a jab every second day for 8 days so that made me very sicky every second day so would just come in when i felt up to it. I think you should take off as much time as you need... its only a job and your emotional state is far more important at this stage... Im sure they will understand!
Mwah x

Renzal, I haven't seen you around in a while! How are you? Testing soon??

 

[Becktoria]

Thank you everybody for your kind words, I feel a lot better today. I went to the doctors and he has signed me off another week he said I'm to take as long as I want and to make sure I don't rush back into work. He was very understanding for a change!
Chig your post made me cry, life is so unfair that must of been extremely difficult decision, nobody should have to make decisions like that.
Maybe-baby thanks for making me understand that I'm not going mad and this is normal what I'm feeling, it's nice to talk to people who have had similar experiences, when people share their experiences it shows I'm not on my own in this nightmare.
Thank you for all your support everybody it really has helped xxx

 

[Becktoria]

Also another quick question. I had the shot

 

[Becktoria]

Also another quick question. I had the shot on Tuesday 26th june, started bleeding yesterday, how long did you bleed for? When I got my shot my levels were only in the 90s last Saturday, Tuesday they went down to 54. I'm hoping this will be quick but just curious how long everybody else bled for, it's really heavy at the minute and I've hot period type pains. Any advice or info would be great thanks xxx

 

[baby_maybe]

I can't help with the bleeding, I didn't get any really for almost 8 weeks after the shot, but my hcg was 13,000 when I got it. The bleed I had leading up to getting to 0 I'm sure was a period rather than anything to do with the previous pregnancy. I hope it doesn't last too long for you though

 

[Renzalxx]

Hi Beck
Will be thinking of you this week and sending you big squishy cyber cuddles on the breeze.
I took about a week off in total (over two weeks) but I had a jab every second day for 8 days so that made me very sicky every second day so would just come in when i felt up to it. I think you should take off as much time as you need... its only a job and your emotional state is far more important at this stage... Im sure they will understand!
Mwah x

Renzal, I haven't seen you around in a while! How are you? Testing soon??

Hey chicky
Im great and how is everything going with your lil one? Been praying everything will turn out fantastic for you both after all the poo you have been through lately. What is the latest from your doc?
Afm, i am currently on about 3DPO after getting my smiley face on my OPK. First time i have used one and realised that I dont ovulate until about day 18 so that explains where we have been going wrong...
Fingers crossed this is our month!!

 

[baby_maybe]

Good luck renzal, got my fingers crossed that you caught the egg this month

 

[BayBeeEm]

Greetings all,

Just wanted to say how much I love this group and how it has been instrumental in me dealing with my loss. You guys are wonderful and the dialogue is insightful. Now, I am off to continue my lurking! Baby dust to everyone!!!!!

 

[alleysm]

Popping in to say hello! I need some help.. my husband is going crazy with symptom spotting.. im 8-9 dpo and had a temp rise this morning.. he is googling and texting me at work. Although its very darling of him, it makes me feel like a broken failure when af shows each month.. how can i handle this?

 

[autigers55]

alleysm - The only thing I can tell you is to not let him know about your temp and to tell him stop symptom spotting because he sounds worse than most women ttc(wasnt trying to be mean, lol)! I know this sounds mean, but just tell him your temp going up doesnt mean anything yet and that it could just be a fluke temp(not saying it is) and to stop stressing you out with so much info. At least that is what I would do! If you just cant bear to tell him to stop, then I guess the only option is to suck it up and let him go crazy with google!!

Hope he calms down soon though!!

AFM - I havent updated in awhile, but I have been stalking. Hope everyone is going ok. I am in my 2nd tww and I am either 7 or 8dpo today and I am patiently waiting to test either Monday or Tuesday because AF is due either Wednesday or Thursday. So fx'd that I caught an egg this cycle because I just found out my SIL is pregnant and she and I both would love for us to be pregnant together!!

Sending outs lost of baby dust for everyone!!

 

[cathgibbs]

Beck i think my bleeding lasted for about 2 weeks hun yours maybe less tho!!

AFM iv just come out of hospital AGAIN!! had an abcess developing behind my navel from the laparoscopy ggrrrrrrr counting down the days till we can try again!!! yay! xxx

 

[Becktoria]

Hope your feeling better soon Cath you been put on antibiotics? Hospital rang my bloods have dropped to 6 yipeeeeee. So glad I can now get the ball rolling for ivf. I was bleeding really heavy yesterday but now really light like an end if a period, is it Normal to only bleed a few days? Xxx

 

[Becktoria]

Just wanted to say thanks for all your support ladies xxx

 

[cathgibbs]

Ohhhh I'm glad its coming right down for you chick,I didn't realise you will be having ivf,is it on the nhs,how many tries do you get is it 3? Xxx