TTC after miscarriage before AF

[xanzaba]

Mssk- Good luck! I can never get the hang of finding my cervix. Sorry if TMI, but how far do you have to insert your finger? I'm pretty sure it's higher up than what I'm thinking, or I'm not sure how sex is possible without hitting the cervix...

 

[mssk]

Xanzaba- it took me a little while to get the hang of it lol...and I felt ridiculous trying to figure it out. You have to use your middle or index finger and reach in and back toward your rectum. If you insert straight in you will only feel the vaginal walls. Depending on where you are in your cycle it can be hard to distinguish your cervix from the vaginal walls if you don't know what you are feeling for. It is usually firm before and after AF and soft during pregnancy. Once you find it and get the feel of it, it is easy to find. It is lower and easy to find right before AF, it will be firm and lower, much easier to reach. Bumping the cervix during sex is really uncomfortable but usually the cervix is so high during O that it doesn't get bumped

 

[TinyLynne]

Thank you ladies for your thoughts. I just had to get away for a while.

We took a month off from TTC this cycle. Oed early of course! So will probably see AF in the next two weeks. Then femara again.

DH and I saw a family counselor and I think it finally convinced him that we need to really start looking at IVF as a real option. So we are getting pricing and saving. Reality blows sometimes.

Thinking of you all! Hoping you get your stickies soon! My heartbreaks when yours do. Wishing us all the best.

 

[mssk]

I understand Tiny, everyone around me keeps announcing their pregnancies...and it just makes me want to scream (not that I am not happy for them). I finally had to stop using Facebook because it was just too much for me. I am just glad that you are okay. I pray for you every night Sounds like the family counselor went well. I hope that this next cycle is it for you!

 

[mssk]

Well cycle day 28. Cervix had been high and soft, now med and soft I feel completely hopeless. I have other symptoms but I think I am just symptom spotting. I know you can't base things 100% off your cervix but, feeling it sink a little lower in the last two days has made me lose hope. Plus with DH's new job bding has been a nightmare. But, tmi I am seriously constipated which is usually the number one sign for me, I have been drinking lots of fluids and today it was so bad I bleed after going. I guess the wait for AF is on.

 

[xanzaba]

Tiny- glad you had a little break and that you have come to an understanding about IVF. While it all sucks, it's always better to know what the problem is how to solve it.

Mssk- as long as AF doesn't show, and cervix isn't low and open, the game's not over. Those couple of days before BFP/AF seem like they take forever.

AFM- DH was out of town and it was nice not thinking about TTC. Then, the day before he got back I had EWCM (cd 9, which is a little early for me) and then again the next day. Of course, I tried to seduce him, but he came back on the red-eye and is feeling off, so I'm trying to be understanding. But when he's doing everything else fine, it makes my blood boil. I really feel like just not trying this cycle but partly to get back at him, which is wrong.

 

[mssk]

Xan- I completely understand that feeling. With DH's job we are on totally different schedules, but when he gets home I swear he is reading, writing, watching netflix, cooking...but is too tired to bd. Some times I just want to smack him!

 

[mssk]

I am thinking about ordering the opk/pregnancy test kit for next cycle now and just giving the O tracking a shot so I can at least document if/when O is occurring. I figure at least then I only have to bug DH on certain days.

 

[mssk]

How is everyone doing?

It is cycle day 30 for me...the pressure to the 2 week wait is at it's greatest, I am really starting to hate TTC.

 

[xanzaba]

Mssk- wishing you a speedy TWW. Last month I thought I wasn't going to make it!

AFM- having O pains. My average O day is 13-14, so I guess I'm getting back to normal, and I had EWCM this month. We did manage to bd yesterday and the morning before. Both time's I've gotten pregnant it was from morning bd'ing 2 days before O, so fx'ed!

As for the DH not in the mood thing, I wonder if they are subconsciously avoiding more drama or having performance anxiety. Either way, trying to be patient...

 

[xanzaba]

Mssk- thinking about you. Any news?

 

[mssk]

Hey Xan, I'm okay cycle day 33 no AF yet but cervix is now much lower and feels pretty firm, so I am just waiting for AF to show her ugly face .

How are you doing?

 

[xanzaba]

Sorry Mssk Hopefully it's a red herring.

I'm 3dpo. Last night I had a melt down with DH (again) and he promised he would try to be more careful (again). But this time I think he meant it, and we're finishing up some of the big work on the house, so hopefully next month I won't have to drag him into the bedroom. Afterward, though,I realized the timing was pretty good in the end. So, fx'ed. At least I don't have to worry about the timing any more this month, and I have about a month stress-free on that end.

 

[mssk]

FX'd for you Xan. I hope this is it for you .

AFM- Well cycle day 33 and cervix is very low like 1 and 1/2 inches in. But, it is angled and now feels more closed then yesterday. What the heck body make up your damn mind!

 

[Babylove100]

Good luck ladies. Mssk, I hope AF stays always!!

I got my pos opk yesterday (cd15) so I'll take O as today so I'll be 1dpo tomorrow! I'm feeling good as this feels like the first cycle in ages that's actually going to plan! Especially after my last 2 wacky cycles it feels like this is the first one since May that we actually have a shot at this!! Fx! AF is due on Halloween so let's hope the only witches are kind are those of a certain height wanting candy/sweets!!!

 

[mssk]

Well the has finally shown. Spotting started tonight on cycle day 36. So hopefully tomorrow it will get going with things and then move on along. We have decided to be as stress free as possible and just bd when we can this cycle. Try to make it fun again and all . BUT, I have decided to go ahead and order OPK's for the sake of being able to see if I am ovulating. I think the main issue is that we are bding early in my cycle and then stopping before O even occurs in my new long cycles, I guess I have to get use to the fact that O day is not day 14 anymore. Hopefully AF is not 8 days long like last cycle. FX'd for all of us.

 

[xanzaba]

Mssk- Sorry the witch found you, but onto a nice, clean cycle. I really do feel like things get more and more normal, which must be better for conception.

 

[TinyLynne]

Good luck with this new cycle mssk!

 

[Babylove100]

Sorry the witch got you mssk! But at leans it's bring a new fresh cycle for you. Sending you a ton of and hoping for your bfp!!

 

[mssk]

Thank you ladies, I am just glad that AF is starting to show on a regular basis. We didn't get to bd much this last cycle. With DH being on an overnight schedule, but---I told him make it through bding this next cycle and I promise I will leave him alone for 9 month lol