TTC baby number #1

[Kalia101]

Kalia, don't make me confiscate ur POAS opportunities....Not that I'm entirely sure how I would do that ;-) hehe xx

Haha I know we'll with the support from here I'm defo not testing now till Sunday which will defo be my AF due date xxx I might get OH to put HPTs on a shelf I can't reach lol xxx

 

[Imp]

Thanks for the welcome everyone! I am on CD12 I think. I have not done any charting or OPK yet but I plan to if I don't conceive by cycle 6. I just use an ovulation app and try to BD on the green days! I think I'll get more serious about it after cycle 6 but for now I'm ok! Just wanting to see what other people are doing TTC #1!

 

[Tess08]

Am thinking about trying the SMEP plan for out first attempt. BD every other day from CD 8 till you get a positive opk then BD every day for 3 days in a row, skip a day then BD one more time. Think it sounds good but tiring! Not used to BDing that often! DH will be worn out!

Personally I think that's the best method snuffle pop! The only reason I'm not using that method myself is because my partner just flat out refuses to BD with me every other day haha! He is thinking more along the lines if we don't know when the best time to BD is then we should just do it when we feel like it and see what happens. He doesn't want it to seem like a chore which I understand but he just doesn't understand how much I need this to happen ASAP before I drive myself insane lol. That's why I've decided to just let things happen his way until I have a positive OPK and then he will know that although BDing at that particular may seem a bit forced, it will be worth it!! X

 

[Snufflepop]

Imp I am on CD10 so we will be doing tww at about the same time assuming we both get a normal length cycle. We can symptom spot together!

 

[Tess08]

Thanks for the welcome everyone! I am on CD12 I think. I have not done any charting or OPK yet but I plan to if I don't conceive by cycle 6. I just use an ovulation app and try to BD on the green days! I think I'll get more serious about it after cycle 6 but for now I'm ok! Just wanting to see what other people are doing TTC #1!

So do you have regular cycles then? I tried to use an app on my phone but it was useless for me as my cycles are all over the place if you do decide to use OPKs we were all discussing cheap ones we got from amazon called one step ovulation tests which have really good reviews. Just incase you don't want to spend a lot on tests from a shop. Were you on pill or anything before deciding to TTC? X

 

[Snufflepop]

Tess it will definetly be worth it! I can see where your DH is coming from though. I think it will be harder to keep BD from feeling forced the longer we are ttc. I think DH is still finding it novel at the mo but I don't know how quickly that will wear off! Will have to invest in some new undies or something to try and keep things...ahem...interesting!

 

[Tess08]

Tess it will definetly be worth it! I can see where your DH is coming from though. I think it will be harder to keep BD from feeling forced the longer we are ttc. I think DH is still finding it novel at the mo but I don't know how quickly that will wear off! Will have to invest in some new undies or something to try and keep things...ahem...interesting!

Yeh I know where he is coming from too but it's still annoying haha! We have been trying for 5/6 months now and at the start we BD'd a lot and I think that he is thinking it was a lot of effort and it kind of did take the excitement out of it after BDing every second day for about 2 months and from his point of view he is thinking why bother because it didnt make a difference. What he doesn't understand is that although it's been 5 months, because my cycles are still majorly messed up its only been 2 cycles which is still really early days!

Haha that is defo a good idea. My problem at the minute aswell though is that I've put on quite a bit of unwanted weight through the depression of the constant BFNs so I'm not finding myself very sexy at the minute and therefore I'm probably not being very sexy towards the DP so no wonder he doesn't feel like BDing all the time x

 

[Kalia101]

Snuffle pop that's exactly what I'm doing tomoz buying new undies to get him interested more when I need to haha he can't refuse if I'm stood there in new sexy undies haha!

That plan sounds busy haha xxx

 

[Sookie889]

This first month I'm really enjoying all the BD ing.....talk to me again in a couple of months n. may have a different view....No bd ing tonight....I let him sleep instead lol ;-). Xx

 

[Snufflepop]

Mind you we should tell our partners to make the most of it while its there on a plate! Once we get our BFPs who knows if we will still want to BD and once LO arrives there will defo be no BD for a while!

 

[Kalia101]

Yeah I'm enjoying it to although tonight iv felt really tired but I will BD!! I must BD!! I'm just shouting at my self here don't mind me haha xxx

 

[Tess08]

Yeah I'm enjoying it to although tonight iv felt really tired but I will BD!! I must BD!! I'm just shouting at my self here don't mind me haha xxx

Haha that's the spirit kalia you can do it!!! My cold has been at its worst today so I've just been lying under my covers with a hot water bottle and lemsips since I got in from work. Don't think I look very attractive at the moment haha. But the lovely BF has been taking good care of me BDing for me will have to wait till I get over this although I'm not too worried as I took an ov test today which was neg anyway x

 

[Imp]

Snufflepop, my only problem is I have ZERO symptoms! I usually have an increased appetite the week before AF but that's it! Nothing else!! It's great when not TTC but kinda annoying now!

Tess, I was on the pill for about 18 months before we started NTNP. My first cycle off was weird but the last three have been between 27-29 days which is normal for me. This is our fifth cycle so if no BFP after cycle six then I'm gonna use OPK! I'll have to try the one you mentioned! I def don't want to spend a ton on OPK!

 

[Kalia101]

Tess i put some un wanted weight on over time after I had the ectopic I got sooo depressed and down I stopped being active and ate crap and put on so much weight now I'm finding it really hard to lose Iv lost a stone and still have 2 to lose but getting my confidence back slowly and going to be doing my best to go gym from next week twice a week.

And since putting that weight on iv not felt sexy or confident so I always think if I don't like me how can I expect OH to but I'm slowly getting there

The things us women go through ay xxxx

 

[Tess08]

Tess i put some un wanted weight on over time after I had the ectopic I got sooo depressed and down I stopped being active and ate crap and put on so much weight now I'm finding it really hard to lose Iv lost a stone and still have 2 to lose but getting my confidence back slowly and going to be doing my best to go gym from next week twice a week.

And since putting that weight on iv not felt sexy or confident so I always think if I don't like me how can I expect OH to but I'm slowly getting there

The things us women go through ay xxxx

Yeh that is EXACTLY how I'm feeling right now. I have out on a stone and a half in just 5 months. I feel horrible but don't have any motivation to do anything about it as I'm just constantly thinking bout TTC.

This thread isn't just helpful for talking about babies but also bout how we feel in general about everything. I love it lol x

 

[Livia82]

According to my charts and ovulation tests I ovulated on cd 14 and BD'd (what exactly does that stand for?) on cd 10,12,13,14.

I have been looking at some sites again Livia and they all seem to be saying that O happens 14-16 days before AF comes so I'm really confused as to how you could have O'd on day 14 but AF not arrive until 32 days later :S ... As soon as you think you are getting your head around something you hear of a situation where it doesn't fit and then you start to question what you thought you understood in the first place! Jeez this whole baby making thing hurts my head lol x

I know... That's why I think that I must have been pregnant and that maybe something went wrong (or was wrong from the get go). The whole time I felt pregnant despite the neg pregnancy tests. I was exhausted, had to pee constantly, was bloated, had a heightened sense of smell... My ob said that there was a small chance that I am pregnant despite the neg test results and that's why she scheduled the ultrasound. The day before the ultrasound I started bleeding though. I guess I'll never know.

 

[Kalia101]

I know I love that to that we can just talk to each other about anything I have am friends I can't talk to about some stuff iv been on here for a week and feel I can come to you guys about anything baby related or not and even if you can't relate we're there just to listen, give advice and for a good vent xxx

 

[Sookie889]

I'm with u ladies....I love our little thread here....

On the self confidence issues, I was at a very low point around 3-4 months ago....Since then I've started Spinning 3x a week, Ashtanga yoga once a week n a nutrition plan(not diet, eat more now than I ever have) lost 22lbs so far n feel bloody great but I was defo at a low point were me n oh even started to let DTd slide.....at one point he was lucky if he got it once a month....hence the reason he's so up for it at the minute lol

All I can say is chin up girls n let everything that is frustrating u out....it feels fab when u do it, and I used to be a biiiiig girl....tipped the scale at over 18.5 stone n now I'm around 3st lighter but fit as a butchers dog n that's what counts! xx

 

[Sookie889]

AF pains this morning, but not due on til 16th.......boooooooooooooo xx

Have a good day ladies xx

 

[Kalia101]

Ohhh well you know there's always a chance until AF arrives xxx