TTC Chill out room

[gilz82]

Hi lovely ladies

How's everyone doing? I had my 21 day bloods done today. Was feeling pretty stressed about it all but now that's it done I've realised that getting all panic'd between now and my results next tuesday isn't going to help anyone.

I'm just going to relax, try to enjoy the weekend and see where we are next week.

Anyone got anything nice planned for the weekend to take their mind off TTC?

xx

 

[ellieb31]

Hi Everyone

Hope you're all doing ok!! I've been away for a week sunning myself on a beach in Tunisia but I'm back in the UK now. It was lovely to have a week away from it all and I've hardly thought about ttc - it's impossible to forget but I'm actually managing not to stress about it at the moment. TBH, I don't even know if/when I ovulated this month because I've not been keeping an eye on it.

Hey gilz, did you have a good weekend and good luck with your results tomorrow. xx

 

[gilz82]

Hey EllieB

I'm so happy you had a great holiday, it's so lovely to get away

I got a phonecall from the dr's this morning with the results of my 21 day tests and i didn't ovulate. Got an appointment with my dr tomorrow anyway, so will just need to discuss what happens now with her.

Was trying to make myself feel better about it by hoping maybe i just OV'd late and the bloods missed it, but i've got serious symptoms so she's on schedule to arrive on friday if not earlier.

Supposed to working just now, but instead my head feels like it's full of cotton wool , so thought i'd just come and talk to you guys instead.

Hope everyone is doing well
and

 

[ellieb31]

To any of you lovely ladies that still happen to subscribe to this thread, I would just like to share some good news. This morning I got my

I've had such a different month from normal - no OPK's or CM/CP watching, no fancy moves or planned sex. Just a lovely holiday, sex when we wanted it and who'd have thought it!! DH was booked in for SA this morning and AF was due on Saturday so I thought I should test before he went off to do his business. I'm still in complete shock!!

 

[clairebear26]

Congratulations!!!! I think the chilled approach helps. I have been TTC for one month and AF showed up on Saturday. Got really stressed about it so might try and relax a little.

X

 

[ellieb31]

It's not very common to get pregnant within the first 3 months (only 30% of couples do) so try not to get too wound up. I basically figured that I wanted to get pregnant by the end of the year rather than making it all about that one particular cycle.

GL and

 

[gilz82]

Oh ellieb that's fantastic!!!

So pleased for you, hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months

xxx

 

[ellieb31]

Thanks very much gliz I really hope it's your turn soon xxx

 

[Chloe's mum02]

Congratulations on your bfp!! Wishing you a healthy and happy 9 months

Amy xx

 

[Groovychick]

Congratulations Ellie!

 

[floofymad]

Congratulations again Ellie!
Think I want to follow this approach, but can I ask, how do you make sure you are relaxed when really you kind of know when abouts you're going to ovulate? If it's about the same time every month, don't you kind of still think that you should be BDing as much as poss, or should I just try my best to completely forget dates and everything?... x

 

[ellieb31]

Thanks babe.

I have 28 day cycles and they start on a weekend and I ovulate around CD 14 so it's true that I was aware of where in my cycle I was the whole time. But we just did what we wanted sex wise. We had it when we fancied it and how we fancied it (if you know what I mean!) We had loads of plans - friends to see every weekend, a couple of birthdays, a week in Tunisia etc etc. With all that going on, it would have been nuts to try and have sex on specific days. You'll be aware of when you might be due to ovulate but it can vary by a day or two each month and then it can 12-48 hours for the egg to be released so it's not an exact science even if you are OPKing. Towards the end of the month I had almost convinced myself that I hadn't ovulated - for no apparent reason other than that because I hadn't been checking so I didn't really know. Frankly, I'm amazed that I got a BFP in the first month of not 'trying' but I'm certainly going to stick with this method if we have to try again!

GL and to you hun.

 

[floofymad]

Thanks Ellie! x

 

[gilz82]

It's so great to know that relaxing and getting less stressed about TTC does work. I know that it makes sense, but to then see the actual results is fabulous!!!

FX'd plenty more of us relaxed ladies will soon have 's too.

and
xx

 

[ellieb31]

I know!! Who'd have thought that in the first month of not trying it would work!! Amazing!

 

[gilz82]

Hi

Is anyone still trying to chill and TTC?

I'm out for this cycle my OH is away for 12 days again so that's that. Just going to keep temping to see if the Dr's were wrong and I do actually OV.


Xx

 

[glowingjo]

Hi Gilz,

The witch caught me this morning, and I'm all up for chilling. I need to keep temping etc cos my body is still whacko, but I just want to give things a try and see where things lead.

Hmmm, what else to talk about - have you seen the new twilight movie? Is it wrong to be a fan of twilight in your 30s?

Oh god, someone shoot me before I go COMPLETELY mad....

 

[gilz82]

Hi Gilz,

The witch caught me this morning, and I'm all up for chilling. I need to keep temping etc cos my body is still whacko, but I just want to give things a try and see where things lead.

Hmmm, what else to talk about - have you seen the new twilight movie? Is it wrong to be a fan of twilight in your 30s?

Oh god, someone shoot me before I go COMPLETELY mad....

Bummer about the but onto another cycle we go

No judgement here about Twilight, i love love love the books and i'm 28. I've only seen the first film and i quite liked it although it's better if i don't watch it and just listen to it, cos Robert Pattison just does nothing for me at all.

Woooft who sounds like a loony now
xx

 

[glowingjo]

Hehe, The books are brilliant - and the movies have actually improved. DH actually asked if he could come along to see Eclipse the other day!!

Maybe I can start obsessing over losing weight instead of TTC?
OR start collecting recipes to use the millions of courgettes/zucchini my DH is growing in the garden. And broad beans, and spinach.

Oh dear, work time beckons. BAH! See you later on

 

[OneSmallStep]

It's hard NOT to obsess over TTC. This is my first month back after losing a pregnancy in October... Ok so August will be my first month back and I've only JUST started charting again since I was done with the whole darned process until just recently.

We're trying once and then if it doesn't take that's it until July of next year. Why? Because I breed and show Paint horses and our World Championship show is in early July. If I take in August I'll have a mid/late May baby and that gives me just over 30 days to get the horses ready to roll. I OV late in the month so we can try in July regardless of the show

Last time we took on Cycle 1. It was just a very unfortunate circumstance that lead us to losing the baby. Wasn't anyone's fault just a matter of being sick with a very unfortunate virus and the medication to keep me alive did my angel in.

Since then? I've been obsessing on my diet and artwork and the horses LOL! And now I'm back to sort of obsessing about babies. Dammit. Love how it comes full circle.