TWW starts today! Who's with me?!

[onebumpplease]

Thanks Torres, no need. Full AF. Blech. Don't feel too bad as I had my breakdown on Sunday. But I do feel down and really believe that there is a high possibility that I'm not meant to have children

I feel like I'm kidding myself on; taking lots of vits to do this and that, g/fruit juice to help CM, preseed, temping. I honestly was not stressed or too excited that cycle. So don't know how to feel tbh. Was nearly in tears at supermarket, seeing all the tiny babies and pregnant woman. How did I get here

(excuse me, obviously struggling to get + again)

 

[snowflakes120]

One Bump - I see you got AF yesterday too. Hugs girl. I had to refresh your chart because I thought I was looking at mine!! We both got a good drop today and were both on CD2. Bizarre!

So, AF came finally last night once I got home from work - ya know - just long enough to make me stress the entire day at work wondering if she was going to show her face!!

Anyways, I have an appt tomorrow with OBGYN to get a new plan of action for this cycle!

I'm in a positive mood. I need my mind set to be like this all cycle long!

Kickball with friends tonight. Should be fun!!

xoxo

 

[onebumpplease]

Go Snowflake.

We are mimicking one another

Hope we can mimic a positive hpt this month?

 

[BabyHopes.]

Thanks Torres, no need. Full AF. Blech. Don't feel too bad as I had my breakdown on Sunday. But I do feel down and really believe that there is a high possibility that I'm not meant to have children

I feel like I'm kidding myself on; taking lots of vits to do this and that, g/fruit juice to help CM, preseed, temping. I honestly was not stressed or too excited that cycle. So don't know how to feel tbh. Was nearly in tears at supermarket, seeing all the tiny babies and pregnant woman. How did I get here

(excuse me, obviously struggling to get + again)

Sorry you're going through a rough patch. It will get better, I promise! As hokey as it sounds I feel like everything happens for a reason.... look how much better a parent you will be having such a deep appreciation for what you have!!! And you will get - it's just a longer road than you expected.

xo

 

[onebumpplease]

So how are you all getting on?

Is anyone in the TWW? I've lost track... easily done, when you're as scatter brained as me

 

[snowflakes120]

I think Noodle & Jessy are the only ones in 2ww right now. Get it girls!!

I am CD3 - I went to my OBGYN today for my monthly visit and he upped my Clomid dose to 100mg. So FX that this is our month!! I hate the wait to OV - it's soooooo boring!!

 

[NoodleSnack]

Thanks Torres, no need. Full AF. Blech. Don't feel too bad as I had my breakdown on Sunday. But I do feel down and really believe that there is a high possibility that I'm not meant to have children

I feel like I'm kidding myself on; taking lots of vits to do this and that, g/fruit juice to help CM, preseed, temping. I honestly was not stressed or too excited that cycle. So don't know how to feel tbh. Was nearly in tears at supermarket, seeing all the tiny babies and pregnant woman. How did I get here

(excuse me, obviously struggling to get + again)

Have you thought about seeing a FS? They say you should wait 12 months, but personally, if I don't get pregnant by next month, I'm going to see one. 80% of couples get pregnant within 3 months, so if after three months it still doesn't happen, I think it's for my own peace of mind to find out if there's something a FS can do. If need to, I would tell them I've been trying for longer.

 

[snowflakes120]

Thanks Torres, no need. Full AF. Blech. Don't feel too bad as I had my breakdown on Sunday. But I do feel down and really believe that there is a high possibility that I'm not meant to have children

I feel like I'm kidding myself on; taking lots of vits to do this and that, g/fruit juice to help CM, preseed, temping. I honestly was not stressed or too excited that cycle. So don't know how to feel tbh. Was nearly in tears at supermarket, seeing all the tiny babies and pregnant woman. How did I get here

(excuse me, obviously struggling to get + again)

Have you thought about seeing a FS? They say you should wait 12 months, but personally, if I don't get pregnant by next month, I'm going to see one. 80% of couples get pregnant within 3 months, so if after three months it still doesn't happen, I think it's for my own peace of mind to find out if there's something a FS can do. If need to, I would tell them I've been trying for longer.

I'm not sure where you are located Noodle but I'd be very surprised if your OBGYN refers you to a FS after only 3 months of TTC. And if they do refer you for such a short time of TTC - I'd be running to find a new OBGYN!! Do you know if your OBGYN can do tests on you and such? I had all mine done there. I am just barely under a year of trying. My old OBGYN said after my miscarriage she would refer me only after a year of trying and even then she said it was a bit premature. And my new OBGYN hasn't even brought it up yet.
Personally, I am holding out as long as possible as we have to pay 100% of my infertility costs right now as it is (and none of it goes towards my very high deductible either) and the prices are more than double at the FS for 1 appt - when I called to get the price of the 1st appt I nearly fell over! But I am happy at my OBGYN - he knows his stuff and I like my plan of action he has for me and won't be leaving til he exhausts all options available to me at his office. This TTC has been soo expensive for us. Between the Miscarriage and the price of visits because I see the OBGYN every single month and being monitored and then there's the price of RX's that aren't covered either because they are related to fertility. My future baby is already a worth a small fortune. I hate my insurance because it doesn't cover a single thing I just listed that I get done. Sorry for my rant there!!

Regardless, below are Pregnancy stats by month:

1st month - 15%-25%
3 months - 40%
6 months - 70%
12 months - 85%

 

[shellyt]

appeared today... gutted!

 

[NoodleSnack]

Thanks Torres, no need. Full AF. Blech. Don't feel too bad as I had my breakdown on Sunday. But I do feel down and really believe that there is a high possibility that I'm not meant to have children

I feel like I'm kidding myself on; taking lots of vits to do this and that, g/fruit juice to help CM, preseed, temping. I honestly was not stressed or too excited that cycle. So don't know how to feel tbh. Was nearly in tears at supermarket, seeing all the tiny babies and pregnant woman. How did I get here

(excuse me, obviously struggling to get + again)

Have you thought about seeing a FS? They say you should wait 12 months, but personally, if I don't get pregnant by next month, I'm going to see one. 80% of couples get pregnant within 3 months, so if after three months it still doesn't happen, I think it's for my own peace of mind to find out if there's something a FS can do. If need to, I would tell them I've been trying for longer.

I'm not sure where you are located Noodle but I'd be very surprised if your OBGYN refers you to a FS after only 3 months of TTC. And if they do refer you for such a short time of TTC - I'd be running to find a new OBGYN!! Do you know if your OBGYN can do tests on you and such? I had all mine done there. I am just barely under a year of trying. My old OBGYN said after my miscarriage she would refer me only after a year of trying and even then she said it was a bit premature. And my new OBGYN hasn't even brought it up yet.
Personally, I am holding out as long as possible as we have to pay 100% of my infertility costs right now as it is (and none of it goes towards my very high deductible either) and the prices are more than double at the FS for 1 appt - when I called to get the price of the 1st appt I nearly fell over! But I am happy at my OBGYN - he knows his stuff and I like my plan of action he has for me and won't be leaving til he exhausts all options available to me at his office. This TTC has been soo expensive for us. Between the Miscarriage and the price of visits because I see the OBGYN every single month and being monitored and then there's the price of RX's that aren't covered either because they are related to fertility. My future baby is already a worth a small fortune. I hate my insurance because it doesn't cover a single thing I just listed that I get done. Sorry for my rant there!!

Regardless, below are Pregnancy stats by month:

1st month - 15%-25%
3 months - 40%
6 months - 70%
12 months - 85%

Hm, the statistics I saw said roughly 30% of couples get pregnant in the 1st month, 30% the second, 20% the third, and the other 10+% takes until 12 months. Could be a bad website, just can't remember where anymore. But that's encouraging, nevertheless, we'll see one if it doesn't happen soon. I don't live in the US and we just usually book straight with the specialist. I don't see an OBGYN regularly. I might fib a bit and say we have been trying for 6 or more months.


Healthcare in the US is expensive, and all that insurance just make things harder - used to live there, couldn't understand why the insurance don't just pay every doctor I want to see if the treatment is covered and why I had to look up myself if something is covered or not - that should be their job.

 

[onebumpplease]

Ladies will b MIA this weekend,away with OH and family, struggles already, more detaips by Sun x

Hope u r all well x

 

[Torres]

Hey ladies. It was a nice few days off (from thinking about TTC), but now back to business! haha. Well, obvs I still have a little wait till I'm fertile, but I'm going to try the SMEP this month, so I have some reading up to do.

My daughter has been bringing up "the baby" quite a bit lately. She keeps asking me when my tummy is going to get bigger and when the baby will come out. Looking back, I shouldn't have said anything to her until it was later on in the pregnancy, but how could I hide something like that from her?! I don't know what to say to her when she asks, so I just keep saying "soon." I don't want to tell her that the baby "went away" or anything, because I don't want her to think that the next baby will go away. Does that make sense? Do you think I'm doing the right thing by just saying "soon" and changing the topic? (She just turned 4 in March)

Onebump - I hope everything is okay. Can't wait to hear what's going on.

Noodle and Jesse - how's the TWW treating you?

Snow - hope that the upping of the dosage does the trick and you get your BFP this month! I feel sorry for you that you have to spend so much money on medical care. I just don't understand on how a first world country like the USA does not have free health care. That is why I would never live there. Mind you, if you do have coverage, or you can afford it, it is the best health care in the world. I live 20 minutes from the US, and if our hospitals here cannot give a patient the treatment they need, than they will send them to the US, and it's covered by the Canadian government. Also a lot of people I know work in the states so they have coverage there. One of them were diagnosed with cancer and given a grim prognosis here in Canada, went over to the States to be treated and now are cancer free!

Babyhopes - When are you due to O? You and I have been very close cycle wise.

Shelly - Sorry AF got you love. Try and enjoy the week off and prepare for next cycle. How long have you been TTC?

 

[BabyHopes.]

Hey ladies. It was a nice few days off (from thinking about TTC), but now back to business! haha. Well, obvs I still have a little wait till I'm fertile, but I'm going to try the SMEP this month, so I have some reading up to do.

My daughter has been bringing up "the baby" quite a bit lately. She keeps asking me when my tummy is going to get bigger and when the baby will come out. Looking back, I shouldn't have said anything to her until it was later on in the pregnancy, but how could I hide something like that from her?! I don't know what to say to her when she asks, so I just keep saying "soon." I don't want to tell her that the baby "went away" or anything, because I don't want her to think that the next baby will go away. Does that make sense? Do you think I'm doing the right thing by just saying "soon" and changing the topic? (She just turned 4 in March)

Onebump - I hope everything is okay. Can't wait to hear what's going on.

Noodle and Jesse - how's the TWW treating you?

Snow - hope that the upping of the dosage does the trick and you get your BFP this month! I feel sorry for you that you have to spend so much money on medical care. I just don't understand on how a first world country like the USA does not have free health care. That is why I would never live there. Mind you, if you do have coverage, or you can afford it, it is the best health care in the world. I live 20 minutes from the US, and if our hospitals here cannot give a patient the treatment they need, than they will send them to the US, and it's covered by the Canadian government. Also a lot of people I know work in the states so they have coverage there. One of them were diagnosed with cancer and given a grim prognosis here in Canada, went over to the States to be treated and now are cancer free!

Babyhopes - When are you due to O? You and I have been very close cycle wise.

Shelly - Sorry AF got you love. Try and enjoy the week off and prepare for next cycle. How long have you been TTC?

Hey Torres,
I'm on CD8, so I should be ovulating May 4-6. I'll actually be in Jamaica for my best friend's wedding, so it would be AMAZING if we could conceive there - what a souvenir!

I've had a miserable week. My 31st bday was yesterday, and I was grumpy mess. I think this is what most people go through on their 30th, but I never did cause my bday was 3 months before moving into our new home and getting married, so I was excited about the year. This year, I feel old and unsuccessful. I pictured my life so differently by this point. Childless, no permanent job (yay for education in Ontario), I just thought I'd be somewhere different you know?

Anyway, I find the 2 weeks between AF and O pretty uneventful, hence the quietness. I kind of feel bad though ALWAYS looking forward for time to pass, clocking my life in 2 week intervals. I feel like I'm not actually taking the time to enjoy life NOW, instead always looking ahead to the future. I guess I just got that reality that life is going by SO FAST and I'm wishing it away looking for something that WILL come, just on it's own terms.

I don't know... I'm just having one of those days I guess. But, at least I have the wedding to look forward to. And, I'll be SO early in the 2WW that I won't feel guilty party-ing it up on the beach! That's the only thing keeping my spirits up right now, that and the freaking out bride who needs my support.

Anyway, sorry for being such a downer... I didn't want to be super negative and bring you all down but alas - I caved.

Hope you ladies are all in good spirits, whatever stage you're in at the moment!

xo

 

[ZeeZ]

Hi, just started my first 2 week wait ever!

 

[NoodleSnack]

Torre, I understand why you don't want to tell her about the mc. Maybe if you tell her you don't know for sure, she might forget about it, when you say "soon" she might expect it soon and keep asking again when she feels it should be time - like asking if we're there yet.

It's tough, good luck this month and maybe you'll have good news for her soon.

I'm not doing anything much, just waiting as I have another week to go.



Babyhopes, we all fall into the trap of planning everything around TTC and the expected pregnancy, before I do something, I think: what if I'm pregnant this month, then it wouldn't be a good idea to make that commitment. Just try to talk yourself out of that mode.



Zeez, welcome and good luck.

 

[onebumpplease]

So I'm back.

OH, I and his bro and fiancée booked an apartment in Edinburgh for their mum and dad. We booked it at their anniversary so we could take them out for dinner to celebrate that. I don't want to turn this into a novel, but myself or my brothers fiancée don't get on all that well with their mum and dad.

Ignoring some awkward moments we had a nice time. I drank lots of red wine (for me), had some lovely food, went to the Edinburgh dungeons and visited my aunt's brand new coffee shop. So all in all thumbs up

On the train through on Friday I checked facebook on my phone to see a school friend announce herself 12 weeks pregnant; which is wonderful, but as you can guess, was like a stabbing in the heart. I'm finding it harder seeing those who clearly fell pregnant while I was TTC. Hoping it just means my time will come, rather than it won't...

Torres, that is so difficult that your DD has been bringing up the baby. I think Noodlesnack's advise sounds good. It must be difficult.

all. I need to stop wishing my life away too, have been trying to address that for the last month. Keep saying 'I want a good sized bump for Christmas', but fear this could put me in a bad place if it hasn't happened by December. Hmmmm....relax.

 

[onebumpplease]

So ladies, what's happening?

Not much here, it's CD7, SMEPing should start tomorrow, but we dtd today, so think I will try and go from today. We were super excitable last time and may have been too busy, you know Who knows? Just waiting anyway, not using opks this month to attempt to eliminate unnecessary stress. Here's hoping.

Just don't know what to think at the minute.

 

[snowflakes120]

We had a really busy weekend with friends! It was great!

Same as you, one bump. I am CD7. Today is my last day of taking the Clomid. We started our SMEP yesterday. I am unsure when I am going to OV as I am taking the Clomid CD3-CD7 this cycle. I'm hoping I'll OV on Sunday with a big strong temp jump and no 2dpo temp dip like I usually get.... Waiting for OV is boring!!

 

[onebumpplease]

Yup

 

[BabyHopes.]

We had a really busy weekend with friends! It was great!

Same as you, one bump. I am CD7. Today is my last day of taking the Clomid. We started our SMEP yesterday. I am unsure when I am going to OV as I am taking the Clomid CD3-CD7 this cycle. I'm hoping I'll OV on Sunday with a big strong temp jump and no 2dpo temp dip like I usually get.... Waiting for OV is boring!!

Hubby and I are trying SMEP this month as well (on CD10, and EWCM has already made an appearance! Maybe I'll O on time this month....) . I'm trying not to get too excited tho, cause I know even if I time everything perfectly, there's still only a 25% chance on any given month.... so I'm cautiously positive