uhh... breastfeeding an 8 year old??

[wtt :)]

i never mentioned "attachment parenting" as such, i only said she was attached to him i.e. not letting go.
Whatever, 3 yrs is fine. 8 yrs is too old in my opinion to get back on the actual topic...

 

[nicholatmn]

I don't think I would have a problem with it.
I read somewhere (drmomma.org) about the "natural weaning age" for humans and that it is around 4 - 7 years old.
I don't ever think we'd breastfeed THAT long (maybe 3 or 4 at the most? Don't toddlers normally wean themselves around that age now?)... but if that was the case, I think I'd express or something.

 

[BlackBerry25]

I actually don't find anything in this thread offensive. I think people have been respectful.

In regards to the video, meh. There are worse things people do so I don't really worry about things like this. I'm sure it is fine. The mom probably is doing it for her own sake, and doesn't want her child to grow up, but thats just my opinion, I don't know the lady, so its not a fact, that's for sure.

It is possible for a mother to become too attached, I don't think she was attacking "attachement parenting" which is just a label you guys use, she was just using the word attached. I know a girl who's mom pulled her out of school and tried to be her best friend, and the girl never adapted socially to people her own age and now still lives at home in her 20's and has no hope but to marry rich

 

[BlackBerry25]

I def. wouldn't be expressing either, that would take all day for that poor lady

 

[cleckner04]

I know someone who's parents were the exact opposite and just let their kids run wild and the 30 year old son still lives at home. So I don't see how that is relevant. No matter how you parent there will always be something. My parents were strict but not too strict. I still went out with friends and had my own car to go out on my own. My brother was raised the exact same way. He stayed living with my parents until he was 25, I moved out and got married at 17. So it's really a coin toss on that subject.

In regards to breastfeeding for such a long time. In some parts of the world that would be completely normal. Unfortunately we've been brought up in a society that wants our children to grow up faster than they are meant to. With the 'sleep training' and early weaning and pushing babies to be independent. It's more accepted to give babies false milk in a bottle than it is to feed from the breast. The purpose of our breasts are to feed our babies. Feeding an 8 year old? Good for her. She's strong enough to go against what people say, to do what she thinks is right for her children. Would I personally feed my daughter until she was 8? Honestly, never say never. I thought I wouldn't breastfeed past the age of 1 until I actually had a child of my own. Once your kid is in this world your mind opens up to all new possibilities and your priorities change.

 

[BlackBerry25]

I don't think in North America is it more acceptable to feed with a bottle. I think we don't really discuss how other people feed their babies. At least here in Canada.

In California, it is not the norm to breastfeed?

 

[BlackBerry25]

Also, by living at home in their 20's, I meant living at home, never went to school, never had a job, goes and drinks coffee with her mom and that's about it. No inspiration or motivation to grow up and become her own person.

 

[Dragonfly]

My brother wasnt breastfed and lives at home at 32, has everything handed free to him , rent free, food paid for the lot. Right mummys boy. He also has no job and no intentions of getting one.

Its not excepable to breastfeed where I am from birth. Sad really but thats how it is.

 

[BlackBerry25]

Sorry, I wasn't referring to breastfeeding in my last post, I just was referring to wtt saying some people are too "attached"

 

[Dragonfly]

If it has no relevance to Bf I dont know why its in this thread. Some kids are attached to parents, over clingy etc but not breastfeeding or attached parenting does that.

 

[cleckner04]

I've gotten so many dirty looks feeding my daughter that it's not even funny. I don't know about california's BFing stats because I'm not from here and have only been here since April. I can say I've gotten more dirty looks about feeding my daughter here than I have in any other state that I've lived. Everyone thinks california is so fast forward with thinking and free spirited but I can tell you right now I've never met more rude, self important people in my life. I've seen maybe 2 other women breastfeeding in public. But I've seen many many women holding up bottles and mixing formula while out and about. I am the only one in my family that has breastfed. All my friends that have had babies have formula fed as well.

 

[Blah11]

Breastfeeding and attachment parenting is thought to create more self secure and independant children/adolescents actually.

 

[Dragonfly]

Breastfeeding and attachment parenting is thought to create more self secure and independant children/adolescents actually.

That is correct, not clingy like some think.

 

[Blah11]

https://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/T130500.asp

if anyone wants to see things in a different light..

 

[BlackBerry25]

If it has no relevance to Bf I dont know why its in this thread. Some kids are attached to parents, over clingy etc but not breastfeeding or attached parenting does that.

Why are you so argumentative? Topics often stray and someone else was talking about it first?

 

[BlackBerry25]

I've gotten so many dirty looks feeding my daughter that it's not even funny. I don't know about california's BFing stats because I'm not from here and have only been here since April. I can say I've gotten more dirty looks about feeding my daughter here than I have in any other state that I've lived. Everyone thinks california is so fast forward with thinking and free spirited but I can tell you right now I've never met more rude, self important people in my life. I've seen maybe 2 other women breastfeeding in public. But I've seen many many women holding up bottles and mixing formula while out and about. I am the only one in my family that has breastfed. All my friends that have had babies have formula fed as well.

Thanks for answering

That is too bad. I would say here in Alberta, which is thought to be backwards thinking , probably the majority of my friends breastfed.

 

[Dragonfly]

If it has no relevance to Bf I dont know why its in this thread. Some kids are attached to parents, over clingy etc but not breastfeeding or attached parenting does that.

Why are you so argumentative? Topics often stray and someone else was talking about it first?

Just getting confused to what some are referring to.

 

[BlackBerry25]

Ok, well anyways, I am done debating this.



To wrap it up, I think its fine.

 

[Dragonfly]

https://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/T130500.asp

if anyone wants to see things in a different light..

I found myself slipping into this from birth and didnt even know it. Have you read the book Natural parent by Jan Hunt? explains a lot about why I am the way I am due to my parents parenting . I find it very useful. I love attachment parenting its so much more easier.

 

[Blah11]

No, I didn't do attachment parenting Wish I did but I didnt know anything about it until amelie was too old.