May I join in??
Yesterday was such an awful day. I didn't stop crying all afternoon and all night, and now I have a red, puffy swollen face and a banging headache. So, my rant, and its a long one.......
My SIL who I am very close to, was a LTTCer, it took 10 years and 2MC and countless clomid cycles until she had my beautiful nephew, who turned 2 in November. She had mentioned that they were going to start trying for #2. But she rang me the day before christmas saying she was leaving my brother because she can't cope with LO and my brother is no help, and neither of them can cope!!! So I thought the TTC plans were off??!! You just wouldn't, would you?? Anyway, he bought her a lovely expensive ring for xmas, so their marriage was suddenly A-OK!!
Now she knows everything I am going through, because she has been there, thats one person IRL that understands my hellish life with TTC............ so you would think!!
She had been trying to get my attention on FB, just writing random comments on my pics and stuff, asking me if Im OK, which was weird seeing as they were joke pictures. Anyway I didn't get round to replying.
So then my brother text me yesterday morning, asking if I'm still alive, because they had'nt heard from me, I said yeah I'm fine etcetc, and he said 'SIL has been trying to get hold of you today' I said I hadn't receieved a call or text, so i would text her.
Now, I am going to post the exact cnversation between me and her:
ME: ** Said you text, but I haven't recieved anything. Sorry, are you ok?
SIL: Fine thank you just asking if charlie had a nice birthday
ME: Yeah he did thanks> We are booking a sun holiday for 16th July, do you want to come?
SIL: I can't mate pls dont tell anyone I've just found out I'm pregnant
Just fucking speechless, absolutely fucking speechless!!!!!
She obviously only got in touch to tell me her fucking fantastic bit of information!!
Who the hell, cannot go on a holiday 2 hours car ride away because they are 6 months pregnant??!!
If you want to 'drop' it into conversation, make that conversation relevant!!
I'd have just prefered a text saying 'karen, I have something I need to tell you'..... Don't get in touvh with me and chat bullshit your not even interested in, just so you can drop that bombshell!!
They visit me every weekend, why not come and tell me?? She obviously doesn't have a problem with hurting my feelings!!
Maybe I'm over reacting slightly, but I'm just so pissed off at her tactlessness and the fact she has no fucking respect for what I'm going thorugh, even though she's been there herself.
I have now wiped these idiots from my life. I just do not need disrespectful wankers in my life!!
Its not even that she's pregnant, I would be over the moon for them, if they had taken the time to respect my feelings.
RANT OVER
Was looking at a lovely dress size 10...description read...brand new as i got pregnant shortly after purchase so didnt have the chance to wear!!! Boohoo i'm feeling sorry for myself this week 
fingers are definitely crossed for sure.
I misread. I'm glad you have a proactive gyn mine wasn't willing to do anything but blood tests. I asked for a lap when they did my cone biospy of cervix so I didn't have 2 surgeries but nope. I'm looking at a lap next despite just having had surgery in October with some initial crappy after effects. Not so sure I'll take h this time. Lol he went last time but I think I freaked him out lol
it sucks to have to go through another one´s preg milestones when it would´ve been your time.. I´ve been there.. was there 3 yrs ago.. 
.. I just don´t get how LTTCs seem to go into oblivion when they are pg or get pg easily the 2nd time around.. Why? 
They know how hard it is for us!! It´s great that you are putting your feelings first, and taking a break from them.. I´m learning to distance myself from people who are just insensitive about what we´re going through.. 
