Ultimate Venting Thread

[uwa_amanda]

Acci-flippin-debtor unsubscribed from the best thread on bnb AGAIN! Darn silly phone!!!

Shame on you!

My day has been ok...just listening to my coworker talk about her son did this and her son did that...I dream about that boy's name in my sleep! Quite tired of hearing all about it.

 

[Armywife84]

Just Married- Isn't this like the third time? So sorry to hear about your friend passing and the other poorly one.

Karen- He sounds so charming! I'm surprised Burberry doesn't lick her lips at him. If I wasn't so allergic, I would certainly own a bird!

My mother's colleague has 2 birds (some sort of talking ones), and every time she tries to bathe them they screech, "You bitch!". I suppose language they've picked up from telephone conversations. Birds are incredibly intelligent.

Stephie- Summer clothing is hardly fashionable these days. I just can't pull of that hippy, unkept look. I'll pass.

Shiara-

Rant:

1. Pregnant cow decided to play a prank on everyone and announced that her water broke. We were all freaking out until she started laughing and exclaimed it was a joke. That's NOT something you joke about.

2. She kept rubbing her belly, as if a genie was going to pop out of her vagina and grant her a wish.

3. Fall needs to get here so I can cut down on work and go back to uni.

BTW, I'm Jackie.

 

[NavyWife84]

Lol StephieB!!!!! Cats can be such a blessing during TTC i won't lie, I have two myself! Gizmo my older boy who at the moment is battling with his eyes. We have to put drops in them every three to four hours!!!!!! And my little black beauty Zammy! She's now taken to waiting at the top of the driveway for me when i get home!!!!! So cute!!!!! Yay for moving into your new place on Saturday!!!! Hope all goes well with the move.

I won't lie, so far I think we might have missed about three cycles over the years and they were mainly ones that i wasn't really ovulating, DH and I are actually quite active. This cycle I was very hopeful, the metformin has been working beautifully and was ovulating right on time and everything, it was the perfect cycle. well i guess next cycle will be my first clomid cycle!!!!! super excited!!!!

I love my pets...they really help me through this ltttc crap. My dogs (who are each 70ish pounds, play with one of my cats, who thinks he is a dog! It is hilarious to watch, espcecially since the cat is only like 10 pounds! He holds his own though! Both of my cats are indoor cats. We live in the woods and I am too afraid that the spoiled things wouldn't be able to hold their own to the animals they might encounter outside!

I wish I could say that DH and I are "quite active"! Most days I feel like a leper because he doesn't even want to look at me. He isn't even into when I put on lingire! He says it is a waste. Foreplay is definitely not in his vocabulary either When we were first dating/married, he used to be much more active. I think ltttc has killed that I can't remember the last time he instigated bd. It is always me, ttc -related or not! Sooo frustrating!!!

 

[NavyWife84]

Just Married- Isn't this like the third time? So sorry to hear about your friend passing and the other poorly one.

Karen- He sounds so charming! I'm surprised Burberry doesn't lick her lips at him. If I wasn't so allergic, I would certainly own a bird!

My mother's colleague has 2 birds (some sort of talking ones), and every time she tries to bathe them they screech, "You bitch!". I suppose language they've picked up from telephone conversations. Birds are incredibly intelligent.

Stephie- Summer clothing is hardly fashionable these days. I just can't pull of that hippy, unkept look. I'll pass.

Shiara-

Rant:

1. Pregnant cow decided to play a prank on everyone and announced that her water broke. We were all freaking out until she started laughing and exclaimed it was a joke. That's NOT something you joke about.

2. She kept rubbing her belly as if a genie was going to pop out of her vagina and grant her a wish.

3. Fall needs to get here so I can cut down on work and go back to uni.

BTW, I'm Jackie.

Nice to finally know your name

What a b-word for pretending her water broke. How stupid, immature, and no concern for anyone around her!!! I would not have been able to hold my tongue about how much of an ignorant cow she is!!! Makes me mad just thinking about it!!!

The woman I work(ed) with...last Friday was her last day...just emailed all of us (the coworkers) saying that she will miss us, and this is how to keep in contact, and she will be showing pics when the baby is born, etc. I felt like replying, you "unfriended" me on fb when your best friend, a coworker I wasn't getting along with at the time was being a b-word, which I was glad about. I don't want to see your stupid baby updates because it was hard enough working with you. You constantly pissed me off about your griping and your helplessness. You are pregnant, not dieing!!! Please never contact me again! Wow! That felt good to get out.

 

[sharnw]

Vant:
I had to drive 30 minutes to the next town that has a medical refund office.
I wanted to get cash back from all the fertility meds and appointments ultrasounds etc. Thought the money would come in handy.. Anyway I get there and realise I forgot my purse with my ID and medicare card..

I didnt bother turning aounnd wasting diesel

(Positive note)
I ended up visiting my friend in hospital instead, that had her baby boy yesterday. He was sound asleep naaawwww,
I felt ok
Her 2 year old daughter was there so I held her instead to keep ttc emotions off my mind..


Vant:
Why do I feel that I have to "buy" my baby..??.....
Thinking of doing IVF in a few months $$

But it will be all so well worth it in the end


xxxooo

 

[StephieB]

Sharn - why is it that we always leave the most important thing at home when we need it?? I am so embarrassed to say in the past month I have gone to the supermarket, done a whole weeks worth of shopping, only to bag it all up at the til and realise that DH has my bank card then I have to skulk out of the shop making excuses and am always to embarrassed to go back and pay for it all

I ended up visiting my friend in hospital instead, that had her baby boy yesterday. He was sound asleep naaawwww,
I felt ok
Her 2 year old daughter was there so I held her instead to keep ttc emotions off my mind..

Thats a really good place to be in, I admire you and envy you all at the same time. Lately a best friend has been dropping babies into conversations more and more, and I am honestly dreading the day she tells me she's pregnant, I know its awful and selfish and bitter, but i'll be heartbroken.

Vent/s :

DH woke me up at 7am on my day off worrying about money! We're moving house this weekend, have to pay estate agents fees so are practically penniless etc...and I start a new job next month so he demanded we get up and make a 'finance plan' NOTHING depresses me more than finance plans!

I asked on the assisted conception forum for advice on home insemintation, not one measly response I'm going to stick to my ladies on here in future!

Good stuff:

I just got an email saying my months worth of ultimate baby making supplies will be delivered between 10.07 and 11.07 this morning (very precise!) so I am excited to get into it and play with stuff!! If you don't hear from me for a while...I may have been involved in some soft cup related mishap!

 

[StephieB]

I swear I ramble on far too much in here...

Jackie, what a twat!!! (the woman, not you ) Why, when and in what situation would acceptable to fake your waters breaking! Even though she's pregnant I would have had to leave the room for fear of punching her. She sounds like someone who's face would make me angry!

Jenn I can't remember the last time my DH initiated sex!! I think we've got into the TTC/5 year relationship lull! Which is less than helpful when trying to have a baby. To be honest, the majority of the month I am more than satisfied to have nothing more than a Sunday morning fumble, the rest of the week I'm too tired or lazy to be bothered to have sex! Unless it's ovulation week, then we fake enthusiasm and take one for the team we even tried watching porn together a couple of months back, but we just couldn't keep a straight face (Seriously, where do some of these woman PUT those penis, its like they were born with extra holes! )

 

[beegray]

I swear I ramble on far too much in here...

Jackie, what a twat!!! (the woman, not you ) Why, when and in what situation would acceptable to fake your waters breaking! Even though she's pregnant I would have had to leave the room for fear of punching her. She sounds like someone who's face would make me angry!

Jenn I can't remember the last time my DH initiated sex!! I think we've got into the TTC/5 year relationship lull! Which is less than helpful when trying to have a baby. To be honest, the majority of the month I am more than satisfied to have nothing more than a Sunday morning fumble, the rest of the week I'm too tired or lazy to be bothered to have sex! Unless it's ovulation week, then we fake enthusiasm and take one for the team we even tried watching porn together a couple of months back, but we just couldn't keep a straight face (Seriously, where do some of these woman PUT those penis, its like they were born with extra holes! )

OMW!!!!! LOL!!!! We tried a couple years back, same thing although our experience was so super hilarious!!! The woman moaned in music notes as if moaning to scales played on the piano.... the the guy would pull this funny face and that was us!!! It was more a comedy then anything else!!!!!!!

I realise we quite lucky, dunno we really enjoy sex together whether it's for ttc or not. Foreplay is normally thrown out the window after about a minute or two lol! Since taking the metformin my drive has increased, abit weary about taking clomid and wat it would do to my drive? any ideas ladies?

 

[smallstar]

My rant (un-baby related!): I HATE men with small man syndrome!!!! Just because you’re short does not give you the right to be a complete TW*T!!!! That is all.

Steph i totally agree with the sex thing!!! Its like i know I’m supposed to be ovulating from today onwards potentially and should be at it at least every other day until after the weekend, but i have all the intention in my head then as soon as i get in bed that’s it!!! I’m out!!! Seriously, maybe need to start doing the deed on the sofa or anywhere else in the house other than the bedroom!!! LOL

beegray - you’re so lucky to have an increase in drive, i don’t think cloimd did me any favours and i did notice that when i stopped taking it now my drive has increased slightly but always seems to be at the wrong times! LOL

x

 

[beegray]

My rant (un-baby related!): I HATE men with small man syndrome!!!! Just because you’re short does not give you the right to be a complete TW*T!!!! That is all.

Steph i totally agree with the sex thing!!! Its like i know I’m supposed to be ovulating from today onwards potentially and should be at it at least every other day until after the weekend, but i have all the intention in my head then as soon as i get in bed that’s it!!! I’m out!!! Seriously, maybe need to start doing the deed on the sofa or anywhere else in the house other than the bedroom!!! LOL

beegray - you’re so lucky to have an increase in drive, i don’t think cloimd did me any favours and i did notice that when i stopped taking it now my drive has increased slightly but always seems to be at the wrong times! LOL

x

Mine increases like mad during af????

 

[smallstar]

Exactly what i mean by bad timing!!!! Our bodies are seriously cruel to us on all sorts of levels!!! Grrrrrr

x

 

[beegray]

Exactly what i mean by bad timing!!!! Our bodies are seriously cruel to us on all sorts of levels!!! Grrrrrr

x

 

[StephieB]

My drive seems to have driven somewhere else at the minute...I agree once I get into bed all want to do it fall asleep! I definitely agree that the clomid doesn't help!!

Well nobody warned me with how terrifying soft cups look!! I took one look at it and thought "Where the hell am I going to put that!?" then did a little jigging and succeeded in my first soft cup experience

I am both amazed and shocked by how big they are, now I'm starting to think all of these nights out when I've taken a handbag just to carry my phone was completely pointless

 

[Zfbaby]

My vent of the day is ttc/work related. Why is it that when the young girls going to the doctors for contreceptive injections or morning after pill get to use work time and no one bats an eyelid but I may be 5 mins late after my blood test next week and I've got to make the time up or use holiday time??? Its not like I've aske for this to happen to me or like its not a genuine medical issue. It like they consider fertility treatment to be optional. Well it isn't if you want to have a baby a cant!!!!

 

[smallstar]

Steph!!! That is too funny!!!! LOL

Zfbaby - I know what you mean!!! I’ve moved jobs since TTC and luckily new employers are flexible on time etc However, saying that in my previous role they were exactly the same as you!!! Allowing girls/women to take time off for contraception pill, injection etc and also "newly" pregnant women to go for blood tests, nurse appointments etc BUT if I ever was like you 5mins late back from the doctors or FS it was frowned upon and also made to make time up!!
To be fair though, I didn’t tell my employer then or now about the reason why I was going to the doctors, we have kept TTC a secret from everyone....so maybe that’s why my employer was less understanding
But then in saying that all the above is personal medical stuff that if you don’t wish to divulge to everyone is your choice!!! Regardless of medical reason.

x

 

[Zfbaby]

Yeah I really wish I had never told my manager. It's probably the worst mistake I've made on this whole "journey" she hasn't really managed to be understanding without being patronising at the same time. And confidential information is a joke in my work, everyone seems to know everything and they've all got an opinion or words of advice. The only reason I told her was because i was stupid enough to think id get pg super quickly and the dr told me that clomid could have some strong emotional/hormonal side effects and my dh felt it was only fair to tell them. I think he thought that they would be nice if I cried or give me a break of I was stressed or snappy. I've not really had thy much emotional response to clomid just hot flushes and headaches. I'm kicking myself now.

 

[uwa_amanda]

Yeah I really wish I had never told my manager. It's probably the worst mistake I've made on this whole "journey" she hasn't really managed to be understanding without being patronising at the same time. And confidential information is a joke in my work, everyone seems to know everything and they've all got an opinion or words of advice. The only reason I told her was because i was stupid enough to think id get pg super quickly and the dr told me that clomid could have some strong emotional/hormonal side effects and my dh felt it was only fair to tell them. I think he thought that they would be nice if I cried or give me a break of I was stressed or snappy. I've not really had thy much emotional response to clomid just hot flushes and headaches. I'm kicking myself now.

Me too. My bosses actually had a sit down meeting with me and told me that my attitude basically sucked. Shows how much they care. I know how you feel. I wish I would have kept this crap to myself.

 

[Just_married]

If one more person tells me to relax and it will happen I think I will actually burst!!
First dh Sis visited and told me her ds took 15 months to conceive and I just needed to relax etc.
Worst of all was my flippin aunty, middle of a busy chemist she said it loudly and the irony is she is a ltttc who thinks clomid is the answer to everything. And the doctor yesterday told me whoever referred me for tests didn't do me any favours as I just need to relax and focus on other things. That was about 2 minutes after she asked me what day of my cycle I was on and I replied 'oh I couldn't tell you off top of my head! My bad, I'm supposed to know these things so I can get timing right eh?' so what part of that reply made her think this woman is a bit neurotic about TTC? I was there for a UTI as well, nothing to do with TTC!

A close friend 'we didn't try for long but the short time we did felt like an eternity' in a FB pm after the world an their mother had congratulated them and she wanted to let me know personally. To be fair, she doesn't know my struggle, she is one person I haven't told details to, I love her, but that was rather patronising.

Aaaaah that feels better.

 

[Armywife84]

Now that I see the effects of you ladies telling your bosses about IF, then I'm certainly not going to tell mine. They're all men anyways, I doubt they'll give a flying feck.

Rants:

1. A small rock smacked DH's windshield today and now there's a massive crack. Fantastic.

2. Went to the nail shop to get a pedicure and one of the worker's had their baby there. I go to relax and get pampered, instead I get motherly love thrown in my face. Needless to say, I walked out feeling like ashamed garb because I'm unable to conceive.

 

[sharnw]

RANT: (not ltttc related)
Ahhhhh!!!! I gave in to the jackpot machines and gambled nearly $300 im sooo mad at myself!! F************CK

I couldve went shopping and bought groceries or paid my bills

That is wayyyy too far gone