Ultimate Venting Thread

[Zfbaby]

Her Friend's Comment Lol its your protective Mum knows best instinct! My fav advice is from people who have no kids and they start judging you. That's when I want to get my Jackie Chan on!


Sorry but that sort of thing annoys me too!
(If its ok to add my two pennies worth) there are plenty of people without children who do know a darn sight more than those with. I'm not saying I'm one of them but a friend I mine has no children of her own but is the most incredible norland nanny. She has parents (even those with >1 children) asking her for advice all the time.
I haven't had a huge amount of experience with babies but, I've had friends and colleagues ask for advice on 1st babies, pregnancy an ttc. So jut coz we haven't got there yet doesn't mean we don't know better than you who do have babies.

 

[NavyWife84]

Fathers Day...need I say more?
Not only does my dh not have a dad (his dad kicked him out of his life when he was 16 and then adopted a daughter a short time later and claimed it to be a blessing because he and dhs step mother always wanted to be parents...) but I have failed at making him a father...something he has always wanted

Another annoying fb post (like the one recently mentioned):
The best dad in the world gets promoted to grandpa.

Well, my dad is pretty awesome but unfortunately I am not able to make him a grandpa. Lucky for him, he has two other kids who have been successful in that area.

 

[uwa_amanda]

Fathers Day...need I say more?
Not only does my dh not have a dad (his dad kicked him out of his life when he was 16 and then adopted a daughter a short time later and claimed it to be a blessing because he and dhs step mother always wanted to be parents...) but I have failed at making him a father...something he has always wanted

Another annoying fb post (like the one recently mentioned):
The best dad in the world gets promoted to grandpa.

Well, my dad is pretty awesome but unfortunately I am not able to make him a grandpa. Lucky for him, he has two other kids who have been successful in that area.

I sat at my kitchen table sobbing last night because today is Father's Day. I'm taking Father's Day alot harder than I did when Mother's Day rolled around last month. I want to make my husband a daddy so bad but now I feel like I failed him.

I hope this day gets over pretty quickly...then I can focus on mine and my sisters' birthdays next month. All three of us were born in July so we pick at our parents about only getting busy once a year!

 

[wonderstars]

Yep, I'm with you ladies today on Father's Day. I'm having a hard time coping today. I was actually okay on Mother's Day but today is breaking my heart. I haven't cried about IF in a long long time but I think I'm due.

He did get a cute little card from the dogs and pancakes to try and make up for it.

Here's to hoping next year we're celebrating.

 

[wannabemummyb]

Ditto on the fathers day thing. Df has a son who to be frank hasn't spoilt his dad at all today (he lives with us) which has upset df a little (even if he won't admit it).... It just makes me sad, i would love to make him a daddy again and feel totally inadequate that I can't.

I'm fed up feeling a failure!

 

[Just_married]

Huge hugs to all today. I know it's hard for many! My dh is stepdad to my 16yr old dd and he has an 8yr old dd who's mum has banned him from her life as the ultimate act of vindictiveness, hasn't seen her since she was 12wks.

Silly me actually thought fate might smile upon me today as I'm 11dpo & willed an hcg to be positive so I could give him amazing news. Wasted 2 strips where dye was all over place on and gave up.

On a cheerful note, we took my dad to a garden centre as he's a pt gardener and water to buy some hanging baskets. I got chance to buy him a members card with lots of free gifts & vouchers for £10 which made him delighted, I've never seen him so happy about a gift! I had a very difficult relationship with my dad as a child, but we have both mellowed a lot and it's only now we truly appreciate each other and I'm so grateful for this. Also had a good chat with a friend who is 13 wks pregnant. I had felt offended at her only TTC for 4 months and saying it felt like an eternity and offering me a shoulder to cry on if TTC wS upsetting me, but it turns out she had come off bcp 2 yrs ago and ws all that time. teaches me not to jump to conclusions myself.

Hope today gets better for you all and you end up with a smile on your face

 

[Armywife84]

I'm a little bothered by Father's Day too. This time last year, I was hoping to make DH a father by today. Oh well, here's hoping that he can celebrate next FD as a father.

Rants:

1. I rang mother to chat with her...then she brings up how she so and so out (childhood friend) and she recently had her a baby. Apparently, she named her new daughter, "Lila" what I'm hoping to name a girl (if I ever get one). I was upset and had a go at my mother for telling me that garb. That was my name!! At least I have back-up names, Ivy is starting to sound much better.

2. I was in the market with DH and kept running into pregnant cows pushing trolleys filled to the brim with food and more children. Damn breeders.

3. I have to drop DH off on base at 4 am! He's going to be away for training a whole week. I'll be busy with work, but I'm not pleased that I'm going to be alone.

 

[StephieB]

Completely and utterly with you all with being far more upset of fathers day than mothers day I wish I could personally fly round and give each and every one of you a hug, because of all the people in the world who understand how we're feeling today it's each other.

We have a list of about 3 girls and boys names that we have had since we started TTC, one of which is Poppy, which sort of came around during the first and ver short time we were pregnant. Well yesterday we moved into our new house, and finally had today to ourselves to settle in. We had a bit of an emotional morning as I gave my DH a fathers day card from the cats and I got upset it wasn't a proper one, but pulled our selves together and set about doing some gardening in our new garden

I went inside to get a drink, out of nowhere DH screams at me from the garden to "come NOW!" so I run outside, and underneath an overgrown bush, DH has unearthed two beautiful big red poppies that were hiding underneath Apparently its a sign the new house will bring us luck!

Jackie - Ivy is a gorgeous name!

Edit: Yes I know that poppies are a weed, and currently every hedge row in England is covered in them, but to DH its a sign! Maybe we should have a boys name as "thistle" or "dandelion" just to bring extra luck....

 

[Just_married]

Love the poppy story Steph!
Army that really sucks grrr!

We have a definite name for boy or girl. Girl after both our grans (shared same name) and boy after a musical legend.

I'd be raging if close friend/family used either, but as my gran only passed away last yr and I have a large family it's giving me an even bigger sense of urgency to have a baby SOON! I don't think there's any chance of them nicking the boys name tho.....Cash, it's not everyone's cup of tea lol x

We are so sad tho, we even have 4 names chosen in case we have twins or 2 children of either boy/boy, or girl/girl lol x

 

[uwa_amanda]

We've had names picked out since before we got married. We were planning on Aidan Michael for a boy and Brianna Jordan for a girl. I want so bad to name my son after my husband (at least his first name anyway). Then I can say that my son is named after his father, grandfather, and great grandfather. DH won't go for that though. Oh well...

 

[Zfbaby]

Having an absolutely rubbish morning so far.
Dh left his wallet at work and woke me up with an early morning txt to ask if I can bring it to him. So I rushed to get ready for the early train, forgot my lunch, hot my clothes snagged and dirty thanks to a very wet moggy and missed the train anyway. To top it all off the 1st opk kit of the month was faulty ( stupid digital things) so that's put me in a funk. Was thinking of starting this months bd tonight but have a feeling this day will start getting worse once I hit work and then I won't want to. Def got the hump

 

[Zfbaby]

Sorry I just read that back. His wallet was at home not that it makes a difference I guess.

 

[smallstar]

Morning ladies!!!
had a mad busy weekend...other half’s birthday on Saturday so was out all day (trying to also take our minds off Sunday and it being fathers day! )

had a terribly silly pointless fall out with my own dad on Friday which made visiting yesterday a little bit awkward which is not what i wanted!!!!

fb COVERED in father’s day posts, cards, pics, etc Just feel so awful for OH as he is so good at always putting on a brave face i know he does this because i struggle with this a lot more than he does!!! But it breaks my heart knowing in some way i am failing him and there is nothing i can do!!!! LITERALLY would do anything to make this happen for him.....

Steph - I cannot believe that!!! Makes me really think about my own situation could they have got it wrong somewhere along the lines?!?!? SOOOOOO frustrating!!! You put good faith in the NHS and "experts" to be telling you the truth and helping you as best as possible, but like you said for all the free NHS we get how many corners are cut There isn’t even a way of looking into this, like you it would probably end up with a call out the blue saying sorry we made a mistake!!! WTF!!!?!?

 

[StephieB]

sorry to hear you had an argument with your Dad, hope it was all sorted out yesterday

The most frustrating thing is we asked the doctor and fertility specialist every single time we went if it was my DHs amount that could be causing a problem and every time we were told no!! DH was born was an undescended testicle which was removed when he was 3 months old, and has always made "small deposits" and was originally told by the urologist when he was 15 that it would be a little bit harder from him to have children because his poor testicle was a lone ranger.

Now I know it's not impossible for us to conceive with only 1ml, as its happened before, but the new doc said although DHs count and motility is fine,the small amount means there is less 'semen' to keep it alive and take it to where it needs to be which will make it more difficult, which we told them from the start! Oh well, now to wait and see if IUI will be given to us and hopefully set things straight!

I really wish we had the money to go private, but sadly we don't so I have to carry on putting my faith in the NHS for the time being!

Luckily DH isn't upset of angry, he's relieved and keeps doing the whole "Told you so!" thing to me because he has always said it was that that was the problem. He's happy that we've possibly found a solution to our problem, so his taking it really well

 

[NavyWife84]

Zf-sorry about your bad day
Small-sorry about your argument with your dad.
Steph-glad you could possibly have an answer...I WANT AN ANSWER!!! Lol

Feeling down today. My temp dropped this morning, which means af will be here by tomorrow...just in time to watch my 17 month old neice (they started ttc just before us )
Also, my mom is down in florida, putting my grandma into a hospice house. She hasn't been doing well since my grandpa passed, over a year ago. So, this isn't unexpected, but it is hard to hear that they are taking her off all her meds except the ones to make her comfortable

 

[BearsMummy]

Been away for a few days, my life has gone to shit.

AF arrived, but I had no warning except for a really bad mood.

I had a massive arguement with a 'friend' who thinks she can run my life! She even turned up at my house afterwards to check if I was lying about not being in!! So we ar thinking about moving, so she can't keep turning up here.

My CRB showed driving offences from years ago, and I have received a shitty email saying they will not be processing my job application any further, s I have been turned down for the job,but no explanation, just that they wont be processing my appkication further. I have emailed them for an explanation,but have got no reply. I can't work it out, I have worked at the hospital since these offences before, so why not now?

And I still haven't heard from the PCT, but I am not feeling at all optimistic after the week I have had.

I just want to curl up, go to sleep and stay there forever.

 

[Just_married]

Aw bear

1-next time I see that witch heading for you I'm gonna rugby tackle the ugly boot and lock her in my coal cellar.

2-she's not a real 'friend' she's a 'frenemy'.

3-you are legally entitled to a reason and an appeal if you believe it's unfair. Go to direct.gov and look up your rights. They need to justify it in writing and it must be legal (they need to prove it wasn't discrimination etc).

4-pct no news is good news! You haven't had a 'no'. Nhs are ridiculously inept sometimes. Eg I had 2 tests last week, was told to phone results today. I literally live across road from surgery, but they claimed not to have a contact number for me and have posted out a prescription. Great eh?

Most of all, chin up! You have all of us cheerleading you! Hugs and squeezes xxx


Chin up deer!

 

[rosebud_01_99]

i seriously think that thread 'it can happen' should be removed not just closed im after reading the last 3 posts there by secondary lttc's and others who are obviously not lttc and they are being very offensive and rude, im very annoyed they they can come in here and call us bitter and past it and we should just give up and look to other options. im really angry and offended. im seroulsy condsitering not returning to this site any more because of this rosebud

 

[rosebud_01_99]

seriously who does snowglobe21 think she is a 21 yr old pregant cow posting on here getting herself off by being nasty to those who are dealing with lttc. this is the comment she made on it can happen.

" there are too many bitter old bitties on here that are past the stage of realistically having a chance and should just consider other options.

this is a link to the question i have opened in help asking for a option to ban trolls like her from posting on here.


https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/f...member-barred-posting-forum.html#post18975663

 

[BearsMummy]

Thanks Just_Married!

I have already emailed her to askfor an explanation, but have received no reply. I am going to look on direct.gov and email the HEAD of HR and ask, and also inform them of how rude a one sentence email telling me they will not be proceeding with my application and no explanation is.

I have just caught up with 'that' thread, all I can say is WOW!! It's a good job it's locked, the mood I'm in,I would have let rip!

What is it with all these pregnant people coming over and doing this recently?