Came on tonight to add to my bad day vent ( got pooed on twice by birds today
) and thought I'd read the posts that everyone was referring to. All I can say is wow. Do ppl really think like that, that if you're older you should give up??? Is that not the same as someone older saying "you're only 24 or whatever, come back in a few years". You can't help when the desire for children takes you. I get so upset when ppl say you're only 29 you've got plenty of time. My body doesn't think so
Sorry about the birds
People are so damn judgemental! I'm going to let a little honesty out and I know I will probably piss some of you wonderful ladies off and I appologize in advance. I love having your support and being able to support you as well, so I hope I don't get shunned, lol...
I'm sorry I am "only" 28 and I have "only" been ttc for just under two years but it still hurts. I have been through all of the tests that they do for infertility, have been on clomid for 4 months, and have had 3 iuis. I am up for ivf very soon. It has always been my dream to have kids young (I wanted to have my first at 24) and I wanted 4 kids. However, I also wanted a career, a husband, and stability before beginning to ttc. I didn't get married until I was 24 and we waited 2 years to get settled before ttc. My dad got very sick when I was 6 and therefore never had the energy for me that he had for my older brother and sister. I have been terrified my whole life of not having enough energy for my kids, especially my youngest ones because they would be born when I was "older". Now 30 is quickly approaching (I know that isn't old but in my mind it is) and I am so afraid that my kids are going to have friends with young moms with lots of energy and I am going to feel like I have failed my kids. Having kids young is no longer an option for me. I was supposed to be working on number 3 by now. My dad was given 20 years tops to live and that was 23 years ago. Thank God modern science and medicine has kept him healthy and he no longer has a "death sentence" over his head. Furthermore, young cancer runs in my family, affecting some of my family members as early as 40. I know that doesn't mean I will get sick, but it terrifies me. Being sick doesn't terrify me, but putting dh and my kids through that at such a young age terrifies me. I know my struggles haven't been near as long or as hard as most of you, but I always felt like I belonged here until recently. I don't belong in the regular ttc section with women getting bfps every day and now I kind of feel like I don't belong here. I'm not over 35 and I have not been ttc for over 2 years. So I guess I don't belong anywhere? I don't mean to be throwing a pitty party here, but I have been upset by this all day. I would never compare myself to you ladies who have been at this so much longer than me. I understand I am still a "newbie" but I still feel like I belong in the lttc section. Tbh...I feel that anyone who has been ttc for over a year should be welcomed into the ltttc forums. Afterall, that is when the docs start doing testing and treatments.
That being said, I am totally on your side when it comes to the arguement that occured on the other thread. Knowing that I haven't been at this as long as most of the ltttc ladies, I would never compare myself to you. I would also never post anything about my bfp in the ltttc section, unless it was in the success stories forum. I also know that I am very fortunate to have the insurance I have and am able to quickly move on to ivf without being on a waiting list. But, that is my decision and like I said I am very lucky. I would never tell another ltttcer (or any other woman for that matter) to just move past it and move on with other means of having children...or however it was said. Alternate methods arnt for everyone nor are they an option for many people.
I agree with stephie that we aren't being respected as we should and don't have the support from admin that everyone else gets. Both sides usually get nasty, but we seem to be the ones that get reprimanded. It just doesn't seem fair. I guess we have to start reporting others before they report us and ask wobbles to remove the insulting posts. I really don't want to lose bnb and the wonderful ladies on here, but I am really getting discouraged lately.
I really do admire you ladies and (as strange as it seems) look up to you women who have been at this for so much longer than I have.
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As for the job thats just downright uncalled for, they can't not give you an explanation, and really if they are going to do something like that to you during the application process, chances are you're better off not working for a place like that as it would only get worse! (I know its easier said than done!)
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I was all positive and all when we first started trying, but some of it can get a little ridiculous. And then when you realize that there's a problem, and you won't get pregnant so easily, you start to face reality. 
That's about the time you realize that symptom spotting is driving you nuts and does absolutely NO good whatsoever except get your hopes up only to be devastated when the 
shows her ugly face. *jumps off soapbox*
and to let you know that my PM box is always open if you need a chat or some hugs 
to all my wonderful ladies in hopes that each and every one of you will get your bfp soon. 
