helena
Mum to 2 boys and 1 girl
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I was a little annoyed at my mil last night. DH told her I was feeling baby quite a bit and she says that it's not possible. Yes, I'm a little hormonal, but I blew up at him saying that she's not the baby's mother and *I* am and only *I* can tell if I am or am not feeling MY baby! haha With that, and she told him that she was planning on staying with us for a couple of weeks after the baby is born!! (DH will be back to work by that time, so it'd just be me and baby and mil! ) No offense to her, because I like her. . .but if I need any help, MY mom and sisters would be the first ones I ask! So with that and raging hormones, I marched promptly off to bed!
Oh Sierra, why do people plan thing without being asked? Maybe she thought she was offering to help...
When we had our first my inlaws came out after the birth, as did my parents. DH and I agreed no more than 5 nights. I think the inlaws then went and booked for 10 days.grrrrr I was mad! But I tried to hide it as I love my boys knowing their grandparents, I love having family. But still...
I know this is an exciting time for grandparents too but it is so hard in that first month, and I was so not wanting to share baby too much. I waned to hold him all I wanted. And stay in my pjs. And breast feed or pump willynilly.
With my second baby we got the inlaws here for when I was In hospital (scheduled c sec) to help dh with my first son. They spent the entire time decorating. I phoned DH one day from the hospital to see when he was coming in to visit me and he couldn't visit yet as he was at the DIY shop since his dad wanted something...so the inlaws were, despite trying to be helpful, creating us more work and not minding my first son, my husband did that. AND (while I am on a roll!) on the day baby was born we asked the inlaws to wait outside for a few minutes while we introduced our first son to the baby and we wanted family quiet time. Well, it didn't happen, the in laws came right n in with them. It upset me quite a lot!
Really, it is such a hard time with family..we need to be really specific if there is something we want, but to try and do it tactfully if someone is likely to be upset ( my MIL is so sensitive it's silly, even DH steps around her on egg shells). Luckily. Have a relationship with my folks where I just say how it is and they are fine with it.
But families..wow, sure are tricky when it comes to babies and birth!
I want even mention what my fil said when I brought baby home..ok I will. He thought he was joking and being funny when he looked at me as I got out of the car and exclaimed " did they leave one in there?!". .......he must be unaware of hormones post birth.....I sobbed on the phone to my mum. Hysterically. Think she wanted to wallop him! (and she isn't a fighty type...more a knitting kind of grandma).
Ooh....inlaws!....
So Sierra, be firm! Xx