To the outside world: If you found out that one of your best friend's children died, you would NOT console them by telling them they should be happy because "at least they have a child." So why would you tell me, a person suffering with seondary infertility, that I shouldn't feel sad over my inability to conceive another child because I've had a child? You can feel happy about what you have in your life while at the same time grieving loss in your life. Newsflash: infertility is painful whether you've had one kids or ten kids. When you still have the yearning for more children, the only thing that makes that yearning go away is having more children. Also, quit asking me when I'm going to give my child a sibling. Yes, I know she is asking about babies. Yes, I know now is a "good age" for her to get one. I am doing all that I can.