waiting for ivf and struggling!

[mummy.wannabe]

You could hold a glass of champagne and pretend your having it, get hubby to sip it. Or drink orange juice later and you could have vodkas in it.
It's horrible when people question you. A lot of people know about our situation so we don't get that anymore from family but I do from customers at work etc and old school friends x

Not doing anything thing evening, I'm very tired so prob have an early night

And the hubby's would say they would "help" with supps wouldn't my they!!!! Dirty animals ha x

 

[mummy.wannabe]

Hey ladies
How are we all getting on?

Nothing to report here, but a few pains every now and then. A week today until I can test x

 

[Melbram]

Mummy roll on next week everything crossed for you. I hat the 2ww I need to a get a few books in to keep me sane I think

2have4kids: You were asking earlier about IMSI: Like Minky said it is quite a new thing so no real success rates as yet. The embryologist was really straight with me about not being able to give any real data on it. Your OH has to produce enough sperm for it also because quite a lot gets washed away. We had ICSI last time which is what the clinic will suggest if you have a male issue. IMSI is just the next thing up really - its £300 at my clinic so not too pricey. A lot cheaper than the embryoscope which is £700 and the embryologist said it does produce great results where male factors are concerned anyway

Pinkie: How you are well - glad your not suffering too much at the mo x

Ducktales: not long until your scan

Im not experiencing any side effects at the moment other than a bit of a headached today but I get headaches a lot anyway so may just be not DR related. I think from the last time the skin on the my stomach has got tougher - it really doesnt like letting the needles in! which then results in bruising but hey ho got to be done x

 

[Pinkie 33]

Hey ladies

We are settled in for 'Super Saturday'. If you arent rugby fans its 3 games in a row! We're half way through the second one. DP used to play a lot of rugby and was pretty good. I dont mind watching the England game, the others are background noise for me!

I'm feeling tired and headachey. We had a late night at DP's best mates engagement party and as driver, I had to sort out all the drunk people! It was a cocktail party and lots were consumed I did enjoy it but I had a banging head all evening.

Jabs are going ok but like you Melbram, I'm getting bruising. Just want to get AF over with this week. We have to ring the clininc on CD1 to book in for the scan.

How's everyone else, hope all is well

 

[mummy.wannabe]

Not into football or rugby here and nor is hubby, thank god.
Can't be doing with it.

We have dad stepmum and my little brother here for the night. They live in Nottingham.
We had Chinese.

We had a little situation tonight.
Since we moved in to the new house, we knew there was a stray living outside so we fed him and he started to get a bit used to us.
He hasn't come to the kitchen window all day. He normally does when he wants a few biscuits then crys to go out.
He came to the window. Hubby let him in. It's raining so he shook and something exploded from his head. There was blood everywhere. All over my kitchen sides. Down the cupboards and floors.
It was horrible and made me feel sick.
Rang the RSPCA and they want us to try get him in a box and take him in. If we can get him in the box that is.
He's back outside in a house we made him.
It really upsets me to see animals hurt x

 

[2have4kids]

Something exploded from his head? Or was he in a fight, came in, shook all the blood around? Get him into the shelter, they'll take care of him - thank goodness he has you!!

 

[mummy.wannabe]

He was in a fight and had a scratch last week. Then kept cleaning and cleaning and it became bald. Then must have got infected and as we haven't seen him for awhile it must have got quite swollen with pus, he shook his head and it exploded.
My hubby heard it pop and then blood was everywhere.
It was smelly and kept dripping.
It really affects me when animals are in pain x

 

[2have4kids]

I hear you - I have trouble with animals in pain too, I make OH shut the tv off when there's something horrible on the news or on tv about animals. They're innocent, we've made a terrible world for them, I get visual repeats in my head before bed about the things I've seen in my life (animal atrocities).
I hope you can find him to get him help!

 

[mummy.wannabe]

I haven't been able to sleep thinking about him outside on the cold.
Its Sunday so only 1vet open in the area so my hubby is going to try his best to push him in a box but him being ferrel I can see him throwing himself around as he won't be used to it.
Don't want to make him worse.
The animal people the RSPCA can't say If they would be able to get here today.


I have a christening to go to today. I really do no want to go.
Hubby is going to be in such a rush with the cat with the time we have to get there.
We won't be staying long.

Everyone else had a good weekend so far x

 

[MinxyChick]

Mummy - Sorry to hear about the cat situation sounds awful, I hope your DH can catch him. If he can get to the vets/rspca I'm sure they'll be able to sort him out with some antibiotics & a clean up. I feel the same about animals & I know exactly what 2have4kids mans by horrible things replaying in a loop in your mind.

Well tomorrow is our appointment at Bourn Norwich to sort out our upcoming cycle, just got a few questions to prepare but can't really think of anything new to ask. Will ask the new Dr his thoughts on transfer days & will be taking the 1st sperm printout from the GP where they told us DH's sperm was ok, at last it will be deciphered. Hopefully can post dates tomorrow!

Not been the greatest weekend here, boiler broke Thursday but we're getting a new one installed Monday. But as we have the oldest set up currently it will take a week to fix up & I'll lose a big kitchen cupboard. But I'm so pleased its happened now & not in the middle of treatment. Spent most of the morning moving stuff.

Hope everyone is ok

 

[mummy.wannabe]

Rang the emergency vets and they wanted over a £100 to look at the cat, which we can't afford just now.
She said as it had already burst, that all the bad stuff is out, aslong as we can get him to eat, then he should be ok.
He came in this morning and ate loads and he let hubby clean the wound with hot water and cotton woll and it was looking ok.
We think that pushing him into a box will freak him out and he won't trust as anymore.
We will keep an eye on it.

Went out for Sunday lunch with the family after the christening this morning,

Are any of your religious?
Will you get your children christened?
I am and all my family. Hubby is but SILs children are not as her partner doesn't agree.
I don't believe in good and it bores me but I want them christened. It's wrong isn't it?
You can have a naming day which is not religious but celebrate the child x

Oh sorry about your boiler, what an inconveince all these things are.
It will be fixed soon tho.
Yay on hospital appt tomorrow! I bet you can't wait to find out x

 

[MinxyChick]

£100! That's no joke, especially on a cat that is not yours. Sounds like he's on the mend.

I'm religious (church at Easter, Christmas abit fair weather!), but DH isn't. But our children will be christened. It's important to me & picking god parents is important. I want to take our children to church/Sunday school and get a good understanding of all religions so they can make their own minds up. In reality it'll probably only be Xmas & Easter.

 

[MinxyChick]

Plus, being asked to be a god mother last year made me feel so chuffed to be thought of & an important person to my friend's daughter, especially with everything else going on. It was definitely the highlight of last year for me

 

[mummy.wannabe]

I like the thought of having children christened. My family are Irish so have all been christened, I've had my holy communion.
I just don't believe it all.
I don't know what to do. Suppose when the time comes we can decide.
You have to go to church for 6 or 12 weeks before. I can't remember.

We have said if our children decide they want to go to church we would take them. But suppose they would have to have experienced it before that.
I went to a catholic primary school that still had a lot of nuns there. Can't remember much about it really x

I bet being asked to be a god mother is lovely x

 

[bundlesofjoy]

Ooh sorry to hear about the cat glad its on the mend.
I was religious when I was younger had holy communion and everything but at the moment I am not religious. I believe in G-d but all the other bits of religion I am just not sure about. I am in two minds about christening also I know the oh would want it but I am not sure but then I don't know how else the would like about religion as its not taught in all schools.
I will definitely have a naming day I love it I have been to many and its just lovely experience with just close family and friends.

 

[2have4kids]

Minxy best of luck with the appt -let us know how it goes!
Mummy, I'm glad your oh was able to clean his wound. Does the RSPCA not take them in and care for them when they're injured? The volunteering I do is for a no kill foundation that takes them in and gets them socialised and cleaned up, medically assessed & healed.
Oh and I are atheist, we love the discussions like the one between Lawrence Krause and Richard Dawkins at Notre Dame University, or the books that the '4 horsemen' have put out (Sam Harris, Christopher Hitchens, Daniel Dennett and Richard Dawkings). Lawrence Krause is a bit cheeky but the rest of the guys are respectful and gentle when they discuss/debate science and religion. https://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=cTjHf77FqTI&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DcTjHf77FqTI

We have loads of religious friends that we support and attend celebrations and we both went to church as youngsters. We just choose to celebrate our children outside of religion.

We won't be choosing god parents either, we both have lots of family that'll be able to step up to the task and our wills will have directives where our (4 lol) kids will go. Our friends have played games and alienated by doing the god parent thing, in watching the disappointment when the gesture wasn't reciprocated I don't want our friends feeling badly or like they're more important than others in our lives.

I'm sitting writing after a lovely day of skiing in a family size bubble bath jacuzzi. I hope we can come back here next year with a couple of sprogs to fill the tub

I hope you all had a great weekend, I'm on day 2of the bcp, no horrid side effects yet, fx it stays that way. =D

 

[mummy.wannabe]

It's definitely a split thing then, the religion.
I'm going to look more into the non religious naming day.

I'm going to the doctors today, I've been trying all week to get an appt and my new doctors are rubbish with getting in.
I'm wanting to get a sick note so if my boss doesn't pay me, I can claim back a tiny bit of money that they give you per day.

Ohhhh bubble bath jacuzzi sounds lovely!!!!!
Did you enjoy your day of skiing 2have4kids?

 

[MinxyChick]

Had my appointment, as I thought sadly our dates have been pushed back to e/c week commencing 27 may. Ok so it's only 3 weeks later but I am sad as our 6 months would have been last week & we're getting older all the time. But pushed with good reason as bourn Norwich still need their hfea approval to come through. We could go to Cambridge for collection but we like the new Dr (very thorough), the closeness etc. so will have to put up with the wait. Also they won't be doing general anestestic so will be sedated, was sedated the first time but I loved the general last time.

With the new dates we get a bank holiday but also hit half term. What do you ladies think of taking 2 days off for EC going back to my desk job til ET then taking a week off? I've previously taken 5 days off from EC but maybe the best time to take off is after ET?

Must do some work - will update on sperm later

 

[mummy.wannabe]

That's a shame they have put it back, but the time will go by and you'll soon be there. You know it's for good reasons and you want to stay at that clinic, so it's for the best.

I think what you've said about time off is good.

I had egg collection on a Thursday. I had Friday sat off, then went back Sunday and Monday. I only didn't go in on say because its Normally so so busy so wanted that off.
Then I took 2 weeks off from the Tuesday.
1 week would be fine. If you have a sit down job but I'm in a very busy coffee shop in a garden centre and its planting season so we are hectic and I'm on my feet 8 hours a day so there is no way I'm going in for my 2ww.
1 week off to go tho x

I've been out today with my MiL had lunch at John Lewis a department store bu back home chilling.
Not had any pains today and my boobs aren't hurting either. That makes me worried but can't think bad thoughts x

 

[MinxyChick]

Sounds like a good day. I wouldn't over analysise on the symptoms from reading 2ww sites & quizzing friends extensively anything you feel or don't feel is normal and could mean anything. You've had the best embies possible put back, your keeping them warm & safe and doing all you can to relax. Keep as positive as possible but doubts won't stop them sticking, you'll just drive yourself potty instead xx