Waiting to start IVF in January anyone else?

[lizzie78]

Morning ladies, how are we all doing?? Anyone ready for Xmas? It seems to have completely passed me by this year due to other stuff that I had going on and i'm now in a mild panic!!

 

[star25]

Hey lizzie, dont worry ive got 12 adults and 3 kids to cook Xmas dinner for and not done a thing! Im too interested in thinking about my fet!

Went for my scratch yesterday as part of the trial as didn't have transfer, the researcher lday doing it was off sick so another lady managed to get one of the drs from clinic to do it, after waiting an hour, he then said it was too early and best to do it next cycle due to xmas and start fet on cycle after that, he would have done it but I agreed with him so had a 5 hour round trip, spent £30 on travel amd dh lost a mornings work as hes self employed so just wish the researcher had thought it through properly before she booked it in! Thing was they dont work closely enough with the clinic but thwy felt awful so I didnt get annoyed even though I was!

Hope your all ok xx

 

[Ilovetomatoes]

Hey ladies,

Star, that sucks about the scratch. So, are you still going to have FET in January then?

Lizzie, I haven't done any shopping myself and not going to worry about cooking for people for now . I do have my ultrasound and scan on December 18th to make sure I have no cysts so we can get this show going.

Anyone here doing ICSI and/or Assisted hatching? We paid for both already but hoping that we don't have to use both of them. Already told that ICSI is probably a way to go for us but they are not sure about the assisted hatching until much later.

 

[Jaybo]

Hi ladies, hope everyone is doing okay!

Star - sorry to hear your scratch didn't go ahead, what a waste of time for you. But if it's better done closer to your FET it will be worth the wait!

Lizzie - I'm in no way ready for Christmas. I can't believe it's December next week already!

My medications arrived today! Wow you ladies weren't lying - there's a lot of them!! I'm still not 100% what to do with all of them, but hopefully we will figure it out. I have another appointment at the clinic and a demonstration for the injections before we start so trying not to get too overwhelmed by it all. Does anyone know if the Menopur should be kept in the fridge?

CMo - as you can probably tell this is my first cycle too. I'm completely clueless!

ILT - I don't know about assisted hatching but we're doing ICSI too. We were told it was our best chance because DH low motility.

Hope everyone else is doing well.

 

[Ilovetomatoes]

No, menopur can stay at room temperature. Follistim needs to be refrigerated though.

DH actually has pretty good sperm count on the regular sperm analysis test. But our RE had him did a specific SA test to see whether or not we need to do ICSI. I forgot the name of the test. Based on that specific test, he said that it's better for us to do ICSI.

 

[Jaybo]

Thanks ILT, I think all of my meds are ok at room temp then. No need to squish up all our food in the fridge!

I think my DH just had a regular SA. So excited to have a plan in place for the new year. I hope our docs are right and this ICSI does the trick!

 

[MoBaby]

Star! So sorry that stinks. But better to do it when it will be best though. I would have been so upset.

I kept all my meds at room temp except the trigger.

Thanksgiving here in the states in a couple days.. Then I can think about Christmas holidays

 

[star25]

Ilt, I'll still be having fet in Jan after next cycle, we had half normal ivf and half icsi as the embryologist thought the reason we haven't had a bfp could be the sperm and egg aren't binding together so it was kind of a experiment, I was a bit scared as thought half our eggs would be wasted if that was the case but 11 fertilised normally and 9 with icsi
Dh sa was good on the day of EC, 29 mil, motility 55% and morphology 9% but they still done half icsi

 

[star25]

Jaybo yay on getting your meds! Things will be moving along soon

Mobaby, enjoy thanksgiving with lo

 

[Comfycushions]

Hi everyone

Hope everyone that celebrates it had a great thanksgiving.

January no longer seems so far away, eek! Where are we all up to in the process now?

Star when are you scheduled for scratch now? sorry about the wasted journey last month.

I'm hoping period arrives on schedule 20th Dec so can get AFC scan done before they shut for christmas and start down reg in Jan.
I think I've been isolating myself a bit lately and slipping into a depression. I've started an online mindfullness course and trying to look after myself to snap myself out of it. Been feeling down that our upcoming IVF, which I'm terrified about, is the end of the road so to speak and so I'm close to having to face not becoming a mother. Queue mindfulness-I can't know what will happen, i can't change the past so trying to enjoy/be with whatever is happening in the moment. In the spirit of that I've put up trees in three houses in the past three days. Bring on stollen and mince pies!

Have any of you tried any IVF guided meditations (eg.zita west, circle and bloom)? I'm thinking something like that might help manage my stress levels while going through my cycle.

 

[star25]

Hi comfy, I haven't tried anything like zita west etc, I kind of gave up on the mountains I was piling on me and dh ages ago when I realised I would never get a natural bfp, I'm counting on the fet working now
Not sure about the scratch time, I'm CD29 now and no sign of af, when I go to nurse consultation on 16th ill be CD42 so I'll ask for provera to get things started then do the scratchnon CD21 of that cycle then start the fet on af after that, for which I will probably need provera for as af never arrives now without it!

The course sounds good online, this is such a hard process we need to do all we can to stay well emotionally, I tend to bury my head in the sand and drive myself quiet mad but thank god for bnb and lovely ladies like you who understand xx

 

[Ilovetomatoes]

Morning Ladies,

Comfy, sorry to hear that you are having a hard time. Infertility sucks! None of us asked for this but yet here we are and nothing much that we can do at this point beside going through the whole IVF process to fulfill our dreams as mothers. Yes, you can also adopt but that's not an easier process. If you feel that you need someone to talk to beside family and DH, never feel weird to see a counselor. Since I think you are in U.S., all of the fees associated w/ IVF (counselor, doc's fees, IVF itself, acupuncture, etc.) are tax deductible (score!) ...if you pay everything out of pocket. Acupuncture can also helps you relax.

Everyone manage stress differently. I just put aside this whole IVF process and not think about it. I treat it like it's something that I have to do to survive and not thinking about the consequences...like drinking, eating, having a stinking period . So, I haven't been thinking about it much but I've been checking on my IVF schedule just to make sure I am on track .

Have you talked to your DH about how you are feeling? Maybe you are not alone. We forget that there is another person with us through out this whole IVF process...at least I was. I am glad that you are taking steps to overcome your depression. It's not easy....been there done that. Can't remember what snapped me out of it though....oh wait..I broke up w/ my ex hahahahaha.

AFM, I stopped taking BCP two days ago and now waiting for my period. I'll have u/s and bw on the 18th so 15 more days....but who's counting right? . Otherwise, just busy with work and life.

Star, it looks like our appt is pretty darn close to each other!

Hope everyone else is well.

 

[MoBaby]

Hey ladies! Ive been busy with the holiday here and working a bunch these last 2 weeks Thanksgiving was okay for us. I ended up hitting the garage and damaging the car early in the morning then DH was mad at me and we ended up having an argument then he was mad at me most of the day. But we managed to get LO looking cute and he took some thanksgiving pics (he is a photographer). Then we had a good dinner at my brothers house with the rest of the family.

AF arrived so will be calling clinic today for labs and ultrasound on Friday. I will get my meds called in and then will hopefully start BCP (I am going to beg!) AF was 4 days late as expected.

Ilove not long! exciting.

Comfy I havent tried meditation ever. But I know some who have and its helped a lot.

I am ready for Christmas to come and go! Once the year is over then it wont be long for most of us to start our cycles/transfers. Not much longer.

 

[lizzie78]

Hi ladies

Comfy - so sorry you are having a hard time. Its a horrid place to be contemplating what next if this doesn't work. I did acupuncture and meditation last time. Tbh the acupuncture didn't make me feel relaxed but it did minimise side effects of the drugs. The meditation I did was very good with different ones depending on where you were in the cycle. I quite liked just having a bit of quiet time to myself listening to it as I drifted off to sleep, it helped me to close my busy mind down and settle I think. Cant remember the name of it but I can look it out when I get home. I did buy the Zita West one but it drove me nuts so I stuck to the other one. I'm wondering about the Circle and Bloom ones this time just for a change more than anything else as I've heard good things about them.

Mobaby so sorry Thanksgiving wasn't so good for you! Hope you and the car are both ok and it was just a minor scratch!

ILT ha ha who is counting indeed!!

Star - hope you are ok too, hanging about waiting is no fun at the best of times!

AFM, AF arrived yesterday with a vengeance, not bad at only a 41 day cycle Sitting here in agony as usual and trying not to panic too much that next time im on cd 2 i'll be back into the injecting etc. Called this morning and booked my scan for next Friday so fingers crossed it will be all clear and i'll start on next AF mid Jan. Feeling a bit mixed about it all really. Not terribly optimistic about our chances what with one thing and another so think maybe its just some self preservation thing going on. Hopefully by the new year and once I start on the buserelin i'll be feeling more positive.

On the plus side all xmas shopping is done, just waiting for it all to be delivered and we are going to go and get the tree tomorrow night and trim up, maybe that will cheer me up

 

[MoBaby]

Sorry af came bad Lizzie mine came too!
Had ultrasound this am. Lining is still thick which I figured because af is light so far. Plan is for retrieval first week of feb so I'll take af with next period for 2 weeks. I'll get my schedule then too. Waiting for appt for saline sonogram and call with labs

 

[Comfycushions]

Thanks everyone for your kind words.

Lizzie that would be great if you could let me know the meditation you used. Thanks for the zita west tip-i'll save my money (I'm easily irritated sometimes by the voice doing the guided meditation so I do want to get something that might bug me when I'm already stressed lol!) Sorry Af is being particularly vindictive this month.

I'm in the UK and getting regular access to the clinic counsellor. It is helping (although every time I so much as set foot in the clinic it does freak me out a bit that this is all becoming a bit real!) She keeps reminding me that infertility is a major life crisis and that it's natural to experience lots of difficult emotions around it. Think I need to be putting less pressure on myself to 'cope' and just accept and be with how I'm feeling then move on with my day. (Is mindfulness managing to sneak it's way in??!)

Spoke to DH about it his response was 'why are you worrying we haven't even started yet?' He sort of petered out before he finished the sentence, think he realised he was being an unhelpful dick and later just gave me lots of hugs which is all I really needed.

Hope you all have a great weekend. I'm off to a spa with my friend this afternoon then we're having a girly weekend. Walks in the countryside, real ale in country pubs, can't wait. I'll try and put the IVF out of my mind (hahaha like I'm going to manage that!)

 

[lizzie78]

Comfy - Just checked and the one I liked was called Helen Mcpherson - The belief CD. She has an English voice and didn't grate on me except when I was having an exceptionally unreasonable day The only think I would say is that there is only one track for each phase of a fresh cycle. i ended up down regulating for nearly 5 weeks and by the end of it I didnt want to listen to the same track again. It was fine for the first few weeks though and actually you go into a relaxed state quicker and quicker every time you listen to it - i think that's why its just the one track per stage. Lol about DH, bless them -sort of! I wish mine would just stick to providing hugs and not advice

Mobaby - things are starting to move for you now. Once you have your timeline it will only be around the corner! Hope you have a lovely afternoon, it sounds blissful!

I'm a tetchy thing today. DH had a work do last night which i was supposed to go and pick him up from. he rang me at 11 and said he could actually get a lift home and for me to go to bed because i was so poorly (awww). Off I popped with my two hot water bottles and slept for 2 hours (TMI but horrendous AF means im having to sort things out every two hours which is knackering in itself). Pottered back to bed and realised DH wasn't home.....rang him, no answer. Lay in bed wondering if I was a bad wife if managed to get back to sleep and the next thing i knew it was another two hours later still no DH..... really quite concerned at this point so call him a few times, nothing. lay there until 4:30 when I hear the clattering of an inebriated man on the porch, correctly assume its mine and go rescue him. God knows why he was so late home and he was absolutely freezing. Went back to sleep until 6:30 then got up to take stepson on the hour round trip to his school and have finally washed back up at home shattered after a week of very early starts and last night's shenanigans. Haven't seen DH yet as he got picked up this morning for work but think this means I deserve a set of outdoor xmas lights this year that I've been bugging him for??!

 

[JeanJean]

Hi Ladies! Mind if I join? I have my IVF scheduled for January 2015. This will be my first one and I'm very nervous yet hopefully also. Would love to share this experience with others!!

 

[LoveKin]

Hello everyone! After many push backs, my DH and I will be starting IVF in January also. He has obstructive azoospermia and I'm mostly okay (although my cycle has been messed up lately). We initially tried for a baby over a year ago and are more than ready to get starting and actually try! We have to wait until January because we are switching to my employer's insurance which will cover most of IVF. I'm getting so anxious!! I feel like january will never get here! I'm excited to share my journey and hear all of yours ��

 

[MoBaby]

That sounds good lovekin! Esp to have insurance coverage. Good luck with the cycle upcoming.

Does the dr think surgery would work for your DH? I know one lady on the boards who's dh had the surgery and they had a natural bfp.