We made the trimesters pass quickly!

[Carlyp1990]

Oh UB that's awful! He definitely needs to get his priorities sorted

I'm just having a brew with some cookies while watching don't drop the baby

 

[Swtpinkbabi]

Sorry you are going through all that stress UB. Men are such trips sometimes. Hopefully he's joking around.

 

[Ziggie]

I'm in bed! Felt a bit sicky this afternoon.... Could be the chocolate I ate though!! Got my dogs up here for a cuddle they're not normally allowed as OH hates dog hair in the bed... I'm less bothered lol

 

[Swtpinkbabi]

Carly I feel like you. I left work early because I was tired of everyone. Now I'm on the sofa about to take a nap while DH is out. Gonna have the house to myself for a while. I guess I can consider myself lucky right now as I don't have to lift a finger around here if I don't want to. He pretty much takes care of all the household chores. I'm gonna miss this after baby gets here

 

[Carlyp1990]

Carly I feel like you. I left work early because I was tired of everyone. Now I'm on the sofa about to take a nap while DH is out. Gonna have the house to myself for a while. I guess I can consider myself lucky right now as I don't have to lift a finger around here if I don't want to. He pretty much takes care of all the household chores. I'm gonna miss this after baby gets here

I don't lift a finger if I don't feel like it either it's all still there to be done when I do feel like it though

 

[Swtpinkbabi]

Carly I feel like you. I left work early because I was tired of everyone. Now I'm on the sofa about to take a nap while DH is out. Gonna have the house to myself for a while. I guess I can consider myself lucky right now as I don't have to lift a finger around here if I don't want to. He pretty much takes care of all the household chores. I'm gonna miss this after baby gets here

I don't lift a finger if I don't feel like it either it's all still there to be done when I do feel like it though

That last part made me LOL. My only problem is how he gets things done, but I don't argue because I don't have to do it. It does make me a crazy person sometimes

 

[Mummy to be x]

UB that's awful your OH needs to book his ideas up, you shouldn't be worrying about how the bills are going to get paid, that's OHs job to bring in the money to make sure bills get paid! It sounds like you put up with an awful lot of crap if I was you, I'd claim as a single parent, you practically are, he's never there with you, your worrying about how YOUR going to pay the bills and you really don't need the stress right now Hun xx

Carly I watched don't stop the baby, love it! So funny xx

 

[Carlyp1990]

Mummy the placenta bit had me in stitches!
Pinkbabi I complain when oh doesn't do things right too but that's not too often as he doesn't usually lift a finger lol... Katie does more housework than him! Xx

 

[Mummy to be x]

Haha I know!

I complain at everything OH does lately I'm such a bitch and he just takes all my crap he doesn't do much housework but he cooks every evening even when he's on night shifts, apart from tonight we did a swap, he did bedtime routine and I did the dinner

 

[UniqueBeauty]

I'm gutted I missed that program because Jay woke up!

I am tempted to ring the income support number today to see where I stand. He doesn't even come down every weekend, it's every other weekend and I've been sent money once for 50 or 60 quid, I can't quite remember. With out income as it is now (next to nothing) I'm entitled to help from HB but he needs to be here on a weekday to sort it with me which probably won't happen. I will wait till Jay goes nursery and ring income support but I get OHs working tax credits? x

 

[ab75]

UB your oh is being a selfish idiot. You would be better saying you have split up. Then you won't need him to be there to sort HB. How does he seriously think its ok to be away for 2 weeks and bring home 50 quid but give his bro 200 for a car. You gave HIM money last week and he went to the pub with it, that could've been put towards bills, food or anything else that you and J need. I think that he doesn't realise how much he is affecting you as you are the one that is good with money and your nan helps. How is he expecting to tax and insure a BMW? Sorry, I'm not having a go at you, I know you'll be upset and pissed off and believe me I have been there where you are with an ex, he used to go to the pub when I was at work and took half my wages out the bank that was for the mortgage. Needless to say I opened a new account and transferred my wages to that. When I eventually threw him out, phoned gas and elec to get it put in my name, they said it was on brink of getting cut off as bills hadn't been getting paid! I had to put meters in and owed nearly £2000. That and all the other debt I got left with nearly drove me over the edge,ended up doing 3 jobs trying to pay it all off. Please don't let yourself get bogged under by it all xx

 

[Carlyp1990]

UB ring tax credits and change your claim to single and then ring income support etc and get yourself sorted. The longer you leave it the worse it will get! You need all the help you can get with a child a baby on the way but he isn't providing that. If he ends up getting a steady wage and sending you money then you can always change your claim back xx

 

[UniqueBeauty]

I've been having a look online and after speaking to OH this morning he said he has a week left to pay off the car, that's his deadline. If things are the same the week after when he DOES get a wage then I will be ringing income support and claiming as a lone parent. Since he's been away I've not gone without money once, I haven't even had to borrow any, My gas and electric is always topped up, I have food, nappies, wipes you name it. I've even been saving the child benefit money so I'll be hiding my card so he doesn't take that out. His insurance is on his brothers business policy, I said to him well you would go and get a ridiculously priced car wouldn't you, he said it's a nice car.. My OH needs to grow up. I relied on him a lot while he was here but I have been perfectly fine on my own x

 

[Mummy to be x]

UB you said it yourself, you don't need to rely on him you do perfect by yourself. Give him one more week and if he hasn't booked his ideas up if deffo claim as a single parent, it's not as though you'd by lying either because you practically are, your not getting much help from him! Is he coming back this weekend? Xx

 

[Mummy to be x]

What's everyone upto today then? I'm just waiting for OH to get back from work then I will jump in the shower and we are going to see his mum I think.

I can't believe it's my last day in 2nd tri!

 

[Ziggie]

Please don't claim as a single parent if you're in a relationship.... I've said it before, I've seen lots of people get into trouble for that, they class it as benefit fraud and come down hard. I work with children and families so I've seen it over and over.

You'd be better of actually being single. But that's a decision only you can make.... Personally sounds like he doesn't bring a great deal to the equation, and if he's putting your tenancy at risk, you have debt piling up, you're even struggling for food at times then you have to put your children's needs before your own need to have a partner. He is actually putting jay and your unborn child at risk of homelessness, and living in poverty. He's also teaching jay about what being a father is - absent and pissing money up the wall on expensive cars he can't afford and spending the money your partner lends you in the pub. You said your self things are better when you're on your own.

But that's my work head, I know it's not that easy. But seriously..... Doosh bag.

 

[ab75]

Oooohhh 3rd tri mummy, came round quick.
Ub glad you are standing up for yourself, lol, your oh will grow up one day. I pm'd you, let me know if u got it!

I washed all Owens vests and babygro's this morning, love seeing them hanging out to dry lol, so cute. Thats Zoe at nursery so just me and my monster til half 3 xx

 

[Mummy to be x]

Aww!! I haven't washed anything yet I think I'm going to wait until I've got all the clothes I need and then wash them all together

3 more sleeps until my scan I can't wait

Enjoy your day with Zara

 

[ab75]

Lol,she's actually being good today, makes a change!
Can't wait to see your scan pics xx

 

[Mummy to be x]

Here is today's bump pic, suppose I will call this one my third tri bump

Bless her ab she's probably enjoying all the attention to her self hehe! Xx